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There are certain body language signs and facial expressions that could make a person likeable, just as there are body language signs that would make a person hated easily.

It’s easy to be liked, even when you go to a new environment, and that could even make you win favours easily.

Below are some body language signs that would make a person easily liked wherever he / she goes.

1. SMILE MORE

Of course, no one is attracted to a person that’s always frowning; such an attitude puts you in a bad spot and would easily make people have negative opinions about you.

Various researches have shown the benefits that come with smiling. A smiling face makes you more appealing and likeable.

2. LET YOUR NORMAL FACE BE A HAPPY ONE

Yes, you can’t smile all day long, but your face expression when your face is normal could speak volumes of you without your knowledge; people would draw up conclusions from what they see.

Everyone is attracted to positivity; let your normal face wear a positive look.

3. GREET PEOPLE

This is one easy thing that many people find difficult to do. There is nothing wrong in saying a simple “hello” or a “good morning” to people around your neighbourhood or to people you come across.

4. BE RESPECTFUL

People would like and respect you more when they know you respect them. Everyone wants to be treated nicely; everyone wants to be respected — so respect people and they would like and respect you for it.

5. LEND A HELPING HAND

Lend a helping hand whenever you can and people would appreciate you for it. Just like bad deeds, good deeds also spread fast.

6. SHOW INTEREST

Genuinely show interest in people’s problems — and even if you don’t give a solution, the fact that you cared would make people like and appreciate you.

7. BE GOOD IN CONVERSATIONS

Know how to keep conversations and people would like that in you. In keeping a conversation going, it isn’t only about talking but also listening to people. Being good in conversations would make people want to talk to you more.

Source:Elcrema:7 SIMPLE TRICKS THAT WOULD MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU

Things somehow become different when kids step into the picture; responsibilities increase and affection becomes diversified — and yes, it’s a good thing — the home feels more complete with kids in the picture.

However, there are certain things every woman should do before having kids with her man.

1. HAVE LOTS OF FUN WITH YOUR PARTNER

You would be surprised at how busy and preoccupied you would be once you start having kids, and this could mean little or no time to have fun, till your kids start growing older.

So if you are newly married to your partner and yet to have kids, it’s best to have all the fun you can with your partner — this is actually the time for that.

2. HAVE A LONE TIME

A lone time is a time dedicated to yourself to probably relax, clear your head or do things you love to do. Create that lone time for yourself, and what you do with it is up to you. This is a time you would actually value because once you start having kids, you might not get that much opportunity again.

3. FOCUS ON YOUR CAREER

If you are a career person then this is a time to focus on your career. Give your career a boost during this period and do your best to give it a push as much as you can. There is no better time to focus on your career than now.

4. WORK OUT

Yes, you read that right. It’s amazing that many women don’t work out at this stage of their life when they are single or yet to have kids. Work out and be in great shape; you would be grateful you once looked your best, and pictures of your old self might be a boost when you see yourself losing shape after kids.

5. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH PEOPLE YOU CARE ABOUT

It would be nice to spend time with your mum, dad, friends and those dear to you. Those moments would become priceless because you would be surprised at how less time you would be able to spend with them later in future.

6. VISIT NEW PLACES

Explore, travel, visit new places. You have the time to do it now, so do it. Visiting new places would boost your mind and creativity in life, and you would most definitely learn new things.

7. BUILD A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MAN

Rather than quarrelling and fighting all the time, this is the best time to build a solid relationship and rapport with your man. When the relationship is solid at this stage, it would be easier to maintain it when kids start coming. But if the relationship is shaky at this stage then it could get worse if care isn’t taken.

Source:Elcrema:7 THINGS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD DO BEFORE HAVING KIDS

Hey there, it’s Christmas again, and I just want to wish you a fabulous holiday season. So much has been said about this holiday; some of them right and some wrong, hence the need for us to put this out there, so we know exactly what is true about Christmas.

What most people know about Christmas is that it is a day to mark the birth of Jesus Christ, the leader of Christians around the world, and while this is true, it is not the whole truth. There is a lot more to Christmas than a lot of people know, as you’ll find out in this post, so sit back, relax and check out some incredible facts about Christmas you most likely didn’t know.

1. THE REASON FOR THE SEASON

It is widely believed among people (especially Christians) that Dec 25 marks the birth of Jesus Christ, hence the day is celebrated each year, however, it is important to note that there is no mention of this in the Bible, which casts doubt as to whether he was actually born on Dec 25. In fact, a school of thought believes that Jesus was born sometime in spring. Some believers do not celebrate Christmas for this reason. However, there’s strong belief that Christians of old just chose a random date to mark the birth of their saviour, since no one really knows when he was born. Well, at least, he’s celebrated. That’s what’s more important, isn’t it?

2. CHRISTMAS LIGHTS:

Those colorful little bulbs were invented in 1882 by a man called Edward Johnson.

3. WORLD’S BIGGEST SNOWMAN

The snowman is one of the many symbols for Christmas, and the biggest (tallest) one found anywhere in the world today is located in a town called Bethel, in Maine, U.S.A. The figure is about 122 ft 1 inch tall.

4. XMAS

The word ‘Xmas’ is an ancient word for Christmas, which dates as far back as the 1500s. The X” comes from the Greek letter ‘Chi’, which is the first letter of the Greek word ‘Χριστός’ which comes into English as “Christ”. And ‘Mas’ is the Latin equivalent for the English word, ‘Mass’. Now, you know why it’s called Xmas.

5. WORLDS MOST EXPENSIVE CHRISTMAS TREE

The world’s most expensive Christmas tree is located at the Emirates palace hotel in Abu Dhabi, UAE. The giant tree which is about 40 feet tall is said to cost about $11.4 million, and is decorated with about 181 precious stones.

6. SANTA’S RED SUIT

A lot of us grew up to know the Christmas fairy in a red suit, and can you blame us? Not many of us lived before 1930 Lol. Before he settled for the color red, Santa had tried green, blue and white. He settled for red after appearing in an ad by coca cola in 1930. He must have liked it!

7. CHRISTMAS SONGS

‘Silent night’ is the most covered Christmas song ever, with about 733 different versions. The original version was recorded by Franz Xaver Gruber in 1818, and has since been translated into 140 different languages.

8. CHRISTMAS AND RELATIONSHIPS

According to a data gotten off Facebook, 2 weeks to Christmas is the commonest time for couples in a relationship to break up, and Christmas day is the least favorite day for couples to part ways. Why is this so? Your guess is as good as mine.

9. CHRISTMAS CARDS

The first Christmas card was made in England on December 9, 1842.

10. JESUS’ ACTUAL BIRTHPLACE

According to Bible scholars, it is believed that Jesus Christ was not born in a wooden stable as most think. Animals were not kept in wooden stables back then, they were kept in caves because of the heat. So, he was actually born in a cave, not a stable. The other argument used to support this claim is that during Jesus’ days, carpenters were known to cut stone because wood wasn’t widely used as is the case in modern times.

Source:Elcrema:HOW MUCH DO YOU KNOW ABOUT CHRISTMAS? 10 MIND-BLOWING FACTS YOU PROBABLY DIDN’T KNOW ABOUT THE MOST POPULAR HOLIDAY IN THE WORLD

Science believes you can buy happiness.

A University of British Columbia study suggests purchasing material goods would make us more happy over a period of time compared to the happiness we get from an experience.

Daily Mail reports the researchers as saying experiences provide intense feelings that will eventually fade but material things remind a person about the happiness they felt when they first received it.

Aaron Weidman, one of the researchers explained: “The decision of whether to buy a material thing or a life experience may therefore boil down to what kind of happiness one desire.

“Consider a holiday shopper deciding between tickets to a concert or a new couch in the living room.

“The concert will provide an intense thrill for one spectacular night but then it will end, and will no longer provide momentary happiness, aside from being a happy memory.

“In contrast, the new couch will never provide a thrilling moment to match the concert, but will keep the owner snug and comfortable each day throughout the winter months.”

Source:Elcrema:MONEY CAN’T BUY LOVE BUT IT CAN BUY HAPPINESS, FINDS STUDY

We all have what it takes to dream big, but more often than not you find that people choose to have small dreams, little goals and small expectations.

Why do you think you don’t dream big?

1. Fear that it may not come true

Most people dream little dreams because they believe it’s much easier for the little ones to come true than the big ones. Due to this thought pattern that the dream may not come true, many keep their dream in check and rather settle for less.

2. Low self-belief

Another reason many would rather not dream big is because they have low belief in themselves, so they rather settle for less. When you see yourself as little, you can hardly ever surpass that.

3. Not ready to take risks

Every big dream requires huge risks; big dreamers are risk takers, and people who are scared of taking risks would rather dream little dreams.

4. Not ready to put in the required efforts

Big dreams require big sacrifices and many people are reluctant to put in the hard work, determination, sacrifice, time and energy to chase those dreams, so they settle for a lesser dream with lesser efforts. Behind every accomplished dream you see takes years or at least months of dedication, determination, drive and efforts.

5. Because they don’t really have a clear dream

Not everyone really has a clear dream; many don’t know what to do or what they have a passion for, so they don’t even know what to dream of. While many get to have dreams and goals from a young age, some have it when they are much older and mature and many don’t even have dreams till they are old.

If found in this last group of people, the way forward is learning a skill in something that you would like or in something you notice that you can easily do — from there, you can develop a passion and set goals for yourself.

6. Scared of failure

The fear of failure is another reason many people don’t dream big dreams. You can never be successful if you let fear overwhelm you. Fear tells you it’s impossible and gives you reasons why it isn’t possible — many people have this fear in their head and that’s why they would rather dream small dreams.

A quote by Michelangelo reads: “The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.”

Why don’t you come out of the shell of little dreams today?

Source:Elcrema:6 REASONS YOU DON’T DREAM BIG

Words have power and you have no idea how a simple compliment can make someone’s day.

Rather than being destructive with your words, say these nine lovely things to people you come across:

1. YOU HAVE A LOVELY SMILE

This is a nice thing to say to anyone, and it’s a remark that wouldn’t only make them smile, but make them smile more often.

2. YOU MAKE ME BETTER

This is a nice remark you could say to someone who inspires you a lot or pushes you to be better. Telling that person this statement would go a long way in their lives.

3. YOU ARE LOOKING NICE

This is a statement to say to someone that’s looking lovely. Don’t just pass by when you know deep down that you admire how that person’s look. Tell people how nice they look, and you wouldn’t only make them smile but you would make them take proper care of themselves always.

4. YOU HAVE LOVELY CHILDREN

I see cute kids everywhere I go and every parent feels adored when told how lovely their kids look. You don’t even have to know that person; just tell that parent how lovely their kids look and they would want to do more for that kid.

5. THANKS FOR…

It’s always nice to be thankful to people for what they do for you, no matter how little it might seem. This would make them feel highly appreciated.

6. YOU ARE A GOOD…

People are good at different things and it’s nice to compliment someone for what they are good at — this would even make them be better.

7. YOU HAVE A NICE STYLE

This could be fashion related or even home decor. Compliment people’s style; this is one compliment many people are dying to hear.

8. YOU DID WELL

This is another nice compliment that would help a person’s life. This compliment can go a long way in encouraging someone — a lot of people really need encouragement.

9. YOU’VE IMPROVE ON…

Someone might be struggling at something, and all that person needs could just be a word of encouragement. This is another nice thing you can say to encourage someone.

It pays to put a smile on someone’s face. The world would be a nicer place if we all do this.

Source:Elcrema:9 VERY NICE THINGS YOU CAN SAY TO PEOPLE

Many people who have been cheated on in their relationship keep asking the question “why?” Various researchers have sought out to find out why people cheat and some interesting cheating patterns.

Below are some amazing cheating facts that you would consider interesting and even weird.

1. Men who cheat are more likely to have heart attacks

According to a study by researchers from the University of Florence, men who cheat are more likely to have heart attacks; it found that cheating men have heart attacks more than men who stick to their spouses.

2. Women cheat and don’t get caught when compared to men

Another study has found that cheating women are less likely to be caught compared to cheating men. The study found that 89% of partners who cheat are able to hide their affairs, but women are better at it than men.

In another study, 83% of men were able to keep their affairs secret, while 95% of women were successful in keeping their affairs a secret.

3. People are more likely to cheat on wednesdays

According to Ashley Madison, a popular dating site, Wednesdays between 5 and 7 p.m is the most popular day and time to cheat.

4. Women cheating is on the increase

Men cheat more than women, but various researches have shown that in recent times, the number of cheating women is on the increase. According to a 2010 study, over the last 20 years, the number of cheating married women rose by a whopping 40%.

5. Most young people consider flirting online as a form of cheating

In the real sense, cheating is actually having a sexual or intimate affair with someone other than your partner. However, Fusion (a website) asked 1000 people between the ages 18 – 34 if they considered online flirting as cheating and 82% said yes.

6. Highly educated and wealthier people are more likely to cheat

A 2002 study found that education and wealth are close friends with infidelity. The study which was conducted by researchers from University of Washington found that people who earn $75,000 and above annually are 1.5 times more likely to cheat than those who earn $30, 000 and below. The study also found that those with college degrees are 1.75 times more likely to have an affair.

8. Cheating might be in your genes

A lot of cheating men believe that cheating is in their genes and that’s the reason they can’t stop. Researchers from Birmingham University have given them reasons to believe they are right. Their research found that half of all people with the DRD4 gene also known as the “thrill-seeking” gene were more prone to unfaithfulness.

9. Women are more likely to cheat if their mothers were cheats

Blood is thicker than water right? That saying has a lot of weight in it. According to a survey by Illicit Encounters, women with cheating mothers are more likely to cheat. The extra-marital dating website did a survey on 2, 000 of its members and found that 73% of women who admitted to having an affair also had mothers who cheated on their spouses as well.

Have you had a cheating partner? Which of these studies match with certain traits they have exhibited?

Source:Elcrema:9 SURPRISING FACTS ABOUT PEOPLE WHO CHEAT

Marriage can either be the best or worst thing to ever happen to you, depending on how you go about it. Successful marriages have always been a result of honest efforts by couples towards making it work. No marriage is destined for failure and none is destined for success; what you get out of it is a product of how much effort you invest into it.

The reason why most marriages crumble is simply because people get married, have children and forget to actually maintain the romance and friendship that they had before marriage, but it doesn’t work that way. To make the most of a marriage, you must not treat it differently from an ordinary relationship.

Being married should never stop you from treating your partner as you did them before you were married. This is the major problem with most marriages today; no relationship, no friendship, just two people who share a last name and children. If you are guilty of this stereotype, you must break away from it, so things can work out better for you and your spouse. And to do that, you must start by doing the following…

1. LISTEN AND COMMUNICATE

People just get married, and suddenly, it’s all about making enough money to cater for the family’s needs, forgetting that there is more to marriage than just feeding, providing for the kids and setting financial goals. This is a union that needs protecting and nurturing, and you cannot do that without taking note of each other. As a married couple, you must pay attention to each other so you would know when one person is trying to pass a message to the other. Listening goes beyond just giving your spouse your ears, it also involves studying them, so you know how their temperament works. A couple who listen to each other understand each other, and once there is understanding, there is better communication.

It is also important that couples find time to discuss on issues pertaining to not just their families, but to also their selves, as that is a very strong way of communicating each other’s emotions.

2. RESPECT YOUR SPOUSE

One of the reasons why many marriages crash is because of the loss of respect. The same people who were happy as lovers, get married and things begin to go awry, because someone stopped being respectful. It is very wrong for you to stop respecting your partner for any reason; a relationship (marriage) without it can never last long. Everybody deserves some respect and you shouldn’t deny your partner theirs for any reason. Know what they hate and avoid those things. Talk to your partner in such a way as not to hurt their feelings. Mutual respect is very important for the survival of any relationship.

3. ALWAYS BE READY TO FORGIVE OR APOLOGIZE

There is a reason why they say that mental maturity is the most important ingredient for the success of any marriage, and that is because it is only with it that you can tackle every challenge that comes along the way. Only a mentally mature person would understand that in the event of a disagreement or a quarrel, the best thing to do is to apologise (especially if you’re the erring party), forgive it all and move on. Sometimes, if doesn’t even have to matter who was (is) wrong. Marriage is not a contest, it is not a match, it is a union of two people; therefore, for it to work, there must be a willingness to compromise at all times. And you don’t always have to wait for an apology to come sometimes, just move on.

4. HANG OUT OFTEN

I don’t know if you noticed, but the thing about couples who hang out often is that they generally tend to have a stronger bond or union than those who do not. Hanging out offers couples a chance to spend quality time together, away from the stress and distractions of work (hustle). Plan weekend getaways with your spouse as regularly as possible and take them out on special dates. It helps liven up a relationship and also gives you the opportunity to tell them those things you might have been itching to tell them.

5. LEARN TO SHARE GIFTS

Nothing spells ‘romance’ more than a nicely packaged gift with a special note or card attached to it and addressed to one’s spouse. It makes them feel loved, and appreciated, and once they feel this way, they’ll feel obliged to reciprocate the love. Sharing gifts isn’t only reserved for unmarried and dating folks, it is for anybody who has someone they care about. It doesn’t have to be the most expensive gift item; it can be very cheap yet powerful. It all depends on the message and motive attached to it. One of the secrets to perfect gifting is making sure that the gift fulfils a pressing need (as long as you can afford it).

6. DON’T STOP LOOKING GOOD

Most people tend to care less about their looks a few years after they’re married, forgetting that they still have a partner to please. Looking good isn’t something you do only during courtship or while you’re young – you can look good even while you’re married, and irrespective of your age. Your partner didn’t just get attracted to you just for your personality; they also fell in love with your looks. How do you think they’ll feel if you start caring less about those looks? You don’t suppose the attraction may fade? Don’t change anything about your looks as long as it is okay with your partner. Dress well, and stay clean always to stay attractive.

Like I said, successful marriages aren’t gifted, they’re built. As long as you continue to make honest efforts towards building yours, you will reap the dividends eventually.

SOURCE:ELCREMA:6 WAYS YOU CAN PRESERVE YOUR MARRIAGE AND LIVE HAPPILY WITH YOUR SPOUSE

There are several things every man should avoid saying to a woman during a conversation as you could just end up ruining the conversation with her.

Here are 5 things you shouldn’t say to a woman

1. YOU’RE SMART FOR A WOMAN

You should never say this to a woman. Saying this to a woman means you think women are supposed to be dumb. No woman enjoys her gender being considered as dumb. There are better ways to praise her smartness, please avoid using this line.

2. WOMEN DON’T LIKE NICE GUYS

Some men think just because they were nice to a woman by holding the door for her and doing other nice stuffs, they deserve sex with the woman. So when she refuses him, he concludes by saying women don’t like nice guys. Just because you were nice to her doesn’t mean she must date you. Please stop being pathetic.

3. YOU’RE NOT LIKE OTHER WOMEN, YOU’RE COOL

Making this statement means you are insinuating women are generally lame and you are happy to meet a cool woman among the lame gender. This is so wrong; no woman would enjoy such remarks.

4. WOMEN ARE CRAZY

When you tell a woman that you think women are crazy, I wonder if you expect her to be happy and probably clap for you for actually saying that. If you think women are crazy, please avoid all women. Thanks.

5. GIRLS ONLY WANT TO MARRY RICH GUYS

Guys that generally make such comments are guys with a very low-esteem who can’t take care of themselves. No confident man would make such statements. So when you say that to a woman, you come across to her as a man lacking confidence and self-esteem who is probably dead broke.

SOURCE:ELCREMA:5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO A WOMAN

While it’s fun getting married in your 20s, tying the knots in your 30s is so much better. There are lots of advantages to waiting till you are a little older before getting married.

Below are 6 reasons why you should get married in your 30s

1. YOU ARE MORE MATURE

You are more mature in your 30s than you were in your 20s. When you get married as a more mature person, you would know how to handle issues in your marriage better.

2. YOU NOW KNOW WHO YOU ARE

It’s better getting married in your 30s because you know yourself better at this age. In your 20s, you are still trying to create yourself but you know who you are in your 30s and you also know what you can offer to your partner.

3. YOU ARE MORE SECURE IN YOUR CAREER

In your 20s, your education and career would be very important to you and it might be really difficult focusing on your marriage. When you get married in your 30s, you are more secure in your career and this means you can focus better on your marriage.

4. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT FROM A RELATIONSHIP

By your 30s, you must have dated a few persons which mean you are better equipped to know what your priorities should be in a relationship.

5. YOU ARE BETTER MANAGING FINANCES

Finance is really important in every marriage. It can make or mar a marriage. When you get married in your 30s, you are better at managing finances which means you would have fewer conflicts about money with your spouse.

6. YOU ARE MORE CONFIDENT

We tend to be more confident as we get more mature. When you get married in your 30s, you are getting married as a more confident person which enhances your marriage.

SOURCE;ELCREMA:6 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD GET MARRIED IN YOUR 30s