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{While a lot of long distance relationships fail, those that survive the distance can truly claim to be in love.}

Even though being in a long distance relationship means you will be lonely sometimes, being in a long distance relationship can actually help bring out the strength in your relationship.

Here are 9 reasons why a long distance relationship is worth the distance

{{1. You learn to trust }}

No relationship can survive without trust and being in a long distance relationship teaches you how to trust. If you can survive the lonely moments and doubts created by the distance, you will have a solid relationship built on trust.

{{2. You have a legit reason to travel }}

Being in a long distance relationship gives you a legit reason other than work to travel. Visiting each other is important when in a long distance relationship and you now have a good reason to travel because you need to be with your partner.

{{3. You will know the importance of communication }}

Being in a long distance relationship will teach you the importance of communication in a relationship. Communication holds every relationship and it’s even so true in a long distance relationship.

{{4. You get to miss your partner }}

You might wonder how this is a good thing. When you miss your partner because of their absence, you will value his/her presence when you are together with your partner. Your partner will seem like gold to you when you finally see your partner.

{{5. You have space to do things you like }}

Another reason being in a long distance relationship is really worth it is that you have the space to do the things you like. You will get the freedom of doing the things you always wanted to do alone. You won’t get to complain about your partner being clingy.

{{6. You will know the importance of gifts }}

When in a long distance relationship, you will have to form the habit of sending gifts to your partner so he/she will know he/she is constantly in your mind. When in a long distance relationship, you appreciate the little things which matters a lot in a relationship.

{{7. Your relationship isn’t based on sex }}

Long distance relationships are worth it because your relationship isn’t based on sex. It’s easy to confuse lust and love when you are having regular sex with someone but you won’t experience this when you are in a long distance relationship. Being in a long distance relationship helps you understand that there are more important things in a relationship than sex.

{{8. Every meeting is special }}

One disadvantage of being in a relationship with someone you see everyday is that it becomes easy for your relationship to get stale. When you are in a long distance relationship, this isn’t the case because every meeting with your partner is special.

{{9. You become good with words }}

One good thing you learn from being in a long distance relationship is that you become good with words. You become more poetic as you try to penetrate your partner’s heart with your words.

{Most men have these fantasies in their head and they don’t just know how to let their woman know it. While for some men, it’s no big deal letting their woman know, others just don’t know how to relay their thoughts to their woman.}

You could be having amazing sex with your partner but chances are that he might probably have some ideas in his head and he just doesn’t know how to let you know about it.

Below are 4 things your man wants but is just too afraid to ask

{{1. YOUR MAN ALSO WANTS TO BE CUDDLED}}

Men never stop being babies no matter how old they are and it’s a fact. Even the most powerful man still wants his woman to treat him like a baby sometimes. LOL. It’s always the women that get to be cuddled but sometimes men wish the gesture could be returned. Most men want to be cuddled by their woman but they just don’t know how to say it. LOL.

{{ 2. YOUR MAN WISHES YOU COULD BE MORE CREATIVE IN BED}}

For some women, it’s either missionary or no sex and some men wish they could tell them to be more creative without hurting her feelings. Men also want their women to take the initiative sometimes and just surprise them.

{{3. YOUR MAN WISHES YOU COULD BE AGGRESSIVE SOMETIMES IN BED}}

While your man knows he needs to be the man in bed, sometimes he just wish you could dominate in bed and be more aggressive. You can’t blame your man for not asking because he is worried you might think it is degrading. He doesn’t know how you would take so he is probably afraid to ask.

{{4. YOUR MAN WISHES YOU COULD TALK DIRTY SOMETIMES}}

I know most ladies hate dirty talking in bed but you would be amazed to know your man just wish you could do that sometimes. Sometimes he just needs that side of you and he doesn’t know how to let you know. You won’t blame him for not asking because he is worried you might not see it the way he sees it.

He might also wish for other things not on this list as most men have different desires but it’s advisable you discuss it with your man. Let him know you won’t feel bad about it because he is worried he might lose you if he tells you his fantasies.

The best way to go about this is to share your desires with each other and let each other know how far you can go for each other.

Have a wonderful sex life with your man.

{In many homes, the romance tends to die when kids start coming; but it shouldn’t be so. Kids should be a blessing to the home and not divide couples apart.
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Both partners are responsible for keeping the romance alive even after the babies start coming. These tips below would help.

1. NO ONE SHOULD BE CHEATED

To keep the romance alive, both partners have to work and not leave the other to do everything. With babies and kids come a lot of responsibilities, and when all the chores are being left for one partner, that partner would start feeling cheated.

It usually starts with the feeling of being cheated; this could create a divide between both partners and in turn kill the romance.

2. DO THINGS TOGETHER

Doing things together is a good way to keep the romance alive. Togetherness would make you and your partner fond of each other, and that’s all it takes to keep the romance alive.

3. PRIORITIZE DATE NIGHTS

Date nights should never be joked with; couples who take date nights seriously tend to have a better marriage. Having regular date nights would keep the fire burning and make you and your partner fond of each other and more in love with each other.

4. MAKE TIME FOR SEX

Sex is still important; when your sex life starts to suffer, your romance would gradually become affected. With babies coming in, it’s so easy to forget about sex; but this isn’t healthy. Still create time for sex, and watch your romance come alive.

5. SPOIL EACH OTHER

When couples start having kids, they tend to spoil their kids and shower them with love and affection, and then forget to do so for each other. That’s totally wrong.

Spoil each other with gifts and treats; shower each other with love and affection. Never joke with this tip; things like this would remind you why you fell in love with each other.

6. BE A DAD/MUM AND A HUSBAND/WIFE

You have a role as a parent and you also have a role to play as spouses; don’t play your role as a parent and forget to play your role as a husband/wife.

7. FLIRT WITH EACH OTHER

Flirting isn’t for unmarried couples alone; don’t forget to flirt with each other, look sexy for each other and entice each other. Maintaining that desire even after having kids would go a long way in keeping the romance alive.

8. BE ON THE SAME PARENTING PAGE

Don’t see each other as a competition; it’s things like these that cause troubles between couples, and this would eventually kill the romance.

Try to be on the same parenting page, work as a team, understand each other and iron out differences on time — and watch your romance spike.

It’s important to keep the romance alive because once it dies, so many other things would suffer. The success of a home depends on this; plus your kids are also watching; it would be easier for them to love each other when the parents love each other.

{To cultivate a healthy and lasting friendship, there are certain qualities you should have.}

Here are 9 qualities of a good friend

{{1. A good friend is honest }}

A good friend is honest and speaks openly from the heart. A good friend won’t say something when with you and say something else behind you.

{{2. A good friend is indispensable }}

A good friend is dependable and will never let you down. A good friend is someone you can always count on and someone who is willing to stand up for you.

{{3. A good friend is non-judgmental }}

A good friend won’t judge the choices you make, regardless of how these choices may differ from theirs.

{{4. A good friend is loyal }}

Loyalty is a trait a good friend has. A good friend is loyal, won’t let others criticize you and won’t gossip about you.

{{5. A good friend will always support you }}

A good friend won’t be supportive only in good times; a good friend will also support you in bad times.

{{6. A good friend is fun to be with }}

A good friend isn’t someone who is always negative but is someone whose company you will always enjoy. A good friend always sees the positive side of life.

{{7. A good friend shows empathy }}

A good friend always knows when his/her friend isn’t feeling okay because a good friend tries to understand what is going on with a friend.

{{8. A good friend listens }}

A good friend understands the importance of communication and values it too. A good friend understands communication isn’t effective only when we talk but it becomes effective when we listen. A good friend listens.

{{9. A good friend is trustworthy }}

A good friend is someone you can trust when you are vulnerable. A good friend is someone you can be real with.

To develop a meaningful and lasting friendship, you need to have these qualities.

{Men get easily tired of a relationship; sometimes it’s not because they want to but because their lady do things that leave them frustrated. Women sometimes are unaware of the fact that certain characters they exhibit would only push their man off the relationship.}

One sure thing about a man getting tired of a relationship is that it gradually happens; it builds slowly till the man can’t take it anymore. When a man becomes tired of his lady, he easily gets tired of being with her and hardly anything she does would be pleasing to him.

Alright ladies, it’s time to step into a man’s shoes, know how he thinks and what he hates so you can salvage your relationship.

{{1. Nagging }}

You would hardly see a man who wouldn’t get tired of a woman that nags. Nagging is the most irritating character any woman can possess. Any woman that nags would definitely find it hard to keep a man. Nagging would gradually push your man out of the house, probably to bars, pubs and even other women.

{{2. Comparisons }}

No man would love to be compared to another man and surprisingly ladies always use this to take a dig at their man. Comparisons are quite frustrating and it passes a message that you think the other man is better than your man. Constantly comparing your man to others would kill the feelings he has for you.

{{3. Being unappreciative }}

Many women only appreciate big things and complain about or not appreciate the little things her man does. Complains and not being appreciative go hand in hand and this can make a man tired of a woman; if you appreciate a man for what he does, he would see you as an angel but if you don’t, he wouldn’t hesitate to deem you expendable.

{{4. When you become too clingy }}

Sometimes you need to let your man know your worth; being too clingy is a sign of a woman that’s too dependent on a man. Sometimes men need their space and when you are too clingy, it could just be frustrating.

{{5. Not understanding }}

When a woman doesn’t understand her man it can make the relationship rocky. Men love it when their partner is understanding; a woman who doesn’t understand her man would criticise his every action and this can gradually turn love to hate.

{{6. Too busy for your man }}

Men hate it when a woman is too clingy and they also hate when a woman is too busy; creating a balance between both would keep your man on track. A Reddit user complained of how her husband did a spread sheet of the number of times she refused having sex with him; it was clear that the disgruntled husband got frustrated that his wife was just too busy for him; create time for your man else it might lead to so many unwarranted problems.

{{7. Being bossy }}

Only few men would stand a bossy woman. A bossy woman does what she wants and also wants her man to do only what she wants. Most women with this trait don’t even know they have it, they try to subdue their man without knowing and this can get him tired of her. There should always be the balance between what a man wants and what a woman wants and only understanding can make that happen; a bossy woman doesn’t understand her man.

Like I pointed out earlier, when a man is tired of a woman, he would get easily frustrated at her and hardly anything she does would be pleasing to him.

Ladies, take note.

{You would understand your man better when he opens up to you. A lot of women feel that men don’t have emotions, but that isn’t true; men also feel, they have emotions, but they express it different from women.}

What you do, what you say and how you react could make your man open up to you or worse still, keep afar off from you.

These are some useful tips that would make him open up more to you.

{{1. Understand that men and women express their emotions differently}}

First, you need to understand that men and women express their emotions in different ways. While women tend to be more open about how they feel and certain things going on in their lives, men tend to guard their hearts more.

A research found that men are much more emotional than women, just that men are better at hiding their emotions. Understanding this would help you in your approach to getting him to open up to you.

{{2. Make him feel comfortable with you }}

For a man to open up to you, he has to feel safe with you, he has to be comfortable and at ease with you. If he doesn’t feel comfortable with you, he would never share his feelings or concerns with you.

Are you in a relationship where your man doesn’t open up to you? Making him feel comfortable with you is a step in the right direction.

{{3. Be calm }}

Calmness is also an important quality that would make him feel safe and open up to you. Forget about being judgmental, forget about what has happened in the past; just be calm. Losing your temper wouldn’t help your cause.

If he starts opening up to you, you need to remain calm; watch how you respond and what you say, because he’s noticing your reactions.

{{4. Be a good listener }}

He wants you to listen to him, he wants to have your attention, and listening to him thoroughly would make him open up more.

When listening to him, make him feel heard, make him feel understood and make him feel accepted.

{{5. Be his companion }}

A man would easily share his opinions with you when you are his companion rather than when you are up on his neck. Do things for him, do things together with him, be a shoulder for him to lean on, and you would get him to open up.

{{6. Let him know that he’s respected
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Show him love, care and respect. Don’t nag him, ridicule him or insult him. When your man knows that he’s loved and respected, it would make him to open up more.

{{7. Show your kind side }}

He wants to know that you still have that kind heart; showing him your kind side would make him open up better to you.

Getting your man to open up to you depends on what you do and how you do it; if you go about it the wrong way, he would never open up to you.

{There’s a popular notion that there’s a freak in everybody. Sometimes, even the most reserved woman can turn out to be the one with the craziest thoughts and fantasies about sex, but then, due to their nature, they sometimes, would rather not reveal that part of them unless someone pushes them.}

However, to be able to bring out that part of a woman, you need to have a good knowledge of what they really want. This is why I want to reveal to you 3 of the types of sex they enjoy. Take a look and thank me later.

{{1. Spontaneous sex }}

It’s fine to have a sex timetable or arrangement with your woman, but sometimes, it’s better to just lose yourself in the moment and enjoy it. There’s something different about an “out of nowhere” sex. You know, the type of sex you don’t plan, but it happens anyway. You can be in the kitchen talking and cooking, and all of a sudden, you engage in a steamy session; she would be wowed, and that would keep her yearning for you. This sort of sex has an element of surprise in it, and that is healthy for a relationship.

{{2. Sensual sex }}

You don’t always have to prove how tough and domineering you are in bed, it’s good to sometimes take things from the soft, gentle and romantic angle. Buy candles if you have to, buy flowers for the bed, pour honey on her skin, anything that screams romance; it would make her feel loved and important.

So there guys, go on and fulfill her sexual fantasies.

{What you say would affect your relationship more than you know. Every partner longs to be told sweet things, and there are some things you say that would make your partner fall in love with you the more, feel loved and appreciated, and in turn make your relationship better.}

These sweet words would make your partner swoon.

{{1. You mean a lot to me }}

Surely, everyone wants to mean so much to their partner. Telling your partner this would make them feel special.

{{2. I’m proud of you }}

Everyone needs someone that would be proud of them; someone who would be amazed at what they have done, the efforts they have put in and how far they have come.

{{3. I love being with you }}

Telling your partner that you love being with him/her is another special thing that your partner would love to hear. This would make their presence feel worth it.

{{4. I’m sorry }}

Your partner also wants you to apologise when you’re wrong. This is a difficult thing for most people, but it’s one every partner would love to hear.

{{5. You are charming }}

Telling your partner how beautiful or good-looking they are is another sweet thing your partner would love to hear. Your partner wants to be seen as charming, beautiful/handsome by you.

{{6. You look good in that dress}}

This is a lovely compliment that your partner would love to hear.

{{7. You make me better }}

This is probably one of the sweetest words you can tell your partner. Words like this would make your partner want to be better for you.

{{8. You make me happy }}

This would also make your partner happy. If your partner makes you happy, why don’t you tell that person? Your partner would even want to do more.

If your partner is away from you, your partner wants to be missed. Your partner would feel special when they know they are missed.

{{10. You are the best }}

Telling that special someone that he/she is the best is same as telling your special someone that no one can take you away from them.

{{11. I’d always be there for you}}

This is the most supportive thing you can tell your partner, and your partner wants to know that you would always have their back.

Build your relationship with these sweet words. If you have a partner that’s deserving of these words, then you should tell them.

{Sometimes it’s so difficult to turn your woman and you begin to wonder if it’s really that difficult to turn a woman on or maybe your woman might just be having issues.}

It’s easy to turn a man on, the woman doesn’t need to be a pro but it’s so different with ladies. Unlike a man that needs pushing few buttons to turn him on (sometimes just undress and your man is on. LOL), a woman needs more to get her in the mood for some action.

If you need some action tonight and you need some few tips on how to turn your woman on, you should read this.

1. Tell her why you love her. Don’t try stealing some lines you heard on a movie. Your woman is unique and there should be some reasons why you fell for her.

2. Make her anticipate the things you want to do to her. Whisper into her ears the ways you plan rocking her tonight.

3. Give her a good unending hug. Let her know you don’t plan ending the hug. She should be the one to end it.

4. How about some ice effect. Move some ice cubes along her neck, nipples and inner thigh. You can substitute it with a chilled grape or apple. She would love this as cold is sensed by more nerve endings than mere touch.

5. Shower with her and rub the lather gently on her. She won’t just feel the lather on her body, she would also feel the firm caresses of your hands.

6. Give her a good massage.

7. Ask her to tell you the things she wants you to do to her. But you should first start with a kiss and then tell her you wouldn’t do anything else but kiss until she tells you what else she wants you to do to her.

8. Pour chocolate syrup or fruits all over all body while you leak it up.

9. Leave love notes around the house. The kitchen, the fridge, on the TV, on the bed and any other around the house you can think of.

10. Buy her new lingerie and ask her to change into it.

Why don’t you turn her on tonight with these tips and feel like a pro.

{If you are a lady, you should read this and if you are a guy, you also need to read this so you would know questions never to ask your woman.}

I am not against being transparent and open in a relationship, in fact every relationship needs transparency. But if we want to tell ourselves the truth, there are times when we need to hold back some truths if we want our relationship to work. I know some people would disagree with me on this but I really think there are certain things a woman should keep to herself. Just because I said you should keep certain things to yourself is no reason not to tell your man things he needs to know.

Below are five things every lady should never tell their man

{{1. Never confess you lied }}

Okay so you lied once in the past and you just feel he should know the truth now. I just think you should let the lie remain in the past and try not to tell another lie. Your man might start thinking you lie about everything and that isn’t right for your relationship. Men love to think their woman is a saint who would never lie to them and I think you should continue to be the saint he knows. Keep the truth to yourself for the sake of your relationship.

{{2. The little things you did when you had a break with your man }}

Okay you had a heated argument with your man and he called it quits. Months later, you guys are back again. That’s good news but you should never tell him the things you did while they both of you were separated. If you had a fling with a guy, keep it to yourself. Your man might act like its nothing but trust me when I say it could cause cracks in your relationship.

{{3 Why you left your ex }}

I see no reason why a woman should discuss her ex with her present partner. What you did with your ex should remain in the past with your ex. Your man shouldn’t know if you cheated on your ex or if your ex cheated on you.

{{4. What you really feel about his mother }}

What you feel about his mum should remain with you. If you think you don’t like his mum, just keep it to yourself. You might be the love of his life but his mum would always remain his first love. Don’t start a mission of trying to break the bond between them because you might end up breaking your relationship with your man.

{{5. What you really feel about his friends }}

If you feel his friends are annoying, please just keep it to yourself. His pals were there before you and they would always have a place in his life. Most men don’t feel comfortable when their woman say wrong things about their pals.

What else do you think I missed?