Red flags are certain traits and behaviors that show a person either a friend and love interest and even a family member can not be good for you or that they have a certain personality that will not work with yours.
And to tell you the truth, we sometimes ignore those red flags because we realize them while it is too late or because we are so interested in the person that we ignore those things. But there are red flags or signs that you should consider before committing to any relationship or friendship.
{{White liars }}
White lies may not be as dangerous as real serious lies, but if they are frequent and consistent you should always look out for that person.
They might lie in small ways like why they are late or that they forgot to do something they have promised to do, small things like those. But let me tell you, if they can lie to your face without any remorse, they will not hesitate to lie to you in a serious matter.
Lying is a fact of life, it happens but when a person lies to you consistently and they are always justifying their lies with other lies, those people are to watch out for.
{{Gossipers}}
I once had this friend who was always gossiping about other people. They always had stories to tell and always had something to say about somebody else.
It was always interesting to be around that friend but the I once realized that the same way they always talk about other people with me, they would also talk about me with other people.
In other words, watch out for the people who talk about others in their back chances are that they are doing the exact same thing with you.
{{A person who is too friendly with the opposite gender}}
I know this might seem too controversial but if your significant other is too friendly with the opposite gender, it is a big red flag.
Do not get me wrong. There is nothing like being friends with people of the opposite gender but when you are a man and the highest percentage of your friends are women, I become skeptical and it goes the other way too.
Most of the time these kinds of people are attention seekers who do not have clear boundaries and limits, you might be wasting your time going in the relationship with them.
{{A person who does not seem to want to know you }}
If you meet someone for the first time and they do not seem interested to know you, that is also a red flag.
They never ask anything to get to know you, they never seem to be interested in knowing more about your life. High chances are that they really do not care about getting to know you; they most likely want to get physical with you and that is all.
{{They are always victims}}
When you meet someone who seems to never believe they are at fault in any situation, those people are most likely to become toxic and manipulative.
People who have a tendency to feel like they are always the victim, that others are always at fault even if the situation clearly identifies them as the cause, they never seem to be accountable. Those are also to be watched out for.
{{Gaslighters }}
Gas lighters are people who never take into consideration your feelings and emotions. For example, they might try to tell you that your emotions are out of place.
If you express yourself and their answers are ‘you’re being too dramatic’ or ‘you’re being too sensitive’ or they might even tell you how you should feel, those people are to be avoided at all cost, these are the type of people who can screw up your mental health.
{{Lack of communication}}
Communication is the basis of every relationship, and it always has to go both ways. If a person cannot communicate clearly and intentionally, it would be a waste of time in trying to engage with them in any sort of thing.
People who cannot communicate like answering messages, listening while you’re talking or even pay attention to you, then there is a problem.
{{Bad relationships with other people}}
If someone has a bad relationship with most people in their lives, it is a great indicator that there might be something wrong with them. If they treat everyone poorly and disrespectfully, then they will do the same to you. It is just a matter of time so watch out.
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