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{Ladies, just before you get excited about your man’s pay rise, you might also need to worry if he will still love you and remain faithful.}

According to scientists at Beijing Normal University, as men become richer, they become pickier about their partner’s looks.

The researchers found that men tend to place more importance on looks than women, in the belief that an attractive woman will have good genes and give him healthy children.

Women in contrast put value on resources, in the belief that a richer man will be a better provider for her family.

Will an increase in pay cause a woman to cheat? According to the researchers, women are less likely to cheat even when they earn more.

So ladies, do not forget that a cash injection may lead to a man believing they can do better when it comes to the woman in their life.

I always tell ladies, you will only know the real character of a man when he has lots of cash. So these scientists just proved me right.

The study was published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology.

{It’s very normal for an ex to want you back after reflecting on his/her actions or after missing you or finding out that you left a huge space in their lives. But is going back to that ex really worth it?}

In a previous article, I mentioned why getting back with an ex might only be a waste of time, and truly it is most times. But on some occasions it works, only, if the right decision is made after looking at certain considerations.

These six things should be considered:

{{1. THEIR REASON FOR COMING BACK}}

It shouldn’t just be about your ex coming back, but why your ex is coming back.

Is your ex coming back because he/she is lonely and need companionship? Or because of a breakup with another partner? Or because your ex has realised his/her mistakes and is coming back to make things better?

You ought to know the reasons why your ex is coming back, and your ex should be totally honest and sincere before you even give it thoughts.

{{2. THE REASON FOR THE BREAKUP}}

The reason for the breakup is an even more important question that should be asked and put into serious consideration. Was it because of perennial fights and issues that kept disturbing the peace of the relationship? Did your ex have an affair?

If it was incompatibility issues which led to frequent fights or quarrels then going back to that ex might not be a wise decision except certain ways on how to solve those issues are discussed. If it was for cheating, it’s another tough decision too, because most cheats still continue in their cheating ways.

But, if your breakup was for minor issues that you are both willing to fix, then you can contemplate going back to your ex. However, the first two reasons earlier mentioned are high risk situations that may crash your relationship again.

{{3. HOW SERIOUS WAS YOUR RELATIONSHIP?}}

Was it a serious long-term relationship that ended because of slight differences? Was it a relationship where you were both madly in love with each other; then it could be easier to address the little issues and find a way forward. But if your relationship was a nonchalant one, a sexual relationship or a relationship where one partner wasn’t committed then you going back to that relationship is risky.

{{4. WOULD YOU TRUST THAT EX AGAIN?}}

For that relationship to be successful you have to trust your ex again and your ex has to do a lot to gain your trust. If you don’t trust your ex and your ex isn’t trustworthy then there is no need contemplating that relationship again.

5. HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR EX?

Your feelings, your emotions and your perception about your ex should be put into serious consideration. If you have grudges against your ex, you hate or ex and you still feel hurt or terrible seeing that ex, then never contemplate going into that relationship.

But if you still have feelings for your ex, your ex has feelings for you and other things mentioned in this article are considered and the answers are favourable, then you can go back to that ex.

{{6. HOW FAR WOULD YOUR EX GO TO WIN YOU BACK?}}

If you must go back to an ex after considering every other points mentioned in this article, your ex has to be willing to go the extra mile to win you over. Trust me, it shouldn’t be easy, especially if your ex didn’t do enough to keep you in the first place. The length your ex is willing to go would only reveal how much they want and value that relationship with you.

{{7. HAVE YOU MOVED ON?}}

If you are in another relationship or your mind has moved on from your relationship with that ex, then never go back to that relationship. Never go back to an ex or a past relationship merely on sympathy; if your heart isn’t there, it would never work.

{{8. DISCUSS}}

If you have considered every factor mentioned and you feel you want to go back to that ex, you have to discuss certain things with your ex, set certain rules and make certain grounds clear. You ought to resolve the issues that made the relationship crash in the first place or they might come back to haunt your relationship.

It shouldn’t end at your ex begging for another chance, these factors ought to be considered before going back to that relationship.

Having sex with an ex could be a tempting proposition sometimes but just before you call your ex and have sex with him or her, here are 7 reasons why I think it’s a bad idea.

{{1. YOU BROKE UP WITH YOUR EX FOR A REASON}}

Before you have sex with your ex, you need to remember you broke up with your ex for a reason. Having sex with your ex won’t fix things but would only end up complicating things between you and your ex.

{{2. HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX WILL HOLD YOU BACK}}

You would find it really difficult moving on if you continue to have sex with your ex. You might say it’s just casual sex but the truth is that the more sex you have with your ex, the harder it will become for you to move on.

{{3. HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX COMPLICATES THINGS}}

Having sex with your ex is like a disaster waiting to happen. When you have sex with your ex, the sex sometimes makes one of the two to still expect exclusivity and this only complicate things.

{{4. THERE ARE LOTS OF OTHER PEOPLE YOU CAN HAVE SEX WITH}}

Why complicate things in your life when there are lots of other people you can choose to have sex with? Why go back to have sex with someone who rejected you? Doing this would only destroy your self-esteem.

{{5. HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX STRENGTHENS THE BOND}}

You can’t move on to someone better if you keep having sex with your ex. Having sex with your ex strengthens the bond with your ex and makes it difficult for you to move on.

{{6. HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX BRINGS BACK MEMORIES}}

Having sex with your ex will only bring back memories you really want to forget and most of the memories will definitely be bad memories you are trying to forget.

{{7. HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX WON’T BRING BACK YOUR EX}}

Having sex with your ex won’t bring back your ex no matter how good the sex was. So why don’t you move on and share that experience with someone who really wants to be with you.

{Falling for the wrong person can be a terrible relationship mishap, but it’s one that happens often. When you fall for the wrong person, you end up having a relationship filled with heartaches, insecurity, fear, disappointments and the opposite of everything you wished for.}

We’ve brought you signs that you have fallen for the wrong person and the things you must do if you have fallen for the wrong person; but why do you fall for the wrong person in the first place?

{{1. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT}}

You ought to know what you want and what is good for you in a relationship. Search deep into your mind, think about who you are and the kind of person that would fit into your life. For example, if you are a very neat person and cannot stand a dirty partner, you only have two choices here: only date a partner that’s neat or be ready to tolerate a partner that doesn’t take neatness too seriously.

This tip is very important and would help you make the right choices.

{{2. BE GENUINE}}

Don’t change who you are or pretend to be someone else just to attract a partner into your life; how long would you pretend to be who you aren’t in that kind of relationship? Be real, be original and let your partner love you for who you truly are.

{{3. LET THAT PERSON ALSO SHOW AN INTEREST}}

A relationship is lovely only when the love is mutual. What does this mean? If you are in a relationship where you are the only one in love and your partner is just playing catch up, then you are in a wrong relationship. Choose a partner that would love you just as you love them; never force yourself into a relationship, it would never work.

{{4. STOP FALLING FOR TRIVIAL THINGS}}

A lot of people keep falling for the wrong persons because they keep falling for trivial things; they place priorities on things that don’t matter over things that really matter. When you place priority on beauty, looks, body shape, class, wealth, background, race, tribe over other important things then you might never get it right in the relationship. Not that looks and wealth are a bad thing, but they should never come before compatibility, love, respect, understanding, value and every other thing that matters and would lead to you having a loving and successful relationship with that person.

{{5. DON’T FALL FOR WORDS}}

Talk is cheap, but surprisingly people fall for words a lot. Don’t fall for what he/she says, rather fall for what they do. Don’t judge by mere talks, but by action.

{{6. VALUE}}

Never enter a relationship with someone who wouldn’t value you or who doesn’t value you.

It’s shocking when I see people devalue themselves just to be in a relationship with someone who takes them for granted.

{{7. LISTEN TO ADVICE}}

Normally, you shouldn’t let your friends and family choose your partner for you, but when you keep making the same mistakes over again then it shows that something is wrong with your decision-making and you need to at least take some advice from those who care. You should be the one to decide, but be open to advice.

{{8. TAKE YOUR TIME}}

Don’t rush, don’t be in a hurry; take your time, study your intended partner, know what they want from a relationship, know what they want from you, know more about their kind of person and if such a person would fit into your life. If you’ve made the wrong choices over and over, then you need to take your time before entering the next relationship.

{{9. USE YOUR HEART AND YOUR HEAD}}

If your heart keeps falling for the wrong partner, maybe it’s time to start using your head also; let your heart do the falling and let your head do the thinking.

{{10. CHOOSE DIFFERENTLY}}

Normally, we tend to fall for partners within the same box; our hearts kind of have a certain variable to choose from and this is one of the reasons you fall for the same kind of person over and over.

Try to choose someone different from your personality trait, someone different from the kind of persons you have been with — try to free yourself from the circle of moving around the same partners.

You actually have the power to stop falling for the wrong persons and to stop attracting the wrong people into your life; free yourself from the shackles of heartaches and painful relationships with these tips.

{How often do you have sex with your spouse?}

Researchers from the University of Toronto Missisauga have revealed how often you should have sex with your spouse.

In terms of being happy, you really only need to have sex once a week – any more than that is just showing off, Metro reports.

Based on data from 25,510 Americans aged 18 to 89, the researchers found that having sex around once a week is the sweet spot for happiness.

“I do think couples can end up feeling pressure to try to engage in sex as frequently as possible,” Amy Muise of the University of Toronto Mississauga said.

“Once a week is a more realistic goal to set than thinking you have to have sex everyday and that feels overwhelming and you avoid it.”

“This showed a linear association between sex and happiness up to a frequency of once a week, but at higher frequencies there is no longer an association.”

“Therefore it is not necessary, on average, for couples to aim to engage in sex as frequently as possible.”

{A study by researchers from the University of California has revealed the child parents favour more.}

The research team led by professor Katherine Conger found that 74 per cent of mothers and 70 per cent of fathers confessed to liking one child more than another.

While it has always been suspected that parents tend to favour the youngest child, the researchers say it’s the first-born who feel they get preferential treatment.

The researchers also noted that younger brothers and sisters often sensed a bias towards the firstborn and they claim it knocked their self-esteem.

Professor Conger said her team were trying to prove that first-borns felt hard done by perceptions of differential treatment but were surprised with the findings.

The study of 384 families is published in the Journal of Family Psychology.

{If you’ve been wondering what you need to do to get your man more excited in the bedroom, then you ought to read this.}

Below are 12 little things every man wants in bed.

1. Your man wants to know how hot you think he is when his clothes go off. Telling him how hot he is would do wonders for his ego in the bedroom.

2. Sometimes your man just wants you to take charge in bed and show him what you really have. So just show him you are ‘badder’ than the ‘baddest’. Lol.

3. Sometimes he desires you give him a good massage before the main course in the bedroom. Shoulder rubbing, back scratching etc.

4. Men are visuals. Sometimes your man wants you to take up positions that would give him a good view of that wonder body you have.

5. He loves it when you say you love him but he also wants you to add some dirty talking when you are in bed with him.

6. He wants you to call his name during the act. That makes every man feel so good.

7. Scream out loud if you can, he wants you to let it off.

8. What you wear to bed matters a lot. He wants you to wear something more appealing to bed.

9. He desires spontaneity. It should not always be in the bedroom. There are lots of other spots in the house you can get down with him.

10. When things go awkward in bed, he wants you to see the funny side of it. Don’t act like it’s the end of the world.

11. Making eye contact with him in bed could set him on fire in bed. Lol.

12. Sometimes when he least expects, surprise him with a good ride.

{Happy marriages just don’t happen; you make them happen. If you care so much about your marriage and don’t wish for it to end in a divorce, you have to work on protecting your marriage.}

Below are 7 ways to protect your marriage from divorce.

{{1. LEARN TO CONTROL YOUR ANGER}}

If you can’t control your anger, your marriage might be in trouble sooner rather than later. Avoid making statements when angry because you might say hurtful things that could damage your marriage.

{{2. BE YOUR PARTNER’S CHEERLEADER}}

You can’t protect your marriage from divorce if you are not willing to encourage and support your partner. You don’t have to agree with everything your partner does but try to be supportive.

{{3. ALWAYS SEND LOVELY MESSAGES TO YOUR PARTNER}}

Send your partner special messages every day. Your partner needs to know you think about him or her while they are away. Your partner also needs to know you miss and love them too.

{{4. SHOW AFFECTION}}

When was the last time you said good morning to your partner with a kiss? Be affectionate. Kiss and hug your partner when you say good morning, when you leave for work, when you get back home and before you go to bed.

{{5. APPRECIATE THE LITTLE THINGS}}

Never get tired of saying “thank you”. One mistake most couples make is taking their partner for granted. Don’t just assume it’s your partner’s responsibility to make you dinner or do the dishes; show appreciation for the little things they do.

{{6. INTIMACY}}

Your partner needs to feel desired every day. I don’t mean you should have sex every day but show your partner you desire them by cuddling, hugging , and kissing.

{{7. EXPRESS YOURSELF}}

Don’t keep things inside and expect your partner to read your mind. This attitude is a huge relationship killer. Don’t assume your partner should know. Learn to express yourself to your partner. If you are sad about something, talk about it with your partner instead of assuming your partner should know about it.

{Marriage has always been an entirely different thing from the single/premarital life. It involves more commitment, and as well as respect from those involved in it, and for this, it is important that people better and prepare themselves before they get into that stage of life. Getting prepared in this context, involves dropping whatever baggage or behaviour that could be detrimental to the success of your marriage.}

In this post, we shall be looking at some of those things I think you should stop doing in order to have a good married life when ‘Mr Right’ finally comes.

{{1. STOP PROMISCUITY}}

Promiscuity is having multiple partners at a time. Why is it unhealthy for you? It paints a negative image of you to all decent people (men) out there, and may discourage intending suitors from reaching out to you for marriage. So if you ever intend to settle down with one man in marriage someday, you need to start by learning to be with one person now. Also, promiscuity could become habitual, and could be taken into marriage, which would endanger the chances of the union being a happy one.

{{2. AVOID BAD COMPANY}}

They say, ‘show me your friends and I’ll show you who you are’. The kind of company you keep tends to be a reflection of your true person, and people tend to judge your person based on that. Keeping bad company could give the impression that you’re bad too, and I’m not sure how many men want to settle for that sort of a woman. Did I also mention that bad friends can ruin a marriage?

{{3. AVOID FINANCIAL RECKLESSNESS}}

Marriage is a union of two people who are expected to contribute to the upkeep of the family together. If you cannot learn to save and manage money well before you get married, you may be in a lot of trouble when you eventually get married, because you wouldn’t know how to help your man manage his finances, as well as save up something of your own to contribute to the growth of your family. That cannot be healthy.

{{4. AVOID PRIDE AND SHOW OFF}}

Every man wants to marry a decent woman who is not just a good cook but also respectful and loyal. No man would like to marry a woman who makes him feel like he’s less a man; so if you have this problem, stop it now, before you even consider marriage.