Category: Social

{Infidelity among women is now on the rise and many men today worry if their partner would cheat on them.
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Is there really a sure way of spot a woman can cheat? The answer is no because you don’t know a cheater by looking at them in the face but this article would highlight some traits women who are likely to cheat have.

It’s important to know that not all women with these traits would cheat but the truth is most cheating women have these traits.

Below are 14 types of women that would most likely cheat on their man

{{1. Women who are sex addicts }}

If you think only men can be sex addicts then you need to think again because we have women who are sex addicts too. Women who are sex addicts have a higher chance of cheating on their man because it’s really difficult for one man to really satisfy them.

{{2. A woman who cheated before and got away with it }}

One thing about cheating is if you cheat and don’t get caught, it’s so easy to become hooked. Remember the saying, “once a cheat, always a cheat”.

{{3. A woman with friends who cheat }}

It’s really easy to get influenced by friends so if she has friends that cheat, the probability of her cheating too is also very high.

{{4. She has lots of really close male friends }}

I am not saying it’s wrong for women to have male friends but women with really close male friends are really vulnerable to cheating. Sometimes the guy who is really close to her might really want her and that could be a problem.

{{5. Women who are materialistic }}

A woman who is materialistic is vulnerable to cheating. The truth is it’s never easy to satisfy a materialistic woman. There is always another man with more wealth than her man who can easily charm her with his wealth.

{{6. A woman whose man cheated on her }}

If you have cheated on your woman, the probability of her cheating on you in return is high. Many women are beginning to use revenge affairs to get back at their man for cheating on them.

{{7. Women that get bored easily}}

A woman who gets bored easily has a high probability of cheating because she might end up adding some excitement to her life by cheating on her man.

{{8. Women with greater sex drive than their partner }}

A woman who has a greater s*x drive than her partner have a higher chance of cheating as her man would be incapable of satisfying her.

{{9. Women with low self-esteem }}

A woman with a low self-esteem is more likely to cheat on her man because she is easy prey to men who make her feel good about herself and boost her esteem.

{{10. Women who have partners that are poor in bed }}

A woman who has a partner that is poor in bed is more likely to cheat as she might seek ways to get the satisfaction she craves for.

{{11. Women who are addicted to alcohol and drugs}}

A woman who is addicted to alcohol and drugs has a high chance of cheating because their inhibitions will be lowered and their judgment impaired.

{{12. Women with excessive need for attention }}

A woman who has an excessive need for attention has a high chance of cheating on her man if she feels she isn’t getting the attention she needs from her man.

{{13. Women with ‘party girl’ reputations }}

A woman with a ‘party girl’ reputation is more likely to cheat on her man because she parties and hangs out until the wee hours of the night and her lifestyle makes her vulnerable to having an affair.

{{14. Women who are thrill seekers }}

Women who love living on the edge have a higher chance of cheating because they derive excitement from doing things that are forbidden.

{It’s important you discuss these things with your partner as they would help give you and your partner a better understanding of what each of you want for the future.}

Many issues couples have during marriage could have been avoided if they had communicated their expectations for marriage with their partner.

Do not get married to your partner without having these discussions

1. Before you get married to your partner, you both need to discuss if any of you have an outstanding debt and what plans are in place to pay off the debt.

2. Before you get married, you need to discuss if you plan having children, the number of children you want and when during your marriage you should start trying for children. Don’t assume your partner want kids.

3. You also need to discuss change of name for the lady. It’s wrong to assume as a man that your bride would want to adopt your surname. I have seen a situation where this was an issue; the lady wanted to use her surname and her husband’s surname but the husband wanted her to use just his surname. This scenario would have been avoided if they both had this discussion before marriage.

4. If you and your partner come from different religious backgrounds, it’s important you have this conversation with your partner. Would you be comfortable having a partner with a different religion? What religion do you want your children to be raised in? These are issues you should discuss with your partner.

5. You shouldn’t avoid having a discussion about money before marriage. You both need to have an idea of how much you both earn. Do you want to keep separate bank accounts or do you intend having a joint account?

6. Jealousy has destroyed so many marriages so it’s important you have a discussion about jealousy with your partner. Reveal to your partner if you are a jealous person or not. You should also have a discussion with your partner about the things that make you jealous.

7. You need to have a discussion about how your career would affect family life. Will your job take you away from your family always? What sacrifices do you expect from your partner as you seek to climb the career ladder.

8. Having a discussion about where you intend to live after marriage is also important. You also need to discuss the kind of apartment you intend living in. You shouldn’t also forget discussing how long you intend to stay in a rented apartment before buying your own home.

9. Secrets should also be discussed to avoid regrets in future. It’s important you discuss any secret you might have before marriage to avoid worrying about it slipping out in future and destroying your marriage.

10. Trust is important if you want your marriage to be a success. You should discuss any trust issues you have with each other.

11. Before marriage, you should discuss how you both hope to handle each other’s families and the boundaries both families should have. Family interference is a big problem in marriages and you shouldn’t neglect discussing this with your partner.

{Men and women approach sex differently so it’s important as a man to have an idea of what she wants when having sex with her.}

Here are 17 things every woman wants her man to know about sex

1. She wants you to pay attention to her erogenous zones.

2. Before you complain about her not going down on you, how clean is your junk? Don’t leave your junk bushy.

3. Her clit is a very sensitive area. Avoid being hard on her clit because it hurts when you use so much force on her clit. Be gentle.

4. The size of your junk really don’t matter to her except you got something too tiny or too huge.

5. Having a quickie is fun sometimes. She would love it if you take her by surprise sometimes.

6. Foreplay is really important to women. Women need more time to get aroused.

7. What worked with your last partner in bed might not work for her. Pay attention to her body and you would know what she wants.

8. A dirty bed ruins sex. Use neat sheets.

9. There is more to her breast than her nipple. Don’t focus so much on the nipple and forget the other part of her boobs.

10. During the main event, don’t neglect her boobs. Stimulating her boobs during the main event takes her to even greater heights.

11. She wants to be kissed real good. Don’t also forget to kiss her during the main event.

12. Take it easy with her nipples when touching her boobs. It’s not fun when you squeeze them so hard.

13. Ask her before you do anything crazy in bed.

14. Sometimes she wants it rough… Not always but sometimes.

15. Touch her clit during sex. Most women won’t reach orgasm through penetration alone.

16. Avoid monotony in bed. Vary your moves.

17. Don’t forget to cuddle her and tell her how much you love her after sex.

{Do you fantasize about your partner? Researchers say it can help your relationship.}

Previous research shows that almost everyone – between 95% to 98% of people have sexual fantasies – but not everyone wants to act on them. In general, men’s fantasies are more sexually explicit. They are more likely to fantasize about multiple partners, some studies found. Women’s fantasies contain more romantic and emotional content.

A study published in the January, 2015, issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine found typical types of fantasies for both men and women include feeling romantic emotions during sex, imagining a particular atmosphere and location, receiving oral sex and (particularly for men) having sexual intercourse with two women.

Three recent studies presented at the biennial conference of the International Association of Relationship Researchers, held in Toronto, show that fantasizing about your partner will help your relationship. It increases your desire for the person you are with and leads you to show them more love, affection and support. Fantasizing about someone else won’t hurt your relationship, the studies show, but it won’t help it, either. The studies haven’t yet been published in a scientific journal.

In the first study, 102 individuals who were in a heterosexual, monogamous relationship were brought into a laboratory and asked to fantasize about their partner or someone else. One-quarter of the people were told to fantasize sexually about their partner; one-quarter were told to fantasize about solving a problem with their partner; one-quarter were told to fantasize sexually about someone other than their partner; and one-quarter were told to fantasize about solving a problem with someone other than their partner.

The participants were then asked to describe the scenario they imagined in detail, including how they felt afterward. The study found that the people who had sexual fantasies about someone other than their partner felt guilty. And the people who had sexual fantasies about their partner had more interest in their partner.

In the second study, the researchers followed 100 heterosexual, monogamous couples for six weeks. Participants were asked to independently record their perceptions of their relationship in a diary each day, without showing their partner, rating how strongly they agreed with statements such as, “I feel committed to the relationship;” “I feel doubts about my compatibility with my partner;” and “I feel my partner is highly valued by other people.”

The participants also reported on whether or not they fantasized about their partner that day. This study found that on days when people said they had fantasies about their partner, they were more likely the next day to say they felt more committed in the relationship and more trusting of and affectionate to their partner. People also had fewer doubts about their relationship on days after they had fantasized about their partner.

In the third study, 48 heterosexual, monogamous couples were asked to keep diaries for three weeks, with each partner recording in detail every fantasy they had about their partner or someone else. They also recorded their relationship interactions each day, such as whether they expressed love, did something nice for their partner or were supportive or critical.

When the participants fantasized about their partner, they were more likely to act positively the next day. When they fantasized about someone else, they weren’t mean to their partner the next day, but they didn’t behave better toward them either.

So, fantasizing about your partner might actually be a good thing.

{Many ladies have a tale of being in a bad relationship but no woman ever deliberately signs up for a bad relationship.}

These 8 signs will help you spot a bad relationship from the onset

1. If your new man badmouths his ex when with you, it means he never learnt from the mistakes he made in his past relationship and sooner he will repeat those mistakes with you.

2. If your new man has roving eyes and just can’t stop looking at women, he will definitely break your heart and cheat on you with another woman. Don’t disregard his roving eyes as nothing.

3. If your new man is madly in love with you that his suspicions are easily aroused, you will struggle to get him to trust you and the relationship will become really frustrating until it collapses.

4. If you think something about your new man doesn’t add up even when he tries to explain himself, trust your intuition and walk away. If you feel something isn’t quite right despite his explanations, it most probably isn’t right.

5. Your relationship is doomed to fail if your new man treats everyone around him like trash. You will definitely know people’s true character through the way they relate to other people. If he treats people like trash, he will treat you like trash one day.

6. Don’t assume you will change your new man if he has certain traits you dislike and can’t stand. You can’t change a man. Only a man can change himself. If you overlook those traits you dislike today, remember those traits will come back to drive you mad tomorrow.

7. If your new man makes you feel like he’s too good to be with you, your relationship is doomed to fail because that man will end up taking you for granted.

8. If your new man is all over you and doesn’t give you room to breathe, your relationship is doomed to fail. In a healthy relationship, a man will give his woman all the space she needs to be herself. Men who tend to be all over their woman and don’t give her space tend to be very controlling and abusive.

{No one ever plans going into a relationship that will end in heartbreak but many of us including my humble self have suffered a heartbreak at least once.}

Heartbreaks can be traumatic especially when the breakup is unexpected or sudden and it can live a mark on you forever if you don’t heal properly.

The following tips will generally help you recover from a heartbreak

{{1. Let it out and cry if you feel like }}

One mistake many make after a heartbreak is trying to suppress the emotions after a heartbreak. The emotions after a heartbreak can be so intense so it’s important you let it out. So go somewhere private and let it out. Cry, yell, scream, do what ever you feel would help you release those intense emotions. Don’t suppress them.

{{2. Talk to people who care about you }}

It’s important you are around people who care about you after a heartbreak. Don’t just keep to yourself after a heartbreak; be in a company of supportive people who will help you through this difficult time.

{{3. Take proper care of yourself }}

It’s normal to lose appetite and avoid eating after a heartbreak but it’s really important you eat properly during this period. This is also why it’s important you are with supportive people as they will make sure you eat during this period.

{{4. Exercise }}

If you don’t normally exercise, you should consider it after a heartbreak. If you exercise regularly, then continue exercising even after the heartbreak. Exercising is important after a heartbreak because it helps you release all the anger inside of you gotten from the heartbreak.

{{5. Have fun with friends }}

Staying indoors all day after a heartbreak will not help you heal but only worsen the situation. Go out with friends and have fun. Try exciting things with your friends.

{{6. Meet new people but stay away from relationships }}

Meeting new people will help you during your recovery from a heartbreak because it sort of helps rebuild your pride and confidence again. While you make new friends, it’s important you don’t jump into a relationship. It’s important you give yourself a break from relationships for at least three months.

And when you think you are ready for a new relationship, take it slow and steady.

{It’s not everything you do in the bedroom that pleases your woman. Although, she might keep it to herself, depending on the kind of person she is, there are things you might do that won’t get to her nicely, no matter how harmless the gesture or intentions might be. I have put together a list of six such things, take a look:}

{{1. Long nails}}

Unless you don’t plan on using your hands, which by the way is a very big improbability, then you should never leave your finger nails uncut. And in case you’re still confused as to why this should be a problem to her, well, look at it this way, imagine being scratched on your inner skin with a knife (and that’s just putting it mildly).

{{2. Don’t use the wrong hole }}

Unless of course, you both swing like that, then ignore this, and simply move on to the next, otherwise, don’t even think about it. She’ll probably hate you if you do it.

{{3. Hair-pulling }}

You probably saw it on TV, and thought it’s cool; don’t believe everything you see on TV, most of it is totally unreal. It hurts to be pulled on the hair, no woman would tolerate it. Even if she doesn’t say it in the heat of the moment, she’ll keep it in mind.

{{4. Poor hygiene}}

Stinky mouth? Brush it! Smelly underarm or privates? Wash yourself and use some cologne. It’s a major turn off to smell bad in any way in the bedroom. And it’s not just about how you smell alone, it applies to everything you do in there.

{{5. Don’t skip foreplay }}

To women (most of them, at least), foreplay is everything. They don’t even really get in the mood for the main event, unless you engage them in some serious foreplay. Kissing, touching, and all the other basics, you must observe it all or you ain’t doing nothing. You got to treat her like she’s important, not like some whore.

{{6. Don’t dirty-talk if you can’t really dirty-talk }}

Dirty talking is a big deal if you know how to pull it off very well, without sounding like somebody else or someone from a porn movie. You got to be real and original. Women love it if you can do it right, but doing it right is where the problem lies; so my candid advice is, avoid it totally, if you know you can’t pull it off.

So there you go buddies. Avoid those things, and you should have no problems with your woman in the bedroom.

{So you started dating that cool guy or girl and you are looking forward to having sex.

Here are 5 things you should do before you have sex with your partner for the first time}

{{1. Is sex really important?}}

Abstinence remains the best option. Talk about waiting for sex with your partner but if you know you can’t wait for sex, then continue reading. But you should first ensure you discuss if sex is really necessary in your relationship.

{{2. Know your partner’s sexual history}}

You shouldn’t have sex with your partner without knowing your partner’s sexual history. It’s important you know the number of sexual partners your partner have had as this will reveal a lot about your partner’s sexual behaviour.

{{3. Know your partner’s STD status }}

You and your partner should get tested before you have sex with your partner.This is the only way to know each other’s STD status. Don’t be careless with your health.

{{4. Talk about using a protection }}

Now you know your STD status, it’s important you protect yourselves by using a condom. Condoms won’t just help you protect yourself against STDs, they will also help you prevent unwanted pregnancies.

{{5. What happens if she gets pregnant }}

Condoms are not 100% effective which means there is a slim possibility you could just get her pregnant. What happens if she gets mistakenly pregnant due to condom burst or condom not worn properly? You need to talk about this with your partner before having sex.

{A man thinks differently from a woman, and according to science, a man’s brain is wired differently too, and this affects the way a man thinks, acts and behaves. His emotional and sexual life are according to the way his brain is wired.}

See some things science has discovered in a man’s brain.

{{1. Men find it hard to be faithful before 30}}

Men also want to settle down and get married, but find it hard to be committed before they turn 30, according to a study of Bolivian men published in the Proceedings of the Royal Society in 2007. After that, men primarily focus on providing for their families, the study found.

{{2. A man’s hormones changes when he’s a father to be }}

Don’t think it’s only women that have hormonal changes when they become pregnant. Fathers-to-be go through hormonal changes too; the man’s brain becomes especially primed for cooperation in the months leading to being a father.

A study in Evolution and Human Behavior conducted in the year 2000 found that a man’s prolactin goes up and testosterone goes down — which likely encourage paternal behaviour.

Also, the pheromones of a pregnant woman may waft over to her mate to cause these changes, the study found.

{{3. A man’s testosterone levels affect his actions }}

A 2009 study published in the journal Hormones and Behavior found that men with high testosterone levels tend to be better at one-on-one competition, while those with lower levels excel at competitions requiring team cooperation.

{{4. Men are wired to check women out }}

Men are wired to check women out, and according to Pranjal Mehta, a social psychologist at Columbia University in New York, testosterone impairs the impulse-control region of the brain. Though, they often forget about the woman, not too long after.

{{5. Men are more emotional than women }}

One particular study found that men are more emotional than women, but are only good in suppressing their emotions.

Another study, a 2008 study published in the Scandinavian Journal of Psychology found that while females are usually considered the more emotional gender, infant boys are more emotionally reactive and expressive than infant girls, the researchers found.

Adult men have slightly stronger emotional reactions, too — but only before they are aware of their feelings, the study found.

According to science, these reasons make why men act the way they do.

{Women tend to keep a lot of information from their partners; either they see it as something unnecessary or because they don’t feel comfortable with sharing it. Women also hide certain things from their man because they feel it could negatively affect their relationship.}

So what then do women hide from their partners?

{{1. Their sexual preferences }}

In a bid not to be seen as a whore or give a bad impression about themselves, many women hide their sexual preferences and fantasies from their man.

{{2. Their account statement }}

Many women also hide their financial statements from their man; they prefer not to allow their man know the full length of their financial strength. Married women use it as a security measure or an impulse to have a plan B just in case their man got broke or the marriage dies.

{{3. That they check his phone }}

Almost every woman checks her man’s phone, but they don’t tell him this. No matter how much she trusts her man, she tends to check his phone.

{{4. That they get tired of the chores }}

In many homes, women do most of the domestic chores. A lot of women get tired of this, but they don’t really tell their man.

{{5. Their remarks about their partner’s sexual abilities }}

Women have what they think about their man’s sexual prowess; but most women don’t tell their man this so as not to hurt his ego or boost it. Women usually have what they think about a man’s performance, but they keep it to themselves.

{{6. That they check out other men }}

Women check out other men too, but men don’t know this. It doesn’t mean that they want to have sex with him or flirt with him; they just admire him and move on. But they wouldn’t tell you this, so as not to make you jealous; it usually ends in her circle.

{{7. Number of men they have been with }}

While men don’t see it as a big deal to recount their sexual escapades, women don’t tend to reveal how many they’ve been with. And most times, they regret some of the men they’ve had in their life, because they might have dated jerks and weren’t proud of their choices while growing up.

{{8. Their real thoughts about you before the relationship }}

Some women had deep crush on their man even before they said yes to him, and some hated their man but finally got to know him and fell for him. She tells her friend this, but it’s something she wouldn’t tell you.

Women don’t tell men everything, and these are some of those secrets they keep.