Category: Social

{A study carried out at Purdue University in Indiana and published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that close friendship in partners is linked with both a sexually and emotionally satisfying relationship.
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“We found that valuing the friendship component of one’s romantic relationship is important,” Laura VanderDrift, co-author of the study told The Independent.

“It leads to better relationship outcomes over time, including a more satisfying relationship, a better friendship with one’s partner and even greater sexual satisfaction.”

Laura VanderDrift revealed that finding a partner who was first and foremost a friend is a good predictor of the long-term success of a relationship.

She advised couples trying to improve their relationship could solve several problems at once simply by focusing on being friends.

{A lot of people ruin their lives depending on luck; they wait on luck without making any meaningful effort.}

Luck doesn’t just happen, you work for your luck and these eight quotes would tell you more about luck:

1. “Shallow men believe in luck or in circumstance. Strong men believe in cause and effect.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

2. “I’m a greater believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it.” — Thomas Jefferson

3. “Luck has a way of evaporating when you lean on it.” — Brandon Mull, Keys to the Demon Prison

4. “Inspiration is one thing and you can’t control it, but hard work is what keeps the ship moving. Good luck means, work hard. Keep up the good work.” — Kevin Eubanks

5. “I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances. Be more active. Show up more often.” — Brian Tracy

6. “I think luck gets you on to the stage. But it has nothing to do with keeping you there.” — Eric Bana

7 “I believe that people make their own luck by great preparation and good strategy.” — Jack Canfield

8. “Diligence is the mother of good luck.” — Benjamin Franklin

{Police in Huye District in partnership with the Mental Health Dignity Foundation (MHDF) met with 17 women from families that are marred with domestic disputes and urged them not to cover up any form of abuse directed especially to women and children.}

The call was made on May 11 in a meeting held at Ngoma Police Station and drew police officers, representatives of MHDF and 17 women from conflict-ridden families.

The meeting was in the context of understanding the root causes of the conflicts in their families, which will inform the effective means to address them.

Police in the district is also scheduled to meet with their spouses as part of crime prevention and reconciliation process.

Rwanda National Police initiated this reconciliation programme as part of its Community Policing strategy to deter crime.

Addressing the women, the District Community Liaison Officer, Inspector of Police (IP) Mucyo Rukundo said;

“When such wrangles become persistent, they bring about several consequences, including traumatizing children who may end up dropping out of schools, resorting to drug abuse or joining crime rings.”

Inspector of Police (IP) Rose Ndikumana, the head of anti-GBV in Huye District Police Unit (DPU) also emphasised that family misunderstandings normally lead to violence and the effects spill over to children.

“The reason we run this family reconciliation programme is because we want to ensure public safety; addressing cases of gender based violence and child abuse require a bottom-up approach and an involvement of all,” said IP Ndikumana.

The women were also urged not to take the law in their hands, which also makes them criminals, but rather break silence on any injustices they face for the concerned authorities to address them accordingly.

The Executive Coordinator of MHDF, Therese Uwitonze thanked RNP for its continued involvement in reconciling families wrecked by wrangles.

Since 2013, police embarked on reconciling families wrecked by misunderstandings and has since reunited hundreds of couples who testify that they are currently living happily.

{Kissing is an art and if you want to be a good kisser, there are certain basics about kissing that you should know.}

Below are 6 tips that would help you kiss your partner passionately.

{{1. START SLOWLY}}

When you want to kiss your partner, start slowly. Start with your partner’s bottom lip and move to his top lip as you softly and gently massage his lips between yours.

{{2. UP THE TEMPO}}

After starting real slow and gentle, you should up the tempo by being a little more aggressive. When I say aggressive, don’t go crushing your partner’s lips. By getting a little aggressive, I mean you should squeeze your partner’s lips.

{{3. DON’T FORGET TO USE YOUR TEETH}}

For most people, kissing starts and ends with the lips. Using your teeth will take your kissing game to a whole new level. Please don’t bite your partner with your teeth. Run your teeth slowly over your partner’s lips. You can add more sensation by squeezing your partner’s top lip or bottom lip between your teeth.

{{4. CHANGE THE POSITION OF YOUR HEAD}}

Don’t start and end the kissing session with a particular head position. Don’t just focus on one side of your partner’s face, change your head position by tilting to the other side.

{{5. DON’T FOCUS ON JUST THE LIPS}}

Don’t just focus on the lips when kissing your partner as there are other parts of your partner’s body that needs your kiss. Kiss your partner’s cheek, neck and ear.

{{6. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT}}

You can’t be the pro you want to be if you don’t practice the tips you learn. You don’t expect to kiss your partner so passionately the first time you try. Practice your techniques and you will master the kissing game.

{Just because you kissed your partner this morning doesn’t mean you know much about kissing.}

Below are 15 things you probably didn’t know about kissing.

1. If you think only humans kiss, then you are probably wrong. Bonobos, a type of chimpanzee kiss often and passionately. Apes kiss too.

2. When you kiss deep and passionately, you use all 34 of your facial muscles compared to only 2 face muscles you use when it’s a quick kiss.

3. Ever wondered why the groom is always told that he may kiss the bride? Ancient Romans used kissing to seal a contract.

4. If you want to burn some calories, you should kiss more as kissing for a few seconds can burn up to five calories.

5. A bad kiss can end a relationship. This is according to a study by professor Gordon Gallup Jr which found that 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women have ended a budding relationship because of a bad kiss.

6. A passionate kiss gets you in the mood because it send sends blood through your body which makes it easier for you to get excited. This is according to Dr Ava Cadell.

7. If you want to be kissable, avoid smoking, body odour, dry lips, cold sores and bad teeth. This is according to a 2012 online poll by dating site MutualAttraction.co.uk

8. You can get mono and herpes through kissing.

9. Kissing is good for your health. Researchers at Arizona State University found that kissing reduces stress and lowers our levels of bad cholesterol.

10. The study of kissing is called philematology and people who practice it are called philematologists. The scientific name for kissing is osculation.

11. According to a study published in the Microbiome Journal, you exchange 80 million microbes whenever you kiss someone new.

12. According to the same study, the microbes exchanged during kissing helps boost your immune system.

13. Frequent kissing is a sign of a healthy and happy relationship. This is because kissing increases oxytocin, a hormone that helps us stay in love.

14. Couples that kiss regularly tend to live longer.

15. Two-thirds of people tilt their head to the right when they kiss.

{Your 20s are an essential time in your life. You are no longer a teen and it’s expected you start making key decisions that will affect your present and your future.}

Here are 9 essential life tips that will help you in this stage of your life.

{{1. YOUR HEART WILL GET BROKEN}}

While some might meet their soul mate in their first relationship, most will have to go through some certain amount of heartbreaks before they finally meet the one. Don’t feel it’s the end of the world when you get heartbroken; take it as part of life and move on.

{{2. DON’T COMPETE WITH YOUR FRIENDS}}

The test of friendship has to be during the 20s. Some will become more successful than their friends. An advice I will give every 20s out there is don’t compare yourself to your friends; it’s not a competition.

{{3. SELF LOVE IS IMPORTANT}}

Loving yourself isn’t selfishness. In a world full of bullies and people eager to criticize, you need to learn to love who you really are. Love your height, your body, and everything about you. Don’t let no one tell you that you ain’t beautiful. Never underestimate the importance of having enough sleep and exercising.

{{4. SEEK OPPORTUNITIES TO NETWORK}}

Seek opportunities to network as having a good network will open more doors of opportunities for you. See everyone in your network as important. Never underestimate anyone.

{{4. FILTER EVERY ADVICE}}

I encourage people to listen when someone is trying to give you an advice. Just because you should listen to the advice doesn’t mean you should take it. You are going to get lots of advice at this stage of your life but you should understand that it’s your life and you alone know what’s best for you.

{{5. DON’T MAKE SOCIAL MEDIA YOUR HOME}}

It’s tempting sometimes to make social media your home but I will advice you resist that temptation. Social media is an important part of our lives as it helps us keep up with friends and happenings around us but you shouldn’t get so obsessed with it and spend all of your time on it.

{{6. YOU NEVER STOP LEARNING}}

Just because you are done with the university doesn’t mean you stop learning. As long as you are alive, you should see it as an opportunity to learn something new. There’s a lot to learn outside the walls of a classroom.

{{7. FAMILY IS IMPORTANT}}

Never get too busy chasing money and forget your family. Try to make time for your family no matter how busy you are.

{{8. YOUR UNIVERSITY DEGREE WILL NOT DEFINE YOUR CAREER}}

I think only a few people actually end up having a career in whatever degree they studied in the university. Just because you studied mechanical engineering is no guarantee you will end up having a career as a mechanical engineer.

{When a man finds the right woman and understands that she’s the right woman, only then would he build a loving and successful relationship with her.}

A lot of us (men) want a right relationship with the woman who isn’t right for us, and at the end of the day we struggle from being with that wrong woman to being with another wrong woman. Worse still, some men have a woman who’s right for them but they care less.

{{1. YOU BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER}}

With the right woman, you both care about each other and you both love each other. When you are with the right woman, you don’t have to beg her to love you, she does so with her heart.

{{2. SHE’S GENUINE}}

A lot of women are attracted to certain things in men like wealth and connection that they pretend to like them or fall for them simply because of those things they can gain. The right woman is a genuine woman; her love and interest in you are for the right reasons and not just for the things she stands to gain.

{{3. SHE’S APPRECIATIVE}}

The right woman is always appreciative; she appreciates the things you do for her. She values even the little things you do for her, and as far as you care, she’s happy.

{{4. SHE ISN’T SELF-CENTRED}}

The right woman for you wouldn’t only think of herself but you. Some women could be so self-absorbed that they want everything about the relationship to be about them. Such a woman isn’t right for you; the right woman thinks of herself and thinks of you; she isn’t selfish, she isn’t self-centred and she definitely isn’t one who want things her way every time.

{{5. SHE’S INTERESTED IN YOUR WELL-BEING}}

The right woman genuinely cares about you; she’s interested in your wellbeing as a person and she puts in efforts to make you better. The right woman would want you to be the best you can be and she would help in her own little way.

{{6. SHE CARES ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL}}

The way you feel is important to her; she cares about your feelings and would want you happy at all times. It pains her to see you sad and in one way or the other, your feelings affect her life.

{{7. SHE MAKES YOU FEEL SPECIAL}}

The right woman for you would treat you like the only man in her life; she would make you feel special and she would show you that she really values you.

{{8. SHE WOULD DO A LOT OF LITTLE THINGS}}

Little things are actually what matters most and a woman who’s right for you would do those little things to make you happy, she would do the little things to make the relationship better and she would do those little things to show you that she cares.

Are you with the right woman?

{A new study done by scientists at the University of Washington’s Institute for Learning & Brain Sciences (I-LABS) found that a series of play sessions with music improved 9-month-old babies’ brain processing of both music and new speech sounds.}

The researchers designed a randomised-controlled experiment to see if teaching babies a musical rhythm would help the babies with speech rhythms.

39 babies attended 12 15-minute play sessions in the lab with their parents. In groups of about two or three, the babies sat with their parents, who guided them through the activities.

20 babies were assigned to the music group, recordings of children’s music played while an experimenter led the babies and their parents through tapping out the beats in time with the music, while 19 babies in the control group attended play sessions that did not involve music.

Within a week after the play sessions ended, the families came back to the lab so the babies’ brain responses could be measured. The researchers used magnetoencephalography (MEG) to see the precise location and timing of brain activity.

While sitting in the brain scanner, the babies listened to a series of music and speech sounds, each played out in a rhythm that was occasionally disrupted. The babies’ brains would show a particular response to indicate they could detect the disruption.

The researchers focused their analyses on two brain regions, the auditory cortex and the prefrontal cortex, which is important for cognitive skills such as controlling attention and detecting patterns.

Babies in the music group had stronger brain responses to the disruption in both music and speech rhythm in both the auditory and the prefrontal cortex, compared with babies in the control group.

The researchers found that participation in the play sessions with music improved the infants’ ability to detect patterns in sounds.

According to the study’s lead author Christina Zhao, a postdoctoral researcher at I-LABS: “This means that early, engaging musical experiences can have a more global effect on cognitive skills.”

The study was published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.