Category: Social

{What happened to the good old days when a man waits to have sex with his partner? We were taught as men while growing up that if you love a woman, you will wait for her.}

I don’t see that happening this days as the emphasis on sex is so high these days. I see young men brag about the number of women they have slept with and all I do is shake my head.

Sex is a wonderful experience but waiting to have sex with that special one makes it super wonderful.

Below are 10 reasons why holding back sex is actually a good idea

1. Most guys that claim to love a woman are actually only interested in having sex with her. If he truly loves you, he should wait for you.

2. You protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases when you wait for sex.

3. The fear of getting pregnant (or getting her pregnant) is eliminated.

4. When you wait for sex, you never have to live with that feeling of being used when he drops you and starts screwing someone else.

5. No guy can talk about you because you’re are the only one who knows what your body looks like.

6. When you wait for sex, you don’t have to worry about people using you for sex.

7. When you wait for sex, no one can call you a slut.

8. You don’t have to regret sleeping with someone when you wait for sex.

9. When you wait for sex, you don’t get any rumours about you from the people you slept with.

10. When you wait for sex, you’re able to have more self respect.

{There are certain things you would tell a woman who would make her feel loved and appreciated. Every woman loves a compliment; every woman loves to be told beautiful things, and she would love it even more if it’s coming from her man.}

Compliments make a relationship more beautiful, and some compliments would make a woman feel loved.

Below are some of those compliments she’s dying to hear from you:

{{1. YOU ARE A WIFE MATERIAL}}

Every woman loves to know she would make a good wife; you would hardly see a woman who doesn’t want commitment from her man. As it would hurt her to know she would be a terrible wife is the same way it would please her to hear how wonderful she’d be as a wife.

{{2. I LOVE YOUR…}}

There is a reason we always ask our man to tell us what he loves about us — almost every woman does this. This is because every woman loves to be complimented about certain parts of their bodies or things they do. So whenever you tell her how deeply in love you are with her eyes or how you love her legs, she would feel great within.

{{3. I’M HAPPY TO HAVE YOU IN MY LIFE}}

Every woman loves to hear how important she is to her man and how happy he is to have her. Every woman loves to know she makes her man happy, so telling her this would definitely thrill her.

{{4. YOU’RE THE BEST GIRLFRIEND EVER}}

Every woman loves to be termed as the best girlfriend ever; she loves to know that she’s better than all your exes and she isn’t in competition with any of them.

{{5. YOU ARE A GOOD COOK}}

This is one compliment women never get tired of hearing. No matter how many times you have told her how great a cook she is, she would always want to hear it. Women love when their cooking is appreciated time after time.

{{6. YOU’RE GREAT IN BED}}

Every woman doesn’t want to be seen as below par in the sex department also. She knows that there are other women who are outstanding in the act, so she loves to hear that her man enjoys her just as much.

Every woman love it when she knows she can take her man places in bed.

{{7. YOU HAVE A GOOD CHARACTER/PERSONALITY}}

Every woman loves to be told that her attitude is nice; she knows men often complain about the character and attitude of women, so she wouldn’t want to be classified as such.

Even the women with the worst personality love to be hailed character wise.

{{8. YOU LOOK LOVELY IN THAT OUTFIT}}

This is one of those compliments a woman never gets tired of hearing. When a woman dresses up, the first person she wants to compliment her is her man; when her dress sense is complimented, she feels more confident.

{{9. YOU ARE IRREPLACEABLE}}

This is one compliment that would go down to the deepest part of her heart. A compliment as this one would melt a woman’s heart, especially if it’s genuine.

If she knows that she holds a special place in your heart to be termed irreplaceable then she would feel extra special.

{{10. I LOVE THE WAY YOU ARE}}

Every woman knows that she has certain flaws which might not really be accepted by a lot of men; worse still, a lot of women aren’t comfortable with their flaws and this could make them a bit edgy, especially when she’s with her man for the first time.

Telling her you love the way she is would definitely make her feel loved and accepted in spite of her flaws. This is probably the reason why Bruno Mars hit track “Just the way you are” was such a wonderful song that was generally accepted by the ladies.

{{11. YOU HAVE A GREAT BODY}}

No woman wants to be considered as fat, dry, shapeless and the lot. A woman can sometimes feel insecure about her body; but telling her how much you are in love with her body would thrill her mind.

A lot of relationships and marriages these days lack the simple thrill of a compliment; couples are so busy with their lives that they forget to say how beautiful their partner look.

Complimenting your partner would only make your relationship lovely. Thrill your lady with these compliments; she’s dying to hear them.

{There are certain habits you should drop because all they do is limit your potential. No matter how talented you are, having these habits will hinder you from achieving great things.}

Here are 4 habits that make you unsuccessful.

{{1. BLAMING OTHERS}}

The tendency to always blame others when things go wrong hinders you from being successful. When you blame others for your failure, you fail to learn vital lessons from your failure.

{{2. NEGATIVE THOUGHTS}}

Negative thoughts won’t make you successful; all it does is bring you down. When you have negative thoughts, all you do choke yourself and prepare yourself for failure even before you started.

{{3. SEEKING PEOPLE’S APPROVAL}}

You can’t be successful if you always think about the other person’s response. Stop trying to gain people’s approval before you do things. Instead of spending precious time seeking the other person’s approval, use that time to focus on the task at hand.

{{4. NOT BELIEVING IN YOURSELF}}

You can’t be successful if you always doubt yourself. Self-doubt will never bring you close to your dreams of being successful. Self-doubt creates the negative cycle that ends up killing your dreams.

{Vianney Nzabamwita, 86, survived the 1994 Genocide perpetrated against Tutsi. Nzabamwita says that he is faced with various problems including living in an old house that is i The complexity of his life hurdles is worsened by the fact that his children are wandering on streets with no access to education.}

Vianney Nzabamwita resides in Ngorongari village, Kibinja cell, Busasamana sector of Nyanza district. He says that he has started experiencing a bitter life when his wife and 11 children were killed in the genocide. After genocide he married another wife with whom they got three children who have now become street children.

“I am experiencing hard life despite being in my old age without the strength to do anything. I don’t know where my three children are since they don’t study and have become street children. Moreover, the house built for me has fallen apart three times since it was badly built” he said.

Nzabamwita’s wife, Costasie Mukarutabana says that she tries to exploit the small land they own but remains unproductive since she can’t afford farmyard manure and they have no cow. Mukarutabana said she has to do hard labor to buy soap or salt.

She attributes the absence of their three children who preferred street life to lack of food at home and the poor house which would be destroyed whenever the wind blows.

During community work held on Saturday March 262016 Genocide Survivors Students Association (AERG) from Universite des Laïques Adventistes de Kigali(UNILAK) collaborated with local leaders and the police to renovate Vianney Nzabamwita’s old house, built toilet and assigned masons that would build the house until it was completed.

Neighbors of Nzabamwita who participated in the community work to renovate the old house told IGIHE that providing a cow would ease his life since it can produce farmyard manure to improve agriculture.

The executive secretary of Busasamana sector, Brigitte Mukantaganzwa said that after realizing poor conditions of Nzabamwita’s life, they have committed to support Nzabamwita to get improved livelihoods.

“This old man is one among beneficiaries of VUP. We need to stay close to him for assistance on how to use better VUP support to leave exclusivity ,” she said.
Mukantaganzwa added that they are going to follow up the case of his children who went on streets to solve the matter.

{If our wives knew this about us, the world would really be a much better place. Lol. There are certain things every husband wish his wife knew about him. Check them out below.}

{{1. YOUR HUSBAND WANTS YOU TO KNOW THAT HE LOVES YOU}}

Sometimes as husbands, we just don’t know how to put our feelings in words. Sometimes as husbands, we get distracted by the football match on TV or our phones but that doesn’t mean we don’t care about our wives. Our wives mean the world to us.

{{2. YOUR HUSBAND WANTS TO KNOW HE IS TRYING TO BE THE PERFECT HUSBAND}}

As men, we come with our flaws but that doesn’t mean we aren’t trying to be the perfect husband for our wives. We might not be as romantic as you desire but we try our best.

{{3. YOUR HUSBAND WANTS YOU TO KNOW THAT HE CAN’T READ YOUR MIND}}

Our wives always expect us to know what’s wrong with them without even telling us but it’s really not fair that our wives expect us to be mind-readers. We expect our wives to tell us what they want and not expect us to read their minds.

{{4. YOUR HUSBAND WANTS TO BE YOUR NUMBER ONE}}

As husbands we understand our wives have a lot on their hands but we also want our wives to make us their number one even before the kids. We understand the kids need your attention but we would also be glad if you set some time apart for just us.

{{5. YOUR HUSBAND WANTS HIS EFFORTS TO BE APPRECIATED}}

Every husband understands it’s his duty to provide for the family but we would also be glad if our wives appreciate our efforts. Having all these responsibilities can be hard so appreciating our efforts can make a world of difference. We love it when you compliment us and when you are impressed by something we’ve done.

{{6. YOUR HUSBAND WANTS YOU TO UNDERSTAND THAT SEX MEANS A LOT TO HIM}}

We want our wives to not see us wanting sex a lot as a bad thing. It means we think about you a lot. We also feel connected to you during moments of intimacy. We love it when our wives desire us too. We love it when she’s responsive during sex.

{You shouldn’t be getting married to your partner if you haven’t sorted these important issues with your partner. When you sort out these issues before marriage, you ensure you begin your marriage journey on the right track.
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Below are 7 important issues to sort out with your partner before saying “I do”

{{1. WHY ARE WE GETTING MARRIED}}

It’s important you understand why your partner wants to settle down with you and why you also want to settle down with your partner. You need to understand what marriage means to you and your partner. This will ensure you don’t marry for the wrong reasons.

{{2. HOUSEHOLD CHORES}}

Not discussing this might lead to issues so quick in your marriage. Most men expect their wife to do it all but sharing household chores between partners help foster unity in the home.

{{3. SEX}}

You need to understand each other’s expectations when it comes to sex. The subject of sex can ruin a marriage so it’s important you discuss this before marriage. Knowing your partner’s sexual expectations and working out a compromise in situations where needs and desires differ is really important.

{{4. RELIGION}}

This is really important if you and your partner have different religious beliefs. There should be an agreement to support and respect each other’s beliefs.

{{5. IN-LAWS}}

Before saying “I do”, you and your partner need to talk about boundaries when it comes to your parents and in-laws. For you to have a successful marriage, the needs of your spouse must come before the needs of your parents. Parental interference should be reduced to the barest minimum.

{{6. CHILDREN}}

The number of children you plan having is also a crucial conversation to have with your partner. If you don’t intend having kids, it’s important you let your spouse know before marriage and not after marriage. You also need to discuss the expectations for your children.
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7. FINANCE}}

Problems with finance are one of the major causes of divorce so you need to ensure you talk about this before marriage. If you have debts, it’s important your partner knows about it. You should also ensure you are open about your finances and discuss who pays for bills, how much should go into savings and stuffs like that.

{Contrary to popular belief, men are not always raring to go when it comes to sex. So ladies, if you are getting turned down in the bedroom, don’t worry yourself about it because it might not just be about you.}

Below are 6 reasons men turn down sex.

{{1. ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION AND PREMATURE EJACULATION}}

Men grow up believing they have to be the real MVP anytime they have sex so men who usually experience erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation may turn down sex and act withdrawn for fear his woman will be disappointed or think that he’s less of a man.

{{2. STRESS FROM WORK}}

According to a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, being stressed at work was the number reason men reported having a low libido. When a man is stressed, he isn’t relaxed enough to experience pleasure.

{{3. LACK OF SLEEP}}

60 per cent of adults get less than the recommended eight hours of sleep and this can lead to fatigue, low-energy, irritability, tension and drowsiness which leads to less desire to have sex.

{{4. LOW TESTOSTERONE LEVELS}}

The testosterone levels of men gradually decreases as a man gets over 40. Testosterone stimulates sexual desire in men and sometimes testosterone levels decrease rapidly, a condition known as andropause which comes with symptoms such as loss of energy and low sex drive.

{{5. THERE’S A RELATIONSHIP ISSUE HE IS HOLDING ON TO}}

A man’s desire to have sex can be affected if there is a relationship issue he is holding on to. His body will be unlikely to respond to desire if there are issues about the relationship he is mulling over.

{{6. HE’S ON MEDICATION}}

Some medications have side effects that can affect a man’s sex life. Drugs for high blood pressure such as beta blockers, ACE inhibitors and calcium channel blockers are common culprits.