{"id":26588,"date":"2016-07-04T01:56:51","date_gmt":"2016-07-04T01:56:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/how-long-is-too-long-for-a-man-to-court-a-lady\/"},"modified":"2016-07-04T01:57:28","modified_gmt":"2016-07-04T01:57:28","slug":"how-long-is-too-long-for-a-man-to-court-a-lady","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/how-long-is-too-long-for-a-man-to-court-a-lady\/","title":{"rendered":"How long is too long for a man to court a lady?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Fertility aside, some men tend to court a woman for so long in the hope of getting married to them; some eventually get married, but some men leave the women afterwards even after 7-8 years of \u2018courtship\u2019, leaving the woman devastated and frustrated.<\/p>\n

This brings to the question: How long is too long for a man to court a lady?<\/p>\n

Drama and Shawn would share their opinion in today\u2019s edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special.<\/p>\n

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No length of time is too long or too short to court a woman, as long as you\u2019re both happy in the relationship. If a guy loves a woman, and sticks with her, what does it matter for how long they court?<\/p>\n

The whole point of being together in the first place is to enjoy each other\u2019s company and support, so if you have that in your courtship I don\u2019t see a reason why you should be worried about anything else.<\/p>\n

I get that the ultimate goal of a relationship for most people is to eventually settle down and get married to each other, but then, you have to understand that if it takes him \u2018ages\u2019 to take it to the next level, there\u2019s probably a good reason for it. If he\u2019s good to you, then there\u2019s no reason to bother. He\u2019s probably stalling on that wedding because he\u2019s not ready for the financial implications yet. You would agree that it costs a bit to get married in some parts of the world, so that could be a problem for him, but of course he wouldn\u2019t tell you because he\u2019s got an ego to protect. He may want to give you that dream wedding, but he needs to save up for it. This is one of the major reasons some men delay their wedding, and court a woman for long. The other reason is mental preparedness. Marriage is mature people\u2019s business, so to get into it, you need to prepare your mind for it. Sometimes, it may take a while before you get a grip of what it\u2019s all about, and finally be ready for it. A guy can love a woman, and still not be ready for marriage, it doesn\u2019t matter for me, as long as you\u2019re happy with him, wait it out.<\/p>\n

Courtship is a bit different from dating. While couples could date just for the sake of being in a relationship with each other, loving each other without thinking of what comes next at that time or taking things slowly and watching where it would lead, courting is way different.<\/p>\n

When it comes to courting, it\u2019s about being in that relationship in preparation for marriage. Merriam Webster dictionary defines courtship as \u201cto act in a way that shows that you want or intend to get married to someone\u201c.<\/p>\n

In my opinion, the appropriate time to court a lady is between two to three years. When it exceeds this point, anything could happen; the spark could begin to die, anxiety could begin to step in and nonchalance could also take its toll. While I believe a couple can date for a long time, I don\u2019t think it\u2019s right to court for a long time.<\/p>\n

While in some cases, long courtship had led to beautiful marriages, in many other cases, long courtship has led to heartbreak and disappointments. You would mostly find more of the latter than the former.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need to court a woman for 7-9 years before deciding to marry her, and this is even very risky for the woman because a man can easily move on, but for a woman it\u2019s like starting afresh in case that courtship doesn\u2019t eventually lead to marriage.<\/p>\n

Within a year, two or three, a man should decide whether or not to make the next move, and as long as he\u2019s financially and emotionally ready to start a family, he should forge on. For me, long courtship is highly risky and probably unnecessary, though there are exceptions.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s our take on marriage and long courtship, what do you think about long courtship?<\/p>\n

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