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{When it comes to matters regarding intimacy and sexuality, people tend to be a little cautious over the sort of demands they make from their spouses and partners so they don’t seem like a freak or something of the sort, but this doesn’t take anything away from the fact that we all have sexual fantasies rooted deep inside us— you know, areas of intimacy we want to explore and share with that special someone in our lives.}

It’s usually much easier for the man to express or explore his fantasies with his partner, than it is for the woman because of the amount of freedom the male gender enjoys from the larger society, so most times, you find that women leave all those desires, emotions, and fantasies bottled up. S*x becomes an obligatory activity for them instead of something fun and enjoyable. But with this post, the stereotype is going to change hopefully, as I expose some of those deep bedroom secrets women wish men know. So without further ado, here they are…

{{ 1. An open mind and listening ear }}

Some of us men are so old school that once we’re in the mood we just cut right to the chase, and get the business done without dedicating quality time to making the experience as enjoyable for the woman as it is for us.

Women have sexual fantasies just like us men. They want to try new things, and be pushed to different limits. They want a man who’ll be open enough to let them express themselves. So rather than do it the same old way, slow down and ask her what she wants you to do to her, ask her how she’d have it on the occasion, and be willing to listen and indulge her fantasies. This way, your woman gets to enjoy the experience just as much as you do. Learn to key into her fantasies, instead of doing the same old thing every single time. You not only satisfy her in doing so, you also spice up and keep your s*x life alive.

{{2. A bit of aggressiveness doesn’t really hurt }}

I got to admit that this isn’t exactly true for every woman, but 70% of the time, it is. Women enjoy lovemaking, but every once in a while they like to get it rough as well. They want to see the ‘bad boy’ in you during sexual intercourse. They want to be spanked, pulled on the hair, and pounded like it were a machine doing the work… as long as it doesn’t inflict any physical or emotional injuries on her.

{{3. Some southern cuisine }}

Alright, guys, you need to understand that sex is an activity shared by two people (not one, two), and as such, must be enjoyed by both parties equally. You cannot expect her to go down on you, when you’re not willing to return the favour. It’s unfair. They say, ‘a good turn deserves another’. The woman is just as sensitive and needy as you. You must go down there, and eat her like your favourite meal. In fact, women tend to enjoy oral sex more than penetrative sex because the clitoris has more contact that way.

There is nothing bad or shameful about giving your woman some southern hospitality. It’s something a real man who cares about his woman’s happiness should consider doing. If you’re not willing to give it, then you must be willing to not request the same of her.

{{4. Freedom to be in charge }}

I know it’s against a man’s nature to not be in control of the sexual activity, but every now and then, it wouldn’t hurt to put masculinity aside (per se), and allow the woman express herself. You see, sex is an art, and no one can really express themselves unless given the opportunity. Men aren’t the only ones who have skills they want to show or use on their partner in bed, women also have things they want to try. The only way they can do that is when we let them. They sometimes want to be on top, or in total control of the experience. It’s fine to let them have their way guys, at least, every now and then; doesn’t take anything away from our masculinity.

{{5. Dirty-talking }}

Related to the first point, but a little different; women like it when you talk dirty to them in the bedroom. Think up all those naughty, nasty, things you know, and during sex whisper them in her ears. Ask her if she like the things you do to her. All of that helps to make the experience even sexier. Besides, it is proven that there are women who derive great pleasure from dirty-talking.

Finally, I want to add that sex is too good to be boring and unpleasing; it is an art. Express yourself in every possible way; enjoy your s*x life while you yet can.Thank you for your time!

{When we meet someone new, the first question we always ask ourselves is “can this be my soul mate and are we destined for each other?”.}

These 5 signs will help you know if you and your partner are destined for each other.

{{1. You both hold nothing back }}

If you and your partner are both vulnerable and hold nothing back, then the both of you are destined for each other. True love flourishes when you feel safe to break your defences and hold nothing back because you believe your partner won’t hurt you.

{{2. You make each other laugh without even trying too hard }}

You are destined for each other if you both make each other laugh without trying too hard. When you are destined for each other, you will laugh at each other’s mistakes without hurting each other. Being silly with each other just comes naturally.

{{3. You have respect for each other }}

When two people are destined for each other, there will be huge respect for each other. When two people are destined for each other, they won’t look down on each other but will treat the other person with respect.

{{4. You make each other better }}

When two people are meant for each other, they will make each other better versions of themselves. You become your partner’s biggest cheerleader and support their passions. You motivate each other and push each other to achieve greater things.

{{5. You are secure with each other }}

When two people are meant for each other, they feel secure with each other and there is no jealousy in such relationship. You both crave to be with each other but aren’t too clingy. You don’t worry about your partner’s activities when he/she isn’t with you because you trust them to handle themselves better.

{It takes two emotionally available partners to make a relationship succeed. So if your partner is emotionally unavailable, your relationship is doomed to fail.}

If you want a committed relationship, you should stay away from someone who is emotionally unavailable or you might end up with a heartbreak.

Below are 5 signs your partner is emotionally unavailable

{{1. Your partner is still in love with an ex }}

You shouldn’t fall in love with someone who is still in love with an ex. Such a person can’t love you because they are not available emotionally. If your partner still seeks relationship advice from an ex, complains about an ex, gets hurt when he/she sees an ex with someone else or maybe your partner’s conversations always focuses on your ex, it’s a sign your partner still loves his/her ex.

{{2. Your partner dislikes marriage or a committed relationship }}

Some people make the mistake of thinking they can change their partner over time. If you are dating someone who avoids having conversations about having a committed relationship with you, it’s best you leave that relationship because your partner isn’t available emotionally. If your partner makes statements about not wanting an exclusive relationship or getting married, please walk away from that relationship and stop wasting your time.

{{3. Your partner only blames his/her ex for the failure of his/her past relationship }}

When a relationship fails, the two partners are always at fault even though one person might be more at fault. So if you have a partner who only blames his/her ex for the failure of a past relationship, it’s a sign that your partner is failing to take responsibility for their part in the failure of their past relationship. A partner who can’t take responsibility isn’t available emotionally.

{{4. Your partner struggles to connect with you emotionally }}

An emotionally unavailable partner will struggle to connect with you emotionally. An emotionally unavailable partner will criticize your need your attention and intimacy.

{{5. Here today and gone tomorrow }}

A partner who is emotionally unavailable will generally give you mixed signals. He/she will be so sweet today and distant tomorrow. An emotionally unavailable partner generally struggles with keeping the connection in a relationship. They are here today and gone tomorrow. They always leave you confused due to the mixed signals that they give.

{Truth be told, when we are in love with someone, even though we try to hide it from that person, our body always betrays us by giving out clues and signs.}

Below are 10 ways to know that lady is deeply in love with you.

1. When she is in love with you, she makes a lot of eye contact.

2. When she is in love with you, she can’t help but stop what she is doing while you are talking.

3. When she is in love with you, you might catch her fiddle with her hair a lot.

4. When she is in love with you, she always wants to make body contact.

5. When she is in love with you, she offers to do small things for you.

6. When she is in love with you, she would stare deeply into your eyes while you talk.

7. When she is in love with you, she would try to make conversation any time possible.

8. When she is in love with you, she would laugh a lot while she is with you.

9. When she is in love with you, she would always look for excuses to be with you even when she has somewhere important to go.

10. When she is in love with you, she would call and text regularly.

Fellas, when you are in love with her, I really don’t think you should wait for all these signs before you go for her. If you love her, go for her.

{Why do women find older men more attractive? So many guys have asked this question but don’t seem to get the answer.}

Below are 6 reasons why women love older men

{{1. More mature }}

Women generally tend to mature faster than men within their age bracket. While a younger man is interested in sleeping around and drinking lots of alcohol, the older man is wiser and more mature. Women hate being with immature men and generally don’t have the patience to wait for a boy to grow into a real man.

{{2. Money matters}}

Money matters too. When women make relationship decisions, they also consider the financial strength of a man. While the younger man is still trying to climb the ladder and achieve something meaningful in life, the older man is already well established in his career.

{{3. Got class and not a swag }}

Younger men might have the swag but the older men seem to have the class and women fall for class and not swag.

{{4. Knows what a woman wants
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The older men also have an advantage over the younger men because they have a better experience of what a woman really wants. Experience counts in the game.The older men are generally more sensitive towards the feelings and needs of a woman.

{{5. Knows how to take charge}}

The older man always knows how to take charge when needed and this is something younger men lack. A woman wants to feel secure and protected when with her man and the older man knows how to do this by taking charge when necessary without being overbearing.

{{6. More knowledgeable in bed }}

The older man might not have the energy of the younger man in bed but he knows what a woman’s needs are in bed better than the younger man. While most younger men depend just on their stamina in bed, the older takes the woman to greater heights by using the experience gotten over the years.

{Life is short so why worry when you can be happy?}

{Here are 5 rules that will help you live a happy life}

{{1. Forgive }}

You can’t live a happy life if you always hold a grudge. You carry a big burden on your shoulders when you hold a grudge. Always forgive if you want to live a happy life.

{{2. Love yourself }}

You can’t be happy if you don’t love yourself. Happiness comes from within and until you first love yourself, you cannot live a happy life.

{{3. Help others }}

One good thing about helping others is when you meet a need and always get inner peace and joy. The secret to living a happy life is making others happy. Learn to help others.

{{4. Be positive }}

You can’t live a happy life if you are always negative. If you want to live a happy life, make sure you are a positive person.

{{5. Treat others well and harm no one }}

You can’t live a happy life if you make other people cry and suffer. Treat people well and avoid harming others if you want to live a happy life.

{Gaining people’s trust in today’s world where trust is almost extinct requires a lot.}

People would feel comfortable with you when they trust you, they would love you more and treat you with respect.

People would trust you more when they see the following characters in you.

1. You treat people just as you want to be treated.

2. You do what you say, and don’t make empty promises. People would trust you more when they know that you can be accountable to your words.

3. You are a good listener.

4. You aren’t quick to pass judgement on people.

5. You are a driven person.

6. You respect everyone you come across.

7. You treat even your subordinates kindly.

8. You get the job done and you are competent at what you do.

9. You see the good in people, and not only castigate them for the wrong they do.

10. You are a person of integrity.

11. You try to be fair and transparent in your dealings with people.

12. You truly appreciate the what people do for you, no matter how little.

13. You are interested in people, and show attention and affection to other people’s plight.

14. You aren’t selfish and self-centred.

15. You are someone people can work with. You aren’t a snub and you aren’t bossy.

16. You are confident.

17. You are charismatic.

18. You accept constructive criticism and you are open to feedback.

19. You manage resources well; especially time and money — two things the world revolves around.

Have you ever asked yourself why some people are deemed trustworthy, and others aren’t? It lies in what they do and what people see them as.

These characters above would make people truly trust you.

{Ever wondered if you can tell who is a potential cheat? Research has found some particular traits that make one prone to cheating.}

Well, check out this post as I reveal the 5 types of people who are most likely to cheat, according to science.

{{1. Tall people}}

Height is power…or so do a lot of people think. Tall people are often considered more attractive than short people, so this increases the likelihood of them getting into cheating situations. According to Illicit Encounters, an extramarital website, men who measure in over 5’10” were twice as likely to cheat as their shorter counterparts.

{{2. Poorer }}

If you thought that men are the only ones who run after women for money, you’re wrong. According to a study, women with low or no income at all cheat 4 times more than men with no income. This according to psychologists is as a result of insecurity and the inability to achieve total happiness.

{{3. Former cheaters }}

This is simple, really. If the person you’re dating now or about to date cheated on their partner before, then there’s a great chance they’ll cheat on you too. After all, it’s said that a leopard never changes its spots.

{{4. Social media addicts }}

According to a Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking study, people who spend so much time on social media are more likely to be exposed to cheating situations than people who don’t. And this is easily understandable really; the more platforms you’re on, the more people you’re likely to meet…

{{5. Wealthy men }}

The more money a man has, the more power he has, and the more he feels the need to indulge all his desires and fantasies, including those that will require him to cheat. While this is true for men, it isn’t for women. As there is always a man who is willing to be loyal to a rich woman.

So that is it, guys. Now, you know who to avoid and stay away from if you don’t want to end up with a broken heart in a relationship.

{While it’s so easy for men to get turned on, it’s so different for the ladies but the good news is that it’s really not that difficult to make her beg you for sex.}

With the simple techniques below, you can make her beg you for sex.

{{1. Talk dirty:}}

This simple technique works like magic but it’s important to know that the both of you need to be very comfortable with your sexuality for this to work so you don’t end up turning her off. Talking dirty isn’t restricted to the bedroom so that means you can talk dirty to her while at work as you prepare her mentally for an amazing time in the bedroom when you both get home.

{{2. Take it slow:}}

Most men are guilty of this and you need to understand if you want her begging for more, you need to take it real slow. Instead of rushing into the main act, try starting off slow and women really do love foreplay.

{{3. Talk during the act:}}

It shouldn’t be a moment for silence; tease her by telling her what you intend to do to her next while you are together is really fun.

{{4. Be unpredictable :}}

Unpredictability is fun and it would definitely make her want you. Make her guess your next move; when she expects you to kiss, just do something else and leave her guessing every move you are about to make. She would be surprised by your unpredictability and that would make her want you even more.

So here you have it. Have an amazing time with your spouse.

{Can fingers really predict infidelity? A research says it can to a certain extent. According to the research, People whose ring and index fingers are same length are more likely to be faithful while those with a longer ring finger are more likely to cheat.}

The experimental psychologists from Oxford University and Northumbria University studied 600 men and women in Britain and the US, looking at the link between hand shape and sexual habits.

The researchers believe exposure to high levels of testosterone (a hormone linked to sex drive) in the womb has a long-lasting effect on finger length. Those with a longer ring finger are likely to have been exposed to more testosterone.

Dr Rafael Wlodarski of Oxford University said: “This research suggests that there may be two distinct types of individuals within each sex, pursuing different mating strategies.

“We observed what appears to be a cluster of males and a cluster of females who are more inclined to “stay”, with a separate cluster of males and females being more inclined to “stray” when it comes to sexual relationships.

“It is important to note that these differences are very subtle, and are only visible when we look at large groups of people – we cannot really predict who is going to be more or less faithful.”

So do you have a longer ring finger and do you think you can be considered to be unfaithful? What do you really think about this study?