Category: People

Failure can lead to success and lead to more failures; it all depends on how you take it.

Life will always throw difficult moments and challenges at us, and it’s only those who are willing to fight, will get their breakthroughs. The fact you fail currently doesn’t mean you would fail tomorrow; however your actions can predict how long you’ll continue to fail.

So many great successes have been born out of failure and so many failures have been extraordinarily consistent; this shows that failure isn’t really the problem, but your attitude towards failing.

These six kinds of people below have a terrible attitude towards handling failure:

1. The ones who think they can’t

The ones who think they can’t make it, and who believe it’s just impossible have already made it easy for themselves to fail. Failure first starts in the mind, and when the mind is geared up to fail, there’s nothing the body can do about it.

2. The ones who believe they need the help of someone

There are people who see themselves as nothing and who believe they need connections to make it in life. These ones could wait for the rest of their lives for connections that aren’t forthcoming. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will.

3. The ones who are too lazy to work their way up to the top

There are those who are very lazy to work for what they want; they always want the easy way out and look for shortcuts in all they do. But there’s no shortcut to legitimate success.

4. People who always complain about their circumstances

People who always complain about the circumstances they find themselves will be too blind to notice opportunities when they come knocking. The time spent complaining will add value if it’s geared towards improving that situation. Besides, complaining wouldn’t solve a thing.

5. People who desire to be pitied

People who want the pity and envy of others will get it. When you choose to be pitied, that’s what you’ll get and nothing more. So make a decision to choose between being pitied and striving to achieve that which you want.

6. People who are okay with their present situation

Once you are okay with a certain point — that will be the highest point you can get; you’ll never surpass that point. Once you get comfortable with your present situation, you’ll never get beyond that.

Do you belong to any of these categories? The time to make a change is now.

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Sometimes you might have that gut or desire to quit your job without thinking things through, only to regret it later on.

Quitting your job is a huge decision and isn’t a decision that should be taken in a hurry.

These are some things you should consider before quitting your job

1. What will be your temporal source of income?

One thing with paying bills is that there’s always an endless list of bills to pay; with every new month comes new bills, and they never stop coming. However, you might feel content at the moment because there’s a source of income to foot your bills. The moment you stop earning money, even the little bills will become a burden. Stagnant money isn’t money at all.

2. Do you have a plan ?

You shouldn’t just quit your job without a plan. Before you quit your job you should always ask yourself — what next? Asking yourself that question when you have quit your job will leave you unprepared for what to come ahead.

3. Why do you want to quit?

Sometimes, people have quit good jobs just because of silly situations, and many regret this decision for many years.

Are you quitting your job because your boss talked to you in a harsh tone? Are you unhappy at work. Find out why you want to quit, and if it’s enough reason for you to quit.

4. Is this the right time?

Are you prepared to quit? Is the timing right? How will you survive at that point? Even if you have a plan, it should be in timely fashion; are you quitting that job at the right time?

5. Do you have the right experience?

Do you have enough experience to land yourself another job if you quit your present job? Are you a hot property in the market and you already have job offers coming from other firms. If the answers are no, then you need to have a rethink.

6. Do you have the right tools?

If you are quitting your job to start a business or pursue a dream, then there are questions you need to ask yourself — do you have the tools necessary to start the project? Do you have the capital and resources to start? Have you learned enough of that project you are heading into, and are you ready?

Quitting your job could be a blessing and could also be a curse; it all depends on you. Many people quit their jobs without being ready for the next phase, and end up suffering for it.

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A habit is basically a way of life. It is something you have become used to because you do it very often. A habit or habits can either be bad or good, and obviously, the bad ones are unhealthy and dangerous to your. I have a few examples.

1. Pride

Pride is a major obstacle to growth and success. Pride gives you the impression you’re better or good, even while you’re far from it. People who are fond of moving with a chip over their shoulders eventually end up becoming deformed. You have absolutely nothing to be proud of. Pride has succeeded in reducing men to nothing and has sent lots of dreams to the gutters. Many have missed lots of opportunities to become great just because of their pride.

Proud people cannot learn. They cannot get help, and they remain stuck in their difficulties without a way out.

2. Procrastination

This is a major killer of dreams and visions. If you can do it later, you can definitely do it now. What we always fail to understand is that our plans, dreams and visions have an expiry date. Think of all the greats of today, they never would have been where they are without acting on their dreams and aspirations. People who leave today’s work for tomorrow end up wishing they hadn’t. Today is always the best time to do that work or pursue that dream because let’s face it, while you have the necessary ingredients to get success off it today, you may not enjoy the same tomorrow.

Tomorrow’s market may not need the dreams and visions of today. Never let procrastination take hold of your life, if you can do it later, you can do it now.

3. Addictions

Addiction to anything at all is a terrible shackle to be under. When you’re addicted to something, it means you’re under the control of that thing. Now check out some common addictions today, and tell me if it’s worth it. Alcoholism, drug abuse, sex, theft, tech use, etc are some of the things people let control their lives today. They dedicate more of their time to living out those addictions than actually doing some good to their life.

Addictions lead to loss of quality time and visions. Give addictions a break and invest that time into your life.

4. Eating so much

As humans we cannot do without food, understood! But you must eat to live and not the other way round. Excessive eating of junks has been the major cause of cancer and other diet related health complications. To live a healthy life, we need to watch what goes into our mouth all in the name of food. Everything is permissible by the body but not all that enters keeps it in a healthy state.

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There’s a popular saying “show me your friend, and I’ll tell you who you are”.

The kind of people you have around you can go a long way to determine how far you’ll go in life.

These people shouldn’t be far off from you:

1. Mentors that will guide you

Having a mentor you can relate with, will help you in life. Your mentor should be someone you look up to who’s better than you and who has achieved more success than you in your desired area of interest. Having someone like this to look up to and guide you, will help you stay focused and also you guide you through difficult paths.

2. People who inspire you

Associate yourself with people who inspire you. There are three kinds of people; the ones who will make you think lowly of yourself and your situation, the ones who will make you satisfied with stagnation, and the ones that will push you to reach the top. Associate with people who will inspire you to reach greater heights.

3. People who support you

Having a very good support system around you will help you get to certain heights in life. Rather than associate with people that’ll bring you down, associate with people who will support you and be there for you when others won’t.

4. People with vision

When your circle of friends lack vision, don’t be surprised when you also lose the desire to follow your vision in life. If you want to achieve success, then you should surround yourself with people who have vision to succeed as well.

5. Positive-minded people

Positive-minded people see light where others see darkness; they see hope where others see doom, they see success where others see failure, and they see opportunities where others see adversities. Associate with people who have this mentality, and your mentality will experience a huge transformation.

If you want to have the right people around you, these are the kinds you need, if you want to be successful.

Source:Elcrema

There are so many fears people have, and one thing fear does is that it puts you under control. When you are afraid, you are under subjection, as far as that thing is concerned, and until you deal with that fear, it’ll forever have a grip on you.

To deal with your fears, you must be willing to take any of these steps:

1. Determine what you are afraid of

You ought to understand and be specific about what you are afraid of. You can’t say, “I’m afraid of talking”; that’s too broad. Rather, you can say “I’m are afraid of public speaking”, “I’m afraid that people won’t like what I say in public”, “I’m afraid people won’t like me” etc. These are a bit more specific and will help you understand specifically what you are dealing with.

2. Start dealing with your inside mind

This is the next important step you must take, if you want to beat that fear. There’s always that voice deep within telling you to be afraid, reminding you why you are afraid and giving you reasons why you should be afraid; if you can deal with that inside voice, then over 70% of your fears will be gone. So, stop listening to the inside voice and start replacing it with positive thoughts — thoughts that tell you, “I can do it”, “there’s nothing to be afraid of”. If you can pass this mental block, you have almost dealt with your fears.

3. Start thinking of the benefits of dealing with your fears

There are always benefits associated with handling your fears, and enjoying those benefits will make you feel whole again. If you have a phobia for swimming, just imagine how relaxed you’d feel if you can join others in swimming and partaking in the fun most people have by the poolside. If you have a phobia for travelling by air, imagine how fast and less stressful it’d be to reach your destination in no time.

When you start thinking of the benefits of dealing with your fears, you’ll get motivated to handle those fears.

4. Face your fears

At the end you just have to face your fears, and it shouldn’t just be once. Facing your fears should be a continuous and repeated process. The previous steps are all geared at getting you mentally prepped to face your fears, and they’ll be of no use if you don’t eventually face your fears. You just have to hit your fears head on, and you have to keep going at it.

Source:Elcrema

To be a true leader, there are certain qualities you need to have. Check them out below.

1. Do not be scared of making mistakes.

2. Avoid making the same mistake twice.

3. Be a good listener.

4. You don’t need to be aggressive when expressing yourself. Talk softly and make sense.

5. Have a positive outlook. Tackle problems thinking you’re already going to solve.

6. Know your responsibilities.

7. Know what you rightfully deserve and don’t let anyone take them away from you.

8. Be willing to help.

9. Ask if you aren’t getting something right.

10. Be honest in everything.

11. If you’ve a great idea or a view you think people should hear about, just do it.

12. Don’t take things to heart,

13. Always keep learning.

14. Don’t run away from challenges.

15. Apologize when you need to. You will gain people’s respect in the long-run when you apologise.

16. Always remember to say thank you. It will cost you nothing.

17. Never stay at a place; keep improving.

18. Respect everyone you come across, whether young or old.

19. Be fearless and stand up for what is right.

20. You have to be on time, every time.

21. Don’t judge. Take people as they are.

22. Be your biggest critic.

23. Try to avoid conflicts as much as you can.

24. Read a book every day.

25. Have a plan and try to stick as closely to it as possible.

26. Give people their due credit.

27. Give people a chance.

28. Don’t let people take you for granted. Be stern in your actions

29. Make new friends whenever you can.

30. Not everyone will like you but do not consider anyone as an enemy.

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Just imagine if the likes of Nelson Mandela, Isaac Newton, Bill Gates and Martin Luther King Jr quit. Just imagine how the world would have been if not for the zeal and determination of people over the years to not have given up.

Most times, people choose to give up just close to their breakthrough and they don’t even know it. Quitting puts the final nail on failure.

These quotes will inspire you to not give up:

1. “Most people who succeed in the face of seemingly impossible conditions are people who simply don’t know how to quit.” – Robert Schuller

2. “Quitting is never an option on the road to success. Find the way forward. If you have a positive mindset and are willing to persevere, there is little that is beyond your reach. The attitude of being ready to work even in the face of challenges and despite odds is what will make all the difference in your life.” – Roopleen

3. “From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn. Studies show that people who worry about mistakes shut down, but those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well. Success is built on failure.” – Martha Beck

4. “Quitting is the easiest thing to do.” – Robert Kiyosaki

5. “Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.” – Napoleon Hill

6. “Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” – Conrad Hilton

7. “A quitter never wins and a winner never quits.” – Napoleon Hill

8. “Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.” – Lance Armstrong

9. “If you quit once it becomes a habit. Never quit.” – Michael Jordan

10. “Age wrinkles the body; quitting wrinkles the soul.” – Douglas MacArthur

Quitting might seem appealing; most people tend to quit at the first sign of adversity, and they tend to justify their actions. But how many of them turn out to be successful?

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When you get to adulthood, it becomes so difficult to live an exciting life. With your thoughts focused on money, business, career, family, progress and taking that next step forward, it becomes increasingly difficult to live an exciting life; your life becomes constricted and dull, and every day just seems to be the same.

No matter how busy you are, you shouldn’t just let life fly by you.

Make your life more interesting with these tips:

1. Start your day well

Make that conscious effort to start your day on the right foot. Sleep early and wake up early, and prepare your mind for the day; prepare to be happy no matter what. Happiness starts with the mind, and you’ll live a more interesting life if your mind is geared towards being happy.

2. Change your routine

If you do the same thing every weekend, it’ll become too boring after a while. Change your routine and do something different; diversify your activities every weekend, and you wouldn’t only feel more excited about it, your life will also be more exciting.

3. Take rests and take care of your body

Your life cannot be exciting when your body is stressed out. Learn to take rests, eat right and exercise daily. When your body is in the right shape, living an exciting life wouldn’t be too difficult.

4. Perform random acts of kindness

You don’t have to wait for a reason to do something kind for someone. Look for someone in need and reach out to that person. Research has found that doing something unexpectedly for someone can lead to a higher level of happiness.

5. Create special moments with your friends and family

Don’t just wait for special moments to happen — create it. Plan a dinner and invite people that matter to you, celebrate your birthdays with the special people in your life, organise barbecue time with your folks, and just choose to be happy.

6. Make a decision to always be happy

Happiness is a choice; you don’t wait for it to come, you make a decision to be happy. Make a decision to always be happy, no matter what, and your life will be more exciting.

7. Be adventurous

Don’t stick to what you know; try out new areas, visit new places, and enjoy the thrill of doing something new. Your life will be more exciting when you do this.

Have you been living a dull and unpleasant life? It’s time to spice things up and make your life more exciting.

Source:Elcrema

As you brace up for that tough interview, and you practice answers to the probable questions you’ll be asked, have you ever thought about what the interviewer wants from you in that interview?

Interviewers are humans like you, and they have what they expect from you. These are some of their expectations:

1. To look charming

Believe it or not, your interviewer wants you to look good and charming as you walk into that door. The interviewer wants to be swept away by your aura, charm and personality. This will make the interviewer warm up to you.

2. The interviewer wants you to feel confident about the interview. The interviewer sees your confidence level, and they’d love it if you had more belief in yourself.

3. The interviewer expects you to represent yourself very well. Be the best representation of yourself, and try to be reasonable in the answers you give. Drop every form of nonchalance at home.

4. Your interviewer also expects you to listen, to be focused and to be professional in the interview.

If you can bring these into your interview, you’ll definitely leave an impression on your interviewer, and you’ll be one step away from getting that job.