Category: Social

{No matter how much you try to justify being in a relationship with a married man, there are no positive reasons for dating a married man.
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{{Below are 18 top reasons why you shouldn’t date a married man}}

1. Dating a married man is just plain wrong. No reason justifies your action.

2. You will always be second best when you date a married man. Why be second best to a married man when you can be another man’s number one?

3. When you date a married man, everything about the relationship will be a secret because he doesn’t want anyone to know about the relationship.

4. You ruin your reputation when you date a married man as you give people another reason to speak poorly of you.

5. Why date a married man when he will never truly be yours. He’s married to another woman and he will never fully be able to commit to you.

6. Dating a married man never has a happy ending.

7. You are just a tool for his sexual gratification. No matter what he tells you, you definitely mean nothing to him.

8. Time waits for no one. When you date a married man, you just waste precious time you might have had in a healthy relationship with a chance of flourishing.

9. You won’t have him during special moments in his life as he would definitely spend it with his wife and family.

10. You can’t see him or call him anytime you want. What’s the point being in a relationship in which you can’t call or see your partner anytime you want?

11. You will become a regular customer at a hotel off town because you can’t come to his house.

12. If someone he knows sees the both of you together, you will be introduced as his niece, cousin or even baby sitter. Why don’t you spare yourself such embarrassments.

13. He might tell you his marriage is having issues and promise to marry you but that’s what they always say. It’s all lies.

14. He will never respect you as a person.

15. You can’t proudly introduce him as your man in public.

16. Every man who knows about his relationship with you will see you as cheap and loose.

17. If he can cheat on his wife to be with you, he will definitely cheat on you to be with someone else when he becomes tired of you.

18. You stand a high chance of being publicly disgraced in public by a crazy wife.

Spare yourself such embarrassment.

{There are some bad social habits you could be used to and you wouldn’t even know that they are bad habits; these habits could make you seem impolite, rude and ill-mannered.}

See some bad social habits you might be guilty of.

{{1. Interrupting someone }}

Interrupting someone during a conversation is rude and impolite, and you could make the person offended when you do this. Try to avoid this bad social habit because it’s very offensive and improper.

{{2. Crossing your arms }}

Crossing your arms is a bad social habit that’s very bad and passes the wrong message. It shows nonchalance and that you aren’t interested in what the person is saying.

{{3. Seeking attention }}

We all know that one person who’s always seeking attention in a social gathering. This is a bad social habit that gives a wrong impression about you.

{{4. Constant complaining }}

It’s bad to be known for something as negative as complaining. People would stop taking you serious when all you do is complain about everything.

{{5. Using offensive language }}

Not everyone would want to hear your dirty jokes or hear you cuss and swear. It’s different when you’re with your inner circle; but if you are in public, you should avoid this.

{{6. Over-sharing }}

Sharing too much information to someone you just met or someone who isn’t close to you is a bad social habit. Most times they don’t want to know all these, and even if they do, it doesn’t seem right to over-share information about yourself to anyone you come across.

{{7. Trying please everyone}}

You can’t please everyone — so don’t even try. Trying to please everyone is a waste of time and energy, and it makes you less of who you are.

{{8. Being busy on your phone }}

Being busy on your phone when having a conversation with someone or a group of people isn’t only improper; it’s also impolite, offensive and puts you in bad light. It shows you don’t care about what’s going on around you.

{{9. Talking too loudly }}

When in a social gathering with people, you ought to use a right tone when talking. Talking too loudly is embarrassing and improper; some might even find it annoying and awkward.

Are you guilty of any of these social habits? Try to cut off from them today; they are bad habits and put you in negative light.

{The average person spends more than 20,000 minutes of their life kissing and there are lots of benefits we derive from kissing. Check them out below.}

1. Various researches have found that kissing helps strengthen the body’s defences.

2. Kissing burns calories. You burn between 2 to 6 calories for every minute you kiss.

3. Kissing is good for your facial muscles as it helps tone your facial muscles.

4. Kissing helps you relax by increasing the levels of oxytocin in the body. Oxytocin is your body’s natural calming hormone.

5. Kissing helps you decrease stress in your body by decreasing the stress hormone cortisol and increasing serotonin levels in the brain.

6. Kissing helps lower anxiety.

7. Kissing strengthens relationships by promoting togetherness. It helps bond two lovers.

8. Kissing protects your teeth by fighting against cavities. When you kiss, more saliva is produced which helps to wash plaque on your teeth that may lead to cavities.

9. Kissing helps reduce blood pressure by getting your heart revved in a healthy way.

10. Kissing helps boost self-esteem. According a German study, men who kissed their wives before leaving for work made more money. He’s more productive at work because he’s not feeling emotionally distressed after getting a good kiss from his wife in the morning.

11. Kissing is a powerful type of foreplay which spurs arousal and enhances sex.

{Anyone who tells you everything will remain the same after you get married is definitely lying to you. Knowing the changes that come after you get married helps you get prepared for it better.}

Here are 12 things that change after you get married

1. Sex gets better after you get married. There are no fears about unwanted pregnancy and other barriers that come with pre-marital sex.

2. People view you differently after you get married. They see you as more responsible after you get married.

3. You have more time to spend with your partner after you get married. In the past, you could only see him/her for few hours a week.

4. When you are single, you planned your schedule with only yourself in mind but that changes after getting married. When you are married, you have two people’s schedules (yours and your spouse) to accommodate.

5. How you spend money changes after you get married. You now spend and save for two. You prefer to save than spend after getting married.

6. The way you fight is different after you get married. Before getting married, quitting the relationship was always an option during a fight.

7. Your health will matter to someone other you and your mother and that someone is your spouse.

8. After you get married, people begin to see you as more mature and start taking you more seriously.

9. You start enjoying the company of other married couples and begin to spend less time with single friends.

10. You are more committed to your spouse after getting married.

11. Your spending habits will become transparent. Every expenses can and will be scrutinized by your partner.

12. Before marriage, your parents and your siblings were your most innermost circle but your spouse becomes that after you get married.

{Appreciation is an important tool that will make your relationship better. Showing your partner appreciation will make your relationship better and make your partner loved and valued.
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There are some important times to show your partner appreciation.

{{1. WHEN THEY DO SOMETHING FOR YOU}}

It’s highly important to appreciate your partner when they do something for you; whether it’s something you requested or not or something you value or not. As far as they took their time and effort to do something for you, it should be appreciated.

{{2. WHEN THEY DO SOMETHING LITTLE FOR YOU}}

Some people only appreciate their partner when they do something big for them; they fail to appreciate the little things, as they see it as ordinary — but this is wrong. You ought to appreciate your partner for even those little things done for you.

{{3. WHEN THEY ARE THERE FOR YOU}}

Your partner could be there for when you need someone; they could be there for you emotionally and support you in those trying times. You ought to appreciate your partner for this.

{{4. WHEN THEY ACHIEVE SOMETHING}}

When your partner achieves something or make a huge improvement in their career, business or other aspects of life, you can show them encouragement by appreciating them.

{{5. WHEN THEY MAKE PROGRESS IN THE RELATIONSHIP}}

There’s no perfect person, and even in our relationships we tend to make mistakes and do some wrong things. However, it’s important to appreciate your partner when they make progress in the relationship and when they stop doing some things that they used to. Appreciation could also be a form of encouragement.

{{6. WHEN THEY DO THEIR BEST}}

When your partner is committed to the relationship and is working hard just to improve the relationship, it’s only right you appreciate your partner. It might not even be about the relationship; it could be that your partner is working hard to care of the home or your kids or that your partner is working hard to achieve a goal or vision, you can encourage that person you love by just showing appreciation.

{{7. SPECIAL EVENTS}}

Another important time to appreciate your partner is during special events like birthdays, anniversaries and other special moments in your partner’s life. Never fail to do this!

If you love your partner and value your relationship, you ought to show appreciation to your partner.

{Money fights tend to cause a lot of problems in many marriages. People have different backgrounds and different ways they spend and use money, and this could cause a problem when two people with two different ideologies about money come together.
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One research found that more than half of couples admitted that they quarrel a lot of the time about money.

Research also suggests that fighting over finance is more common among couples than arguing about sex.

So how then can you stop having money arguments with your partner?

{{1. Look for common grounds }}

A major reason couples have those money fights is because they fail to find a common ground, but choose to be persistent about what their own idea. Rather than insisting on what should happen, couples should try to find a common ground — and many of their money fights will disappear.

{{2. Communicate }}

Find easy ways to communicate with your partner when talking about your finances. You should both communicate about what you want and what you feel is right; it shouldn’t be like an interrogation. This way, it would be easy to find a common ground.

{{3. Cut off that feeling of frustration and irritability }}

When talking about your finances, cut off every feeling of anger, irritation and frustration. When these negative energies are present, you won’t be able to have a healthy discussion.

{{4. Plan together }}

Plan together, take major decisions together, and if there must be a compromise, it should be together. This will foster unity and give a sense of oneness that will enable you and your partner handle those money issues better.

{{5. Sat a limit }}

It could be that one partner is a spendthrift and the other loves to save; this could cause a lot of problems if you can’t both agree. The best thing to do in this situation is set a limit — both partners should agree on a limit that would go for shopping and spending and a certain percentage that should go for savings. By this, both partners would be in check and the money arguments would reduce drastically.

{{6. Fix it }}

Find solutions to your money problems; don’t keep having the same issues over and over, else your marriage will suffer. Try to find the best solution for every problem encountered, rather than leaving them to pile up; your marriage would only become toxic if you let them pile up.

Research suggests that if you can find a way to sync your money approach with your partner’s, you’ll have a healthier relationship — and this is absolutely true.

{While family fun often is associated with new and exciting activities, family leisure spent at home in familiar pastimes may be a more effective route to happiness, according to a Baylor University study.}

“That may be because when the brain is focused on processing new information — such as taking part in an unfamiliar activity with unfamiliar people in a new location — less ‘brain power’ is available to focus on the family relationships,” said lead author Karen K. Melton, Ph.D., assistant professor of child and family studies in Robbins College of Health and Human Sciences at Baylor.

While research results suggest that all quality time together contributes to satisfaction with family life, “all family leisure is not equal,” she said. “The best predictor of happiness for families may be spending quality time together in familiar activities inside the home. And that’s great news for families who have little time or few resources.”

The study — “In the Pursuit of Happiness All Family Leisure is Not Equal” — is published in World Leisure Journal.

For the study, researchers used a sample of 1,502 individuals in 884 families in the United Kingdom. Each family unit taking part in the online research had at least one child between the ages of 11 and 15. Participants answered questions about whether they took part in family leisure in the past year, and if so, what activities (from 16 categories) they did, how much time they spent doing them and how frequently they did so.

Melton said that the catchy expression “The family that plays together, stays together!” carries two misconceptions: that all family leisure brings positive results and that all family activities are equal.

“Family members also can express stress and conflict as well as pleasure during leisure time,” she said. “The activities alone will not heal the scars of hurting families.”

Melton noted that some studies support the idea that eating together is one of the best predictors of functioning families, while watching TV is seen as ineffective for individual happiness or family function. But families should question one-size-fits-all notions.

“For some families, quality togetherness is having dinner together or playing games; for others, it may be hobbies, videos or TV, music,” Melton said. “At the end of the day, what matters is that we are social beings who crave a sense of belonging and connectivity.”

{There comes a point in one’s life where you no longer date for the sake of it — you build meaningful relationships that’s future bound; your relationship isn’t about the games and the fun anymore.}

When you’re in such a relationship that’s heading towards marriage, there are signs that reveal so, just as there are signs that show the relationship isn’t marriage bound.

These signs below suggest that your relationship is heading towards marriage.

{{1. You have genuine love for each other }}

When the love you share is genuine and true, and you aren’t just attracted to each other, but share something deeper, then that’s a healthy relationship that’s heading towards marriage.

{{2. You are honest with each other }}

When you still play games with each other, deceive each other and aren’t honest with each other, it clearly shows that relationship may not have a future. Both partners who create a trustworthy relationship by being honest with each other have a relationship that’s heading towards marriage.

{{3. You are both committed }}

Commitment is a good sign that a relationship is going in the right direction, because without it, the relationship will suffer. When you and your partner are committed to each other and are committed to making the relationship work, it clearly shows your relationship is on the right path.

{{4. You communicate }}

Communication is key for a healthy relationship. When you and your partner have a relationship where communication is paramount, then the bond, trust and unity will definitely be high — creating a pathway for a good marriage.

{{5. You both care about the relationship }}

When the relationship means so much to one partner but doesn’t mean much to the other partner, the relationship might not lead to marriage. However, when the relationship means a lot to you and your partner, it could be said that the relationship is marriage bound.

{{6.You both fix it }}

Because the relationship means so much to the both of you, you both try to fix it when it’s broken; you don’t let petty fights and arguments come between what you have.

{{7. You both claim responsibilities for your actions }}

When you and your partner have a kind of relationship where you both admit when you are wrong and take responsibilities for your actions, and you tend to apologise and forgive each other — you clearly have a beautiful relationship that might lead down the aisle.

{{8. You are teammates }}

When you aren’t just partners who have a relationship with each other, but are teammates who are supportive of each other and who want the best for each other, then that’s a healthy sign that your relationship is heading in the right direction.

{{9. You talk about the future }}

When you both talk about the future, plan towards the future and see yourselves as part of each other’s future, plus added to these previous 8 tips, it clearly shows your relationship is bound to lead to marriage.

Every relationship you have shows signs — healthy signs and unhealthy signs, and it’s up to you to read meaning to those signs and understand where the relationship is heading.

These signs above are healthy signs that show your relationship might just be marriage bound.

{Having a good relationship with your boss would bring more good than harm.}

Every boss is human, and even the so-called ‘bad bosses’ can be human if you approach them the right way.

How can this be done?

{{1. Get to know your boss’s communication style }}

Everyone have their way of communicating and passing along information. If you can pay attention and get to know your boss’s style of communication, you’d easily have a good relationship with that boss.

If you notice, even the bad bosses have their favourite employees.

{{2. Be professional }}

Don’t take things for granted; be hardworking, focused and diligent. Avoid coming late to work and avoid gossips and office drama. When you are a professional, your boss will definitely notice this and hold you in high esteem.

{{3. Good relationship doesn’t mean friendship }}

The fact you want to have a good relationship with your boss doesn’t mean you should be friends with your boss.

Having a good relationship doesn’t mean it should transcend to friendship. You can have a good professional relationship and be on good terms with your boss.

{{4. Be proactive and innovative }}

Every employer values employees who are fully motivated and can take the initiative to develop new and sound ideas that’d push the company forward. Proactive and innovative employees would always excite their boss.

{{5. Remember your boss is human }}

The fact that your boss is superior to you at work doesn’t mean they’re more perfect humans. No! Your boss could also make mistake, overreact, get angry and do certain things that could get on your nerves. It just shows that they are humans.

{{6. Don’t wait for praise }}

Do your work diligently without waiting for praise. Whether you are praised or not shouldn’t stop you from doing what you ought to do. Maintain your professional attitude at all times.

{{7. Understand your boss’s mood }}

Understand when your boss is in a good mood, a bad mood or a normal mood. Understand your boss’s mood before approaching them.

{{8. Drama }}

Avoid anything that will create unnecessary drama between you and your boss.

Having a good relationship with your boss will be in your best interest, and with these tips you wouldn’t join the bandwagon of people who keep calling their bosses names.

{Guys, you might not enjoy reading this but going through this list and applying changes where necessary will definitely help your relationship.}

Below are 15 things men do that turn women off

1. You wear dirty or ill-fitting clothes. Your appearance matters a lot to ladies.

2. You always want it your way.

3. You only think about your satisfaction during sex.

4. You are always late. When you do this regularly, you make her think that you don’t care.

5. You let your friends look down on her and you do nothing about it.

6. You constantly interrupt her when she’s talking. Women hate it when you make them feel like they don’t have the right to express their opinion.

7. You compare her to other women.

8. You assume all women are the same.

9. You have body odour and don’t use deodorant.

10. You don’t listen to her when she talks.

11. You have bad shoes. Women take keen interest in shoes and she wants her man to wear good shoes.

12. You are rude to people.

13. You have long, dirty or unkempt fingernails. The most annoying part of it is when you try to put those dirty fingers in her privates.

14. You don’t tell her you love her.

15. You never buy her gifts.