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{That feeling of not being good enough, of being inadequate, of being lower than everyone else is just a trick of the mind.}

“We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.” — Lori Deschene

When your mind tries to trick you into believing that you aren’t good enough, then you should always remember these:

{{1. You aren’t the only one }}

You would be surprised at how many people who have had such thoughts of being not good enough, and who have gone on to do great things in life just because they didn’t let the thought sink. People have those thoughts every day. So you aren’t the only one; but it’s how you react to it that matters.

{{2. You are special tahn you think }}

You are more talented and special than you think; only if you believe that you are. Muhammad Ali said: “To be a great champion, you must believe that you’re the best. If you are not, pretend you are.”

Muhammad Ali once revealed that at the time when he said “I am the greatest”, he didn’t really believe it, but he wanted to keep saying it so the world believe it. And that’s it; you just have to believe that you are special.

{{3. Chase progression and not perfection }}

A lot of people are chasing perfection, and when they don’t get it, they feel deflated and inadequate. Perfection is an almost impossible (if not an impossible feat to achieve), rather than chase perfection, chase progression.

{{4. Learn from your failures and move on }}

The feeling of not being good enough would mostly arise after failure or disappointment. Failure provides an opportunity to learn; learn from your mistakes and move on. Life isn’t static and wouldn’t wait for anybody.

{{5. Change your thought pattern }}

You need to change the way you think; you ought to push away those negative thoughts and pay no heed to them; this would leave room for positive thoughts.

{{6. You can always do something about your future }}

Your past is gone, and it’s impossible to go back into the past and change what you’ve done. But you can rewrite your past by doing something about your future.

{{7. Work hard on yourself }}

Work hard on your self-worth, your self-esteem and your self-belief; nobody can do that for you apart from you — that’s why they start with ‘self’. And you would never be good enough if you don’t do this.

{{8. How much do you want what you want?}}

Your passion is another useful tool. How much do you really want what you want? Let your passion for what you want, push you to work hard for it, rather than let your mind trick you to believe that you aren’t good enough.

{{9. Never let go of your vision }}

When you lose your vision in life, then your life would just be over. Your vision should be your driving force even when you fail.

{{10. Love yourself more }}

You need a bit of love from yourself when you fail terribly; if you don’t love yourself enough, you might not be able to stand up and face the world again.

{{11. Be grateful }}

It’s so easy to want more, and forget what you really have in the process. Appreciate where you are in life, and be grateful for whatever you’ve achieved. And always remember that someone would easily love to be where you are.

You just have to understand that failures are only lessons that need to be learned in life.

{She has what it takes to be with any man but yet she’s single. So what could be the reason?}

Here are 5 reasons why the prettiest women are single

{{1. Beauty can be intimidating }}

Beauty can be a blessing and a curse too. It’s a blessing because every man wants and worships beautiful women and it’s a curse because being beautiful can also be intimidating.

{{2. Being beautiful makes it difficult to trust }}

Another problem with being so beautiful is that it makes it really difficult to trust a man. It’s difficult for a beautiful woman to know whether he is coming for her good looks or he really wants her for who she really is.

{{3. Most pretty women know what they want }}

Most pretty women know what they want and would never settle for less. She won’t just date any man just because she’s single but will wait to meet a man who is worthy of her beauty.

{{4. Every man believes she already has a man }}

Most man think most beautiful women definitely have a man in their life so this kind of keeps them away. Most men tend to think she is telling a lie if a very beautiful woman says she’s single.

{{5. She isn’t just ready }}

Most women who are very beautiful know their worth and are never in a hurry to be in a relationship. If she’s not ready, she won’t enter a relationship no matter how charming the man is.

{It’s not easy being in a distant relationship, and having to wait for a long time to see that special someone in your life can really be difficult.}

Long distance relationships provide a test for your love and it’s also an important time to work on your individual lives, in spite of the fact that you miss each other.

These survival tips would help you and your partner.

{{1. Keep in touch }}

Communicating with each other in spite of the distance is the only way you can bond with your partner in a distant relationship. Communication is all that you got and it’s the soul of the relationship — never joke with it.

{{2. Tell each other everything }}

At a time when you miss your partner so much, you would really need someone to talk to. Find a buddy in your partner; talk about everything, laugh on the phone together, discuss what’s going on in both your lives and be each other’s support system. This would go a long way.

{{3. Be there for your kids}}

If you have kids, your kids would also miss the parent that’s away, meaning you have a bigger role to play. Don’t complain and grumble; just show them love and support, and be there for them.

{{4. Create time to rest }}

You might be busy with your life, work, chores and the kids. But you should also create time each day to rest. This would really help fight off stress and depression.

{{5. Create time to mediate }}

Create 10 to 15 minutes each day when the house is quiet to observe some peace and quiet; you wouldn’t believe how much meditation would really help you.

{{6. Do things you love }}

Follow your passion, do things you love and just have fun. Time would move so fast when you do this.

{{7. Spend time with family and friends }}

Spend time with people who matter to you; they would provide a strong support group for you at this time.

{{8. Work on yourself }}

When away from your spouse is a good time to work on yourself; develop yourself in your given career, improve certain aspects of your life and work on your flaws; think of those things you do wrong when your partner is around and try to be better.

These eight tips would help better yourself and your relationship with your partner in spite of the distance.

{Women keep secrets, men keep secrets; almost everyone keeps secrets.
}
The kind of secrets men keep differs from the kind women keep, and a lot of the times, men don’t see these things as secrets; they just see it as things they shouldn’t really tell their woman.

See some secrets men keep.

{{1. THAT THEY SEEK ADVICE FROM THEIR FRIENDS}}

A lot of men get to share sensitive things about their relationships with their very close pals, and seek advice when it comes to matters such as sexual issues, financial issues and how to handle certain quarrels with their woman.

{{2. THEIR SEXUAL FANTASIES}}

Almost every man has sexual fantasies, but not every man get to tell their woman about their sexual fantasies.

{{3. THAT THEY LIE SOMETIMES}}

A lot of men tell a simple or even major lie just to keep the peace in their relationship.

{{4. THEY SPEND TIME IN FRONT OF A MIRROR TOO}}

It’s general reasoning that women spend an awfully long amount of time in front of a mirror, but men also spend a lot of time checking themselves out in front of the mirror.

{{5. THEIR LOVE}}

Men tend to lower how much they’re really in love when with other men just to look masculine, even when they know that deep down, they are in love.

{{6. FEARS}}

Men tend to hide their fears just to feel and look masculine in front of their woman.

{{7. HER BAD LOOKS}}

A lot of men don’t know how to tell their woman when their looks aren’t really good, so they just pretend that she looks good and move on, so as not to hurt her feelings.

{{8. SEX ON THE FIRST DATE}}

A lot of men tend to want sex on the first date, even when they put on their gentleman nature.

{{9. SLUTTY WOMEN}}

A part of men really find slutty women attractive and love when their woman can be a bit flirty with only them.

{{10. JEALOUSY}}

Men get jealous and feel insecure too, but try to hide it.

{{11. AFFECTION}}

Men enjoy affection and attention too, just as much as women.

{{12. HER HAPPINESS}}

Men want to make their women happy and they really try to, but most times they don’t know how to.

{{13. ATTRACTION}}

Men want their women to see them as attractive, even when they aren’t, and they twitch when their women see other men as attractive.

Who says men don’t keep secrets too?

{No relationship can survive without compromises. If you want your relationship with your partner to work, you and your partner have to make compromises at times.}

In as much as compromises are important in a relationship, there are certain things women should never compromise in a relationship. It’s important you let your partner know about these things before you marry them. Your partner needs to know your stand.

Below are 5 things a woman should never compromise for a man

{{1. YOUR CAREER}}

A woman shouldn’t compromise on her career just because her man wants her to. Whatever decision you make about your career should be your decision. Your man should love you enough to respect what you’re passionate about and support you. A man who truly loves you won’t kill your career dreams.

{{2. YOUR BODY SIZE}}

It’s sad to note that so many husbands body shame their wives. I see men telling their wives what size she needs to be but they don’t think their wife should tell them what size they need to be. Just as a man’s body size is his business, your wife’s body size should be her business. You shouldn’t compromise your standards of beauty for a man. You should also note that if a man doesn’t love the way you look when they start dating you, you shouldn’t date him.

{{3. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS}}

I see men tell their partner who they should be friends with and who they shouldn’t be friends with. A healthy relationship allows friendships that matter to you. It’s wrong for your man to ask you to quit a friend that has been loyal to you for years. It’s your decision to decide who you become friends with.

{{4. YOUR SELF-RESPECT}}

You shouldn’t compromise on your self-respect just to remain in a relationship. You shouldn’t be with a man who feels he is doing you a favour by dating you. Just because you feel your man is out of your league doesn’t mean you should compromise on your respect to be with him.

{{5. YOUR HAPPINESS}}

You shouldn’t sacrifice the things that make you happy like hobbies and experiences just to remain in a relationship. If you feel the need to suppress the things that make you happy just to remain in a relationship, then you are compromising too much.

{I accept the fact that when in a relationship, you shouldn’t concentrate on your partner’s flaws because no one is perfect but it’s also important every lady understands that there should be a limit to what you should take from your partner in a relationship.}

Love should only be blind when you are in a healthy relationship. It shouldn’t be blind when you are in an unhealthy relationship. If your partner’s flaws affects your self-respect, there is something fundamentally wrong with that relationship.

Below are 7 things no woman should tolerate in a relationship

{{1. FORCED SEX}}

Ladies, no man (husband or boyfriend) should force you into having sex with him. It’s sad to note that some men believe it’s their right to have sex with their wife or girlfriend whether she wants sex or not. Sex should be consensual. No woman should tolerate a man forcing her to have sex with him whether the man is a husband or a boyfriend.

{{2. INFIDELITY}}

No woman should accept any form of cheating from her man. If he truly loves you as he claims, he will never cheat on you. The reason most men continue to cheat is because they are convinced they will be forgiven. No woman should remain with a cheating partner. If he cheats on you once, he will most likely cheat on you again.

{{3. LIES}}

A man who lies for fun shouldn’t be tolerated. A healthy relationship should be open and there should be no room for lies and secrets. No woman should tolerate a man who lies about his health, family background or finances. Move away from such relationships.

{{4. ABUSE}}

No woman should remain with a man who hits her. Physical abuse shouldn’t be tolerated in any relationship. So many women accept their man abusing them verbally and emotionally. This is wrong too. Never accept any form of abuse from your man whether it’s physical, verbal or emotional.

{{5. NOT BEING HIS PRIORITY}}

You shouldn’t remain in a relationship in which you are not your man’s priority. You might not be his priority always as he has other commitments to fulfill but you should be his priority most times.

{{6. CONTROLS YOUR OTHER RELATIONSHIPS
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A healthy relationship accommodates relationships with family and friends. Never tolerate a man who tries to control your relationship with family and friends. Men with such attitudes tend to be abusive. Run away from such men.

{{7. DOESN’T SUPPORT YOUR DREAMS}}

An ideal man should help make you a better version of yourself by supporting your dreams. Never tolerate a man who hates your success and doesn’t respect your dreams. Stay away from men who think women shouldn’t have a successful career. A woman can have a successful relationship and a successful career just as a man.

{Are you thinking of really committing to your partner but you aren’t really sure whether you and your partner are good together as a couple?}

If you and your partner check most of the points listed below, you can be sure you and your partner are meant for each other.

1. When the both of you are in moments of weakness, you both seek the comfort of each other. This is a sign you and your partner are meant for each other.

2. You know you are meant for each other if the both of you are proud of each other and you are both happy to show the world you both are a couple.

3. If you are afraid to disagree with your partner because you think your partner might walk away, then there is something wrong with your relationship. You know you two are meant for each other if the both of you aren’t afraid to disagree with each other. You listen to your partner even when you think your partner is wrong and your partner does same.

4. You know you are meant for each other if you make your partner laugh and your partner also makes you laugh.

5. You know the both of you are meant for each other if your partner makes you a better person and you also make your partner a better person. You both bring out the best in each other.

6. You know you both are meant for each other if you trust your partner enough to tell your partner things you won’t tell anyone else and your partner tells you things he/she won’t tell anyone else.

7. You know you are meant for each other if you respect your partner and don’t try to change your partner and your partner also does the same.

8. You know you are meant for each other if you enjoy imagining a future together with your partner and your partner also enjoys doing the same.

9. You know you are meant for each other if you are willing to compromise so you can work out major differences that can affect your relationship and your partner is also willing to do same.

10. You know you are meant for each other if you can’t stop thinking of your partner because you are super attracted to your partner and your partner also feels the same way about you.

11. You know you are meant for each other if you understand your partner like no one else does and you can say the same about your partner.

12. You know you are meant for each other if you can be your real self when you are around your partner and your partner can also be his/her real self when around you.

The both of you are not conscious of yourself but are really free around each other.

{There is really nothing like a break-up that comes out of the blues. The signs are always there but you probably didn’t decode the signs.}

Here are 15 signs your man is about to break up with you

1. When he’s about to break up with you, he tends to reduce the amount of communication between the both of you. He stops calling and texting as much as he used to.

2. You know your man is about to break up with you when he practically adds nothing when making plans or decisions in the relationship. You find yourself making all the plans in the relationship.

3. Fights in relationships are inevitable but when he is about to quit the relationship, the fights will become frequent and your man will get into an argument over the silliest things.

4. You know your man is about to break up with you if his friends suddenly start avoiding you. Guys tend to discuss their relationship with friends and chances are that he must have told his friends he wants to quit.

5. There used to be a time in your relationship when the both of you were inseparable but these days you don’t feel close to him anymore. This is a sign that he’s about to break up with you.

6. When he’s about to break up with you, it becomes difficult finding a solution to arguments. He knows he wants out so he would frustrate your efforts in trying to find solutions to arguments.

7. You know your man wants out of the relationship if he rarely says “I love you” and even the few times he does, you notice they seem forced and lack purpose and passion.

8. Frequency of sex drops drastically or comes to a halt when he wants to quit the relationship. Your sex life used to be amazing in the past but these days it has become non-existent. He will start giving excuses like “I’m tired”.

9. You know your man wants out of the relationship if he starts spending more time away from you. Asking for time to be alone regularly is a way he uses to distance himself from you and spend less time around you.

10. When your man wants to quit the relationship, he stops making promises and commitments. He doesn’t see a future together with you so he won’t want to make plans with you in it. “Time will tell”, “maybe”, become words he uses regularly to avoid commitments.

11. When he wants to break up with you, you would stop being a priority to him. Everyone around him will be a priority to him except you.

12. When he wants to break up with you, he would stop initiating contact. He only calls because he saw your missed calls and he only sends text messages because he saw your message. If you don’t call him for days, he will hardly bother to call or even text.

13. When he is about to break up with you, conversations become boring and useless. These days it seems like conversations are forced and he rarely makes you laugh.

14. Dates every week was normal in your relationship but these days he rarely wants to go out on a date with you. Weekly dates become monthly. This is a sign he wants out.

15. Is your heart telling you things aren’t the way they used to be? Is your heart telling you to walk away because something is wrong? When you start to have these feelings, you are probably right most times.

{Love is beautiful but love alone cannot keep a relationship. To make your relationship work, there are certain things you must accept.}

Below are 11 things couples in successful relationships accept

1. You need to accept there are certain things in your relationship that you cannot change. There are certain things best left alone.

2. You need to accept your partner will make mistakes sometimes and you will need to accept his/her apology if you want your relationship to work.

3. Do not go into a relationship with the aim of changing your partner. You have to accept your partner is who he/she is and you cannot fix him/her. You fell in love with a certain person, why try fixing it?

4. There will be good times and bad times in your relationship and you have to accept that. You should however ensure there are more good times than bad times in your relationship.

5. You have to accept that your partner won’t always behave the way you want him/her to behave. Your partner is a different person from you and you should accept that.

6. You should accept that you will need to see the world sometimes from your partner’s point of view if you want a successful relationship. It shouldn’t always have to be your way.

7. You can’t have a successful relationship if you are not willing to accept your partner’s past. We all have something we did in the past that we are not proud of. If you can’t live with your partner’s past, it’s better you move on.

8. You also need to accept the fact that your partner would be a mess sometimes. He/she might leave dishes in the sink sometimes, might leave the bed with clothes on it sometimes and things like that. You have to accept this too.

9. You need to accept you can’t always be right. Just because your partner has a different opinion doesn’t mean your partner is wrong.

10. You need to accept people change. While we desire our partner to change for best, they might change for the worst sometimes and it’s up to you to accept the change and live with it or move on.

11. You need to accept your partner if you want your relationship to succeed.

{When it comes to men and sex, there are two distinct categories of men; the ones who reach climax just under a minute and the ones who go longer than expected — probably 20, 30 minutes and over.}

While the men who climax too quickly tend to feel emasculated, the ones who go for extremely long durations tend to feel cocky. Many of the men who climax quickly tend to seek for measures to make them last for extremely long duration — and then we forget the essence of sex and lovemaking in the first place.

Sex, first ought to be pleasurable, romantic, affectionate and bonding; but all these have been forgotten, and emphasis is now placed on the duration — which brings me to this topic – when does sex become too long?

According to a research, between 7 and 13 minutes is when most couples were completely satisfied from a single round of sex. This could mean that anything extremely above this duration could be too long.

Yes, it’s possible for sex to be too long and it varies from couple to couple. Like every other thing, good sex requires proper time management, passion, skill and foreplay — emphasis on time management.

When one partner stops enjoying intercourse after a period of time, it means that the sex has become long. When tiredness starts to step in, it means the sex is becoming long. When the passion fades off, it means the sex has become long. There is no specific time to say sex has become long, but when these acts above come to fore, then it means that the sex has become too long.

Couples (men especially) should seek for quality and pleasure rather than going all out for longevity. The longer sex is doesn’t mean the more pleasurable it would be.