Category: Social

{A new study by researchers claim they have found the perfect age to get married.}

The study carried out by Nick Wolfinger, a sociologist at the University of Utah, and published by the generally pro-marriage Institute of Family Studies suggests that people who get married between 28 and 32 are the least divorced – in the ensuing years.

Wolfinger analyzed data from 2006-2010 and the 2011-2013 National Survey of Family Growth. He found a sort of upside down bell curve. “The odds of divorce decline as you age from your teenage years through your late twenties and early thirties,” he writes. “Thereafter, the chances of divorce go up again as you move into your late thirties and early forties.” For each year after about 32, the chance of divorce goes up about 5% says the study.

There are lots of reasons why late 20s/early 30s would make sense as a time to start a lifelong partnership with someone: people are old enough to understand if they really get along with someone or are just blinded by hormones. They’ve already made significant life choices and taken on some responsibilities. And they may be just financially solvent enough to be able to contemplate supporting someone should the need arise.

Wolfinger says the data persists “even after controlling for respondents’ sex, race, family structure of origin, age at the time of the survey, education, religious tradition, religious attendance, and sexual history, as well as the size of the metropolitan area that they live in.” He thinks the reason might be selection bias. “The kinds of people who wait till their thirties to get married may be the kinds of people who aren’t predisposed toward doing well in their marriages,” he writes.

{Being in a relationship can actually do wonders for your health and you should consider one if you are single.}

While being in a relationship can improve your health, you should also note that being in an unhealthy relationship won’t improve your health but will instead affect your health negatively.

Below are 4 ways being in a relationship improves your health

{{1. It helps combat cognitive decline }}

According to a 2011 study of 1,000 adults published in Time, people who are in a relationship had a 70 percent reduction in their rates of cognitive decline over several years when compared to people who are lonely.

{{2. It helps boost your cancer survival }}

Being in a relationship will help improve your chances of surviving cancer. According to a study published in the Journal of Clinical Oncology, marriage may help improve cancer survival rates. The study suggest that having someone who cares for you and who helps you understand your diagnosis helps improve your chances of surviving cancer.

{{3. It helps your health }}

According to a 2012 study presented at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association, being in a marriage helps reduce the likelihood of a woman having high blood pressure. According to the study, the longer the marriage, the bigger the benefits appeared to be. Every 10 years of continuous marriage without divorce was tied to a 13 percent decrease in cardiovascular risk.

{{4. It helps you live longer }}

According to a 2010 review of 148 studies published in the journal PLoS Medicine, social connections like being in a relationship improves our odds of survival by 50 percent. According to the researchers, when someone is connected to a group and feels responsibility for other people, that sense of purpose and meaning translates to taking better care of themselves and taking fewer risks.

{Some people are pathological liars and we all definitely have that one friend that will always tell a lie no matter what. But why do people lie?}

Below are 10 reasons why people lie

1. People lie to save their face and avoid sharing embarrassing truths about themselves.

2. People lie simply so they will be able to avoid punishment.

3. People lie just so they will be able to get their way.

4. People lie so they can take what is not rightfully theirs.

5. People lie so they would escape accountability.

6. People who are very adamant tend to lie just so they can prove a point.

7. People lie just so they can get accepted by the society. Wanting to fit in makes people succumb to peer pressure and lie.

8. People lie just so they would avoid giving favours. Some people will resort to lying instead of being of use to someone.

9. People also lie to avoid hurting someone but lies tend to leak out and you still end up hurting the person.

10. People also lie so they can gain advantage to exploit others.

Do you lie?

{Are you stuck in a situation that seems unsolvable or you are currently facing crisis and you find yourself overthinking?}

Do you worry about your past mistakes? You fear about the future? Or today’s life troubles seem to get you worried? These acts could make you become a victim to overthinking, and overthinking isn’t only bad for your health, but it’s bad for your mind and emotional wellbeing.

Do you want to stop overthinking? These tips would help.

{{1. Practice mindfulness }}

Mindfulness is a form of meditation where you have thoughts on the present, without judgment, worrying, obsession and every other negative emotions. You just breath, relax and let everything go.

{{2. Understand that overthinking isn’t healthy }}

Overthinking is harmful to the health, and studies have linked overthinking to anxiety and depression.

One particular study found that stress only occurs if an individual involved in a negative event think about it, and those who did not overthink about it did not become as stressed and depressed as those who did even though they have experienced many negative events in their lives.

{{3. Stop worrying about things out of your control }}

People overthink about things that are out of their control. You stop yourself from living when you do this. Try to let go of things that are out of your control; overthinking wouldn’t help at the end of the day.

{{4. Get busy }}

If you notice, you find yourself overthinking when you are idle.

When you get busy with something, there would be no time to overthink. Activities that are both physically and mentally engaging put you away from obsessive thinking patterns.

{{5. Try positive thinking }}

Rather than let negative thinking overwhelm you, fill your mind with positive thinking. Let positivity into your heart, and you would be surprised at what positive energy can bring.

{{6. Kick fear away }}

Don’t give fear a minute chance in your life. When fear exists, negative thinking would also exist.

Stop being afraid of the future, stop being afraid of the unknown, and remember that fear would only make any situation worse.

{What do women really love in a man? This is one subject most men really struggle to find answers to.
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Science has helped mankind with many discoveries like inventing a car, TV, microwave etc, so can science also give an answer to this question most men seek answers to?

Below are 6 things women love in a man according to science

{{1. Bigger width not length matters:}}

So when it comes to the manhood, do women prefer a bigger width or longer length? Science seems to have an answer to this puzzle as according to research from the University of Texas, 90% of women claim a bigger width is better than a longer package. So can we agree with science on this?

{{2. Average looks:}}

While every man believes ladies love good-looking men, science doesn’t seem to agree with that school of thought. A University of Texas study believes women tend to go for guys with average looks and not very good-looking guys. The reason seems to be the attention the very good-looking guys seem to get. Think I can agree with this study after talking about this with a female friend who said her reason for going for an average looking guy is because there won’t be too much competition for him (which is important when she wants a serious relationship) compared to when she is with a very good-looking guy. Do all the ladies agree with her and the study?

{{3. Dancing skills:}}

A research from the Northumbria’s School of Life Sciences found that women love guys with exceptional dancing skills. I bet I can agree with this study as a friend of mine (back then as teens) used to have all the attention of ladies because he was a very good dancer. Usher Raymond, Chris Brown, P-Square and co all have one thing in common which is they are all good dancers and ladies seem to love them a lot. Time to learn how to dance fellas.

{{4. Smile less:}}

Science seems to believe women love men who smile less according to a study by researchers from the University of British Columbia. The study claims women prefer loud and proud alpha males or dark and brooding males. I smile a lot and I think the ladies love that about me or is science saying I would get better attention if I smile less? Should we agree with science on this too?

{{5. Resemblance with her dad:}}

Science seems to believe women prefer guys who look like their dad. Wow. According to a University of St. Andrews survey which asked 400 women in relationships who had been raised by both parents about the hair and eye colour of their partner and their dad, women overwhelming had partners who looked like their dad. So is this bad news for me since I don’t seem to look my partner’s dad? Lol.

{{6. Men with feminine features:}}

I kinda agree and disagree with this fact. According to a study by researchers from the University of Aberdeen, women seem to prefer guys with feminine features. Only the women can really confirm this but the study seems to prove more women prefer feminine features in men like narrower jaw and rounder eyes. Well my partner seems to love my masculine features, lol, that’s what’s important to me right now.

So what do you think about the science-backed things women love in a man.

{Being in a relationship where your partner expects too much from you can get you frustrated, tearing your relationship apart in the long run.}

If you notice any of these signs in your relationship, it’s important you talk about it with your partner.

Here are 7 signs your partner expects too much from you

1. Your partner expects too much from you if you find yourself avoiding your partner to avoid your partner’s criticisms or judgments.

2. Your partner expects too much from you if your partner makes you feel like you aren’t good enough for him or her.

3. Your partner expects too much from you if you feel your partner acts like your mother or father who always wants to tell you what to do.

4. Your partner expects too much from you if your partner criticizes you more than he/she praises you.

5. Your partner expects too much from you if your partner is never happy or satisfied no matter how much you try.

6. Your partner expects too much from you if you observe your partner is quietly angry at you a lot of the time because he/she feels they are tired of complaining.

7. Your partner expects too much from you if when you attempt doing something for him/her, your partner always tends to see a problem in it.

Do you have a partner who expects too much from you?

{Kids are a blessing from God, and they have a funny and unexpected way of changing one’s life.}

These are some ways your life changes after having those adorable kids.

{{1. Your expenditure rapidly increases }}

When you have plan on having kids, you know that your expenses would increase, but it goes way beyond that. Your expenditure doesn’t just increase, it massively increases, and you might have lots of sleepless nights over how much more you need.

{{2. You would spend a lot on diapers}}

The diapers thing is another one; of course you know your kids would use diapers, but you have no clue that you would need thousands of diapers for just one child.

{{3. Your laundry time will increase }}

With kids, you would just have to do laundry all the time. It never ends.

{{4. Cleaning the house }}

Keeping the house clean as you used to would be a hectic task when you start having kids. No matter how hard you try, your house wouldn’t be as organised as it was. Of course, there would be those fine lines and tough dirt on your couch.

{{5. Loss of sleep }}

Your sleep pattern would definitely change; you wouldn’t sleep as much as you used to once you start having kids.

{{6. Your sleep pattern would forever be different }}

For most parents (women especially), they never go back to their old sleeping ways; those months of constant sleepless nights and tossing around in bed, as well as sleeping and waking, would change the way you sleep forever.

{{7. Your sex life would change }}

Do you think your sex life will remain the same? Of course not. A survey found that 86% of parents had sex less often after having kids.

{{8. New hair }}

For some women, they could begin to notice new sprouts of hair in places that used to be smooth before giving birth.

{{9. TV volume?}}

No one would have to tell you that you can’t watch TV programs with loud volumes anymore. The fear of waking up the baby wouldn’t let you dare.

{{10. You would be happier }}

And I saved the best for the last. In spite of everything, you would be happier; children bring joy. A study done by researchers at the Pew Research Center found that children were a significant source of happiness for their parents, and were nearly twice as meaningful to them as anything else in their lives.

No matter how much your life changes after having kids, you just can’t do without them.

{Falling in love is easy but the hard work is staying in love. Just like every other thing in life, creating a better relationship with your spouse is based on a few rules.}

1. No relationship is alike. Stop comparing your relationship to that of others or your previous relationships.

2. Your partner needs you. Always ensure you regularly spend quality time with your partner.

3. Always surprise your partner with gifts. Don’t wait for special occasions or moments to get your partner gifts.

4. Respect your partner. Avoid doing things that belittle your partner.

5. Never speak bad of your partner to others no matter how angry you are.

6. Learn to forgive without holding grudges. You can’t claim to love someone if you aren’t willing to forgive them.

7. Always compliment your partner’s efforts no matter how small it may be.

{When you hear or come across a question like this one, you’re tempted to go with the man, I would too if I hadn’t discovered this piece of information. Men are the ones who always make obvious their sexual needs and desires more than women, so it’s understandable why they’d be the easy option to go for.
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However, that common perception or belief isn’t true…at least, not according to a new survey which was conducted recently.

In an attempt to set records straight, and lay to rest the question of who truly likes sex more between both genders, scientists carried out a survey using popular fertility application, Kindara.

The app surveyed 500 men and women.

Women overwhelmingly suggested that they don’t have sex as frequently as they want. Half the women surveyed said they needed to have an emotional attachment to enjoy sex with their partner, while the other half were okay with a fling— but that’s not all; the study further revealed that 75 percent of respondents said they wanted sex more than three times a week.

Now, I did mention in the start that women in the survey claimed to not have sex as often as they want to, but I haven’t revealed why. According to the research, the reasons for this are stress, feeling ‘out of synch’ with their partner, and not being in the ‘right mood’.

So it’s settled then, isn’t it? Women enjoy sex more than men, but they just don’t like showing it. I wonder why that is though; I’d like to know. So ladies, a little explanation would be appreciated.

{When love and friendship exist in a relationship, that relationship will be a wonderful one; it will be peaceful and loving.}

A major reason many relationship and marriage fail is that couples no longer become friends with each other, and the relationship would gradually lose the spark it once had, when this happens.

How can you build friendship with your partner?

{{1. Togetherness }}

Friends practice togetherness; they love to be with each other and do things together — but this is lacking in relationships where friendship doesn’t exist.

To have friendship in your relationship/marriage, togetherness must be present.

{{2. Fun moments }}

Friends love to hang out with each other; they love to have fun moments all the time, and even when they are indoors, it doesn’t stop them from having fun with each other.

Try to have fun moments with your partner often.

{{3. Talk about everything }}

Another characteristic of friendship is how they much they talk, listen and communicate with each other. Friends talk about everything and rarely keep secrets with each other; they confide in each other a lot, and this makes their bond stronger.

To build friendship in your relationship, communicating with your partner is highly important. Let your partner be that one person you can talk to and listen to always.

{{4. Don’t take each other serious }}

Many partners are just too serious with each other, and that’s why friendship is missing in their relationship. Friends joke a lot about many things; they tease each other a lot, and they have lots of those moments where they don’t have to be serious.

{{5. Do things for each other }}

Friends have each other’s back; they’re usually there for each other and want the best for each other, and this is what friendship is all about — doing things for each other and being there for each other.

{{6. Forgive and be friends again }}

Friends practice forgiveness; they find it hard to keep grudges for long — they have a strong bond and can’t do without each other. Friends also have issues, but they still care about each other even at that, and don’t take some of the wrongs to heart; they forgive each other and move on, and this is what you should bring to your relationship.

Your relationship will be much better when friendship exist in it. Inculcate these six things into your relationship/marriage and it will be the best ever.