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There are some people who are loved wherever they go, while some are hated wherever they go for obvious reasons.

However, some hatred are born out of envy for probably success and other good things that a person possesses. While some hatred are born because that person possesses certain characters that aren’t appealing to the general public — and it’s this kind of hatred I want to buttress on.

1. You are negative

Negative minded people are hated wherever they go; they would probably only be loved by negative minded people as well.
People are attracted to positive things and negative minded people have this negative energy that radiates out of them and no one loves that.

2. You never smile

People are more attracted to smiling people; smiling creates a certain charm, makes you trustworthy and radiates all manner of positivity. However, people who frown are easily hated — they radiate negative energy and nobody wants that.

3. Your excesses

Everyone has flaws, everyone probably has attributes that could make them seem annoying or disliked at a point. However, there ought to be a balance; if your excesses by far supersedes your positive aura then you would most likely be hated by a vast majority.

4. An attention seeker

An attention seeker is hated everywhere. This is one attribute people don’t come to terms with — attention seekers are unoriginal, they are pretenders and so many things about them pass a message of negativity.

5. Selfish

Have you ever seen a selfish person that’s really loved? Except that selfish person has other outstanding qualities, which is really rare. Selfishness would put you in the bad light and could make people keep away from you — selfishness would even make you lose lots of friends. No one likes a selfish person.

6. You are a hater

Every hater is highly hated by people. Some people hate others for no reason, they hate success, they hate progress and just hate anything good. People like this are easily hated wherever they go.

7. Bad habits

When you have an accumulation of bad habits that people hate, you would also be mostly hated as well. Bad habits like stealing, lying, being a braggart, telling people’s secrets, being two-faced, envy, lying behind people’s back etc. would definitely make you a hated person once they find out who you really are.

8. You treat people disrespectfully

Disrespecting others would easily make you hated. A lot of bosses are hated because they disrespect others. Nobody is attracted to someone who disrespects others; this would make people see you as evil and wicked.

Do you think people hate you? These reasons listed above would easily make you hated everywhere you go; it would be advised to refrain from such habits and lifestyles listed above.

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No matter the amount of tutoring you get about marriage before getting married, there are lessons you would learn when you actually get married.

Below are 7 lessons marriage teaches us

1. Marriage isn’t all rosy

Romantic movies always portray marriage as a rose without thorns and they always end the movie with the caption – ‘And they lived happily ever after’. The truth is you would have moments you would question your love for your partner. You would learn that there are moments you would have to dig deep to save your marriage.

2. You would learn to see your marriage as the best

Another useful lesson we learn after getting married is quitting comparisons and instead seeing our marriage as the best. Every marriage has its own peculiar problems but no one would tell you the struggles they face in their marriage. Comparing your marriage with that of others only kills your marriage quick and this is something marriage would teach you.

3. Competition kills a marriage

When you compete with your spouse, you end up killing your own marriage. This is something marriage teaches us. When you see marriage as a 50/50 game, you ruin your marriage. Marriage isn’t a game. The mentality of ‘if I do this, my spouse should do that’ isn’t needed in any marriage and this is something marriage teaches us.

4. Adventures help bring life to a marriage

When you get married, you would understand that it is very easy for your marriage to become boring. It’s important you keep adventure alive. You would understand that its easier to keep the fire alive than to bring back the spark when the flames in your marriage go off. Inject your marriage with adventure and don’t let the flame die.

5. Every moment counts

Sometimes we tend to celebrate the big moments and ignore the little ones. Marriage teaches us to acknowledge every moment and make it count. Don’t be too busy chasing money and forget to share special moments with your family because no matter how much you make, money can’t bring back those moments.

6. Forgiving is vital

Marriage would teach you to forgive for the sake of your marriage. Your partner would definitely make mistakes because your partner is human. Marriage would also teach us to ask for forgiveness when we wrong our partner instead of trying to shift blame.

7. Love conquers all

Marriage would certainly teach you that love conquers all. You would learn to look for more ways to love your partner even better because you would understand that your marriage would crumble if it lacks love. In the end, you would understand that love removes doubts and conquers all.

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A lot of the times men focus more on what to do and what not to do before sex and during sex, but very few men focus on what the women want after sex.

Sex requires quite a lot of emotional and physical involvement for it to be above ordinary, and knowing what your partner wants (both physically and emotionally) before, during and after s*x is what would make it awesome.

Like people say ‘different strokes for different folks’, but a lot of women would really love the following after a nice time in the sheets:

1. Cuddle

Most women love to cuddle their man after sex; it provides that emotional connection with their man, and makes them feel special and wanted. It somewhat passes a message that you enjoyed every bit of it and really do care as well. Whereas when you refuse to cuddle after sex, you pass a message of being uncaring, selfish and only wanting them just for your sexual pleasure.

2. Fondling

While some women love to be left alone after sex, most also love to fondled; this leaves them with all manner of sensation and leaves them geared up for the next round.

3. How good they were

Women really love it when they are told ‘you good are in bed’; it gives them that sense of fulfillment and could probably make them feel that you won’t be meeting another lady since they satisfy you. Telling them this would really be a boost to their ego.
4. A little conversation would do

A little conversation after sex makes it worthwhile to most women; it adds a bit of connection too. It could be jokes, conversation about what to do later in the day or the next day; it could be anything, as far as it’s an active conversation.

5. Tell her how much you care

There is hardly a much better time to tell a woman how much you care about her than just after making love. To most women, a man’s action after sex would determine how seriously he takes her. If he still sincerely tells her how much he cares after sex then it would mean a lot.

6. A little snack would help

A light food or snack after sex would do a world of good; have you ever tried it? Most women wouldn’t mind; let me rephrase — most women would love to be fed a bit after sex; it isn’t just wonderful, it’s awesome.

7. Care and attention

Women love not only care, but they also love attention after sex. Watching TV, leaving immediately, being busy with your phone and other things just after sex would make her feel unappreciated. Give her that care and total attention after sex, and she would love it.

It’s a pity that most men can’t help but sleep after sex. To be fair enough, after reaching climax, the human body releases the hormone oxytocin which would make man sleep. However, most women would still want the aforementioned from their man immediately after sex…you can sleep afterwards.

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Parents are motivated to avoid isolation exerted on disabled children. The message was conveyed during the closing ceremony of training parents of handicap children in Gakenke district.

Officials from Education, Equality and Empowerment Project (EEEP) reminded parents to treat disabled children equally like others and facilitate them to access education.It followed the probe which remarked 8596 handicaps in Gakenke district.

According to the research 67% of them occupies innate disability.

During the closing ceremony of training parents of crippled children in Gakenke district, Turatsinze Félicien representing EEEP urged parents to take care of disabled children.

“Offered trainings are meant to acquaint parents with increased knowledge of saving disabled children’ life. We ought not to hold them in isolation as they resemble other humans.”He said.

He further noted that it is better to avoid disabled children abandonment to facilitate their social integration which can be a motive to their good performance in class.

Before the training, Uwingeneye Florence, a parent of a disabled would despair and mistreat her child. However; she attests that training attended helped her to shape her perceptions in a way of treating children equally.

She argues that she acquired skills of taking care of her disabled child adding that she is going to warn neighbor parents’ undermining disabled children’ humanity using pejorative names like kiragi (deaf) and karema (crippled).

Following the probe’s outcomes of EEE Project, some of deaf and mute children were sent to study in their school established in Nyabihu district.

Lies and relationships go hand in hand. So many people would admit that they have told a lie to their partner at least once. Ever felt like your partner isn’t telling the whole truth? Below are 5 ways to tell if your partner is lying

1. Use of religious phrases

Use of religious phrases are one of the methods liars use and these are potential red flags when you seeking ways to tell if your partner is lying. When people lie, they love using religious phrases like ‘God is my witness’, ‘Heaven knows I’m not lying’, ‘I swear on my father’s or mother’s grave’ and stuffs like that.

2. Aversion cues

Watching out for aversion cues is another way to tell if your partner is telling a lie. When people lie, they tend to use aversion cues like turning their head or body away when making a crucial statement. If you find your partner using aversion cues when making a crucial statement that could just be a sign that your partner might be telling a lie.

3. Use of denial phrases

When people lie, they tend to repeatedly use denial phrases like ‘honestly’, ‘trust me’ or ‘to be perfectly honest’ to try to evade the point and try to change a perception. Watch out for these signs when you are trying to seek if your partner is telling a lie or not.
4. Nasal engorgement and itching

According to experts, when people lie, specific tissues in the nose usually gorge and this cause cells to release histamine which in turn cause the nose to itch. When you are trying to seek if your partner is telling a lie, watch out for nasal engorgement and itching.

5. Negation cues

Negation cues such as covering or rubbing the eyes, nose or ears and blocking the mouth are used when people lie so when you seeking to tell if your partner is telling a lie, you need to watch out for these cues.

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Next year Rwandans will just tap on their mobile phones to make consultations on their particular medical situation.

Babylon health, a Europe based firm has this morning announced intentions to expand its services to Rwanda saying its “a priority country in Africa”.

The company integrates ICT solutions to health services.

Subscribers using these applications can just tap onto their phones to get expert medical advice, consultant referrals or prescriptions without leaving their homes or offices.

The client will only interact with the doctor or medic through the phone.

For example with a simple headache or stomach pain, one will be able to get prescription through a mobile enabled application from any of the doctors on the platform.

Tracey McNeil, the Chief Clinical Officer at Babylon Health told KT Press ; “We have already started talking to the government and various telecom companies before we start business here”.

According to the Babylon Health officials, the already existing 4G internet, the services are expected to attract many users in addition to over 100,000 users in Europe.

Entry of Babylon Health into Rwanda is expected to improve access to health services and cut on time spent to get a medical consultation.

Babylon combines the latest technology with the knowledge and experience of the best doctors to make health care simpler, better, and more accessible and affordable for people everywhere.

Dr. Ali Parsa, Founder and CEO Of Babylon Health said, “When we see how much can be done with existing technology, to improve access to healthcare for people everywhere, we ask ourselves two simple questions: if not us, then who? If not now, then when? There is no excuses for not trying.”

KT PRESS

A Middlesbrough, UK man caught a lucky break when a woman emailed him seeking the password of his stolen laptop.

Getting robbed is a terrible experience, especially if the thieves make off with highly personal property—like a laptop. Under normal circumstances, the chances of getting your stolen goods returned to you are relatively slim. But one man near the Middlesbrough area of the United Kingdom caught a lucky break when a woman emailed him, seeking to know the password for his stolen laptop.

The victim said that the burglary had affected his partner, who now refuses to stay in the house alone when he works a night shift. But the couple can take some solace in the fact that the likely culprit of the robbery has been identified and brought to justice, thanks to the work of police and a local woman who purchased the stolen laptop from a cornerstore.

After buying the laptop, presumably believing it was legally available for resale, the woman found herself locked out of the computer. It is unknown how she obtained the original owner’s information, but she took it upon herself to contact him and get the password. Police got involved, and identified the person who took the computer to the cornerstore for resale as 35 year old Lisa Hanratty, who has had previous trouble with the law for drug related offenses. In fact, her rap sheet includes 34 convictions out of 64 offenses.

“The Crown would say that she was obviously close to the offence of burglary.” Said prosecutor Rachel Masters, who also noted the defendant had some of the victim’s other stolen property on her when she was arrested.

Hanratty was given a sentence of six months in jail, suspended for two years if she undergoes drug treatment and testing for 12 months.

Source: Social News Daily

Ababerarugo is a saving group formed of twenty mothers that live in the sector of Jabana in Kigali city. This saving group has three main objectives: saving and borrowing; talking about health and life issues; and promoting a strong friendship among its members.

The 4th July is the international day for cooperatives. The theme for this year 2015 says: “Choose cooperative, choose equality”. Also in the month of July on its 30th day, the world celebrates the friendship day. The message that the UN Secretary General Ban Ki Moon delivered to the world says: “On this international day of friendship, let us cultivate warm ties that strengthen our common humanity and promote the well being of the human family.”

ABABERARUGO is one good example that can inspire different individuals that cooperating doesn’t take a lot.

Despite the small capital you may start from, any profit made is a source of pride to those who achieved it. Therefore it doesn’t matter how small the capital is; it is the outcome from the capital and how beneficial it will be to the investor that count.

In the beginning, when all of these mothers met, they had a similar problem. They met in an organization called Gardens for Health International that works from Rwanda where it supports malnourished children in eighteen health centers in Gasabo and Musanze Districts. Usually, this organization puts mothers together, provides them with health and agriculture trainings to empower them so that they can seek and find solutions to malnutrition within their households.

Ababerarugo is a saving group that has set a functioning system and that is where it is grounded.

Mukamana Jeanette owned the idea when she was in the Gardens for Health International.

Jeanette joined the program after her son Cyusa Iranzi Irené was identified as malnourished. Had her idea not been supported by other mothers to the point of taking it as their own idea, however, it would have not been a success.

This saving group has a president, a vice president, a secretary, a treasurer and two advisors. Each time they gather, they collect savings and benefits which they lend to the members in order to generate more benefits to be shared later.

These mothers gather twice a month, and each saves five hundred francs at each meeting.

They lend the savings to the members so that they can be able to meet their basic needs but most of all to sustain them. When one among them needs the capital to start sell avocadoes, tomatoes, bananas, or to start other small businesses; they receive it with a condition to pay 10% interest for a period of two weeks.

Every six months, each receives their savings plus their share of profits they made out their savings. The last past six months, the members saved with a target to save Rwf 2000 more; so that they can be able to pay medical insurance for their families.

Ababerarugo is one good picture that proves that togetherness can upgrade people from one economic level and take all of them together to another one.

When the mothers are gathered, they don’t only collect savings. The mothers also talk about life as it is in general, their personal challenges; are any of them going through hardship? Here a mother doesn’t feel alone because she knows she has their support. Frankly speaking, who doesn’t need such friends?

Back in the years, a wife was considered only as the heart of a household, and the husband was its head. She had to care about household, children and husband. With development and equality, the Rwandan woman came to understand that heart works along head in everything. A wife and a mother understood that she has to work along husband to provide for their family.

We also observe mothers head of families. In these situations they are required to meet each single need. The World Bank statistics show that between 2010 and 2014, 52.4% of women in Rwanda were involved in the workforce to sustain themselves.

Such group saving activities can be compared to cooperatives since both have similar objectives. It doesn’t only increase their members’ economy but also increase the economy of the country.

The savings also help less wealthy mothers to obtain capital on easy terms at affordable interests; this enables them to provide food to their children on daily basis. For ABABERARUGO, to feed their children with nutritious meals is crucial because all of them have experienced malnutrition in the past. Any imprudence on their part therefore breaches the similar problems they faced.

As their name highlights, ABABERARUGO works for the well being of families. Family is the first place where friendship is rooted because being part of same family requires being friends. Friendship also is the base to able to cooperate and grow economically together. Working and prospering and enabling those around you to prosper build the development of a nation and of the world in general.

Is it not sad how much time we spend scolding and putting ourselves down? A very interesting analogy is that if we had a nickel or even a penny for every moment we felt down, inferior, unconfident, unworthy, not deserving, or unattractive, we would have all been millionaires and had lots of money and assets. However, even then, what would be the use of having a lot of money but a life filled with sadness and melancholy?

With enough practice and experience, along with strong reinforced group of true friends we get good advice on how to change to the better and compliments on our already awesome features. On the other hand, with enough negativity around us, we start to develop a habit of thinking poorly of ourselves and seeing only our failures and flaws. Everything else (positive things) fade away in the background and seem like they never ever existed and affect our self-esteem greatly.

So, if we have been trained and have the habit of feeling bad about ourselves, is it possible to turn the tables around and start feeling good for whom we are? Can we start unlearning old beliefs about ourselves and direct our beam of focus to see our beauty and worthiness? It is possible for sure as our bodies and minds change and are used to adaptation. A positive self-esteem can impact positively our well-being and attitude.

Do you think you have reached a point where you cannot improve anymore? Or do you think there is always room for development, improvement, and feeling better about yourself? It is certainly true that there is always room for more and more development. We can always find an area we need to feel better about ourselves in such as self-esteem and efficiency. Improving in terms of these aspects can have an overwhelming impact on the way we feel about ourselves.

There are a lot of different strategies an individual can make use of to help better them and feel better about their life and themselves. Let us go back a bit. Imagine how it would be if our minds and hearts could not readjust and once you have a bad look on life, you cannot change it. Fortunately, our minds are able to learn to love and accept ourselves if we choose to.

Let us have a look at some of the ways you can feel better about yourself.

1. Live With Hope

Are you a hopeful person, regardless of the situation? Or are you a person that is hopeful, depending on the situation and whether it is a bad or good situation. One of the things that could really help with its power and impact is staying hopeful. It is one of the tools we should apply to our daily lives and in all the different situations. If it is a bad situation that you are not proud of, just put it aside or behind you and move forward, staying hopeful for the future. Moreover, if it is a good situation that induces hope, then try to have many more situations as such. In both cases, hope can help you feel better about yourself.

Anticipating that something good is about to happen provides this sense of delight and excitement. Life as we know it is not perfect; we have our ups and downs in life and in our daily schedules, but we all need to stay hopeful as this does make a difference.

Let us say you are looking for work and have applied everywhere you could or new of; you have uploaded your resume on multiple sites and racing between job fairs to increase your chances of landing an interview. Anyone evaluating this person’s effort and hard work seeking a job would agree this person is doing everything possible and exerting a lot of effort to get what they want.

Moreover, this person continued waiting patiently for a few months or a year, but still did not land any interviews. If you were placed in such a situation, would you give up easily or would you fight until you get what you really wanted and dreamed of? A lot of people in such a situation would give up and feel like there is no hope and that they will never land a job. However, even in such a situation where you put in a lot of effort but still did not work, be positive that you will sure find a solution or a pathway to your dream.

2. Call A Parent Or Both

Did you ever think of calling your mother and/or father to help you go through your tough times? Or maybe you are an individual that dedicates part of your time to make sure you communicate with your parents and family. Parents are the people that love us the most and have our back whenever we need them. Ask them for some positive advice and listen to benefit from their huge experience.

3. Remember Your Accomplishments

All of us have had accomplishments of some kind during our life and careers, regardless of how big or small they were. However, the question is: Do you still remember them? Maybe it has been a long since you have accomplished something you are really proud of, but always remember your accomplishments as this could help you feel better and less harsh on yourself. List your accomplishments and achievements, everything from spending this many hours with your family to being the employee of the month.

4. Exercise

Are you someone that takes good care of their health and make sure you get enough hours of exercise per week? Or are you just lazy and have the intention of exercising but are just put down every day by a voice telling you that you can exercise tomorrow. Exercising can be as short as 15-20 minutes. This will get the ball rolling and boost your energy and possible be the beginning to a good habit that you will live with. You can exercise early in the morning before going to work or go for a quick jog around the house.

5. Meditation/Praying

Meditation could be something that could help with getting an individual out of an uncomfortable situation. Start by breathing in and out a few times while closing your eyes. Go within and visualize something positive, trying to forget an issue or a bad situation. Stop the self-judgement for a small while and take a neutral standpoint. Something else that might work, which is also spiritual, is praying. Some people when facing trouble or not, resort to praying to relieve themselves from all the stress they are facing in life.

6. Lift Someone’s Spirits

Have you ever been in a situation where you faced difficulty in your life and were desperate for someone to come and lift you from the trench? I’m sure you had someone lift you up and make you feel better in your low points. How did that feel? Felt amazing, right? If you know what it feels like to help someone and lift their spirit, you would do it all the time.

Being able to help someone else is a blessing and a very nice trait to have. You could turn away bad feelings and situations when you channel your energy into a positive one to make someone feel great about themselves. It is crazy how helping someone else could help you get rid of your problems, at least temporarily.

7. Change One Thing At A Time

Sometimes we fail to notice that all we need to do sometimes in bad situations is change a small thing in our daily routine and things get much better in no time. If there is something bothering or irritating you about yourself, choose one small action and start applying it in your life. Over time you would be able to maintain this change and then even perhaps add more positive changes gradually, one at a time. This would help you to feel better and more pleased with yourself.

8. Call A Friend

Just like you might call a parent or both parents for some advice or just to relieve yourself from the everyday pressure, phoning a true friend can be your second option. A true friend is always there for you to help lift your spirit and share their personal experiences in an attempt to solve your issue and help you feel better about yourself. Did you ever think of friends in a funny way as walking, talking antidepressants? This is really funny, but does describe real friends and how they can really turn your day around. In the same context, one dose of this antidepressant (your friend) and you are good to go.

9. Overcome Your Fear(s)

Most people have a fear of a certain kind that they will do anything to stay away from it and not face it. Are you one of these people or do you feel like it is important to confront and face your fear? Fear is something that provides a sense of discomfort and insecurity, but the only real reason to remove the fear is by facing it and overcoming it.

Whether it is fear of risk, fear of uncertainty, fear of public speaking, or any other fear, they keep us in the same position and not allow us to grow. We need to recognize that our fears are our areas of improvement. Those are the areas where we need to improve and make sure we take the initiative for change. Overcoming your fears can certainly make you feel better about yourself.

10. Identify Your Blind Spots

What are blind spots? Think of a car for example; blind spots are the areas we cannot see by looking through the mirror since they are not within the mirror range. That is why we need to shoulder check every time we want to change lanes. Moreover in personal development terminology, blind spots are areas or aspects about ourselves that we are not aware of.

Gaining awareness of our blind spots helps us gain insight and discover the area we can improve in and grow. One way to discover your blind spots is looking at what happened in your day as well as what triggered you in specific. We are talking about people, situations, and events that made you feel annoyed, affected, or awkward perhaps.

Those can be things that represent our blind spots. Every time you do this exercise, you could learn something new about yourself and thus have a greater chance of improvement and feeling better about yourself. You could also be surprised to learn that you were short of identifying all your blind spots before doing this blind spot exercise.

Now, you have done most of the work. All you need to do next is address these blind spots by sitting with yourself and advising a way to fill in these gaps. You may not be able to fill in all the voids, but the more you try and identify more blind spots, the more spots you will fill. This in turn helps you and increases your improvement and feeling good about yourself.

11. Ask For Feedback

This is a very good way to learn more about yourself and any possible flaws or areas of improvement. We have to know that the way life works is that there is no perfect person; no matter how much we try to improve, we will always have blind spots. However, that does not mean that it is not worth trying. You do not want to spend all your life with a low self-esteem and a poor thought of yourself.

Asking for feedback gives an extra angle to the situation. Try to approach someone with no pre-set bias is important because you want a true opinion that will help you eventually feel better about yourself.

If you look closely, you will realize that there are a lot of ways you can probably improve to help you feel better about yourself, some of which did not cross your mind. Just be open to changes and do not be afraid to go outside your comfort zone to try new things. Also try different things before you decide on the technique or tip that would really make the difference.

So, are you ready to grow and make the best of your life and begin positively believing in yourself? Start as soon as you can and do not let anyone let you down for whatever reason.

Source: Inspower