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{Loving yourself would make you a better version of who you are; it would give you the mentality to love others — both those that matter to you and people you come across.}

You’ve read the reasons you should love yourself and the reasons you don’t love yourself; those two articles would give you better insight about loving yourself and the shortcomings of not loving yourself. Now it’s time to know how to love yourself:

{{1. MOVE ON FROM YOUR PAST}}

Don’t let your past mistakes and failures haunt you; it would put your life on hold when you do this and quench the love in your heart. You might not be able to do anything to change your past mistake, but you can do something about the future; moving on would make you love yourself.

{{2. DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE}}

If you want to love yourself in spite of things happening around you, you would need to distance yourself from negative people. You need all the positive energy you can, and negative people would kill them.

{{3. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF}}

Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself what you love about you; tell yourself about what makes you unique, why you have a beautiful soul and the things you are proud of in you. When you do this regularly, you would love yourself the more.

{{4. MAKE TIME TO BE HAPPY}}

Make time to be happy; do things that make you happy, be with people who make you happy and be a happier version of yourself. When you are happy with yourself, you would love who you are.

{{5. MAKE CHANGES}}

Don’t get stuck in life; being stagnant would make you unhappy. Make efforts to be better, improve yourself and improve from your mistakes. You would love yourself more when you make yourself the best version of you.

{{6. DON’T FOCUS ON WINNING OTHER PEOPLE’S APPROVAL}}

Don’t put your focus on winning other people’s approval or getting other people’s attention — that’s a negative energy. Focus on yourself; live your life, write your own story and don’t let others do it for you.

{{7. BELIEVE MORE IN YOURSELF}}

You need to believe in yourself or no one else will; believe in your abilities, believe that you can, believe that you are good enough and believe that you would get there even though you aren’t there yet.

Loving yourself is the most beautiful gift you can give yourself, and loving yourself would make it easier for you to love others.

{Suffering from a heartbreaking relationship can damage one’s soul; so many people have committed suicide just because they were jilted by their lovers and left to suffer so much pain afterwards.}

No one loves to be heartbroken; it’s probably the worst feeling one can suffer from a relationship.

As bad as heartbreak might be, they are also preventable, and these are some ways you can prevent yourself from suffering the pangs of heartbreak.

{{1. NOT EVERY RELATIONSHIP YOU ENTER WOULD BE SUCCESSFUL}}

This is the first truth you should have in mind about relationships. Not all would be successful, not all would lead to marriage, not all would be what you thought it was in the beginning — but all can make you wiser and stronger. So you ought to learn from every relationship you have had.

{{2. LOVE WITH YOUR HEAD TOO}}

Loving with your heart is what makes love beautiful, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put your brain to use; the fact that you love your partner doesn’t mean you shouldn’t critically study your relationship, where it’s heading and who your partner really is. When you do this, you lower the chances of being hurt in your relationship.

{{3. DON’T LET LOVE BLIND THE TRUTH}}

Love could blind someone’s eyes to the truth, not because they don’t know the truth, but they just don’t want to see it or believe it’s true — and people like these end up being hurt time after time.

Call a spade, a spade; if your partner is a cheat, don’t pretend that he/she isn’t; if your partner is dishonest and deceitful, don’t pretend otherwise. A lot of people turn a blind eye to their partner’s ways and pay the price for it.

{{4. DON’T BE TOO HASTY}}

Another reason people get heartbroken in their relationship is because they rush into things; they are always in a haste to be in a relationship, and many pay for this mistake with the feeling of being heartbroken. Take things slow and steady; be sure of who you are going into that relationship with and study where the relationship is heading.

{{5. IT’S NOT WHAT THEY SAY BUT WHAT THEY DO}}

A lot of people get carried away with what their partners say that they pay little attention to what they do. What your partner shows you is much more important than what your partner says to you.

{Seventy-five percent of problems many couples face in their marriages are problems that could have been avoided if they had both discussed their expectations about married life before getting married.}

Don’t neglect having this discussion with your partner because you think you will cross the bridge when you get there. Many couples overlook asking some of these difficult questions and regret later.

When you head into marriage ill-prepared, your chances of a divorce are high.

Below are 14 things you must agree with your partner before marriage

1. You must agree with your partner to prioritize intimacy and sex in your marriage. Discuss your expectations about sex.

2. House chores are another source of dissatisfaction in many marriages. You must agree on how chores should be done at home. Agree on how chores will be shared.

3. You must agree on the number of children you both would love to have. Don’t just assume your partner should know what you want.

4. You must agree on how involved you want In-laws to be in your marriage. Lay out your expectations up front.

5. You must agree on how to handle finances as a family. Do you combine finances or keep separate accounts?

6. You must agree on the kind of lifestyle you intend for each other as a couple. Conflicts in lifestyle among couples is another major cause of marriage dissatisfaction.

7. If both partners have a job, who is going to take care of the bills at home? Should it be the man’s responsibility to handle all the bills or should the husband and wife share the bills? This should also be agreed on.

8. Which city will you live in and what kind of house do you intend living in? There should be an agreement on this.

9. Couples also need to agree on when and how to discipline children.

10. You should agree on what your family name is going to be. You might think this isn’t a deal breaker but I know a family that had issues due to family name. The husband wanted a particular surname (his name plus his father’s name) but the wife felt she would only bear one of the names and not both. So you have to agree on the surname to avoid such issues.

11. You need to agree how you plan to spend vacations as a family. Do you expect it to be yearly or twice a year?

12. What your idea of a dream home? It’s important you and your partner share common ideas when it comes to the home of your dreams. You wouldn’t want a situation where you want a mansion as a dream home and your partner wants a simple bungalow that offers comfort. This can cause issues.

13. You need to agree on how you intend to save as a family. What percentage should be kept aside for savings?

14. All these will come to nothing if you don’t agree to make your marriage a top priority. Agree to make your marriage a top priority. You also need to agree that you will do all that you both can as a couple to strengthen your marriage.

New research from the University of Utah suggests that there is a potential link between a woman’s sexual number and the possibility that she will experience divorce; however, it’s not what you think.

While the study did find that women who married as virgins are most likely to still be married five years from their wedding day, researchers made similar findings when it came to women who had three to nine partners before saying “I do.” However, there was a sharp contrast between brides who had zero to one premarital sex partner and those who had two. Brides who only had two premarital sex partners the second most likely group to end up divorced.

“In short, if you’re going to have comparisons to your [future] husband, it’s best to have more than one,” explained Nicholas H. Wolfinger, University of Utah department of family and consumer studies professor.

The study also found that women who had 10 more partners were the most likely to end their marriages.

“This is the result most readers of this brief expected: A lot of partners mean a lot of baggage, which makes a stable marriage less tenable. It’s also entirely likely that the correlation is spurious, the product of certain personal characteristics,” Wolfinger wrote.

Wolfinger set out to explore the developing relationship between premarital sex and divorce over the years. To do so, he reviewed results from the CDC’s National Survey of Family Growth conducted between the 1970s and the 2010s. As for why the premarital sex habits of men were not included in the study, Wolfinger had this to say:

“Unfortunately, the NSFG doesn’t have full data on men’s premarital sexual behavior and in any event they recall their own marital histories less reliably than do women.”

{Life is a gift; you didn’t do anything to get here and you shouldn’t just sit around and watch things pass by you.}

These are some things you should never stop doing in life.

{{1. NEVER STOP BEING HAPPY}}

You should never stop being happy, you should never stop smiling and you should never stop laughing. You would lose a big part of your life when you let life’s situations steal your smile and happiness.

{{2.NEVER STOP THINKING POSITIVELY}}

Don’t let negative thoughts overshadow the positivity in your life. Being positive in life would open up doors you didn’t know existed. Thinking negatively would only worsen everything you are going through.

{{3.NEVER STOP STANDING UP}}

When the failures and challenges of life knock you down, never stop standing up and giving it one more shot, and always one more shot.

{{4.NEVER STOP APPRECIATING}}

You have so many beautiful things happening in your life but it’s hard for you to appreciate it because you are fixed on the things you don’t have.

Never stop appreciating life and never stop being grateful for the things you have.

{{5. NEVER STOP IMPROVING}}

Don’t remain static, keep improving every day; always make yourself better with each day.

{{6. NEVER STOP BEING AFRAID OF MAKING MISTAKES}}

The man that makes mistake is always wiser than the man who’s scared of making mistakes. Mistakes give you the opportunity to learn and be better.

{{7. NEVER STOP BEING YOURSELF}}

Don’t pretend to be who you are not; there is only one you in the entire universe. Do yourself and the world a favour by being who you are.

{{8. NEVER STOP BEING COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN}}

Never stop being comfortable in your skin, never stop being confident of who/what you are. Timidity only exists in your mind because you let it.

{{9. NEVER STOP CHASING YOUR DREAMS}}

Never give up on your dreams and goals and never stop chasing them. Live everyday of your life knowing that you gave that dream your best shot — it’s worth it.

{{10. NEVER STOP BEING KIND}}

We might be in a wicked world, but the world is wicked because the kind people aren’t willing to be kind. Never stop helping the people you can help, never stop being good to others and never stop doing what’s right.

{{11. NEVER STOP BUILDING YOUR RELATIONSHIP}}

Never stop building a wonderful relationship with that man or woman you love; love is always worth it in the end. Never stop doing the little things to better your relationship.

{{12. NEVER STOP GIVING IT YOUR BEST}}

Life isn’t for the weak hearted and feeble minded; to make the most of this life, you have to give it your best shot. In everything you do, do your best.

Today is the oldest each of us has ever been and the youngest we will ever be again. Today is worth giving it your best shot!!!

{Every employer seek certain qualities they want in an employee; minus being able to deliver and do the job very well, every employer wants to hear the following:}

{{1. PROMISE OF BEING FULLY DEDICATED}}

Every employer loves an employee that would treat the company like it was theirs and would be fully committed to making the organisation better.

{{2. LOYALTY}}

Loyalty is something that’s lacking in today’s business world, and it’s a quality many employers value. While an employer would want to keep a good employee on the long-term, loyalty isn’t only judged on longevity but service and commitment to work.

{{3. TO MEET REQUIRED GOALS}}

Every organisation has goals which are broken down to long-term and short-term goals and every employee is involved in making those goals achievable. Every employer wants result and every employer wants the employee to be productive.

{{4. EXCELLENCE}}

While meeting the required goal is good, going beyond it is excellent, and every employer is secretly looking for excellence and not good or ordinary in an employee.

{{5. TEACHABLE}}

Every employer also wants an employee that’s teachable, correctable and one who would follow the organisation’s rule and policies.

If an employer sees these five qualities in a prospective employee, that employee would most definitely get the job.

{As we get older, we tend not to remember things like we used to but science seems to have found a way to help us fight memory loss.}

A study conducted by researchers at The Manchester University found that having sex increases brain power and memory.

The researchers found this after surveying 1,700 people between the ages of 58 and 98. According to the result of the study, people who were still sexually active have better brain power.

The study also found that a third of women and even more men over the age of 70 still have sex.

So make sure your spouse reads this study. He/she needs to understand that having sex helps the brain.

Have fun tonight with your spouse.

{While it might seem that men cheat more than women, women also do cheat, and there are some emotional characteristics cheating women share.}

These are some traits cheating women have.

{{1. MOST CHEATING WOMEN ARE GOOD LIARS}}

Lying and cheating are a bit similar; they both share the same qualities of being deceitful, dishonest and untrustworthy. A woman who can easily tell a lie would also easily cheat on her man.

{{2. THE OVER-DEMANDING WOMAN}}

The woman who never has it enough is also likely to cheat. This kind of woman always want more; be it attention, money and every other thing — and the more you try, the less she appreciates you. Women like these would easily meet another man to provide their insatiable needs.

{{3. THE FLIRT}}

Some women love the attention, they love to flirt and they just love the attention they get from men. Women like these have men coming for them in their droves, and how hard would it be to then stay faithful.

{{4. THE ONE WHO LOVES FUN}}

Fun is okay, fun is good and it shouldn’t be all work and no fun. But women who are thrill seekers, and who are ready to have fun almost every day of their lives would most likely have an affair with some other guy. The thrill that comes with fun, especially if you aren’t having it with your man can thrill you to cheat.

{{5. THE EXTREMELY JEALOUS}}

Cheating partners also hate to be cheated on; while this isn’t a given, but cheating women would keep their path clean (that is hide their affairs) and scrutinise the life of their man.

{{6. EMOTIONAL UNAVAILABILITY}}

When a woman starts being emotionally unavailable for her man, it could become easier for her to cheat at this point. She’s tired of her relationship/marriage and would easily notice the strengths of another man and the weakness of her man.

While she might be pushed to this point of emotional unavailability by her man, she’s at her weakest at this point.

{{7. SHE’S SECRETIVE}}

A cheating woman knows that there are many skeletons in her closet, so she has a somewhat secretive nature to hide her deeds.

While there might not be definite clues to who a cheating woman is, these traits are easily shared by some cheating women.

{There is a huge enthusiasm that comes with a new relationship but it’s so easy to ruin everything if you make the mistakes in this list.}

Below are 8 mistakes every new couple should avoid making.

{{1. NOT TAKING THINGS SLOW}}

The enthusiasm of being in a new relationship makes lots of new couples make hasty decisions. Learn to take things slow and avoid rushing into things. This period of your relationship isn’t the time to start taking about your ideal wedding and all that. Give your relationship time to grow and become stable.

{{2. OVERSHARING DETAILS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP}}

Oversharing details about the relationship is another blunder most new couples make. Your friends don’t need to know every detail of your relationship. Your friends shouldn’t know intimate details about your relationship, it’s a good idea to have some limits on the things you share.

{{3. BEING TOO CLINGY}}

The excitement of being in a new relationship makes new couples become too clingy and this isn’t good for your relationship. While it’s important you spend time with your partner, you also need time for yourself to do things on your own.

{{4.EXPECTING THE RELATIONSHIP TO BE PERFECT}}

There is no perfect relationship and it’s wrong for you to expect one. Every relationship comes with its own challenges and you should be willing to make it work. Don’t act like the relationship is damaged beyond repair after the first argument.

{{5.FORGETTING YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY EXIST}}

This is a common mistake many new couples make. They pay so much attention to their new relationship and forget their friends and family still exists. While it’s important to pay attention to your new relationship, your new relationship shouldn’t destroy your relationship with your family and friends.

{{6.EXPECTING YOUR PARTNER TO BE YOUR CLONE}}

Just because you are in a relationship with your partner doesn’t mean you should expect them to be your clone. You shouldn’t expect your partner to share your opinion on every subject. You should be more open to each other’s point of view.

{{7.SACRIFICING TOO MUCH TOO SOON}}

Making sacrifices is necessary for a relationship but you shouldn’t make big sacrifices as a new couple. Sacrificing too much too soon is wrong. The big sacrifices can come when you know your partner better.

{{8.IGNORING THE RED FLAGS}}

Many new couples ignore the red flags in their relationship because they are so desperate to remain in the relationship. This is wrong. Don’t ignore the red flags in your relationship hoping it will sort itself out because it won’t.

{Researchers at the University of Chicago and the University of California have discovered that loneliness triggers genetic changes which cause illness and early death.}

The researchers found that loneliness affects the production of white blood cells. It also increases activity in genes which produce inflammation in the body while lowering activity in genes which fight off illness, promoting high levels of inflammation in the body, The Telegraph reports.

According to the study, people who are lonely had a less effective immune response and more inflammation than people who are not lonely.

The researchers warn against living a lonely life as the “danger signals” activated in the brain by loneliness ultimately affects the immune system.

The research was published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.