Category: Social

{When a man starts showing signs of withdrawal, it’s best to curb it at that early stage or it might become difficult to draw him back to you.}

We’ve brought a previous article on the reasons men withdraw; this article would show you just how to stop him from withdrawing from you.

These five tips are important.

{{1. Don’t fidget }}

Don’t get paranoid, don’t fidget, don’t choke him; just remain calm and confident that he’s passing through a bad patch and would return to you.

Choking up on him or becoming paranoid would only make matters worse.

{{2. Learn to communicate with him effectively }}

Effective communication is highly important at this stage. Try to communicate with him without feeling aggressive or controlling. Communicate with him like you actually care. Sometimes, you could use your actions rather than words to even communicate with him.

{{3. Be independent }}

Learn to be independent of him at this stage. Being totally dependent on him might put added pressure on him and make him withdraw the more. Live your life, do things you ought to do, go about your normal duties — but still show him that you care and you would be there for him whenever he needs you.

{{4. Try to help}}

If he’s being stressed at work or going through a bad patch, help in any way that you can. If you can’t do anything about the situation, just try to be his cheerleader and be positive about the situation.

{{5. Make him feel appreciated }}

If he feels withdrawn because he isn’t feeling loved and appreciated, then it’s even a simple case. Give him enough attention, make him feel appreciated and show that you value him; he would turn around pretty soon.

Don’t let his feeling of withdrawal last a long time; he might fall out of love before you know it.

{Every man wants his equipment down there to go hard when it’s time to get down with his partner, we all hate it when it disappoints. It kills a man’s ego. Every man wants his junk ready for action when needed.}

Do you know there are some habits you might have that could be a threat to your erection? Why don’t you know them now and curb them so you would have a healthy erection.

I have got five habits that could be detrimental to your erection and you should reduce any or stop totally if you have any of the habits.

Below are the five habits

{{1. Smoking }}

Do you smoke? If you have always needed a good reason to quit smoking, then you have found one. Smoking damages the lining of your blood vessels. When the lining of your blood vessels are damaged, it affects the smooth muscle in your junk and inhibits blood from flowing in. So quit the nicotine addiction for the sake of your erection and your partner will be happy you did.

{{2.Lack of sleep}}

Lack of sleep can affect your erection. When you don’t sleep much, the free testosterone that isn’t bound by protein is affected. This then affects your erection. So please, try getting more sleep for a better erection.

{{3. Placing your laptop over the junk }}

I know it’s called a laptop but I would prefer if you place it far away from your junk or just place it on a hard surface. We all know laptops generate a lot of heat and that isn’t good for your erection. Too much heat on the testicles can affect your T production which then affects your ability to get hard.

{{4. Cheating on your partner }}

The ladies would love this part. The guilt you get from cheating on your partner can affect your erection. That guilt you get from cheating might turn into anxiety and it could affect your ability to get hard. When anxiety creeps in, it produces chemical changes in the brain that attack your ability to get hard. The release of neurotransmitters which are in charge of stimulating an erection could also be affected by anxiety.

{{5. Alcohol }}

Heavy drinking can affect your performance with your partner, so I suggest you drink moderately. You should also not forget that alcohol is a depressant. So when you consume too much alcohol, the chances of you getting an erection are reduced and you also suffer from exhaustion. So watch your alcohol intake.

Your partner needs you to be ready for her whenever she needs you; you better protect your erection for the sake of your relationship.

{Most guys would give the world for ladies to go down on them and I mean it when I say the world. While some ladies would never go down on a man, some are so good at it.}

Have you guys ever paused to think what could be going through her head as she is working on you down there?

I have got 8 things most women think of when giving a guy a head. Let’s get a little naughty, enjoy this piece

{{1. How do I start this?}}

I bet most ladies have done this. Some would frown when asking this question while others just keep a straight face. This is one silent question every woman has asked in such moments.

{{2. Jeez,he’s so big }}

That moment she brings his stuff out of his trousers and screams silently. Most start comparing the size to the size of the other guy, LOL.

{{3. I wonder why he likes it }}

Yeah they do this. Most ladies wonder why guys love them going down; Why don’t you just ask him to get his answer, LOL.

{{4. What if he comes in my mouth?}}

Most ladies are worried about the guy coming in their mouth, LOL. Some would even tell him to let them know when he is about to, LOL.

{{5. I need him to come quick }}

Some ladies wish they could just fast-forward the whole process so they could be done with it, LOL.

{{6. Hope I don’t choke? }}

LOL, no you won’t dear. I bet you most ladies have asked this question at least once

{{7. Hope he likes it?}}

This bothers most girls a lot. Sometimes they feel they are not good at it and worry themselves too much. Maybe his Ex did it better. LOL.

{{8. My jaw hurts,can we just stop this }}

LOL, don’t deny it ladies, you also ask this too.

Hope you enjoyed this? It’s nice to be naughty sometimes you know.

{Fathers play a surprisingly large role in their children’s development, from language and cognitive growth in toddlerhood to social skills in fifth grade, according to new findings from Michigan State University scholars.}

The research provides some of the most conclusive evidence to date of fathers’ importance to children’s outcomes and reinforces the idea that early childhood programs such as Head Start should focus on the whole family, including mother and father alike. The findings are published online in two academic journals, Early Childhood Research Quarterly and Infant and Child Development.

“There’s this whole idea that grew out of past research that dads really don’t have direct effects on their kids, that they just kind of create the tone for the household and that moms are the ones who affect their children’s development,” said Claire Vallotton, associate professor and primary investigator on the research project. “But here we show that fathers really do have a direct effect on kids, both in the short term and long term.”

Using data from about 730 families that participated in a survey of Early Head Start programs at 17 sites across the nation, the researchers investigated the effects of parents’ stress and mental health problems such as depression on their children. Parental stress and mental health issues affect how parents interact with their children and, subsequently, childhood development.

The study found that fathers’ parenting-related stress had a harmful effect on their children’s cognitive and language development when the children were 2 to 3 years old, even when the mothers’ influences were taken into account. This impact varied by gender; fathers’ influence, for example, had a larger effect on boys’ language than girls’ language.

Another key finding: Fathers’ and mothers’ mental health had a similarly significant effect on behavior problems among toddlers. Further, fathers’ mental health had a long-term impact, leading to differences in children’s social skills (such as self-control and cooperation) when the children reached fifth grade. In fact, fathers’ depression symptoms when children were toddlers were more influential on children’s later social skills than were mothers’ symptoms.

In sum, the findings contribute to the small but growing collection of research affirming the effects of fathers’ characteristics and father-child relationship qualities on children’s social development, rather than just the fathers’ residence in the home or presence in the child’s life, according to the paper published in Early Childhood Research Quarterly.

Tamesha Harewood, lead author on the paper in Infant and Child Development, said fathers, in addition to mothers, should be included in parenting research and family-intervention programs and policies.

“A lot of family-risk agencies are trying get the dad more involved, but these are some of the things they could be missing,” said Harewood, a researcher in MSU’s Department of Human Development and Family Studies. “When the agency is talking with the dad, it’s not just about providing for your child economically, but also to be there for your child, to think about how stress or depression might be influencing your child. In order to understand and help children in their development, there needs to be a comprehensive view of the whole family, including both mom and dad.”

{Friends are very important. Infact science has found that people without friends are more likely to die an early death.}

Choosing your friends wisely is also important because some friends are just annoying and come with problems.

Here are 6 kinds of friends no man needs in his life

{{1. The friend who is always broke }}

We all get broke sometimes but it’s a problem if you are broke all the time. Having a friend who is broke all the time is a no, no. You have your own life to live and you just can’t spend all your time fixing his problems. No man needs a friend who is always broke to buy himself a bottle of beer and expects you to buy him a bottle always.

{{2. The fiend who tries to sleep without our girlfriend }}

Some guys are just goats in human skin. Why will my friend want to sleep with my girlfriend? There is no point having a friend I can’t trust with my girlfriend. Guys who go behind you to flirt with your girlfriend aren’t worthy to be called friends.

{{3. The friend who is always drunk }}

Getting drunk as teenagers was cool but we can’t continue that lifestyle as adults. No man needs a friend who does nothing with his spare time but drink. While drinking sometimes isn’t bad, we should also use our free time as friends to do something productive.

{{4. The friend who will never help you out in time of need }}

A friend who can’t help me out when I am in need shouldn’t be called my friend. Some guys are just annoying. They will prefer to buy you bottles of beer than help you out when you are in need. A friend who is there for you when you are in need is a friend indeed.

{{5. The friend who gossips }}

The problem with having a friend who gossips about other people with you is that they will most likely talk about you with others. I always thought gossiping was for ladies but it seems guys are catching up real quick. No man needs a friend who gossips.

{{6. The friend who never checks on you }}

I expect my friend to check on me from time to time just as I do same. A friend who never calls me to check on me isn’t considered a friend. Some guys would never call to check on you. The only time they call is probably when they need a favour from you.

{Life is a gift; it wasn’t paid for, it wasn’t earned, and it should be highly appreciated. Many live their lives complaining rather than be grateful, they choose to be remain indifferent to this gift.}

There are so many things to love about this gift called life.

{{1. Love }}

Love is one of life’s greatest gifts; either it’s from a partner, a friend or from family, love is a gift. If you have love in your life, and you love someone and you are being loved in return, you should appreciate that.

{{2. Family }}

Family is another gift that shouldn’t be taken for granted. With family comes a strong bond, and family is just so important in this place called earth. I wouldn’t even imagine a world without family.

{{3. Friends }}

There are friends that even turn to be family. Friends share in your world; they share in your good and bad times, and they make one’s life happy.

{{4. Nature }}

Nature is beautiful; mountain, rocks, oceans, trees and everything that encompasses nature. Nature is just so beautiful and should really be appreciated.

{{5. People }}

The world is a universal place, and the people in it create a network. Imagine a world with so few people or with just you in it; it wouldn’t be a beautiful place to be in. If people can only tolerate themselves and just appreciate the essence of having each other, the world be better. A life without people isn’t really life.

{{6. Happiness }}

Joy, happiness, laughter, smiles make life a worthy gift. Being happy is a gift money can’t buy. The fact that you can be happy and can make someone else happy makes life special.

{{7. The opportunity to start again }}

As far as you are alive, you have an opportunity to start again. Don’t let failure weigh you; you can always start again. And this is a gift of life that many take for granted.

{{8. The fa that nothing is permanent }}

Change is a constant thing in life; you can always change what you don’t like, and you can always be who you want to be.

{{9. A heart }}

The ability to love, the ability to care, and the ability to feel compassion makes life worth it.

10. The ability to help someone and affect someone’s life is a beautiful thing, and it’s one you can only experience in this gift called life.

If you think life isn’t a gift that should be appreciated because you feel times are hard or that things are going against you, you need to have a rethink.

{There are some predictors that could tell your marriage is heading towards divorce; these predictors are predators. If given a chance they would ruin your marriage and make it difficult to fix.}

These are some of those predictors you shouldn’t let in.

{{1. Contempt }}

A four decade study done by John Gottman found that contempt is a huge predictor of divorce. When you start to despise your partner, then that’s contempt. And contempt could totally ruin the love in your marriage and shouldn’t be given a chance.

{{2. Retaliation }}

Retaliation is another predictor and predator that could harm your marriage. When couples start to retaliate everything they do wrong to each other, it wouldn’t take long for hate to overshadow the love.

{{3. Grudges and being unforgiving }}

Keeping of grudges is a huge divorce predator, but when it reaches the point of being unforgiving, then your marriage is getting into trouble. Forgiveness is a vital marriage essential, and when it’s lacking, your marriage would easily lead to divorce.

{{4. You stop having sex }}

Don’t underestimate the importance of sex in marriage. When you stop having sex, especially as a young couple, your marriage could suffer. Sex and intimacy help couples bond, and when this bond is lacking, it’s a sign that your marriage is unhealthy.

{{5. Negative thoughts }}

Never let negative thoughts about your partner to cloud your mind; this is a divorce predator, and if you let those negative thoughts into your heart, it would definitely be a predictor that your marriage is divorce bound.

Your thoughts end up controlling what you do. If you start seeing just the bad in your partner, it wouldn’t be long when you would get fed up of that partner.

{{6. Thinking of an affair }}

When you start thinking of having an affair or start seeing someone else as good replacement for your partner, either sexually or emotionally, then you’re letting a huge divorce predictor in on purpose.

{{7. You fight over silly things }}

This is a huge predictor of divorce. When you don’t try to solve those little problems, rather you let selfish thinking and pride come between you and your partner, you are purposefully letting in a huge divorce predator without knowing it.

Having a beautiful marriage is a beautiful thing, but if you want to enjoy your marriage, you shouldn’t let these divorce predictors and predators in your home.

{When I say ‘skills’, I don’t mean it as in driving or stuff like that; I’m talking about those little things that you can try at home to make your life better. On my list today, I have 8 interesting ones, so check them out, and thank me later!}

1. Did you know that you can use a spring to keep your charger from getting damaged around the charging neck? How? Simply get a spring from an old pen you no longer use, and put it around the charging neck of your charger. This will give it some balance, and keep it from breaking, and getting damaged.

2. Smelly shoes? No problem! To get rid of that awful smell in your shoes, simply put a dry tea bag in them, leave it for a bit, and watch it work like magic; it’ll remove the smell, and leave your shoe smelling a lot better. Tea bags are great when it comes to absorbing moisture, and that is what is responsible for the bad smell in your shoes. You can also use the peeled off leaf of an orange or other citrus fruits to do this.

3. Is your microwave too small to contain 2 plates at a go? You can solve the space issues. To do this, after you put one plate inside, simply look for a tin with a lesser diameter and height (not lesser than what can carry your second plate), then place the second plate on the tin. Since the microwave works on a rotating principle, the rotation on the tin is transferred to the plate and space is conserved.

4. Is your laptop having heat isuues? Do this! Get an empty egg crate, and put your laptop on top of it every time you use it. This will not only create more room for air to enter the laptop, it’d also stop it from overheating, since egg crates are made from a material that repels heat.

5. Did you know that you can use an old newspaper to solve the liquid problem with your waste bin? Well, it’s easy, just place an old newspaper at the bottom of the waste bin, and watch it absorb all that liquid from the waste you drop in there.

6. Tough stains in your WC? Just pour some coke in the toilet, leave it for a couple of hours, flush, and watch it cleaned thoroughly. Coke has some acidic content that allows it remove tough stains.

7. Are you a heavy sleeper and you find it difficult to respond to calls and alarm when they go off? This method should help you solve that problem. Get an empty glass cup, set your phone alarm, and put it inside, when the alarm goes off, it’ll be much louder.

8. Do you have access to too many ‘unwanted’ plastic spoons? Instead of disposing of them, why not make something out of them… like a plastic lamp? It’s not hard, I’ll show you how.

Get a big bottle jar (should be plastic too), cut only the broad end with a knife, then move to the collection of spoons, cut the handle of each individual spoon and apply a tint of liquid gum at the broader end of the spoon. You can now start placing the spoon just around the tasty-time jar from bottom to top making sure that each spoon placed overlaps each other as you move towards the hollow neck, leave it to dry, then get a bulb (Bulb colour as you wish) with a lamp holder on a vertical support. Cover the bulb with the dried firm spoon catologue. There you have it, your Own Plastic Spoon Lamp.

Didn’t I say you’d thank me after reading that? Now, practice away, and see for yourself! Don’t forget to share.

{Even when a man loves you and wants to have a relationship with you, there are certain simple things he expects from you.}

A lot of women are oblivious of these things; but really, your man would appreciate you better when you do these simple things.

These are the simple things he expects from you.

{{1. To be more understanding }}

Your man expects you to be a bit more understanding; he sees you as an important person in his life, much more than other women, and he expects that extra bit of understanding from you, even when others won’t.

{{2. To be supportive }}

If there is anyone your man would want to have his back; it’s his lady which he cares so much for. He expects you to be supportive of him and to be there for him at all times — both the bad and the good.

{{3. To believe in him }}

He might not tell you this, but he expects you to believe in him, even when he wouldn’t believe in himself. He wants you to have that extra faith in him, and he would really appreciate this.

{{4. To stop getting angry over little things }}

Your man expects you to tolerate his excesses. He knows he could be a handful at times; but he expects you to be more tolerating and to stop nagging over every thing he does.

{{5. To him appreciate}}

Your man wants you to appreciate him; he wants you to appreciate the little things he does for you as much as you appreciate the big ones. He wants you to love him sincerely and appreciate his role in your life.

{{6. To be sexy for him}}

Every man expects his lady to look good, to look sweet and to also look sexy for him. He doesn’t want you to stop being sexy or beautiful because you’ve won his heart; he wants you to be full of surprises.

{{7. To thrill him }}

He also wants you to thrill him; he wants that element of surprise from you. It could be by preparing him a special dish, by spicing up things in bed, getting him a gift, taking him on a date when he least expects.

{{8. Value his opinion}}

He expects you to value his opinion, even though you may not agree with everything he says, or you might be at loggerheads with him over some issues; he just wants to feel valued — at all times.

{{9. Give him attention }}

Women want attention, and men also want attention; the only difference is that women are more vociferous about this than men. He wants your attention, and he wants to know that he’s desired.

Even though he might not tell you these, these are what he wants from you.

{It is generally believed that women who have more sexual partners before marriage are more likely to get a divorce when they get married.}

A 2016 study agrees with the fact premarital sex can increase the likelihood of divorce but the study claims there are exceptions to the rule.

According to the findings from the research from the University of Utah, women who had more than 10 sexual partners before marriage had an increased likelihood of getting a divorce. The study also found women who had just two partners before marriage also show an increase in divorce rates.

Now this is where the study even gets more interesting.The study also found that the lowest rate of divorce was found among women who had between three and nine premarital partners.

According to the lead author of the study, Nicholas H. Wolfinger, the highest five-year divorce rate in the research was associated with women having more than 10 sexual partners.

So how many premarital sexual partners have you had? Do you believe not having premarital sex remains the best solution to having a fulfilled marriage?