{Welcome everyone to this Sunday\u2019s edition of the Elcrema Sunday Love Special, and we\u2019d be looking at a 21st century trend today \u2014 something that\u2019s very common among many relationship partners \u2014 cohabiting before marriage.}<\/p>\n
Cohabiting before marriage is now a normal thing, and many see it as the serious of a relationship? But is it right? Is it healthy? Is it moral? Is it okay?<\/p>\n
Drama and Shawn will tell us how they feel about cohabiting before marriage.<\/p>\n
{{Drama}}<\/p>\n
Cohabiting before marriage has negatives and positives, and what you get out of it is a direct product of who you\u2019re with. What I\u2019m trying to say is, it can be rewarding and equally disastrous if the person you\u2019re with is not ready.<\/p>\n
So I think it\u2019s important to consider that before you move in with anyone. Some people want to date, but don\u2019t know what it means to get married, because that is exactly what you do when you live together with your partner. You may not have done the marriage rites, but you\u2019re married, and live like husband and wife. A person who isn\u2019t mature enough for marriage and that level of commitment will be broken and discouraged from courting or even getting married if you co-habit with them because there\u2019s so much that you learn about people when you stay together. You find out who a person truly is and what their true identities are when you live with them.<\/p>\n
For some, it\u2019s a good thing because they get to understand their potential spouse better and know how to treat them, while for others, it can change their feelings towards you, especially when they find out too much dirt on your personality. So it really goes both ways. It can help a relationship or marriage be stronger and more successful, and it can mean the end of it too. So it\u2019s important to know who you date before you think of cohabiting with them.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re dating someone who isn\u2019t fully ready for that level of commitment just yet, or they\u2019re just not mature enough for it just yet, then, you\u2019re probably better off staying apart. A clear sign of people like this are those who don\u2019t have an issue with not talking to you for as long as 2, 3 days or who show withdrawal signs when you get too close. If on the other hand, they are all over you, and they always seem to want to be with you, then, it\u2019s a sign that they won\u2019t have a problem with cohabiting. I also think it\u2019s important to go at it gradually. Spend the night on occasions, and see what their reaction is, then you can know what the next move would be from there.<\/p>\n
I honestly have no problems with cohabiting; I just think it depends on who you\u2019re with, and what you\u2019re looking for. Only people who plan on being together for the long haul should try it though.<\/p>\n
{{Shawn}}<\/p>\n
Of course, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and what might be good for Mr A will not really augur well with Mr B. Cohabiting before marriage is a trend that has come to stay in the 21st century relationship world. You don\u2019t need to look too far to find a couple who are staying together but aren\u2019t married.<\/p>\n
Personally, I find it flawed for so many reasons, but I\u2019d share just two of my opinions.<\/p>\n
Firstly, it takes away the spark of being married and starting a new family when you are already acting like you are married. Living together with your partner long before you even decide to tie the knots will be the same when (if) you eventually get married; there wouldn\u2019t be any joy added or anything new, and if you aren\u2019t careful the marriage might get stale too soon.<\/p>\n
Secondly, cohabiting before marriage doesn\u2019t give room for personal development. People who cohabit believe that they get to know more about their partners this way than when they stay apart, but I doubt it. Cohabiting with each other doesn\u2019t give room for personal development; you might remain stuck and redundant when you cohabit with a partner. The more months and years you spend together, the less likely you get to build on your individual lives. Knowing how to be independent even when in a relationship is a strength that\u2019ll help you in marriage. You ought to learn about each other and improve on your flaws during a relationship. But when you cohabit, you learn about each other but don\u2019t have the space to improve on certain aspects of your life and the relationship.<\/p>\n
You also don\u2019t get to miss each other when you cohabit; you get so used to each other\u2019s presence that you don\u2019t look forward to life after marriage, because you are already experiencing it even though it\u2019s unofficial. Cohabiting doesn\u2019t bring that spark of \u201cI\u2019ve missed you\u201d, and when you have lost this so early on, it might cause problems in the near future.<\/p>\n
There you have it; Drama and Shawn have both revealed what they think about cohabiting before marriage. What\u2019s your take on this subject?<\/p>\n
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