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Your thoughts can either lift you up or bring you down; positive thoughts will make you act positively and negative thoughts will make you act negatively.

There are some thoughts you shouldn’t harbour in your heart, and even when they come, you should wave them off, because negative thoughts are like termites; they’ll keep building gradually until they eat off the whole wood.

Never let these eight thoughts have a place in your heart.

1. “It’s too late”

It’s never too late until you say it’s too late; many people reach the peak of their careers and whatsoever they wanted to achieve at an old age, hence the name ‘late bloomers’; but the most important thing is that they bloomed. Believing that it’s already late to achieve greatness or attain a set goal will only kill your goal.

2. “I’m not good enough”

There’s only one you on this planet; no other version of you – no imitation, no photocopy – just you. Why then will you believe that you aren’t good enough?

Thinking you aren’t good enough will only kill the confidence you have in yourself.

3. “They won’t accept me”

You don’t need people to accept you; the only person you need is you and until you accept yourself, you’ll remain at a standstill.

4. “I hate my body”

Jim Rohn said – “Take care of your body; it’s the only place you have to live in.” If you hate the only body you have, how can you be successful in it. A lot of people have lost their confidence because they fail to appreciate their bodies.

5. “I can’t”

‘Can’t’ is a word that shouldn’t exist in your dictionary. The words that follow can’t include failure, impossible, unachievable – and these words are the opposite of success. If you must erase any word from your dictionary, it’s ‘can’t’. The moment you say you can’t, then you can’t.

6. “What will people say?”

Trying to please people and get their acceptance will not only make you stuck at a point, but it’ll also kill your confidence.

Care less about what people will say and think about you, and care more about where you are going to in life. Because people’s validation of you will only pull you down, and you don’t even need their validation to go up in the first place.

7. “I give up”

These three words is like putting the final nail on a coffin; never give up, because it’s only when you give up, that your journey ends. It’s like starting a long distance race and not finishing; it may be hard and tedious along the way, but the prize and glory at the end is usually worth it.

8. “Everyone is moving forward but me ”

Life isn’t a competition, so you should never use people’s pace and success to compare with yours. If you do this, you’ll never reach your desired heights. Putting your focus on other people wouldn’t only make you lose focus of your own journey, but will kill every belief you have in you.

Never give these thoughts a chance in your heart, because they’ll ruin your confidence, and once your confidence is lost, almost every other thing will be lost.

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Living in regrets is never the right way to go, and a lot of people carry regrets deep in their hearts for some wrong decisions they have made in the past.

Are you one of those people living in regrets? You have to let go or else you’ll remain stuck in a particular spot.

These are some of the reasons you should stop living in regrets:

1. You keep yourself backward

You can’t move forward when you are stuck in the past. You jeopardise your future whenever you let your past hold you bound.

2. You’d miss opportunities

You can never see what’s at the front when your eyes are at the back, same way you can never see the opportunities that lie ahead when your focus is on what happened in the past.

3. Your life will be at a standstill

Focus is a major catalyst for success. Every true success story has a great element of focus attached to it. When your focus is on the past you can never reach the desired heights.

4. Happiness will be far from you

You can’t live in regrets and be a happy person. One defining factor that links everyone living in regret is unhappiness and deep sadness. How much gain is there in letting your heart wallow in sadness?

5. Mistakes are only experiences

Mistakes are only experiences that will toughen you up for the future or teach you vital lessons you need to know in life.

6. You only have one life to live

Yolo – You only live once, people say – and that’s the reality. You only have just one life to live; why should you decide to waste it living in regrets?

7. Bad outcomes can’t define you

You aren’t defined by the mistakes you’ve made in the past – a better definition of you is what you are doing in the present to better your future. So you have no reason to let a past mistake define you. Guess what? A lot of people have made worse mistakes and still reached great heights.

8. It doesn’t change the past

No matter how much you beat yourself and live in regret, you can never change the hands of time. The best thing you can do is learn from the past and avoid making the same mistake again.

9. You damage your self-esteem

Living in regrets will make you see yourself lowly; you’d only ruin your self-esteem and confidence when you do this. Be proud of who you are, be happy that you are alive. You are alive means you have the chance to right your wrongs; don’t let a past decision ruin you.

A life lived in regret is a life that’s wasted. So why then are you wasting your life?

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Mistakes can be seen from two perspectives — as a failure or a chance to right your wrong.

Making mistakes might have it benefits, only if you see it as a chance to right your wrong.

Below are some of the benefits of making mistakes:

1. Mistakes help you grow and evolve

You could remain stuck with what you know when you don’t make mistakes, but making mistakes will open your eyes to new knowledge that you probably don’t even know, and that will help you grow as a person.

2. It spurs you on

You might not know this, but making mistakes bring an additional desire to want to be right, and that will spur you on to actually get better knowledge. I can’t count the number of things I’ve learnt from making mistakes, and those things learnt will never leave you; they would become a part of you.

3. Mistakes also serve as a warning. If you make a mistake that brings about a bad result, or someone around you makes that mistake, trust me when I say you’d never make that mistake again.

4. Mistakes bring you back to reality

Sometimes, too much success might tempt you to feel invincible, proud and even unrealistic. Making mistakes will always bring you that humble feeling that will make you realise that you are just human at the end of the day.

5. It makes you wiser

With each mistake you make comes a lesson, and when you learn from that mistake, you become wiser.

A quote by Al Franken: “Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it’s a fatal mistake, which, at least others can learn from.”

6. Mistakes teach you to forgive

One great thing to learn from mistakes is that they teach you to forgive — to forgive yourself and probably to forgive others. Mistakes teach you let go, because if you don’t let go, you can never forgive.

A quote by Steve Maraboli: “The truth is – unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realise that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”

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Money is an important factor in marriages, and when couples start to have those money problems, it can transfer to other parts of the marriage, including the love, happiness and satisfaction that once existed.

I’ve written on some of those money problems that could ruin your marriage, and this article will teach you how to avoid them.

1. Be on the same page

Being on the same page with your partner is the first step to solving your money problems. When you both have the same vision and similar future plans, it’ll become easier to bring this understanding in solving your money differences.

2. Identify the spender and saver

One major reason why many couples have conflict when it comes to money matters is their different money habits. If one partner is a spender and the other is a saver, the marriage will suffer from it. Identifying the spender and saver is the first step to solving this problem.

3. Let there be a meeting point

Both partners should be willing to cut short on their habit, and the issue of being a spender and a saver will be far forgotten.

4. Live within your means

Another reason many couples are finding it difficult in finance that’s eating up their marriage is that they don’t live within their means. You set yourself into many problems when you live above your means, and this will definitely affect your marriage.

5. Discuss your demons

What money habit do you have that’s eating up your finances? It could be debt, love for luxury, spending without planning etc. You know where you are wrong financially, so be open about it with your partner or your marriage might just suffer for it.

6. Understand each other

Another major reason why couples argue and fight over money matter is because they don’t understand each other; they only understand what they want individually but not together.

Listen to your partner and try to understand where your partner is driving at, and then plan together.

7. Learn the basics of fiance

More importantly, learn the basics of financial principles and do things together. Plan together, have a budget, make provision for savings, and set your goals together.

If you are on different page in the money department, then even the love department will tend to suffer as well.

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Change doesn’t just happen; it takes an action, or better still, it requires consistent action.

There are some people you spend your everyday life with, and your life will take steps forward, and there are people who will make your life go backwards if you spend your daily life with them.

These three kinds of people will change your life for good.

1. Happy people

Try to spend time with people who are happy, who look for a reason to be happy everyday, no matter what happens. They are grateful for life and they always find a reason to be thankful. If you consistently spend one month of your life with such a person, you’d find yourself being happy for no just cause, and there are so many benefits that accompanies happiness.

2. Positive people

Positivity is a trait that’s very necessary if you want to achieve success in life. You can never be successful when you think about failing.

Positivity starts from the heart, and being with people who are positive will help shape your mind towards seeing the positive sides of things.

3. People that will inspire you to think

Spend time with people who are innovative, people who learn to create, who are visionary and who are thinkers. When you surround yourself with people like these, you’ll be a creative thinker in no time, and you should know that every success is born out of creative thinking.

What kind of people do you love to be with? If you want to change your life, you must first start with the people you surround yourself with.

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Men probably love looking at boobs and science have definitely given them a good reason to look at boobs.

The average life expectancy for a man is about 79, compared to women who are expected to live until 82 years old according to a report in The Sun.

The Sun did some digging to unearth keys that can help men live longer and they discovered looking at boobs could actually help increase a man’s life span.

According to the report in The Sun, staring at boobs creates a positive mindset in men.

Citing a 2012 study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine, The Sun pointed out there is a scientific proof that having a positive mindsets impacted positively on a man’s health.

The study concluded by suggesting that “as you go through your day, notice small things that make you feel good and take a moment to enjoy them.”

Given that looking at boobs can make a man feel good, The Sun suggests they’re the best source of positivity a man could ask for.

I think I should take a minute to look at some boobs to increase my life span. Lol.

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With every month comes opportunities, as well as challenges; that’s what life is and that’s what it brings to you – and it’s only those who are willing to take those opportunities when it arises and those who can grab the challenges by its horn will go on to be successful.

These are those things you should be willing to give up if you want your month to be successful:

1. Unhealthy habits

Choose to cut off every form of unhealthy habit like smoking and taking too much alcohol, use of hard drugs, unhealthy eating habits, poor sleeping pattern and lack of physical activity.

A quote by Jim Rohn: “Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live in.”

2. Ingratitude

Choose to quit every form of ingratitude and complaining this month. Learn to be more grateful and appreciate things. Appreciate life, because there’s always hope when there’s life, appreciate family, appreciate friends and appreciate love.

3. Negative thinking

Stop every form of negative thinking; it’ll only bring about a negative energy that will kill your desire and momentum to achieve any tangible thing this month.

Shun every form of negative thinking and try to be more positive about life this month.

4. Distractions

Choose to be focused and cut off any form of distractions. Anything taking you away from your goal should be cut off from your life.

5. Laziness

Laziness and success don’t mix; gear yourself up to work hard, not sometimes but always. Let laziness be far from you, and you’ll see just how much progress you will make this month.

6. Procrastination

Learn to do today that which you ought to do today. Make a decision to quit from every form of procrastination. Procrastination is a success killer.

7. Giving up

Choose not to give up this month, no matter what life throws at you. It’s already over and you have nothing to gain when you give up.

Always make that decision to see failure as a stepping stone to success; failure only means – try again.

8. Not giving your best

If it’s not your best shot then it’s not good enough. Choose to do your best in everything you find yourself; if it’s not your best, then it’s not good enough.

9. Excuses

Give up excuses and take the bull by the horn. Stop making excuses for your failures and start taking responsibilities for your actions.

10. Stop trying to control that which you cannot

According to Epictetus, “Some things are up to us and some things are not up to us.”

Stop trying to control that which you cannot, stop living in worries when you can be happy, stop living in fear when you can be bold.

Put a hold on these ten things this month, and there’ll be no limit to how far you can go.

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Money is the most sought-after commodity in the world today, and to say that our daily lives revolve around money isn’t an understatement. Every day we spend money, and we work ourselves everyday to make money.

As important as money is, there are some quotes by famous people that will change the way you think.

1. “Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of filling a vacuum, it makes one.” –Benjamin Franklin

2. “A wise person should have money in their head, but not in their heart.” – Jonathan Swift

3. “A man is rich in proportion to the things he can afford to let alone.” – Henry David Thoreau

4. “Too many people spend money they earned..to buy things they don’t want..to impress people that they don’t like.” – Will Rogers

5. “Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” – Epictetus

6. “An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.” – Benjamin Franklin

7. “Many people take no care of their money till they come nearly to the end of it, and others do just the same with their time.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

8. “Financial peace isn’t the acquisition of stuff. It’s learning to live on less than you make, so you can give money back and have money to invest. You can’t win until you do this.” – Dave Ramsey

9. “Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver.” – Ayn Rand

10. “It’s not the employer who pays the wages. Employers only handle the money. It’s the customer who pays the wages.” – Henry Ford

11. “Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. “Money is usually attracted, not pursued.” – Jim Rohn

13. “The safest way to double your money is to fold it over and put it in your pocket.” – Kin Hubbard

14. “Money will come when you are doing the right thing.” – Mike Phillips

15. “Money can’t buy happiness, but it will certainly get you a better class of memories.” – Ronald Reagan

16.. “Money is a guarantee that we may have what we want in the future. Though we need nothing at the moment it insures the possibility of satisfying a new desire when it arises.” – Aristotle

17. “Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” – Jim Rohn

18. “Don’t tell me where your priorities are. Show me where you spend your money and I’ll tell you what they are.” – James W. Frick

19. “Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

20. “If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.” – Henry Ford

21. “How many millionaires do you know who have become wealthy by investing in savings accounts? I rest my case.” – Robert G. Allen

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Punctuality is a very important habit that will help you in your job and career, but unfortunately, a vast majority of people don’t know how to be punctual. People tend to be late for every appointment and don’t know what to do to stop themselves from being late.

Punctuality isn’t really hard to attain; it’s very achievable, and this is how to do it.

1. Make promptness a priority

First, to be prompt; you ought to have that desire of promptness. You need to make promptness so important to you that you’ll beat yourself up and feel motivated to be earlier whenever you are late to work or an event. When promptness becomes important to you, you will tend to be have the zeal to always be on time.

2. Set certain things the night before

Start preparation from the day before, and try to do certain things you can do before the next morning. I’ll tell you one trick I always have in store – I decide on what to wear and keep everything clean and ready before the next morning. The time spent thinking on what to wear can easily make you late. Earliness starts from the day before.

3. Wake up early

By earliness starting from the day before, you also ought to apply the simple rule – early to bed, early to rise. Waking up on time is a very useful tip you must adhere to if you want to be early to work.

4. Set a target of being 15 minutes early

If you have an appointment for 8am in the morning, a trick to being prepared on time is by setting a target to be there by 7:45 AM. When you set your mindset to be fifteen minutes earlier, you’ll most likely be at the venue on time.

5. Work with time

Choose to work with time; set a timeframe for every thing you need to do while preparing for your work, and try to beat the timeframe you set.

Being early isn’t really hard at all; it’s just up to you and your mindset.

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Money is the most sought-after commodity in the world today, and to say that our daily lives revolve around money isn’t an understatement. Every day we spend money, and we work ourselves everyday to make money.

As important as money is, there are some quotes by famous people that will change the way you think.

1. “Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of filling a vacuum, it makes one.” –Benjamin Franklin

2. “A wise person should have money in their head, but not in their heart.” – Jonathan Swift

3. “A man is rich in proportion to the things he can afford to let alone.” – Henry David Thoreau

4. “Too many people spend money they earned..to buy things they don’t want..to impress people that they don’t like.” – Will Rogers

5. “Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” – Epictetus

6. “An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.” – Benjamin Franklin

7. “Many people take no care of their money till they come nearly to the end of it, and others do just the same with their time.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

8. “Financial peace isn’t the acquisition of stuff. It’s learning to live on less than you make, so you can give money back and have money to invest. You can’t win until you do this.” – Dave Ramsey

9. “Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver.” – Ayn Rand

10. “It’s not the employer who pays the wages. Employers only handle the money. It’s the customer who pays the wages.” – Henry Ford

11. “Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. “Money is usually attracted, not pursued.” – Jim Rohn

13. “The safest way to double your money is to fold it over and put it in your pocket.” – Kin Hubbard

14. “Money will come when you are doing the right thing.” – Mike Phillips

15. “Money can’t buy happiness, but it will certainly get you a better class of memories.” – Ronald Reagan

16.. “Money is a guarantee that we may have what we want in the future. Though we need nothing at the moment it insures the possibility of satisfying a new desire when it arises.” – Aristotle

17. “Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” – Jim Rohn

18. “Don’t tell me where your priorities are. Show me where you spend your money and I’ll tell you what they are.” – James W. Frick

19. “Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

20. “If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.” – Henry Ford

21. “How many millionaires do you know who have become wealthy by investing in savings accounts? I rest my case.” – Robert G. Allen

Source:Elcrema