If you are triggered by this season of the year, here are a few tips that might help you:
{{Acknowledge the source of your anxiety}}
We have different fears, focus on learning and what frightens you about the new year, and write down reasons you feel you are not excited.
This year it could be that the person you used to spend this time with is no longer there, but last year it was because you dreaded your financial situation.
Give yourself time to feel any emotions that might come from this, and analyze the specific thing that triggers you in this season because you cannot heal if you do not know the disease.
{{Avoid being a pessimist }}
People used to say, ‘It’s the beginning of the year. What do you have to be worried about?’
But my fear was that; the beginning of the year. All the plans could fail, I could lose what I have now, and these thoughts would fill my brain until I had no joy for the new year.
I realized thoughts such as; “What if I don’t meet my goals? Should be replaced by “What if I do meet my goals? What if I am successful? What if I am happy?”
By maintaining positive thoughts, you’ll begin to feel more positive. That’s the best mindset for starting a new year!
{{A supportive group of people }}
One way to feel more excited about the new year is by creating a supportive network of people.
Reach out to friends and family and let them know how you feel and the support you need.
Creating a support system not only gives you access to resources but also ensures that you are not alone in the transition you are going through.
Your friends can offer support and encouragement, offer feedback on your ideas, and be there to celebrate your successes together.
{{Celebrate the little and big moments }}
Take a moment to reflect and celebrate all the little successes you have had.
Make a list of your accomplishments, both big and small. These could include new friendships, starting a new hobby, taking a vacation, or even staying alive.
Looking back at all the great things that have happened in the past can help you feel more excited about the future, as it will remind you of how far you have come.
It will help motivate you and bring feelings of gratitude and happiness.
Reading enables you to pick up new skills, broaden your horizons, and deepen your comprehension of the world.
You may form your ideas and opinions on diverse subjects through reading.
Reading books in your twenties will give you an advantage over your friends and pave the way for your future success.
The knowledge you get from them will save you a seat at any table of your choosing, regardless of the age or social status of others seated.
To make this a habit, you will need to set aside an hour each day or each week, create a reading list, and make sure you stick to it.
It may be hard to make time for reading at first, but eventually, you will get used to it and find yourself fitting books more into your daily schedule.
Additionally, download books on your e-reader or audio versions so that you can enjoy books even when you are on the go.
So why not start reading as a young person? The sooner you start, the more knowledgeable and well-rounded you will become. Below are a few great books to read in your 20s.
{{Recommended Financial and Economic Books}}
{{1. Retire before Mom and Dad}}
In this book, Retire Before Mom and Dad, the author, Rob Berger, details ways to achieve financial freedom while enjoying your hobbies with almost any income.
For anyone scrapping by with a small salary. This book provides a step-by-step guide.
{{2. How I Invest My Money}}
This book is a collection of portfolios of 25 financial professionals as managers, financial advisers, venture capitalists, and other specialists who explain the “how” and the “why” of their investments in this open account of how they invest, save, spend, donate, and borrow.
They talk openly about their varied upbringings, families, difficulties they’ve faced, and aspirations they have.
You will learn from people who deal with money regularly. Their thinking and behavior around one another while also recognizing that your upbringing is a past you can alter.
{{3. A Beginner’s Guide to Leveling Up Your Money: The Broke Millennial Takes on Investing by Erin Lowry}}
If you are on the edge of your 20s, this second volume of the Broke Millennial series will give you a comprehensive rundown of all the fundamentals of investing. This practical book will assist any investor just starting in the market to become a self-assured trader on their road to accumulating money. It covers common vocabulary, managing anxiety, retirement savings, and even how to purchase and sell a stock.
{{Recommended Health and Wellness Books}}
There is a quote that says, ‘physical fitness is not the only one of the most important keys to a healthy body. It’s the basis of dynamic and creative intellectual activity.’
Striving to be in good health this year is a noble goal because with health you have all that you need, even if it is all that you want. Here are some books that are sure to help you in your journey.
{{1. Eat to Love: A mindful guide to transforming your relationship with food, body, and life.}}
A book by nutritionist Jenna Hollenstein would hint that this is a dietician’s guide to losing weight, but rather this is a compass to having a better relationship with food and your body.
Many of us will benefit from this book, as it discusses the fear, frustration, and shame we feel as we approach that dining table at parties, weddings, and sometimes even in our homes.
As more people advertise ridiculous diets and exercises to lose weight and encourage us to do the same, taking pride in how you look and knowing that food is fuel for your body will help you plan better for your body.
{{2. Are u ok?: A Guide to Caring for Your Mental Health}}
This book was a real help to my sister and me when we felt we needed professional help.
Initially, we had no idea if we needed to find a therapist or which one was best for us, but when we found this book online, it helped clarify many things for us.
It helps contrast mental health with mental illness and provides several questions that help you understand if you need professional help.
When you discover that you need help, it provides you a guide on how to approach a therapist, shows you how to make the first appointment, what therapist is a good fit for you, and ways you can discuss mental health with friends and family.
Mental health is important because how we think determines how we feel and act.
Instead of getting your mental diagnosis off reels on social media, movies, and songs, try this book.
{{Recommended Career-Focused Books}}
{{1. Whatever it takes}}
Leading by example Brandon Bornancin, the author of this book, managed to turn his life around and started closing deals for over 100$ million before he even turned 30.
In this book, he teaches how you can overcome and create the business of your dreams.
You will learn to break bad habits while forming empowering ones, grasping the upside of constructive paranoia, and leveraging the power of the one percent rule.
{{2. You Majored in What?: Designing Your Path from College to Career by Katherine Brooks}}
This book is about helping people figure out what they want to do with their lives, based on their interests and experiences. It will teach you how to map out your life, figure out your strengths and passions, and create goals that will help you reach your goals.
{{Journaling:}} An important aspect that will help you make a change.
Not only will journaling help you to enjoy your reading more, but it can also be a great way to relax, stretch your creative muscles, and allow yourself to think more deeply about what you’re learning.
Noting down the keywords, quotes, or steps that helped with a certain book, allows you to ravage through the whole book looking for that particular quote.
This feature allows readers to write down what they feel and any ideas that might come to them while reading a book, whether it’s a self-help book or not. This way, readers can reflect on their lives and the changes they need to make, based on what they read.
The book is a valuable reference tool because you can use it to gain more knowledge about the subject.
{{Give your team the freedom to use their talents:}} Surely you know that each person on your team, even if they may have similar duties, has different abilities which are better off not controlled but given room to grow and do what they do best.
{{Guide them to work together toward a compelling vision:}} If you always want teamwork but cannot achieve it, try having a common vision that everyone in the team understands because nothing brings people together faster than one common goal, and this way each knows how to use their skills to push forward the success of that vision.
{{Lead by example:}} So many times, this little saying comes in and many do not exactly understand it and let alone act on it. If it is work that you should do and you as a leader push it on another, then it is only logical that they will also push it on another and the chaos on the little guy on the team who is given to do their own work and that of their leader. It causes a ripple effect which usually causes a negative effect on the quality of work done.
{{Give them what they need to be successful:}} You cannot make an omelet without breaking eggs. Then why would you expect your team to perform their tasks if you have not provided what they need to do them? Surely, you may not be able to provide all they want but at least meet their needs before.
{{Earn their respect and give them yours: }} It is easy for someone in a leadership position to look down on their team members but try to remember that you respecting them can go a long way in how they respond to you, your ideas or vision, and even them respecting you too. Mutual respect can increase productivity and your value as a leader who can invoke respect from your team.
Leading a team correctly is a big responsibility in the sense that you are in a position in which you can affect each team member’s life, career, and personal physical and mental health.
But since we are starting a new year and making goals for our careers, health and wealth, why not do the same for our relationships?
Setting relationship goals for the new year will help you focus on what you want to achieve as an individual and as a couple or family. And by making room for growth, you are ensuring that your relationships will continue to thrive and grow.
To do this, grab a piece of paper and a pencil, and list goals for all your relationships.
Under each one, write down what you would like the relationship to look like in the new year.
Be specific with your goals, you cannot write that you need to get better, write the ways in which you want to see a change.
Maybe you wish to spend more time with your partner, create boundaries with your family or start a tradition of having dinner with your children every night.
Once you have all your goals written down, it is time to plan how to achieve them.
{{Achieving your dream relationship}}
There are steps that we take to get to our desired destination, and for your dream relationship, these might help:
– Be intentional: For instance, if you want more quality time with friends and family, make an action plan with a timeline. It can be sharing lunch on your break with loved ones for 30 minutes each week.
This will keep you accountable and help you create a routine with your loved one.
– Create reasonable expectations. Avoid making rash promises or being too harsh on yourself. It’s critical to recognize and respect the boundaries that each of us has.
We make plans to hang out with friends or relatives we haven’t seen in a while, only for reality to set in and remind us that we have work, a christening, a wedding, or other obligations on the day we planned to spend time with them.
It leads to arguments and accusations of lying, which makes us feel inadequate and causes self-loathing.
You should also be aware of the people you spend time with, making sure they are comfortable because some people want to connect with others as little as possible.
– Be adaptable in how you achieve your objectives; if something doesn’t work out as you go, change it.
If your spouse has been working more than normal and it has been preventing you from having your regular lunch dates, do not let this start an argument; instead, modify your approach.
As we grow, our duties rise as well, so if lunch doesn’t work, try supper or a quick coffee break with them or wait until the weekend.
– Be adaptable to your approach to achieving your objectives; if anything changes along the way and ceases to be effective for you, make the necessary adjustments!
If you believe you are the only one putting in effort or are not acknowledged as you should be, speak out. If nothing changes, make modifications that suit your needs.
– Acknowledge success from the little things, such as a daily text from a loved one, to voluntarily spend more time with your family without waiting for Christmas or Thanksgiving.
– At any point in the relationship if the cracks become holes, meaning what you thought was playful banter turns into mean words, then arguments.
If you start to realize that the relationship has become toxic, then it is best to find a relationship counselor if you wish to continue.
Relationships need more time and work since they are considerably more intricate.
The most important thing to remember is that the relationship goals are tailored for you and your partner. While some goals may be similar for all couples, others will be unique to your relationship.
What matters most is that you and your partner are on the same page and working towards the same goals. If you can do that, you are well on your way to a successful relationship.
Most of our parents never thought of it like that but today with all the mental health discoveries showing that your relationship with your parents affects who you grow up to be and how you will treat your own children. Maybe before bringing life into this world, bring life in you first.
Before you say that it is not necessary, let us look at the story of one of my friends with their permission of course.
Ali’s parents married at a young age. Her mother did not get to be raised by her own mother and met her father right before Ali’s mother and father met.
Despite the young age, not knowing each other well or even taking time to compare backgrounds to see if they should work on themselves first, they chose to get married and had Ali and her siblings which started a whole other cycle of hurt people and things have not gotten better for either the parents or the children.
Some Africans still do not believe in therapy but Ali and her siblings made it crucial to first heal from their parents’ hurt before even getting married.
You may say that it is not a big deal but growing up with distant parents can have several effects on you even when you do not think about it.
Do you fear rejection or someone leaving you? Is your anger on the high end? Have you realized that you cannot connect with anyone emotionally?
Or have a hard time being vulnerable? Those are just some of the things that result from parents that did not engage with you as a child, who never met your emotional needs, or who did not support you in the little things.
It was not their fault either, they did what they thought was best, but it was not enough due to their own brokenness.
Now that you know better and in an era where it is more acceptable to seek help and heal your inner child by trained professionals like counselors, do not waste it.
Start working on yourself and break the hurt cycle.
Today, the area is under the control of M23. During the recent armed confrontation on 29th November 2022, combatants and residents lost lives but contradictory reports that followed the incident sparked confusion.
The Government of Congo rushed to release contradictory reports on the number of citizens who lost lives during the clashes. Initially, the military spokesperson Maj. Gen. Sylvain Ekenge, disclosed on 1st December 2022, that 50 citizens died during the fighting.
On the next day, DRC government contradicted his figures and announced that the fighting took lives of 100 and declared three-day mourning.
Later on 5th December, the Minister of Industry, Julien Paluku and the Government Spokesperson, Patrick Muyaya convinced the world that over 300 people were brutally killed by M23. In fact, it seemed like every one published figures that randomly came their mind at random.
However, the series of contradictions did not end there. The United Nations Organization Stabilization Mission in the Democratic Republic of the Congo (MONUSCO) joined the race and confirmed that the clashes claimed lives of 131 people including women and children.
On 30th November 2022, Bintou Keita, the United Nations Special Representative in the Democratic Republic of the Congo and Head of the MONUSCO demanded the UN Security Council to condemn the killings and exert pressure on M23 to release captured residents.
The Congolese government took advantage of Kishishe clashes and sounded several alarms but it was latter established that neither the DRC nor MONUSCO published figures after conducting an investigation.
The situation prompted seasoned war correspondents like Marc Hoogsteyns and Adeline Umutoni to travel to the area along with human rights lawyer, Gatete Nyiringabo Ruhumuriza to dig deep what happened on 29th November 2022.
Their report made up of 29 pages features evidences and testimonies of residents who were present at the time. They also disclosed the names of killed relatives and showed graveyards in which they were buried.
To access the area, the journalists sought accreditation from M23 which controls the area. According to residents’ witnesses, their security is guaranteed under the control of M23.
{{Findings of the Kishishe report:}}
{{1. What happened on 29th November and previous seven days }}
The report shows that the clashes began on 21st November 2022 around 8:00 a.m. On this day, M23 combatants entered Bambo trade center located in 5 kilometers from Kishishe. At the time, M23 was fighting other armed groups alongside FARDC. These include FDLR, Nyatura and Mai-Mai.
After entering Bambo, FARDC and its allies fled to Kishishe. The fighting resumed the next day on 22nd November around 12:00 midday.
It is said that the fighting claimed the life of one civilian identified as Mama Kamuzungu’ after a rocket crushed his house.
Witnesses say that the rocket was propelled by FARDC forces from afar.
On the second day of the fighting, M23 quelled FARDC and affiliated rebel groups and occupied Kishishe.
The rebel group did not stay for long in Kishishe. It went to another area known as ‘Domaine’ in the outskirts Virunga National Park that was previously a stronghold for FDLR where it grew different crops and cannabis to be sold in towns of Northern Kivu Province.
Five days after restoring calm in the area, Mai Mai returned to Kishishe from its hideouts in Miliki, Kanyabayonga and Kibirizi.
A nurse identified as Limbana Victor from Kishishe is among witnesses who were on ground.
“We experienced two wars here in Kishishe. The first was on the 22nd November 2022, and the second was on the 29th of the same month. The first time M23 arrived, they chased FARDC. There was no killing, perhaps looting of shops,” she said.
Residents started fleeing to Bambo, Kibirizi and Virunga Park after witnessing the arrival of rebels.
Others stayed in their houses in Kishishe trade center while others fled to the church of the Seventh Adventist Day nearby the village where Mai Mai fighters had ambushed M23 combatants.
On 29th November 2022, M23 returned to Kishishe from Domaine. While on the way, they learnt that Mai Mai laid an ambush against them.
The fighting resumed as soon as M23 arrived in Kishishe around 10:00 a.m.
The report reads that calm was restored in the village in pone hour as Mai Mai fighters had been chased out.
{{2. Death toll }}
Following the fighting, M23 requested residents to get out of their hiding places and assess the number of those who lost lives during the fighting.
It was established that 19 civilians died during the fighting which is far different from the exaggerated figures released by DRC and MONUSCO.
Only eight people were identified as residents of Kishishe. A report was made and signed by residents before their burial.
M23 asserts that the residents were killed by stray bullets because the fighting took place in a densely populated village.
M23 identified the remaining 11 people as rebels even though residents testified against it. The deceased were killed in the areas of Kirama and Sukuma.
“I live in Nyabihanda, twenty houses from here (at the church). Following what happened in Kiwanja, we were briefed that once the enemy comes, we had to hide in houses. I stayed in Kishishe for around 3 days. While I was in the center, I saw around 25 Mai-Mai in civilian clothes with spears and firearms.
They were coming to avenge a Nande (Mai-Mai) who had reportedly been killed. They could not locate his body that night. Once they got information that the M23 were back from Domaine, some locals fled. Upon arrival, M23 rebels were ambushed by Mai-Mai. The two groups fought for a while, then after the fight ended, I discovered people who had been killed, including the pastor and his son. No one from Nyabihande was killed,” said Ndoriyobijya Rwamironko.
Uwihoreye Furaha, spouse to Hungu Faustin also said: “I was hiding in the church (Mu gisomo) when the fighting happened. We were forced to leave our houses and they took us to the church. We were together with about 12 men. I could not recognize the men who told us to lift our hands up, but all I know is that they are new to Kishishe.”
In 2020, DRC reported that massacres in Kipupu in Southern Kivu Province claimed lives of 220. However, MONUSCO investigated the case and confirmed 15 deaths only.
{{3. Identifications of the deceased}}
The report indicates that the eight deceased civilians include Fumbo Miss, Segatumberi James, Mumbere Dieu Aimé (the son of Shakwira), Serugendo Manishimwe alias Mushime (the son of Segatumberi James), Semutobe Kuhongera, Paluku Siwatura Letakamba André, Maman Kamuzungu and Mutampera.
The report also features the names of alleged combatants including Mushi (Baba Tumu), Nizeye (Baba Zawa), Baseme Karekezi, Bahati Sentama, Batahwa Ndaki-Joel, Semugaye (Baba Chatete), Muhawe Munyazikwiye, Kababa Ndamiyeho, Manyinya Deo, Sebuhoro Kajolite, Kinyoni Mweshi, Zaire Nzabonimpa and Rukenyera Ndimubanzi.
Even though M23 acknowledges the death of eight civilians, residents say that the confrontations left 19 civilians dead but they are not fully aware of the situation because the alleged combatants appeared in civilian clothes.
[Click here to read the report->https://gateteviews.rw/the-kishishe-report/]
Pastor Mahwera working with Red Cross said that he fled when M23 returned in Kishishe for the second time. He returned to bury killed victims whom he said were killed by M23.
“On the first battle in Kishishe, no one was killed. Killings happened on the second battle. I did not witness the killings because I had fled the center. I came back to identify the bodies and I attended the burial. Civilians were killed by M23. Blood was at that place where we found bodies, no blood was in the church as no one was killed inside,” he said.
Even though some of their names are known, residents agree that the 11 people that M23 claims they are combatants are not members of the village.
{{4. Mass grave}}
The report reads that the eight civilians were buried by their families while the alleged 11 combatants were buried in three mass graves.
The report also shows the pictures of graves in which the deceased were buried.
{{5. Findings on reported deaths of children and women}}
MONUSCO’s preliminary investigation conducted on 7th December indicated that 131 civilians killed by M23 include children and women.
Women and children are entitled to special protection under the International laws as vulnerable groups. Killing them is regarded as extreme cruelty and aggravates the severity of a crime.
However, the report indicates that no children, minors, or women were killed in Kishishe among the 19 individuals who died on 29th November 2022.
The woman highlighted in the report is identified as Mama Kamazungu who died on 22nd November succumbing to fragments of a rocket shelled by FARDC on his house.
{{6. Collaboration between FARDC, FDLR, Mai Mai, Nyatura and other armed groups in Kishishe}}
It has been reported that Congolese Army (FARDC) work with armed groups behind insecurity in Northern Kivu. The new report proves it. It was also pointed out by citizens who seem to be familiar with the situation given that FDLR and Mai Mai are responsible for tax collections in Kishishe.
For instance, rebels entered Bambo business center located in five kilometers from Kishishe on 21st November 2022 around 8:00 a.m. At the time they were fighting with FARDC’s allies including FDLR, Nyatura and Mai-Mai.
The report indicates that FARDC and the armed groups fled to Kishishe as soon as M23 arrived in Bambo. The fighting resumed around 12:00 midday on the next day but M23 defeated them.
On 28th November 2022, Mai Mai combatants returned to Kishishe from their hideouts in Miliki, Kanyabayonga and Kibirizi. The 19 victims were killed during confrontations that took place on the next day.
Residents themselves testify that they are aware of the collaboration between FARDC and armed groups in the area. They told the team that produced the report that FARDC never goes to the battle ground but stays from afar and shells rockets to reinforce the rebel groups working with them.
{{7. Truth on civilians allegedly captured by M23}}
DRC government said that M23 captured civilians found in Kishishe and Bambo and restrained them from fleeing lest they disclose its violence.
However, the new report features civilians’ testimonies disclosing that they were not forced to stay in Kishishe because it is their home.
{{8. MONUSCO’s stance}}
Few days after confrontations in Kishishe, MONUSCO released a statement confirming that 131 died during the fighting. The figures were released based on testimonies of those who fled the area without visiting the ground.
The team which released this report asked MONUSCO why it dared announcing the figures without visiting the area but replied that it considered testimonies of civilians who fled the area.
When asked why they declined to conduct a deep investigation on the request of M23, they replied that they will go to the ground by the time MONUSCO will have been given go ahead.
{{9. Rwanda’s stance}}
Witnesses in MONUSCO’s report said that they saw soldiers speaking English and suspected them to be Rwandans.
The Spokesperson of the Government of Rwanda said that Rwandan troops are not the only ones who can speak English in the region. She explained that the allegations are part of Congo’s agenda to put its problems on the shoulders of Rwanda.
“The fact is this incident has not been investigated by any credible organization and the conclusions drawn are just allegations with a clear agenda to continue blaming Rwanda. In any case, this would be a very tenuous link, as the RDF is not the only army in the region that speaks English, and it cannot be put forward as proof of the presence of the RDF,” she noted.
The excitement I have every time it is December, the anticipation of Christmas, even before all this, I am my happiest every thanksgiving.
I have long realized that it has a relation with the Christmas movies I would watch as a child, the romance, the atmosphere, the family gatherings, the Christmas mornings with everyone around the tree being happy in the moment.
This is of course from a person who grew up in the early 2000s with everything being romanticized, broke but romantic, I accepted a few things as reality.
A lot of Barbie stories, Ken and a lot of prince charming, a lot of stories on how the guy would come to the rescue.
It was until later on that I was introduced to movies with storylines that let the girl be her own hero.
From my movie, cartoon and music, I have life expectations that are based on these which in hindsight are not exactly good.
All the romance, the dam in distress, reuniting with your lost family that comes and saves you from the family you are with because they ‘mistreat’ you, and more like these had an effect on how I see life sometimes and it took me a while until I realized that I was looking at my life in this way.
No matter how perfect my parents were, anytime we would disagree or I
would feel mistreated, my go-to solution was to run-away or hope for my ‘long lost’ family to find me and take me away.
This at the moment seems ridiculous but 7 years of watching runaways being the solution, it was very acceptable in my mind to think of this.
Growing up with all the male heroes having to be taller than the girl, why is it any surprise that women still fantasize about a guy who is taller?
Why would it be a shock that a young girl who is taller than most would feel bad about her height if she is the same height or taller than the guy she likes?
If an actor in a movie is placed on higher grounds so he can be taller than the actress, why are we still blaming girls for choosing height over most attributes?
It is unfortunate that because of these scenes that have played in our heads for so long, we forget to live in the moment, experience the already formed relationships, appreciate the people and the different circumstances that help one grow.
Back then, most movies revolved around children running away from their parents because they mistreated them and found better people along the way that allowed them to be themselves.
However, now most movies seemingly revolve around a world of children explaining their issues with their parents and parents asking for forgiveness, which in theory seems a lot easier than in real life unless it is sarcastic but at least we can dream and act it out.
“With sorrow I inform you that the Pope Emeritus, Benedict XVI, passed away today at 9:34 in the Mater Ecclesiae Monastery in the Vatican. Further information will be provided as soon as possible,” the spokesman said in a written statement. The Vatican said his body will lie in state from Monday in St.Peter’s Basilica. The Vatican has painstakingly elaborate rituals for what happens after a reigning pope dies but no publicly known ones for a former pope.
Earlier this week, Pope Francis disclosed during his weekly general audience that his predecessor was “very sick”, and asked for people to pray for him. For nearly 25 years, as Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, Benedict was the powerful head of the Vatican’s doctrinal office, then known as the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (CDF).
Conservatives in the Church have looked to the former pope as their standard bearer and some ultra-traditionalists even refused to acknowledge Francis as a legitimate pontiff. They have criticised Francis for his more welcoming approach to members of the LGBTQ+ community and to Catholics who divorced and remarried outside the Church, saying both were undermining traditional values.
The humanitarian services also included the donation of agriculture equipment to three cooperatives formed by displaced persons.
The donated agriculture items include fertilizers, hoes, water pumps for irrigation, wheelbarrows,watering cans, spades, assorted seeds, jerrycans as well as hygiene items like soaps and buckets.
Medical services included giving deworming tablets to children, testing the elderly for diabetes and high blood pressure, among others.
“Even in this camp where life is not good, we strive to provide for ourselves. These agriculture equipment have come in handy. We thanked the Rwandan Police peacekeepers for reaching out to us to boost our agriculture and increased crop production… we are trying to break the poverty cycle,” said Brigitte Gbenou, the head of one of the cooperatives.
She thanked the Rwandan peacekeepers for the “humanity and care” beyond their mandated physical security duties, to providing means of ensuring their wellbeing.
Alvin Maussa Zavido, the chief of Kaga Bandoro commune, also thanked the Rwandan peacekeepers for being exemplary and valuing lives of those under their protection.
He lauded them for thinking about the wellbeing of the displaced persons and the existing cooperation with the local people.
Oulimata Diarra, who represented MINUSCA also commended the peacekeepers for humanitarian act to ensure the health of the people and providing them with means to ensure food security.
The Rwanda FPU-2 contingent commander, Chief Superintendent of Police (CSP) Hodali Rwanyindo said that ensuring the socio-economic wellbeing of the people is also part of their mandate.
“Giving hope, ensuring a healthy and purposeful life for those displaced by violent conflicts, is equally our responsibility and it completes the true meaning of security,” said CSP Hodali.
He urged the cooperatives to handle the agricultural items with care, use them to increase crop production and to be food secure.
Life does not give you a map or request for your permission before it happens. You make a plan all in the name of hope but even with hard work and connections, life will find a way to remind you that like my aunt likes to say, “this is not your father’s house.”
Think of it as that time where you are trying to find that t-shirt that you had planned to wear and even knowing where it is, you somehow can’t find it.
Time for a choice, do you start throwing clothes around to find it or do you simply pick another t-shirt?
It can be as hard as having your graduation delayed or watching the age you thought you’d get married at pass by.
Learning to be okay with this and continue to work for what you want even when it is delayed or not working out immediately is what complicates adulthood.
One of the things that influenced me to cultivate patience, is the realization that my tantrums that would were forgiven when I was a child, but cannot be overlooked now as an adult.
Realization that currently a lot of people are reading self-help books, listening to podcasts and tuning in to anything that influences their growth and this is a positive thing but it also makes people less tolerating behaviour that comes as a result of impatience.
Being controlling and having a short fuse will not be excused. A person with little or no patience will see interjecting as a time saver not impoliteness. All this is not acceptable because everyone is expected to be working on themselves.
This will cause a strain in your relationships, even loss of those relationships that you might have considered to be important because you seem to choose time over your loved ones or because they are overwhelmed with the standard you hold them at.
There are many reasons why impatience is a bad trait. It does however deserve credit at least for some things.
People wait for no one to do their tasks for them, and when they put their mind to something, they do not rest until it is complete and they most of the time succeed.
Growing up includes relationships, school, friendship and work, all which require you to have patience.
We all look for patience in partners. So, it is time that we learn to be patient ourselves.
If you are too impatient, it could build up anxiety. It would be best to reach out to a therapist to talk about it and become a better version of yourself.
