{"id":21643,"date":"2015-12-05T00:51:42","date_gmt":"2015-12-05T00:51:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/when-you-re-married-with-children-is-it-cool-to\/"},"modified":"2015-12-05T00:51:27","modified_gmt":"2015-12-05T00:51:27","slug":"when-you-re-married-with-children-is-it-cool-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/when-you-re-married-with-children-is-it-cool-to\/","title":{"rendered":"When You\u2019re Married With Children, Is It Cool To Flirt With Someone Other Than Your Spouse?"},"content":{"rendered":"

{You can be as happily married as can be, there will always be some people that you meet throughout your life who catch your attention. And that\u2019s okay. It doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t love or value your partner, nor that you have interest in acting upon the attraction you feel towards others. It\u2019s normal and totally human; don\u2019t feel guilty about it. However, it is important to control how you react to it; only a fool will submit to the feeling or let everyone they are attracted to know it and if you do that, you are guaranteed a dysfunctional relationship. Don\u2019t let it become more than just an attraction.}<\/p>\n

First of all, pretending that you aren\u2019t attracted to others, acting as if your partner is the only man on earth, is unhealthy. Openly discussing your emotions with your partner will eliminate the mystery of that other person, and, in my opinion, deter the pressures of adultery. Therefore, you\u2019ll start to see him or her as just another good-looking person that asked you out while you happened to be with the love of your life.<\/p>\n

But realize that this goes both ways. You can\u2019t cringe when your partner starts telling you about someone who walked up to him to flirt.<\/p>\n

{{Equality is key in a relationship.}}<\/p>\n

Always be honest. Honesty is the key to trust. If you physically, mentally or spiritually feel attracted to another person, don\u2019t keep it a secret or lie about it. I mean, of course you wouldn\u2019t go home and say: \u201cHey babe, I saw this hot guy at work today\u2026\u201d but don\u2019t be secretive about it either. That\u2019s what most likely will get you tempted. We all know that we want what we can\u2019t have, so don\u2019t even put yourself in that position. Just keep it real with yourself and your partner.
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\nDon\u2019t act upon the attraction.}} I think there\u2019s a fine line between it being okay to feel attracted to someone and it not being okay. The key element here is to always respect your partner, yourself and your relationship. Another person may get the looks you\u2019re giving them but let it stay at that. Don\u2019t be one of those people who go out after just having an argument with their partner and start flirting with the person they\u2019ve been eyeing \u2013 only to wake up to one of the biggest mistakes of their lives. That\u2019s the easy and weak way out. If your relationship needs work then focus on that and don\u2019t get distracted by eye-candy; it\u2019s not worth it. Accept compliments. Smile and politely turn down the invitation to a date, remind yourself of your partner home waiting for you.<\/p>\n

A lot of the discomfort we feel when we\u2019re attracted to someone else other than our partner comes from the over romanticized notions of love, where the first flush of intoxication translates to \u201cand they both lived happily after\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

{{It\u2019s simply not realistic.}} Even putting the topic of this article aside, there is no perfect relationship. Every relationship has it\u2019s ups and down\u2019s, but don\u2019t let that be a downer for the effort you were once willing to put in to make it work. There is nothing more rewarding than getting through the hard times together, pushing through and to still stand strong together \u2013 as a team, after all.<\/p>\n

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{You can be as happily married as can be, there will always be some people that you meet throughout your life who catch your attention. And that\u2019s okay. It doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t love or value your partner, nor that you have interest in acting upon the attraction you feel towards others. It\u2019s normal […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":2000070628,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[46],"tags":[75],"byline":[2500],"hashtag":[],"class_list":["post-21643","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-social","tag-homenews","byline-madame-noire-3"],"bylines":[{"id":2500,"name":"MADAME NOIRE:","slug":"madame-noire-3","description":"","image":{"id":0,"url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/?s=96&d=mm&f=y&r=g","alt":"Default avatar","title":"Default avatar","caption":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","sizes":[]},"user_id":null}],"contributors":[{"id":2500,"name":"MADAME NOIRE:","slug":"madame-noire-3","description":"","image":{"id":0,"url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/?s=96&d=mm&f=y&r=g","alt":"Default avatar","title":"Default avatar","caption":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","sizes":[]},"user_id":null}],"featured_image":{"id":2000070628,"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton21643.jpg","alt":"","caption":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","width":0,"height":0,"sizes":{"thumbnail":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton21643.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"medium":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton21643.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"medium_large":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton21643.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"large":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton21643.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"full":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton21643.jpg","width":0,"height":0}}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21643","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21643"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21643\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2000070628"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21643"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21643"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21643"},{"taxonomy":"byline","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/byline?post=21643"},{"taxonomy":"hashtag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/hashtag?post=21643"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}