Category: Social

{Words have power and you have no idea how a simple compliment can make someone’s day.
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Rather than being destructive with your words, say these nine lovely things to people you come across:

{{1. YOU HAVE A LOVELY SMILE}}

This is a nice thing to say to anyone, and it’s a remark that wouldn’t only make them smile, but make them smile more often.

{{2. YOU MAKE ME BETTER}}

This is a nice remark you could say to someone who inspires you a lot or pushes you to be better. Telling that person this statement would go a long way in their lives.
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3. YOU ARE LOOKING NICE}}

This is a statement to say to someone that’s looking lovely. Don’t just pass by when you know deep down that you admire how that person’s look. Tell people how nice they look, and you wouldn’t only make them smile but you would make them take proper care of themselves always.
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4. YOU HAVE LOVELY CHILDREN}}

I see cute kids everywhere I go and every parent feels adored when told how lovely their kids look. You don’t even have to know that person; just tell that parent how lovely their kids look and they would want to do more for that kid.
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5. THANKS FOR…}}

It’s always nice to be thankful to people for what they do for you, no matter how little it might seem. This would make them feel highly appreciated.

{{6. YOU ARE A GOOD…}}

People are good at different things and it’s nice to compliment someone for what they are good at — this would even make them be better.
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7. YOU HAVE A NICE STYLE}}

This could be fashion related or even home decor. Compliment people’s style; this is one compliment many people are dying to hear.
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8. YOU DID WELL}}

This is another nice compliment that would help a person’s life. This compliment can go a long way in encouraging someone — a lot of people really need encouragement.
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9. YOU’VE IMPROVE ON…}}

Someone might be struggling at something, and all that person needs could just be a word of encouragement. This is another nice thing you can say to encourage someone.

It pays to put a smile on someone’s face. The world would be a nicer place if we all do this.

Source:Elcrema:[9 VERY NICE THINGS YOU CAN SAY TO PEOPLE->http://www.elcrema.com/2015/12/20/9-very-nice-things-you-can-say-to-people/3/]

{Many people who have been cheated on in their relationship keep asking the question “why?” Various researchers have sought out to find out why people cheat and some interesting cheating patterns.}

Below are some amazing cheating facts that you would consider interesting and even weird.
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1. Men who cheat are more likely to have heart attacks}}

According to a study by researchers from the University of Florence, men who cheat are more likely to have heart attacks; it found that cheating men have heart attacks more than men who stick to their spouses.
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2. Women cheat and don’t get caught when compared to men}}

Another study has found that cheating women are less likely to be caught compared to cheating men. The study found that 89% of partners who cheat are able to hide their affairs, but women are better at it than men.

In another study, 83% of men were able to keep their affairs secret, while 95% of women were successful in keeping their affairs a secret.
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3. People are more likely to cheat on wednesdays}}

According to Ashley Madison, a popular dating site, Wednesdays between 5 and 7 p.m is the most popular day and time to cheat.
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4. Women cheating is on the increase }}

Men cheat more than women, but various researches have shown that in recent times, the number of cheating women is on the increase. According to a 2010 study, over the last 20 years, the number of cheating married women rose by a whopping 40%.

{{5. Most young people consider flirting online as a form of cheating }}

In the real sense, cheating is actually having a sexual or intimate affair with someone other than your partner. However, Fusion (a website) asked 1000 people between the ages 18 – 34 if they considered online flirting as cheating and 82% said yes.
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6. Highly educated and wealthier people are more likely to cheat}}

A 2002 study found that education and wealth are close friends with infidelity. The study which was conducted by researchers from University of Washington found that people who earn $75,000 and above annually are 1.5 times more likely to cheat than those who earn $30, 000 and below. The study also found that those with college degrees are 1.75 times more likely to have an affair.
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8. Cheating might be in your genes }}

A lot of cheating men believe that cheating is in their genes and that’s the reason they can’t stop. Researchers from Birmingham University have given them reasons to believe they are right. Their research found that half of all people with the DRD4 gene also known as the “thrill-seeking” gene were more prone to unfaithfulness.

{{9. Women are more likely to cheat if their mothers were cheats }}

Blood is thicker than water right? That saying has a lot of weight in it. According to a survey by Illicit Encounters, women with cheating mothers are more likely to cheat. The extra-marital dating website did a survey on 2, 000 of its members and found that 73% of women who admitted to having an affair also had mothers who cheated on their spouses as well.

Have you had a cheating partner? Which of these studies match with certain traits they have exhibited?

Source:Elcrema:[9 SURPRISING FACTS ABOUT PEOPLE WHO CHEAT->http://www.elcrema.com/2015/12/19/9-surprising-facts-about-people-who-cheat/3/]

{Marriage can either be the best or worst thing to ever happen to you, depending on how you go about it. Successful marriages have always been a result of honest efforts by couples towards making it work. No marriage is destined for failure and none is destined for success; what you get out of it is a product of how much effort you invest into it.}

The reason why most marriages crumble is simply because people get married, have children and forget to actually maintain the romance and friendship that they had before marriage, but it doesn’t work that way. To make the most of a marriage, you must not treat it differently from an ordinary relationship.

Being married should never stop you from treating your partner as you did them before you were married. This is the major problem with most marriages today; no relationship, no friendship, just two people who share a last name and children. If you are guilty of this stereotype, you must break away from it, so things can work out better for you and your spouse. And to do that, you must start by doing the following…

{{1. LISTEN AND COMMUNICATE}}

People just get married, and suddenly, it’s all about making enough money to cater for the family’s needs, forgetting that there is more to marriage than just feeding, providing for the kids and setting financial goals. This is a union that needs protecting and nurturing, and you cannot do that without taking note of each other. As a married couple, you must pay attention to each other so you would know when one person is trying to pass a message to the other. Listening goes beyond just giving your spouse your ears, it also involves studying them, so you know how their temperament works. A couple who listen to each other understand each other, and once there is understanding, there is better communication.

It is also important that couples find time to discuss on issues pertaining to not just their families, but to also their selves, as that is a very strong way of communicating each other’s emotions.

{{2. RESPECT YOUR SPOUSE}}

One of the reasons why many marriages crash is because of the loss of respect. The same people who were happy as lovers, get married and things begin to go awry, because someone stopped being respectful. It is very wrong for you to stop respecting your partner for any reason; a relationship (marriage) without it can never last long. Everybody deserves some respect and you shouldn’t deny your partner theirs for any reason. Know what they hate and avoid those things. Talk to your partner in such a way as not to hurt their feelings. Mutual respect is very important for the survival of any relationship.

{{3. ALWAYS BE READY TO FORGIVE OR APOLOGIZE}}

There is a reason why they say that mental maturity is the most important ingredient for the success of any marriage, and that is because it is only with it that you can tackle every challenge that comes along the way. Only a mentally mature person would understand that in the event of a disagreement or a quarrel, the best thing to do is to apologise (especially if you’re the erring party), forgive it all and move on. Sometimes, if doesn’t even have to matter who was (is) wrong. Marriage is not a contest, it is not a match, it is a union of two people; therefore, for it to work, there must be a willingness to compromise at all times. And you don’t always have to wait for an apology to come sometimes, just move on.
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4. HANG OUT OFTEN}}

I don’t know if you noticed, but the thing about couples who hang out often is that they generally tend to have a stronger bond or union than those who do not. Hanging out offers couples a chance to spend quality time together, away from the stress and distractions of work (hustle). Plan weekend getaways with your spouse as regularly as possible and take them out on special dates. It helps liven up a relationship and also gives you the opportunity to tell them those things you might have been itching to tell them.

5. LEARN TO SHARE GIFTS

Nothing spells ‘romance’ more than a nicely packaged gift with a special note or card attached to it and addressed to one’s spouse. It makes them feel loved, and appreciated, and once they feel this way, they’ll feel obliged to reciprocate the love. Sharing gifts isn’t only reserved for unmarried and dating folks, it is for anybody who has someone they care about. It doesn’t have to be the most expensive gift item; it can be very cheap yet powerful. It all depends on the message and motive attached to it. One of the secrets to perfect gifting is making sure that the gift fulfils a pressing need (as long as you can afford it).
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6. DON’T STOP LOOKING GOOD}}

Most people tend to care less about their looks a few years after they’re married, forgetting that they still have a partner to please. Looking good isn’t something you do only during courtship or while you’re young – you can look good even while you’re married, and irrespective of your age. Your partner didn’t just get attracted to you just for your personality; they also fell in love with your looks. How do you think they’ll feel if you start caring less about those looks? You don’t suppose the attraction may fade? Don’t change anything about your looks as long as it is okay with your partner. Dress well, and stay clean always to stay attractive.

Like I said, successful marriages aren’t gifted, they’re built. As long as you continue to make honest efforts towards building yours, you will reap the dividends eventually.

SOURCE:ELCREMA:[6 WAYS YOU CAN PRESERVE YOUR MARRIAGE AND LIVE HAPPILY WITH YOUR SPOUSE->http://www.elcrema.com/2015/12/09/6-ways-you-can-preserve-your-marriage-and-live-happily-with-your-spouse/2/]

{There are several things every man should avoid saying to a woman during a conversation as you could just end up ruining the conversation with her.}

Here are 5 things you shouldn’t say to a woman

1. YOU’RE SMART FOR A WOMAN

You should never say this to a woman. Saying this to a woman means you think women are supposed to be dumb. No woman enjoys her gender being considered as dumb. There are better ways to praise her smartness, please avoid using this line.

2. WOMEN DON’T LIKE NICE GUYS

Some men think just because they were nice to a woman by holding the door for her and doing other nice stuffs, they deserve sex with the woman. So when she refuses him, he concludes by saying women don’t like nice guys. Just because you were nice to her doesn’t mean she must date you. Please stop being pathetic.

3. YOU’RE NOT LIKE OTHER WOMEN, YOU’RE COOL

Making this statement means you are insinuating women are generally lame and you are happy to meet a cool woman among the lame gender. This is so wrong; no woman would enjoy such remarks.

4. WOMEN ARE CRAZY

When you tell a woman that you think women are crazy, I wonder if you expect her to be happy and probably clap for you for actually saying that. If you think women are crazy, please avoid all women. Thanks.

5. GIRLS ONLY WANT TO MARRY RICH GUYS

Guys that generally make such comments are guys with a very low-esteem who can’t take care of themselves. No confident man would make such statements. So when you say that to a woman, you come across to her as a man lacking confidence and self-esteem who is probably dead broke.

SOURCE:ELCREMA:[5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO A WOMAN->http://www.elcrema.com/2015/12/07/5-things-you-should-never-say-to-a-woman/2/]

{While it’s fun getting married in your 20s, tying the knots in your 30s is so much better. There are lots of advantages to waiting till you are a little older before getting married.}

Below are 6 reasons why you should get married in your 30s

{{1. YOU ARE MORE MATURE}}

You are more mature in your 30s than you were in your 20s. When you get married as a more mature person, you would know how to handle issues in your marriage better.
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2. YOU NOW KNOW WHO YOU ARE}}

It’s better getting married in your 30s because you know yourself better at this age. In your 20s, you are still trying to create yourself but you know who you are in your 30s and you also know what you can offer to your partner.
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3. YOU ARE MORE SECURE IN YOUR CAREER}}

In your 20s, your education and career would be very important to you and it might be really difficult focusing on your marriage. When you get married in your 30s, you are more secure in your career and this means you can focus better on your marriage.

{{4. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT FROM A RELATIONSHIP}}

By your 30s, you must have dated a few persons which mean you are better equipped to know what your priorities should be in a relationship.
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5. YOU ARE BETTER MANAGING FINANCES}}

Finance is really important in every marriage. It can make or mar a marriage. When you get married in your 30s, you are better at managing finances which means you would have fewer conflicts about money with your spouse.

{{6. YOU ARE MORE CONFIDENT}}

We tend to be more confident as we get more mature. When you get married in your 30s, you are getting married as a more confident person which enhances your marriage.

SOURCE;ELCREMA:[6 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD GET MARRIED IN YOUR 30s->http://www.elcrema.com/2015/12/06/6-reasons-why-you-should-get-married-in-your-30s/2/]

{You can be as happily married as can be, there will always be some people that you meet throughout your life who catch your attention. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love or value your partner, nor that you have interest in acting upon the attraction you feel towards others. It’s normal and totally human; don’t feel guilty about it. However, it is important to control how you react to it; only a fool will submit to the feeling or let everyone they are attracted to know it and if you do that, you are guaranteed a dysfunctional relationship. Don’t let it become more than just an attraction.}

First of all, pretending that you aren’t attracted to others, acting as if your partner is the only man on earth, is unhealthy. Openly discussing your emotions with your partner will eliminate the mystery of that other person, and, in my opinion, deter the pressures of adultery. Therefore, you’ll start to see him or her as just another good-looking person that asked you out while you happened to be with the love of your life.

But realize that this goes both ways. You can’t cringe when your partner starts telling you about someone who walked up to him to flirt.

{{Equality is key in a relationship.}}

Always be honest. Honesty is the key to trust. If you physically, mentally or spiritually feel attracted to another person, don’t keep it a secret or lie about it. I mean, of course you wouldn’t go home and say: “Hey babe, I saw this hot guy at work today…” but don’t be secretive about it either. That’s what most likely will get you tempted. We all know that we want what we can’t have, so don’t even put yourself in that position. Just keep it real with yourself and your partner.
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Don’t act upon the attraction.}} I think there’s a fine line between it being okay to feel attracted to someone and it not being okay. The key element here is to always respect your partner, yourself and your relationship. Another person may get the looks you’re giving them but let it stay at that. Don’t be one of those people who go out after just having an argument with their partner and start flirting with the person they’ve been eyeing – only to wake up to one of the biggest mistakes of their lives. That’s the easy and weak way out. If your relationship needs work then focus on that and don’t get distracted by eye-candy; it’s not worth it. Accept compliments. Smile and politely turn down the invitation to a date, remind yourself of your partner home waiting for you.

A lot of the discomfort we feel when we’re attracted to someone else other than our partner comes from the over romanticized notions of love, where the first flush of intoxication translates to “and they both lived happily after…”

{{It’s simply not realistic.}} Even putting the topic of this article aside, there is no perfect relationship. Every relationship has it’s ups and down’s, but don’t let that be a downer for the effort you were once willing to put in to make it work. There is nothing more rewarding than getting through the hard times together, pushing through and to still stand strong together – as a team, after all.

SOURCE:MADAME NOIRE:[When You’re Married With Children, Is It Cool To Flirt With Someone Other Than Your Spouse?->http://madamenoire.com/602506/when-youre-married-with-children-is-it-cool-to-flirt-with-someone-other-than-your-spouse/]

{On an average day, I’m a social kind of gal. I have friends. I have activities. I even go out and do activities with my friends. When I say “average day,” I mean an average day when I’m healthy and happy and not suffering with a bout of bipolar depression. When I’m in the middle of a depressive episode, I’m the opposite of myself. I isolate. I don’t do anything. And I don’t want to do anything. That lack of desire to live a happy life is the worst part of having depression.}

A unique symptom of bipolar depression is that it generally comes with some periods of mania or hypomania. For me, hypomanic episodes are when I’m myself, only better. I feel better. I think faster. I hang out with my friends more and I’m the life of the party — or at least I feel like I’m the life of the party because bipolar mania makes you think you’re great.

After the hypomania is over comes bipolar depression, with feelings on the opposite end of the spectrum. Instead of thinking that I’m great, I think that I’m worthless. I don’t hang out with my friends because I can’t get out of the bed. That’s can’t, not won’t. The depression almost literally chains you down and prevents you from thinking anything good or doing anything good.

When I’m in the throes of depression, I feel so bad about myself and about life that I basically can’t even remember a time when I liked anything. Activity is good for combating bipolar depression, so my therapist often asks me what I enjoy doing. When I’m very depressed, I can’t answer that question. It’s as though the part of my brain marked “fun” has been erased. Now that I’m well, I know that I like to read, but when I’m depressed, I can’t concentrate long enough to read and understand a sentence, so I forget that I liked it. I know now that I enjoy running, but when I’m depressed I can’t see my way to taking a shower and getting dressed, let alone running a few miles, so I disconnect from the joy I experience during a good run.

Then there’s the social aspect. Right now, in a healthy state, I know that I have friends and loved ones. But with a depressed mind, I am ashamed and afraid to let them see me in a bad state. I think they won’t like me if I’m having issues. I convince myself that my friends aren’t good friends because they won’t understand what I’m going through and will only reject me. Then, when things get really bad, I stop caring about having people around me because I believe that I’m unworthy of their interest. Not that I’d have the energy to answer their phone calls or go somewhere to meet them anyway.

Clearly, having bipolar depression is not an enjoyable experience. It makes you think badly of yourself and of everything around you. Depression can make you reject happiness and any means to pursue it. For me, the important part of getting back to enjoyment has been forcing myself to have experiences. The surprise of joy in an unexpected place is often a good enough reminder that I’m still capable of experiencing pleasure. And that’s a good enough experience to make me want to fight for a future full of happiness.

Tracey Lloyd lives in Harlem, where she fights her cat for access to the keyboard. You can find more of her experiences living with bipolar disorder on her personal blog, My Polar Opposite.

SOURCE:MADAME NOIRE:[What It’s Like When You Can’t Find Joy In Anything->http://madamenoire.com/600595/bipolar-depression/]

These days, men are even more analytical and try to be more conscious of the kind of woman they marry. So many men remain single for a long time, not because they feel they shouldn’t settle down but because they are scared of getting married.

To a lot of men, there is nothing worse than a bad marriage. Most men have an endless list of the qualities they need in their future wife, but the following are the commonest things most men look for.

{{1. She isn’t a drama queen}}

This is one trait many men are scared of and can’t live with. Men tend to look for women they perceive wouldn’t give them many worries. Women who nag and complain too much are a man’s worst nightmare. Most men look out for women they perceive would be trouble-free.
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2. You appreciate his financial status}}

No man wants a woman who’s only there for the money; most men need a woman who would appreciate them irrespective of their financial status. Most men need a woman who would still respect him irrespective of the fact that his bank account isn’t close to the likes of Warren Buffet and Donald Trump.

{{3. You are trustworthy
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Of course, no man needs a whore for a wife. Every man needs a woman he can trust, not the one that would flirt around even after getting married. This quality is non-negotiable; unfaithfulness is a trait most men can’t live with.

{{4. You give him his respect}}

Respect, appreciation and making him your priority are what most men would also love in their future wife. Most men want a woman who would give them respect — respect is an important quality to most men; it would make him feel special and would boost his manly ego. Also, if you can make him a priority then that’s another quality that would make him warm up to tying the knots.

{{ 5. Smart }}

A lot of men these days would rather not have a dull woman for a wife. Men want their wives to be smart, intelligent, charismatic and articulate. He knows that such a woman would be respected wherever she goes, and that would also boost his ego.

{{ 6. You are supportive}}

This is another very important quality most men look for in their partner. Every man wants a woman that would support him through thick and thin and not the kind that would bail out on him when it gets tough. Supporting him means you play a crucial role in his life and he values that.

{{7. You admire him}}

Every man wants to be admired and desired by their future partner, and many would prefer if they are the only one you see in such vein. 8. IS BEAUTIFUL WITHIN Yes, a good-looking woman would warm a man’s heart, but this isn’t the quality most men need anymore; men love a woman that’s beautiful not only on the outside but in the inside as well.

{{ 9. Good wife and mother}}

When it comes to marriage, men look for women who wouldn’t only be a good wife but a great mother as well. If he perceives that you are a great wife and mother then he wouldn’t hesitate to walk down the aisle with you.
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10. A woman he can rely on}}

Most men look for the kind of women they can rely on. He needs the kind of woman who would give him sound advice, be supportive of his dreams, listen to him, be there for him and solve the difficulties that come with the marriage.

{{11. Eazy to live with }}

Every man wants a trouble-free home; no man wants to be in a marriage that would be a war zone. Men need the kind of wife that’s easy to live with and one that isn’t lazy to help with the chores and taking care of the kids. These two attributes are vital to most men. Like I mentioned earlier, the list is endless, but these eleven qualities would make any woman an asset to any man.

Source: Elcrema:[11 THINGS MOST MEN LOOK FOR WHEN CHOOSING A WIFE->http://www.elcrema.com/2015/11/28/11-things-most-men-look-for-when-choosing-a-wife/]

{These truths should be kept close to your heart and be guarded like a treasure because they would help you face the challenges life would throw at you.
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Below are 5 truths about life you should know

{{1. Be nice to your parents}}

Your parents made so many sacrifices for you so ensure you are always nice to them. You would never fully understand the sacrifices they made for you until you become a parent yourself. Be nice to your parents and learn to respect them.

{{2. Broken hearts heal}}

Love is a beautiful thing and we would definitely all fall in love at least once. You’re going to have your heart broken and it’s going to hurt. But no matter how heartbroken you feel, your heart will definitely heal one day.

{{3. You are unique and beautiful}}

One truth about life is that you’ll never be tall enough, or short enough, or thin enough. You have to learn to accept your body because you are unique and beautiful. Stop wishing you had a different body because your body is different and beautiful.
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4. Better to have a good friend than 20 friends that suck}}

I know it’s cool to have lots of friends as it shows you are a really social person but it’s better to have just one friend that means the world to you than have 20 friends that suck. It’s super cool to have two good friends rather than walk around wearing a collection of people as accessories.

{{5. You will never have it all figured out}}

You’re going to question if you’re living in the right place, or if you’re doing the right job, or if you’re spending your time with the right people and this is because you’ll never have it all figured out. When you feel this way, always remember that it’s ok to feel this way.

SOURCE:ELCREMA:[5 TRUTHS ABOUT LIFE YOU SHOULD KNOW->http://www.elcrema.com/2015/11/25/5-truths-about-life-you-should-know-2/2/]

{Lack of motivation is one of the greatest obstacles to success and sometimes it could really become really difficult to stay motivated when so much negative vibes seem to be around you. By creating a positive environment for yourself and becoming motivated, you can achieve more than you possibly imagined.}

Here are 8 ways to stay motivated in a world full of negative vibes and go beyond your potential
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1. Have an attitude of expectancy}}

Having an attitude of expectancy is needed if you desire to stay motivated in a world full of negative vibes. Every morning you wake up, expect something wonderful and great to happen to you. When you have an attitude of expectancy and expect something wonderful and great to happen to you, it will.
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2. Read books}}

Reading books is another way to stay motivated and this is a habit you need to cultivate. When you read about the success stories of great people and how they achieved their success, it motivates you. This would push you to achieve the impossible. Reading books would also help keep your mind fresh.
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3. Have an end goal in mind}}

When you have an objective you seek to achieve, it helps you stay motivated. So ask yourself what you seek to achieve and seek ways that would help you achieve this goal. Make a list of mini-goals that will help you achieve your goal. Try to achieve each mini-goal daily as completing each mini-goal daily would will keep interest and motivation high.

{{4. Stop worrying about things not within your control}}

To stay motivated, you have got to understand the things that are within your control and those not within your control. Refuse to worry about circumstances that are beyond your control. You won’t move quicker to your next victory if you continue to worry about things you can’t control.

{{5. Look at the bigger picture}}

Looking at the bigger picture and always focusing on what’s in front of you would help you stay motivated. Try not to let obstacles along the way bring you down but instead find fulfilment in what you do.

{{6. Celebrate accomplishments}}

Celebrating your accomplishments is another way to stay motivated. Learn to reward yourself each time you achieve a goal whether small or big. Always take time out to celebrate and it mustn’t be a party. It can be as simple as going out for ice cream.
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7. Be around positive people}}

Being around positive people would help you stay motivated. Speak to people who inspire you whether it’s a mentor or someone you know, like a family member or friend. Being with positive people is also important because negative people and conversations will have you focused on all the wrong things and may take your focus off your goals.
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8. Speak positive affirmations}}

I feel sad seeing people always speaking negative things about themselves. You have to understand that there is power in the tongue so speaking positive affirmations is really important. Regardless of what is going around you and your situation, always speak positively because words have a creative force.

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