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  • Reasons why you keep falling for the wrong guy

    {Have you ever bothered to ask yourself why you keep meeting the wrong guys? It can be very frustrating when you find yourself falling for the wrong guy always.
    }
    Below are things you are doing that prevents you from dating the great guy you desire.

    {{1. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN A MAN}}

    You would keep meeting the wrong guys if you don’t know what you want in a man. You shouldn’t just say yes to any man; you need to have values you want in a man.

    {{2. YOU ARE SCARED OF BEING SINGLE}}

    When you are scared of being single, you end up choosing the wrong man because you are desperate. It’s better to be single than being in a wrong relationship.

    {{3. YOU EXPECT A MAN TO PROVIDE FOR YOU}}

    If you can’t survive without a man’s finance, you will find it really difficult dating a good guy. While it’s nice to be spoiled by your man, it’s also important you have a source of income and be able to take good care of yourself.

    {{4. YOU IGNORE THE WAY HE TREATS OTHERS}}

    If a man doesn’t respect his mother, don’t expect him to respect you. He can’t give you what he doesn’t have. You need to pay attention to the way he treats others.

    {{5. YOU THINK YOU CAN CHANGE HIM}}

    The only person you can change is yourself. Don’t go into a relationship with the mentality that you can fix him. The only person that can change him is him.

    {{6. YOU HAVE A NEGATIVE MENTALITY}}

    When you think “all men are dogs”, you automatically shut your brain from finding a good man. So all you keep meeting are men who act like dogs. Don’t let a man in your past make you think negatively.

    {{7. YOU DON’T HAVE STANDARDS}}

    You will keep meeting people without standards if you don’t have standards. If you don’t have standards, you will keep falling for the wrong guys.

    {{8. YOU HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM}}

    When you think you don’t deserve better, you will constantly find yourself in relationships with people who disrespect you. Low self-esteem makes you think less of yourself and also makes you feel unworthy of a good guy.

  • Sierra Leone abortion bill blocked by President Bai Koroma again

    {Sierra Leone’s President Ernest Bai Koroma has again refused to sign a bill legalising abortion, saying it should be put to a referendum.}

    It was unanimously passed by MPs in December, but Mr Koroma refused to sign it after protests by religious leaders.

    After consultations, MPs returned the bill to him last month, unaltered.

    The law would allow women to terminate a pregnancy in any circumstances up to 12 weeks and in cases of incest, rape and foetal impairment up to 24 weeks.

    Abortion is currently illegal in Sierra Leone under any circumstances.

    Human rights groups, including Human Rights Watch, Amnesty International, and five Sierra Leonean organisations, wrote to President Koroma in February urging him to give the bill his assent.

    “Unsafe abortions – often resulting from restrictive laws and poor access to sexual and reproductive health services, information, and education – is one of the main factors contributing to maternal deaths in Sierra Leone,” their letter said.

    The World Health Organization estimates that Sierra Leone has the world’s highest maternal mortality ratio at 1,360 deaths per 100,000 live births last year.

    The BBC’s Umaru Fofana in the capital, Freetown, says the abortion issue has led to heated debates and protests on both sides.

    President Koroma has now referred the controversial legislation to the Constitutional Review Committee, which is currently reviewing the constitution.

    The bill would allow for abortions up to 24 weeks in cases of medical emergencies
    Our correspondent says it will decide whether to include the abortion law in its recommended changes to the constitution, which will be put to a referendum.

    When President Koroma sent the legislation back to parliament in January, he asked for it to be reviewed after consultation with religious and women’s groups as it went beyond an African Union protocol on women’s rights which only backs abortion in cases of sexual assault and in medical emergencies.

    Under Sierra Leone’s current constitution, the president cannot veto a bill which received a two-thirds majority in parliament, our reporter says.

    The speaker of the house could sign the Safe Abortion Act into law, but our correspondent says he is highly unlikely to do so as he comes from the president’s party.

    ‘Life is sacred’

    Mr Koroma met leaders from the Inter Religious Council of Sierra Leone (IRCSL), who all oppose abortion, in January, saying they “represent a huge constituency across the country”.

    Catholic Archbishop Tamba Charles, vice-president of IRCSL, reiterated their view at summit on the issue later in the month declaring: “No life can be destroyed on the basis of choice as life is sacred.

    “If they want to fight for the right of women, then let them be provided with the required medical facilities that will help reduce maternal mortality rate in the country,” Sierra Leone’s Politico news website quotes him as saying.

    Our reporter says the recent Ebola outbreak exposed Sierra Leone’s weak health system.

    The country is still recovering from a brutal 10-year civil war, which ended in 2002 and ravaged much of its infrastructure.

  • 9 kinds of fears many people face

    {Fear exists only in the mind and in your head and is good at hindering people from taking the next step forward. Fear is the number one enemy, and if you don’t face your fears, you just might never make the next step forward.}

    These are some common fears a lot of people face:

    1. FEAR OF REJECTION

    A lot of people fear rejection and not being loved. This fear makes them sit at the corner; this fear makes them lonely and because of this they avoid everyone else. The fear of rejection is a huge cause of isolation in many people.

    {{2. FEAR OF FAILING}}

    The fear of failure is another kind of fear that holds a lot of people back. What if it doesn’t work out? What if I’m wrong? What if I fail? These are some of the questions that would pop out of your brain when you are afraid of failing, and this fear would make you lose the courage to take the next step.

    {{3. FEAR OF WHAT PEOPLE WOULD THINK OR SAY }}

    Many people face this kind of fear; this fear would make you conscious of what people would say or think. When you become so conscious of what people would say or think about you, you end up doing nothing.

    {{4. FEAR OF BEING LEFT BEHIND}}

    A lot of people have this fear that everyone is moving forward in life and they aren’t. This fear could be of everyone getting married and you aren’t, everyone with high paying jobs and you can’t even find one etc. This kind of fear makes people get into a shell.

    {{5. FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING}}

    A lot of people also have this fear. Because of this fear, they can’t stand and speak in public even when they know all the right things to say. The fear of public speaking makes people shiver in front of a crowd and lose their cool.

    {{6. FEAR OF DYING OR LOSING A LOVED ONE}}

    Some people just have this negative voice in their head telling them that something wrong is going to happen. They just have the fear that they are going to die soon or they would lose a loved one or something terrible would happen.

    {{7. FEAR OF BEING HURT}}

    People avoid falling in love and avoid relationships just because they are afraid of being hurt. A lot of people play it safe with their heart – they rather not fall in love because of the fear of being hurt.

    {{8. FEAR OF BEING JUDGED}}

    A lot of people fear other people’s judgment; they fear what people are going to say to them or how people would perceive them. So because of this fear, they sit back and hold it all in.

    {{9. FEAR OF BEING ALONE}}

    A lot of people can’t stand being alone; they fear loneliness to the point where they threaten their partners with suicide if they ever leave them. The fear of loneliness is another common and deadly fear that a lot of people are faced with.

    Remember that everything you want is on the other side of fear, and this quote by Marie Curie “Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.”

  • Ethiopia to pay $150,000 to raped girl

    Africa’s human rights court has ordered Ethiopia to pay $150,000 (£100,000) compensation to a rape victim for failing to protect her rights.

    In 2003, Aberew Jemma Negussie was convicted of the abduction and rape of a 13-year-old girl.

    This was overturned on appeal as the prosecutor said only a virgin could be raped, and the victim could not prove she had been a virgin.

    Rights groups said this was a violation of local and international law.

    In 2007, Equality Now took the case to the African Commission on Human and Peoples’ Rights as “local avenues to justice were exhausted”.

    {{Rights violated}}

    Nine years later the African Union court based in The Gambia has ruled that Ethiopia had violated the girl’s rights to equality, dignity and a fair trial, among others.

    It said the money would be “compensation for the non-material damage she suffered as a result [of] the violations”.

    Equality Now described this as an “unprecedented ruling” that should send a message to “all levels of society”.

    The girl was abducted and raped in 2001, and after the incident was reported to the police she was rescued and the perpetrator was arrested.

    {{Abducted twice}}

    But, after being released on bail, Aberew abducted her again.

    She was held for a month before escaping, but while captive was forced to write her name on a piece of paper that would later be used as evidence of marriage.

    Abducting girls to be forcibly married is a traditional practice in parts of Ethiopia.

    {{Ethiopian girls fight child marriages}}

    After being caught for a second time, Aberew, and four accomplices were convicted in 2003, and he received a 10-year sentence.

    They were then released on appeal, but Equality Now argued that the law had not been correctly applied as “virginity is not a legal prerequisite for the offence of rape”.

    Following the acquittal, rights groups used the case to get a change in the law in Ethiopia to ensure better protection for rape victims.

    Equality Now says that the victim, now in her late 20s, is living in “relative safety and pursuing her education”.

  • Burundi: 58 People Buried Without Notifying Families

    {Burundi’s attorney general acknowledged Thursday that the government buried dozens of suspected rebels who died after attacks on four military bases without notifying their families, but fell short of admitting the existence of mass graves.}

    Human rights groups have accused the Burundi government of trying to hide the extent of the killings during the Dec. 11 attacks by burying bodies in mass graves.

    Valentin Bagorikunda said that out of 87 people who died, the government buried 58 bodies of suspected rebels. Eight of those killed in the attacks were security officials, he said.

    He said the 58 were buried in what he called “official graves” in Kanyosha in the south of Bujumbura and Mpanda in the Bubanza province in the west of Burundi.

    At least 400 people have died in Burundi since April when President Pierre Nkurunziza launched his campaign for a third term in office which many oppose. Nkurunziza was re-elected in July even as Burundi experienced violent street protests, a failed coup, and assassinations.

    Burundi has had a long history of violence including civil wars and four successful coups. The international community fears that the current turmoil could unravel more than a decade of relative peace.

    Amnesty International said in January that before-and-after satellite images and video footage clearly show five possible mass graves in the Buringa area on the outskirts of Bujumbura.

    “The imagery, dating from late December and early January, shows disturbed earth consistent with witness accounts,” Amnesty said in a statement.

    Witnesses have said the graves were dug on the afternoon of Dec. 11 in the immediate aftermath “of the bloodiest day of Burundi’s escalating crisis,” it added.

    “These images suggest a deliberate effort by the authorities to cover up the extent of the killings by their security forces and to prevent the full truth from coming out,” said Muthoni Wanyeki, Amnesty International’s Regional Director for East Africa, the Horn and the Great Lakes.

    Bagorikunda declined to answer questions on Amnesty’s claim.

  • 23 things men will never understand about women

    {Even the wisest man alive still won’t understand certain things about women. Women are wired so differently from men and we sometimes believe women are complicated too.}

    Below are 23 things men will never understand about women.

    1. Women are supposed to be there for each other but it still amazes men to see women slut-shame other women. Why do women do this?

    2. Not finding the right shoes for her outfit can make a woman cry. Women cry over unnecessary things. Men just don’t understand why women cry all the time.

    3. Why do women prefer you sympathize with them instead of offering solutions when they tell you their problems?

    4. Why do women always want details?

    5. Why do women take so much time to get ready? It’s really frustrating waiting for a woman to get dressed.

    6. Why do women shun the good guys and date bad guys instead? The annoying part of it is that they date bad guys hoping they would turn out good. Why don’t you just date a good guy?

    7. Men don’t understand what women are always talking about with their friends on the phone. There is always something to catch up on even after seeing that friend an hour ago.

    8. Why do women ask if they look fat? The amazing thing about the question is that if you say “yes”, she gets sad. So why ask in the first place if you know you will get sad if he says yes?

    9. Why do women have so many shoes? What’s their fascination with shoes? And how do they walk on those heels? It looks sexy but we get scared you don’t fall when with those heels.

    10. Why do women say they are fine when it’s obvious they are not? Why do they find it difficult telling us what’s bothering them?

    11. Why do women always want to win an argument even when everyone knows they are wrong?

    12. Why do women like to have a conversation even after a marathon sex that leaves a guy tired? How come you are full of energy when we are exhausted? How do you do it?

    13. Why is it really difficult for women to get to the point? Women just find it difficult getting to the point when telling a story.

    14. Why do women hate themselves? Why do girls give each other so much drama?

    15. Why does a woman get mad at her man for something that happened in a dream? This baffles men a lot.

    16. Why does it take a woman so long to do her eye makeup? We don’t understand why drawing a line on your eye brows should take so much time.

    17. How come women remember every tiny thing? They remember the particular date and time you kept them waiting or got them angry. They never seem to forget.

    18. Why does it feel good to take off your bra at the end of the day?

    19. Why do women ask questions when they know they won’t like the answer to the question they asked?

    20. Why do women say they have nothing to wear when we can see their closet and we know there are lots of clothes in there?

    21. Why does somebody else wearing the same outfit as hers bother a woman so much?

    22. Why does it take a woman the whole day to shop? How do they do it?

    23. Why do women go to the restroom with their friends? Is that not supposed to be awkward?

    Confused man

  • Tanzania:TFour perish in Dar road accident

    {At least four people died and 26 others seriously injured in an accident that occurred along Nelson Mandela Highway at Tabata-Matumbi in Dar es Salaam, Regional Police Commander Lucas Mkondya has confirmed.}

    The RPC told the ‘Daily News’ over the phone that the accident, which occurred, at around 5:00 am involved three motor vehicles including a commuter bus ‘daladala’.

    The names of the dead were not identified. He said a lorry with registration number T 447 DBM hit the ‘daladala’ that was heading for Ubungo from Buguruni from behind. The daladala hit another lorry (T 629 CRT) that was heading for Buguruni from Ubungo.

    He said the first lorry (T44DBM) was carrying construction sand while the other Lorry (T 629 CRT) was carrying several cows.

    According to the RPC none of the cows died. Commenting on the deceased, the RCP said that the victims’ names were not identified. Some of the victims were rushed to Muhimbili National hospital and the rest to Amana Hospital in Ilala District.

    According to information released by Amana Hospital, among the injured people included Victoria Msangi (21), Neema Kimario (34), Janeth Mwakyusa (18), Rabia Omary (37), Amina Ridhiwani (19), Venasa Iliaeli (17), Listea Daud (21), Jane African (17), Wilence Lymo (28), Samiat Salim (23) and Rozalia Malawaiya (22).

    Others are Gasper John (25), Jane Ngama (28), Jumanne Simon (23), Deo Kimario (23), Eliaejali Lymo (48), Stephano Tibu (34), Didas Luca (390, Yasin Abdallah (25), Said Hussein (35), Abas Nassoro (38), Salim Bashir (27), Hussein Yunus (I) and Mwaasha Rmadhan.

    PASSERS-BY look at one of three motor vehicles that got involved in a road accident which occurred at Matumbi area along Nelson Mandela Expressway in Dar es Salaam on Wednesday causing several deaths and injuries.

  • 15 signs you’ve fallen in love with the wrong person

    {Falling in love could be a tricky thing, and sometimes your heart could fall for the wrong person.}

    Falling in love with the wrong person can be one of the most painful situations one can experience in relationships. When you are in love with the wrong person, your love life with that person would be like hell and there is little to nothing you can do about it.

    Below are some signs that you have fallen in love with the wrong person:

    {{1. YOU ARE NEVER APPRECIATED}}

    When with the wrong person, you would never feel appreciated, no matter what you do. A lot of people fall in love and do all manner of things for their partner, but they never get appreciated for it — that’s a typical sign of someone who is wrong for you.

    {{2. THEY DON’T RECIPROCATE YOUR LOVE}}

    Love is a two way street; it ought to be felt and shown by the two partners. When the person you love doesn’t reciprocate your love then that person is wrong for you.

    {{3. THEY DON’T LISTEN TO YOU}}

    Listening is an important part of communication; you can hear someone talk without really listening to them. People only listen to someone they care about or who they have interest in. If you’ve fallen in love with someone who doesn’t listen to you then you have definitely fallen for the wrong person.

    {{4. YOU ARE TAKEN FOR GRANTED}}

    When someone takes you for granted, the message is simple — that they don’t need you in their lives. If someone takes your love, your feelings and your emotions for granted then it’s a big sign that you have fallen for the wrong person.

    {{5. THEY FEEL TOO IMPORTANT FOR YOU}}

    When you have fallen for someone who deems himself / herself too important or too valuable for you then you are only on a wild goose chase.

    {{6. YOU DON’T HAVE A FUTURE WITH THEM }}

    When you’ve fallen for someone who doesn’t want a future with you then it’s obvious that the person is only there for what he / she can get from you. When that person doesn’t want to have a future with you, it’s just a sign of how little you are valued.

    {{7. THEY HURT YOU AND DON’T CARE}}

    Some people fall in love with a partner who would hurt them time and time again without caring how they feel. If you have fallen for someone who hurts you and doesn’t even care then it’s a sign that you have fallen for the wrong person.

    {{8. IT’S ALWAYS A WAR ZONE WITH THEM}}

    When with someone you can’t have an understanding with and your relationship with that person is like a war zone — there’s always something to quarrel and fight about then you’ve fallen for the wrong person.

    {{9. THEY DON’T RESPECT YOU}}

    Everyone deserves to be respected in a relationship; but if you have fallen for a partner who doesn’t respect you then it’s a sign that you have fallen for the wrong person who would hurt you, maltreat you and even disrespect you.

    {{10. YOU LOSE YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS}}

    Some relationships are demoralising and can take you backwards. If you lose sense of whom you are in a relationship, and you lose your self-worth and self-confidence then you have fallen for the wrong person.

    {{11. YOU DON’T HAVE GOOD MOMENTS TOGETHER}}

    When you have fallen for someone who you rarely have good moments with then you have fallen for the wrong person. If you don’t spend quality time with your partner or have quality conversations or create special moments together and your partner isn’t ready to have these with you then you have definitely for the wrong person.

    {{12. THEY CONSTANTLY CHEAT ON YOU}}

    If you’ve fallen for a partner who always cheats on you and care less about their cheating ways or fail to repent from it then you are definitely in a toxic relationship with the wrong person.

    {{13. THEY ARE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE}}

    If you’ve fallen for someone who isn’t available emotionally then you have fallen for the wrong person. Emotional unavailability can be a terrible thing to live with; being with an emotionally unavailable partner is almost a waste of time. A relationship with such a person would be full of heartaches and heartbreaks.

    {{14. YOU CAN’T BE YOURSELF}}

    When you have fallen for someone who doesn’t make you feel genuine then you are with the wrong person. If you have to be someone else just to please that person then you have definitely fallen for the wrong person.

    {{15. THEY HAVE NO INTEREST IN YOUR LIFE}}

    If you have fallen for someone who doesn’t have an interest in your life or your affairs then you have fallen for someone who doesn’t deserve to be in your life.

    Falling for the wrong person can be the worst relationship mistake you could ever make, because it would only be an uphill task from then on.

  • Nigerian man charged over abduction of 13-year-old girl

    {A man has been charged in Nigeria with kidnapping and sexually exploiting a 13-year-old girl he allegedly married in the northern city of Kano.}

    Yunusa Dahiru pleaded not guilty to the charges in front of a judge in southern Bayelsa state’s capital, Yenagoa.

    Police found the girl last week after a social media campaign to free her.

    The family of the girl, named only as Ese, alleged that Mr Dahiru abducted her last August and forced her to convert to Islam before marrying her.

    Mr Dahiru, who local media says he is about 18 years old, has maintained that she entered into a relationship with him and converted from Christianity voluntarily.

    Ese’s family say they made several efforts to bring her back home to Bayelsa from Kano city, which is 900km (600 miles) to the north, but were told she was no longer their daughter.

    Two other people were charged in absentia for conspiring to abduct the girl.

    The trial will resume on 14 March for Mr Dahiru’s bail application.

    Last week, police said officers who delayed investigating Ese’s release would also be prosecuted.

    But it is not yet clear when and where they will be charged.

  • How to love again after you have been hurt a million times

    {The world is cruel. We fall in love with someone who we believe will never hurt us but still get hurt by the same person that promised to love us forever.}

    It’s really difficult to love again after lots of heartbreak but these tips below will help you let your guard down and love again.

    {{1. YOU HAVE TO BE COMPLETELY HEALED}}

    Until you are completely healed from your last heartbreak, you have no business dating anyone. When you start a new relationship without letting yourself heal completely, your relationship is destined to fail even before it started.

    {{2. DO NOT RUSH INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP}}

    Rushing into a new relationship isn’t advisable after lots of heart breaks. It’s advisable you take things slow. When you take things slow, you give yourself space to think clearly.

    {{3. YOU HAVE TO LET THE PAST REMAIN IN THE PAST}}

    It’s easy to conclude every guy or lady is the same after suffering a heartbreak but having this mentality wonder help you love again. You have to leave the past in the past and give whosoever is in your present a chance. Don’t let the person in your present suffer for the sins of someone in your past.

    {{4. PAY ATTENTION}}

    You shouldn’t date someone just because you are single; you should date because you think the person has the qualities you need in a partner. Find out everything you need to know about a potential partner before starting a relationship with him or her. A heartbreak teaches us certain qualities we should seek for in a partner and you should ensure he or she has these qualities.

    {{5. STARTING A NEW RELATIONSHIP IS RISKY BUT IT’S A CHANCE YOU HAVE TO TAKE}}

    Starting a new relationship is risky as it might either turn out well or you might get hurt. For you to find true love, this is a chance you have to take. You have to accept this truth if you want to love again after a heartbreak. Don’t let your fears stop you.