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{If your relationship has most of the signs listed below, then your relationship has no future.}

{{1. You don’t see a future together }}

If you are in a relationship in which you don’t see a future with your partner, then there is no point being in that relationship because that relationship has no future.

{{2. You don’t trust each other }}

Your relationship has no future if you and your partner don’t trust each other. Trust is an important ingredient every relationship with a future has.

{{3. Your partner puts in no work }}

A relationship requires time and effort and if your partner doesn’t put in effort to make the relationship work, then your relationship has no future. If your partner doesn’t care enough to meet you halfway, then your relationship has no future.

{{4. You don’t accept each other for who you really are }}

For a relationship to have a future, you have to accept your partner for who he/she really is and your partner has to do same too. If there are things you hate so much about your partner and can’t tolerate, then your relationship has no future.

{{5. Your partner doesn’t meet your basic needs }}

Our basic needs in a relationship is for our partner to love and support us. We want a partner who will always create out time to be with us no matter how busy his/her schedule is. We want a partner who will cheer us up after a rough day. If your partner can’t meet these basic needs, then your relationship has no future.

{According to researchers at the Royal Holloway, University of London, standing next to an ugly friend will make you appear more attractive.
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People’s judgement of how attractive you look vary according to the company you keep according to the researchers.

The researchers asked volunteers to rate pictures of different faces for attractiveness.

The volunteers were then asked to rate the same faces placed next to pictures with faces perceived to be on the ugly side.

The researchers found that adding the pictures with faces perceived to be on the ugly side led to the original faces seeming more fancied.

“We live in a society obsessed with beauty and attractiveness, but how we measure and understand these concepts is still a grey area,” study author Nicholas Furl said.

“Until now, it’s been understood that a person’s level of attractiveness is generally steady.

“However, this work demonstrates that the company we keep has an effect on how attractive we appear to others.

“Rightly or wrongly, the way people look has a profound impact on the way others perceive them.”

The study was published in the journal Psychological Science.

{Ladies, if your man is guilty of most of the things listed below, your man is definitely a kid.}

1. He flips out at you when you are more successful than he is.

2. He has an unhealthy obsession with video games. He virtually spends all his free time on playing video games and has time for nothing else.

3. He isn’t committed to you and still keep his options open. Only immature men keep more than one woman.

4. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends because doing that makes the both of you official and he isn’t ready for that.

5. He always talks big and has big dreams but he has no plans. He is lazy and always busy doing nothing.

6. He doesn’t want to meet your parents. He always comes up with silly excuses when you talk about him meeting your parents.

7. He always wants things his way and he gets mad at you when he doesn’t get things his way.

8. He always looks for who to blame and is incapable of owning up to his mistakes.

9. He puts you down in front of his friends to gain the approval of his friends.

10. He flirts with other girls even when you are around.

11. He still lives with his parents and can’t take care of his needs.

12. He has no job and isn’t even bothered about it. He will always give excuses that there aren’t any jobs.

13. He only cares about himself. He has no interest in things that concern you unless they revolve around him.

14. He lives only in the moment and has no plans for his life.

15. He can’t do nothing for himself and expects you to be his mum.

16. He doesn’t stand up for you.

17. He always wants to win every argument with you. Mature men see arguments as a means to finding a middle ground and aren’t interested in coming out on top.

18. He worries too much about what other people think and never believes in what he is doing.

19. He isn’t confident enough to go for what he wants.

20. He’s always drunk.

{Your girlfriend gives out certain information about you to her friends even when she claims she tells her friends nothing.}

Below are 7 things your girlfriend tells her friends about you

{{1. HOW GOOD YOU ARE IN BED}}

Women can’t resist the urge of telling their friends how good their man is in bed. Women enjoy giving out this information when it’s a new relationship but they generally start withholding this information from friends as the relationship gets older.

{{2. HOW YOU COMPARE TO HER EX-BOYFRIENDS}}

Most women compare their present boyfriend to their ex-boyfriends when with their friends. She will mostly brag about the things you do better than her ex.

{{3. HOW COMFORTABLE YOU ARE}}

Women discuss how comfortable you are with their friends. She will tell her friends how stable you are financially and if she sees you as someone who is ambitious.

{{4. IF YOU ARE MARRIAGE MATERIAL OR NOT}}

After dating you for a while, a woman generally knows if she can marry you or not. Her friends will definitely know if she sees you as marriage material or not because she will definitely have this discussion with them.

{{5. HOW CARING YOU ARE}}

Women also discuss the amount of effort their man put into making the relationship work. If you are nice and caring, she will definitely tell her friends about it.

{{6. WHAT SHE THINKS OF YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS}}

Family and friends of their man is another topic women discuss when talking about their man. Women see a man’s friends as a true reflection of who he really is and how ready he is for a committed relationship. She will definitely tell her friends what she thinks of your family and friends.

{{7. THE THINGS YOU DO WELL}}

All the things she compliments you for doing so well are also discussed when she’s with her friends. Women generally tell their friends the good things you do like the gifts you got her, the places you took her to and all the nice things you do for her.

{Science has revealed the one quality that will make men irresistible to women and this is a quality all men can actually cultivate.}

According to researchers from Hope College, women are more attracted to humble men than cocky men.

The researchers observed that women preferred humble men to men who are cocky because women take humility as a sign that you’ll treat them well in a relationship.

Men who are humble put the needs of their partner first. A man who is humble will always make sacrifices to make sure his relationship works.

So guys, if you want to be irresistible to women, be humble.

{No matter how careful you tend to be as a man, you could make some mistakes and probably make your lady angry in the process. Being a real doesn’t mean those moments won’t come; it means being able to calm calm the situation down and do the right thing.}

There are simple things you can do to calm your lady down when she’s angry.

{{1. Apologise }}

This is the first step to calming her down when she’s angry. Sorry might not solve a thing, it might not cover for your mistakes, but it’s the right thing to do. Accepting your mistake and apologising for it is a very important thing to do when she’s angry.

{{2. Try to solve the problem }}

If it is still possible to solve the problem, then by all means do. But if it’s impossible, try to take responsibility for your action, make up for your mistake and assure her that you wouldn’t repeat the mistake again.

{{3. Do something she likes }}

If she has forgiven you, the next step is to put a smile on her face. Do something you know she likes; give her a treat and try to make her happy. In spite of this, you should still remember the mistake you made and be sorry for it.

{{4. Pamper her }}

Of course she wants to be pampered after everything. Even though she isn’t angry anymore, give her a treat to pamper her. Doing this will restore the peace between the both of you — and your relationship can then forge ahead.

If you’ve ever made a mistake that got her angry, there’s no point trying to talk your way out of it or making up loads of excuses. Just use these 4 simple steps and win her over in no time.

{Are you aging faster than your age? Some every day habits you have could be responsible for making you age quickly.}

Here are 5 common habits that make you age faster

{{1. You eat too much sugary foods}}

Eating too much sugary foods isn’t good for you as it add years to your face. Sugar molecules attach themselves to protein fibers in each of our cells and this results in dark circles under the eyes, loss of tone, wrinkles and increase in fine lines.

{{2. You don’t use sunscreen }}

Spending time under the sun without protecting your skin with sunscreen makes you age faster. Exposure to UV rays from the sun damages the skin and makes you age faster.

{{3. You don’t get enough sleep }}

Depriving yourself of adequate sleep results in dark bags under the eyes which makes you look older than you really are. It’s advisable you get at least seven hours of sleep daily.

{{4. Stress }}

Stress from your hectic life takes a toll on your body and makes you look older than you really are. Stress triggers the release of free radicals which are responsible for aging. Reduce the stress you face everyday and avoid doing everything at the same time.

{{5. You sleep with your face on the pillow}}

Sleeping with your face on your pillow makes you look older than you really are because it creates wrinkles. It’s recommended you sleep on your back or use a satin pillowcase to help keep your skin smooth.

{Today, Drama and Shawn will write about relationships, and if every relationship should lead to marriage.}

Read their their opinions below

{{Drama}}

The whole point of getting into a relationship for me, is to exclusively be with someone you care a lot about. If you do not care about a person, then, why go into a relationship with them at all? So yes, relationships should lead to marriage. If you love someone enough to date them, you should love them enough to wed them too.

There was a time when I’d have expressly said no to this question, but this is the honest truth. I know that some people go into a relationship because they want just sex, but that’s wrong. If sex is all you’re about, then, you should be looking out for whores, not men and women who want to share something real and serious. The whole point of having a relationship is companionship and friendship, and once you find that, there’s no reason why you wouldn’t rather spend the rest of your life with your partner.

The only excuse I’d consider valid for anyone not to want to marry the person they care about is if they mutually agree to forget about observing marital formalities, and just stay together as a couple, that I’d understand, but unless it’s an arrangement like that, then, there’s no reason why you should not marry the person you date. If the person you date does not want to marry you, then you’re definitely seeing the wrong person, and you need to run away from them immediately. Nobody would not want to have something good in their life forever. A man or woman who thinks of you as something good and rare would definitely want to be with you for the longer term, if the opposite is the case, they’re not for you.

{{Shawn}}

Should every relationship lead to marriage? I don’t think so. But then I don’t feel it’s right for one to be in a relationship just for the sake of it.

First, a relationship should be between two people who genuinely care about each other and are interested in each other. This should be the first instance, and then it should be worked further.

If every relationship leads to marriage, then the number of divorce would triple in no time. A relationship should be a platform where you get to know each other better and know if you can have a future with each other.

The relationship should then pass through various stages, and if successful, courtship and marriage should come next.

Many pressure themselves into thinking that a relationship should lead to marriage, and then they often end up ruining the relationship or regretting why they got married in the first place.

I believe a relationship shouldn’t be something you do for fun, there should be commitment and the likelihood of a future; it’s where you get to test certain aspects of each other’s lives and understand if things could actually work. But then, you shouldn’t force a marriage on it or pressure yourself into thinking it must lead to marriage.

Every relationship should have a future, but then it has to be a successful relationship before you start thinking of the future.

That’s our take on today’s edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special; do you think every relationship should lead to marriage?

{I have to be honest with you, you can’t know everything about a woman. It’s almost impossible to know everything about a woman. Even my granddad before his death still didn’t know everything a woman.}

So since it’s almost impossible to truly understand a woman, here are important things you should know about a woman

1. If you want to make her happy, listen to her pointless gossips.

2. She wants to be treated like a lady. Open the door for her, bring out the chair for her, and do the things true gentlemen do.

3. She wants to be the most important woman in your life. Failure to do this means you want trouble.

4. Never cheat on you. She might forgive you if you cheat on her but trust me when I say she will be wary of you after she found out you cheated.

5. She wants you to take her to great heights in bed.

6. She hates it when you keep in touch with your ex. She might say it’s okay for you to keep in touch but trust me when I say it isn’t.

7. She hates it when she’s the last person to know important things about you. Always keep her in the loop.

8. She wants you to plan a special time for you and her to show her that you care.

9. She wants you to always defend her.

10. She wants you to invite her to the places you enjoy.

11. She loves it when you join her to do the things she likes.

12. She hates it when you withhold information from her.

13. She hates it when you give her a reason to nag.

14. Her friend’s opinion of you matters.

15. She wants to know you always find her attractive.

16. She hates it when you don’t compliment her after spending so much time to look pretty.

17. She wants you to just cuddle her sometimes without initiating sex.

18. She won’t waste her time complaining about something you did wrong if she doesn’t love you.

19. Never rush her when she’s trying to makeup. She expects you to know that she’s taking all that time to look really good for you.

20. Never criticise her meals. If you feel she isn’t a good cook, keep it to yourself.

{Singleness could come with loneliness and frustration; when you can’t have a good man/woman in your life, and you’ve been without a partner for so long that you’ve forgotten how it feels to be loved by someone other than family.}

It could be frustrating, but rather than let the frustration eat deep into you, there are some things you should consider.

{{1. You’re probably comparing your life with others}}

Being single and frustrated could be as a result of you comparing your life with others; you tend to notice what’s going on in other’s lives and you forget to pay attention to yours. When you pay attention to other people’s lives, you’d see theirs as perfect while yours as useless— and that’s why you get frustrated.

{{2. You are desperate for love }}

Frustration also comes with desperation. When you are desperate to have a partner, you’d most likely end up with the wrong one and get frustrated in return.

It’s okay to want a partner, a relationship and a home, but when you let desperation set in, frustration would follow.

{{3. You’re searching for perfection }}

You know the problem in searching for perfection? You will tend to focus more on the trivial things that shouldn’t really matter and focus less on the weighty things that matter.

When you’re looking for that perfect partner as seen in romance movies, you’d lose sight of a lot of things, and this could get you frustrated.

{{4. You forget to live your life }}

The reason most people are single and frustrated is because they forget to live their lives. Every day of their lives resolves around how single they are and how they cannot find a man/woman. You can never find happiness when you live your life this way.

{{5. Your desperation is a turn off }}

Do you know that desperation is a huge turn off? Desperation reveals all your flaws and kill all the good things you have going for you. When people see the desperation in you, all they remember are your flaws.

Your desperation to get a partner could actually be a repellent to a potential partner — never forget this.

Are you single and frustrated? Just try to live your life and be happy; you never know what will come after.