{"id":14994,"date":"2014-06-13T05:50:54","date_gmt":"2014-06-13T05:50:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/5-things-we-wish-guys-knew-about-sex\/"},"modified":"2014-06-13T05:50:11","modified_gmt":"2014-06-13T05:50:11","slug":"5-things-we-wish-guys-knew-about-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/5-things-we-wish-guys-knew-about-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Things We Wish Guys Knew About Sex"},"content":{"rendered":"
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{{When it comes to sex, most guys aren\u2019t clueless. In fact, some are experts\/national treasures who should teach lessons. <\/p>\n

But they don\u2019t all always get it right, and sometimes, that\u2019s just because of a simple misunderstanding.}}<\/p>\n

For instance, most guys know that finishing too quickly isn\u2019t optimal. But according to Swiss research, the real problem most women have with premature ejaculation isn\u2019t that the actual intercourse doesn\u2019t last very long.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s that men get so focused on delaying their orgasm that they ignore women\u2019s other needs like kissing, caressing, and other stimulation that\u2019s just as important for women to have satisfying sex. <\/p>\n

{{Sure, guys, we want sex to last longer than two minutes}}. But what good is it if he stretches it out to 15 minutes of the kind of sex where his eyes are glazed over as he clearly recites baseball statistics to distract himself and basically forgets you\u2019re even there? (Yeah, dudes, we can tell when you do that.)<\/p>\n

Besides dealing with the timing, here are a few other things we think could clear up a lot of problems during sex if guys would pay attention to them.<\/p>\n

{{Confidence =\/= Aggression}}. Guys are told over and over to be confident, and that\u2019s good advice. <\/p>\n

But sometimes it seems like they equate confidence with force. A guy who confidently goes in for the kiss is good, but a guy who\u2019s too pushy is never, ever OK. <\/p>\n

Plus, even when you want him to touch you, hardly any woman I know appreciates a tongue jammed down her throat or a too-tight embrace. Ease up, dudes.<\/p>\n

{{Not every girl likes the same things.}} We\u2019re all different, but some guys find a move that works for one girl and then stick with it for the next five, despite the fact that those girls clearly aren\u2019t into it.<\/p>\n

{{Follow her lead.}} We know, we know, it\u2019s confusing when we don\u2019t all like the same things. <\/p>\n

But guys would find it much easier to figure out the next girl if they\u2019d just pay attention to her own actions. If she\u2019s doing it, she probably would like you to do it as well. <\/p>\n

If she\u2019s pulling away for more than just catching a breath, she doesn\u2019t like it. Don\u2019t do it again.<\/p>\n

{{It\u2019s more about passion than technical skill}}. Some guys are technically good at sex, sure. We\u2019re grateful for that. <\/p>\n

But the best guys in bed aren\u2019t always the ones who seemed like they\u2019ve had a ton of practice. More often, it\u2019s the ones who seem like they really want to be there, in that moment, with you specifically. Guys, it makes all the difference in the world.<\/p>\n

What do you wish more guys would or wouldn\u2019t do during sex?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

{{When it comes to sex, most guys aren\u2019t clueless. In fact, some are experts\/national treasures who should teach lessons. But they don\u2019t all always get it right, and sometimes, that\u2019s just because of a simple misunderstanding.}} For instance, most guys know that finishing too quickly isn\u2019t optimal. But according to Swiss research, the real problem […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2000052714,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[75],"byline":[170],"hashtag":[],"class_list":["post-14994","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle","tag-homenews","byline-igihe"],"bylines":[{"id":170,"name":"IGIHE","slug":"igihe","description":"","image":{"id":0,"url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/?s=96&d=mm&f=y&r=g","alt":"Default avatar","title":"Default avatar","caption":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","sizes":[]},"user_id":8}],"contributors":[{"id":170,"name":"IGIHE","slug":"igihe","description":"","image":{"id":0,"url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/?s=96&d=mm&f=y&r=g","alt":"Default avatar","title":"Default avatar","caption":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","sizes":[]},"user_id":8}],"featured_image":{"id":2000052714,"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton14994.jpg","alt":"","caption":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","width":0,"height":0,"sizes":{"thumbnail":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton14994.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"medium":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton14994.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"medium_large":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton14994.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"large":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton14994.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"full":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton14994.jpg","width":0,"height":0}}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14994","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14994"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14994\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2000052714"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14994"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14994"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14994"},{"taxonomy":"byline","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/byline?post=14994"},{"taxonomy":"hashtag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/hashtag?post=14994"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}