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Why husbands Sleep with maids
{Nowadays a number of men who have sex with house maids are constantly growing and most of the days we hear women argue about it. }
May be you are among those who have ever asked why husbands sleep with maids and your question went without an answer.
IGIHE has got several responses from several people who have tried to respond to our question to which we were asking “Why husbands are sleeping with maids?”
The First comment that we got is that “Lack of cares and affection from their spouse are major causes. But in human nature, males are easy to be attracted by any smart lady.” Does the answer satisfy you?
Another comment goes on saying “As usual, when you want to expose yourself, you try to make new innovation. This is related to maids who always try to be smart for getting someone to cone them. That’s why husbands fall in love with them.”
Some also said many maids give husbands more care than their wives do. However marriage counselors say domestic workers are becoming so powerful that many marriages and relationships are threatened.
They said cases of men sleeping with their helpers are on the rise, and one in five cases of infidelity they dealt with in the past year has involved a helper.
These women are often younger, stylish, enlightened, single and struggling with financial issues, and many of the men they sleep with are doing well financially.
It is also said this is made worse by television and other media that sexualizes women in subservient and submissive positions.
Another thing that makes domestic workers attractive is that the excitement of the forbidden fruit can be erotic and edgy.
What is happening? Are our men threatened by empowered women?
Not at all, says Zuko Mathyila, a male activist based in Cape Town. Mathyila said the biggest reason men are playing hanky panky with the maid is emotional dissatisfaction.
He says studies by marriage counsellor Gary Neuman show that 48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheat.
He says men are emotionally driven beings who want their wives to show them that they’re appreciated.
Professional women have become so masculine, distant and aggressive that they’ve become a turn off to men, he said.
Many women use their salary and position at work to transform themselves from the beautiful feminine woman they are into becoming more masculine at home. This makes feminine and submissive maids at home very attractive to men.
“What attracts men to women is women’s femininity. This is the same way women find masculinity attractive in men.”
Some women don’t have time to attend to their husband needs.
“Some women only attend to their own needs and leave the maid to attend to their husband’s needs. The helper makes their bed, washes his pants and even cooks and serves the husband’s food. Human beings by nature love a person who is close to them.”
Some women are impolite to their husbands and this forces them to look for comfort elsewhere.
“This is apparent in marriages where the woman feels she is financially better off than the husband and that he is not more deserving. This frustrates husbands, who feel women must be submissive to them. The result is that the husband looks for an easy, submissive alternative around them for sex, and in this case, housemaids,” says Mathyila.
He says men want to get away from today’s over-empowered and aggressive women, such as their wives and bosses, and be with more regular, easy-going women with whom they can relax and not have to try so hard. Maids are the perfect candidates.
Studies done by leading marriage researcher John Gottman show that cheating might not be a symptom of a bad marriage or relationship.
Gottman says most people cheat because of opportunity, accounting for 80% of affairs.
Maphanga says women should take on a more nurturing role in terms of cooking and cleaning for their husbands, instead of leaving these tasks to the maids.
“To solve this, women can instruct and manage maids in such a way that the maids are seen as assisting them in their nurturing roles.
“The couple can agree to treat the maid as the employee of the wife so that subsequently, even though tasks are carried out by the maid, the instructions and intentions come from the wife, thereby, strengthening the couple’s relationship.”
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Tigo Rwanda appoints new Head of Mobile Financial Services
{The Chief Executive Officer of Tigo Rwanda, Tongai Maramba, announced today the appointment of Allan Mwathi as the new Head of Mobile Financial Services for Tigo Rwanda, effective immediately. }
Allan was the Commercial Manager for Tigo Cash, and has successfully implemented different commercial initiatives including banking integration, merchant development, school fees set up, among others. Allan has been part of the interoperability discussions with the government since the beginning, working closely all industry players.
He joined Tigo in May 2012 as MFS Risk Manager where he managed to set up tight standards to control the agent network. Previously, he worked as an accountant for a Media company in Kenya, and has been a consultant and lecturer in Kenya and Rwanda. Allan holds a degree in Accounting and a Master of Business Administration with specialization in Finance.
Daniel Barrientos, former Head of Mobile Financial Services for Tigo Rwanda, has been appointed Chief Executive of Rswitch, the national switch of Rwanda. This appointment comes following the acquisition of Rswitch by Tigo’s parent company, Millicom, in June.
Tongai Maramba, Tigo’s General Manager and RSwitch Board member, commented “We are delighted that Allan will be leading the most popular mobile financial service in Rwanda. We want to thank Daniel for his contribution to the growth of Tigo Cash, and we want to wish all the best to both Allan and Daniel on their new positions”.
Tigo Cash is the most popular and innovative Mobile Financial Service in Rwanda. Launched in 2011, millions of Rwandans can now easily access mobile money and make safe transactions across the country. With Tigo Cash you can pay anyone with a mobile phone in Rwanda, buy electricity, paying DsTV and other bills, buy airtime, online shopping, buy goods from shops, restaurants and hotels; as well as sending and receiving money to and from Tanzania. From May 2011 up to date, more than 440 billion Rwandan Francs have been transacted through Tigo Cash, with more than 200,000 transactions per day.
With the most recent campaign launched by Tigo Cash, ‘Tigocashinga’, customers who pay or send money with Tigo Cash can get the chance to win up to 100,000 RWF every single day.
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Vatican calls for Catholic Church to welcome gays
{In a dramatic shift in tone, Catholic bishops released a document Monday saying that homosexuals had “gifts and qualities to offer” and asked if Catholicism could accept gays and recognise positive aspects of same-sex couples.
}Roman Catholic gay rights groups around the world hailed the paper as a breakthrough, but Church conservatives called it a betrayal of traditional family values.
The document, prepared after a week of discussions at an assembly of 200 bishops on the family, said the Church should challenge itself to find “a fraternal space” for homosexuals without compromising Catholic doctrine on family and matrimony.
While the text did not signal any change in the Church’s condemnation of homosexual acts or gay marriage, it used less judgmental and more compassionate language than that seen in Vatican statements prior to the 2013 election of Pope Francis.
“Homosexuals have gifts and qualities to offer the Christian community: are we capable of welcoming these people, guaranteeing to them a further space in our communities? Often they wish to encounter a Church that offers them a welcoming home,” said the document, known by its Latin name “relatio”.
“Are our communities capable of proving that, accepting and valuing their sexual orientation, without compromising Catholic doctrine on the family and matrimony?” it asked.
New Ways Ministry, a leading US Catholic gay rights group, called it a “major step forward”, praising it for being devoid of the “major gloom and doom and apocalyptic horror” that accompanied previous Vatican pronouncements on gay people.
The London-based Catholic gay rights group QUEST called parts of it “a breakthrough in that they acknowledge that such unions have an intrinsic goodness and constitute a valuable contribution to wider society and the common good.”
‘Betrayal’
But John Smeaton, co-founder of the conservative group Voice of the Family, was less than happy with the Vatican’s apparent change in direction.
“Those who are controlling the synod have betrayed Catholic parents worldwide,” he said, calling it “one of the worst official documents drafted in Church history”.
The Vatican document will be the basis for discussion for the second and final week of the bishops’ assembly, also known as a synod. It will also serve for further reflection among Catholics around the world ahead of another, definitive synod next year.
A number of participants at the closed-door gathering have said the Church should tone down its condemnatory language when referring to gay couples and avoid phrases such as “intrinsically disordered” when speaking of homosexuals.
That was the phrase used by former Pope Benedict in a document written before his election, when he was still Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger and head of the Vatican’s doctrinal department.
The language and tone of Monday’s document, read to the assembly in the presence of Pope Francis, appeared to show that the advocates of a more inclusive tone towards gays and Catholics in so-called “irregular situations”—such as unmarried couples and those who have divorced—had prevailed.
It said that the 1.2 billion-member Church should see the development of its position on homosexuals as “an important educational challenge” for the global institution.
While the Church continued to affirm that same-sex unions “cannot be considered on the same footing as matrimony between man and woman”, it should recognise that there could be positive aspects to relationships in same-sex couples.
“Without denying the moral problems connected to homosexual unions it has to be noted that there are cases in which mutual aid to the point of sacrifice constitutes a precious support in the life of the partners,” the document said.
The paper also said there were “constructive elements” to heterosexual couples who were married only in civil services or who were living together, but stressed that Church marriages were “the ideal”.
Pope Francis has said the Church must be more compassionate with homosexuals, saying last year, “If a person is gay and seeks God and has good will, who am I to judge.”
The Church teaches that while homosexual tendencies are not sinful, homosexual acts are.
(FRANCE 24 with REUTERS)
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East Africa standard gauge railway gets closer to Rwanda
{ A Chinese construction company, China Harbor Engineering, has been contracted to build a $13.5 billion railway to offload the region with costly and slower transport.}
The standard gauge railway line that will stretch from Kenya to Kampala, Uganda’s capital, is expected to bring down journeys to only two days, from the current eight. The line will also be extended to Rwanda.
Studies on Kampala-Kigali segment started in July – to be complete by July 2015. The cost of this segment is estimated at $1.2b.
The 2,000-kilometer line will ease transport of goods from Rwanda, DR Congo, South Sudan, and Uganda, heading to Kenya’s Mombasa port on the Indian Ocean.
Trains carrying heavy weights will be travelling at 120km/h, fostering speedy imports and exports.
The whole project is expected to be complete by 2018, costing $13.5b. China Exim Bank is among the main financiers.
On October 8, Presidents of Rwanda, Paul Kagame, Yoweri Museveni of Uganda, and Salva Kiir of South Sudan launched the construction activities in Kampala.
They also discussed other regional infrastructure projects including energy.
President Kagame said continued integration will eliminate all bottlenecks to business. “We have a clear chance of being where we want to be and shortening the time to get there,” said Kagame.
President Museveni for his part said: “We are here to launch our region into a new era of cheaper transport and cheaper electricity.”
Understandably, for Rwanda, a landlocked country, it has a lot to benefit.
Jules Ndenga from Rwanda’s Ministry of Infrastructure told KT Press that the standard gauge railway will significantly reduce time and cost of transport. “Time accuracy in business will also improve,” he said.
Currently, traders say 30% of the cost on goods is incurred on transport alone. “If a businessman in Kigali orders a product from Beijing, they can know exactly when it is arriving,” said Ndenga. “It will also boost regional integration and boost our economies.”
The project is the most expensive venture the East African community is undertaking. It will serve as a gateway to the rest of the world, easing the flow of imports and exports from the Far East as well as the Americas.
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Gashagagaza Crowned Miss École Belge de Kigali
{Gashagaza Laura, 16, was elected Miss Belgian School of Kigali during the 2014 beauty competition organized in this School. }
Seven Girls in the school were competing to emerge victorious in the beauty contest.
Her first runner was Martine Hakizayezu
After the inauguration, Gashagaza said she is committed to a long campaign of his fellow girls to prove they are strong as much as are their brothers.
She also said she is going to advocate for the voiceless.
“One of my priorities, I will encourage all schools across the country to strengthen the capacity of young girls … A girl can become a minister or president of a nation. Everything must be done to ensure that education is extended to all children in the whole country “she said.
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Mayor of Kirehe resigns
{Kirehe District Mayor Protais Murayire has announced his resignation in a surprise decision that he took during the meeting of the District’s Advisory Council.}
This website has learned that the session was held behind closed doors and it was chaired by its President Ernest Rwagasana.
Sources indicate his unexpected resignation was attributed to the fact that during the visit of the Minister of Local Governance, Francis Kaboneka reportedly ordered local leaders who were attending the conference with the Minister of not raising embarrassing questions, which landed in the ears of the minister who disagreed with such approach.
The Chairman of the Advisory Council said the Council meeting this Monday, Oct. 13th has addressed this issue and it has led to the resignation of the mayor.
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Rutikanga in dismay as he sees people tearing down Rwanda’s Boxing
{Rutikanga Ferdinand, one of the founders of Boxing in Rwanda has said he is very sad to see people who are lessening the value of boxing and calls the Ministry responsible for sports to develop new strategies to save the game that is in the way leading to its collapse.}
In exclusive Interview with IGIHE, Rutikanga said that he has put more energy to take this game to every good level but today some people are taking Rwandan Boxing to a worse state than ever before.
Rutikanga reveals more serious issues that are affecting the Boxing one of them being the problem of handover between leaders who completed their term and those appointed recently.
He said “When I see how the game goes into a difficult situation I get saddened by the energy I invested to develop and modernize the Boxing in Rwanda.”
Born 1956, Rutikanga launched the Boxing in 1970 but, as he says, many people were considering its players as bandits which he says “It hindered its move due to negative thoughts that people had towards the Boxing”
He says “When I came to Kigali in 1973 it was in December, they treated us as robbers or bandits. At the time the Minister was Rwagafirita. We explained them more about the game and later they started knowing that the game was also present in many other counties.”
He has given examples of players like Idi Amin, who was the President of Uganda and the Late Pope Jean Paul II as well as Nelson Mandela, the Former South African Anti-Apartheid President who died last Year.
Rutikanga said at the time Rwandans got to know about Boxing thanks to Journalists like Kabendera Shinani and Viateur Kalinda who were radio Rwanda’s sport presenters.
Today Rukanga is asking MINISPOC to invest more in Boxing to enable more Rwandan players to be among those who win different international tournaments.
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Region to grow 5.2% in 2015
{East Africa’s Growth Domestic Product (GDP) is expected to rise from 4.6 per cent to 5.2 per cent in the 2015/16 fiscal year despite an unexpected weaker global growth, a new World Bank report reveals.}
The Africa’s Pulse Report, however, paints a grim picture of the manufacturing and agriculture sectors, whose output shares are declining across the region.
This is despite most workers, and almost 80% of the poor still deriving the bulk of their income from farming.
“Commodity prices are either stable or declining while African economies continue to expand at a moderate rapid pace,” says the report.
World Bank Lead Economist for Africa and a co-author of the report Punam Chuhan-Pole said growth in agriculture and the services sector in Africa has been more effective in reducing poverty than growth in industry.
“In the rest of the world, by contrast, industry and services have a larger impact on reducing poverty,” he said.
The Africa Pulse Report is done twice-yearly, to analyse the issues that shape Africa’s economic prospects.
According to the report, significant public investment in infrastructure, increased agricultural production and expanding services in retail, telecoms, transportation, and finance, are expected to continue to boost growth in the region.
This pick-up in growth is expected to occur in a context of lower commodity prices and lower foreign direct investment as a result of subdued global economic conditions, says the report. Commodity prices remain highly significant to Africa’s outlook since with primary commodities accounting for three-quarters of sub-Saharan Africa’s total goods exports.
The share of the region’s top five exports in total exports has climbed to 60 per cent in 2013 from 41% in 1995. World Bank’s chief economist for Africa Francisco Ferreira said Africa is generally forecast to remain one of the world’s three fastest growing regions.
Business Week
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Pope Francis honors saints who spread Catholicism through Canada
{Pope Francis during the Thanksgiving mass for the canonization of the two Canadians saints on Sunday in the Vatican.}
Pope Francis held a Mass over Canada’s Thanksgiving weekend in Vatican City for the canonization of two missionaries who spread Catholicism through the territory in the 17th century.
Francis said in his homily that St. Francis de Laval and St. Marie of the Incarnation spread their faith “to the smallest and most remote” parts of Canada.
St. Francis de Laval was the first bishop of New France, known for his work defending Native Americans from exploitation.
St. Marie of the Incarnation was an Ursuline nun who founded a convent that provided equal education to daughters of French settlers and Native Americans.