{"id":13888,"date":"2014-04-15T06:28:36","date_gmt":"2014-04-15T06:28:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/know-when-he-s-getting-serious-about-you\/"},"modified":"2014-04-15T06:31:38","modified_gmt":"2014-04-15T06:31:38","slug":"know-when-he-s-getting-serious-about-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/know-when-he-s-getting-serious-about-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Know When He\u2019s Getting Serious About You"},"content":{"rendered":"
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{{Somewhere between the first few butterfly-inducing dates and the committed-for-life stage, there\u2019s the period of wondering if you\u2019re both on the same page about how serious you feel about a future together. }} <\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not quite at the point of That Talk but you\u2019re looking for a few clues you\u2019re heading in that direction, here are some signs he\u2019s in it for the long haul as your relationship progresses.<\/p>\n

{{He takes you on non-drinking dates}}. Nothing wrong with a few cocktails on dates, whether you\u2019ve been out twice or for 20 years. But the beginning of a relationship tends to be pretty socially lubricated, so when he starts asking you to hang out in broad daylight without a beer, he\u2019s getting comfortable with you.<\/p>\n

He expects that you have plans even when you don\u2019t make them. In the beginning, he asks, \u201cWhat are your plans for this weekend?\u201d to see if you\u2019re available. When he\u2019s serious, he asks, \u201cWhat are our plans for this weekend?\u201d because he just assumes you\u2019ll want to be together.<\/p>\n

{{He brings you along to his regular activities}}. Taking you to a big deal event like a wedding is, of course, an important sign in its own right. But for stuff like that, people expect him to bring a date, and plus, that\u2019s only for one night. <\/p>\n

On the other hand, if he\u2019s bringing you to a usual thing he does frequently, like to his weekly Sunday-night dinners with his friends, he\u2019s doing it because he wants to and because he plans to have you around for a long time.<\/p>\n

{{He talks about you when you\u2019re not there}}. Especially to people who matter. \u201cOnce when we were first dating, my boyfriend mentioned off-handedly that he\u2019d shown my picture to his parents,\u201d says a friend of mine. Four years later, both he and his parents still love her.<\/p>\n

{{He makes room for you and expects you to do the same}}. It might be a cliche since the time Carrie Bradshaw unsuccessfully tried to leave a hair-dryer at Big\u2019s, but most guys seem to agree: If they\u2019re intentionally leaving a toothbrush at your place or offering you drawer space at theirs, they mean business.<\/p>\n

{{He lets you see how he actually acts with his friends}}. Introducing you to his friends is one big step, but those first few times, he\u2019ll probably order them all to be on their best behavior. <\/p>\n

When they start acting like the loud, dorky, possibly obnoxious-at-times dudes they really are, even when you\u2019re there, they all see you as a permanent fixture in his life who can handle the truth.<\/p>\n

{{He stops trying to impress you quite as much}}. You certainly don\u2019t want a guy who takes you for granted, but hear me out. A guy who\u2019s always on his best behavior is still in the stages of trying to win you over. That stage is fun, but it doesn\u2019t necessarily mean he\u2019s sure about you. <\/p>\n

A secure guy will let you come over when his bed isn\u2019t made or disagree with you about that movie you loved even if it makes you mad. <\/p>\n

If he still makes you feel special and loved but does so while letting you see that he\u2019s just a regular human with bodily functions and a few bad habits, it\u2019s because he thinks you\u2019re the right one for the real him.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

{{Somewhere between the first few butterfly-inducing dates and the committed-for-life stage, there\u2019s the period of wondering if you\u2019re both on the same page about how serious you feel about a future together. }} If you\u2019re not quite at the point of That Talk but you\u2019re looking for a few clues you\u2019re heading in that direction, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2000051662,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[75],"byline":[170],"hashtag":[],"class_list":["post-13888","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle","tag-homenews","byline-igihe"],"bylines":[{"id":170,"name":"IGIHE","slug":"igihe","description":"","image":{"id":0,"url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/?s=96&d=mm&f=y&r=g","alt":"Default avatar","title":"Default avatar","caption":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","sizes":[]},"user_id":8}],"contributors":[{"id":170,"name":"IGIHE","slug":"igihe","description":"","image":{"id":0,"url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/?s=96&d=mm&f=y&r=g","alt":"Default avatar","title":"Default avatar","caption":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","sizes":[]},"user_id":8}],"featured_image":{"id":2000051662,"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton13888.jpg","alt":"","caption":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","width":0,"height":0,"sizes":{"thumbnail":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton13888.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"medium":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton13888.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"medium_large":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton13888.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"large":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton13888.jpg","width":1,"height":1},"full":{"url":"https:\/\/en-images.igihe.com\/IMG\/logo\/arton13888.jpg","width":0,"height":0}}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13888","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13888"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13888\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2000051662"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13888"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13888"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13888"},{"taxonomy":"byline","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/byline?post=13888"},{"taxonomy":"hashtag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/new.igihe.com\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/hashtag?post=13888"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}