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{Researchers have found a very important reason why you should meditate daily. According to a new study, psychologists have found that meditation can help tame your emotions even if you’re not a mindful person.}

The researchers from Michigan State University recorded the brain activity of people looking at disturbing pictures immediately after meditating for the first time.These participants were able to tame their negative emotions just as well as participants who were naturally mindful.

Meditation has gained worldwide popularity as a way to promote health and well-being. But what if someone isn’t naturally mindful? Can they become so simply by trying to make mindfulness a “state of mind”? Or perhaps through a more focused, deliberate effort like meditation?

The study conducted in Jason Moser’s Clinical Psychophysiology Lab, attempted to find out.

Researchers assessed 68 participants for mindfulness using a scientifically validated survey. The participants were then randomly assigned to engage in an 18-minute audio guided meditation or listen to a control presentation of how to learn a new language, before viewing negative pictures (such as a bloody corpse) while their brain activity was recorded.

The participants who meditated — had varying levels of natural mindfulness — showed similar levels of “emotion regulatory” brain activity as people with high levels of natural mindfulness. In other words their emotional brains recovered quickly after viewing the troubling photos, essentially keeping their negative emotions in check.

According to Jason Moser, MSU associate professor of clinical psychology and co-author of the study: “If you’re a naturally mindful person, and you’re walking around very aware of things, you’re good to go. You shed your emotions quickly,” Moser said. “If you’re not naturally mindful, then meditating can make you look like a person who walks around with a lot of mindfulness. But for people who are not naturally mindful and have never meditated, forcing oneself to be mindful ‘in the moment’ doesn’t work. You’d be better off meditating for 20 minutes.”

{Love isn’t just a word you say, love is an action word, and it’s in that action that you get to show someone just how much they mean to you, and how much you value what you share with them.
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Many couples claim to love each other, but they let their actions betray them. The truth is, most people love their career, their goals, money and so many other things than they love their partner. And when this is the case, it could lead to so many loopholes that would cause that marriage/relationship to begin to falter.

If you love each other, these are some of the things you must be willing to do daily.

{{1.Communicate }}

It’s no doubt that couples who communicate with each other last long with each other. If you love each other, you shouldn’t see communication as a job or chore; you should learn to talk and listen to each other daily. Know how your day went, listen to each other’s worries, news, goals, experiences etc. The act of talking and listening to each other is very important.

{{2.Togetherness }}

Couples who do things together, stay together, right? Practice togetherness, no matter how busy your schedule might be. Try to do at least one thing together; it could even be saying a prayer together. Don’t let your career and daily activities kill the togetherness you should share.

{{3.Appreciate each other }}

Appreciate each other every day; don’t wait for a huge thing to happen — appreciate even the little things your partner does. Appreciate the roles you both play for each other and appreciate the love and bond you share.

{{4.Do something for each other }}

No matter how little, do something nice and kind for your partner each day. Love is not an ordinary emotion; it comes with peace, empathy, forgiveness, tolerance and kindness. So do something kind for each other every day.

{{5.Say something to each other }}

Tell each other how much you love each other, compliment each other and say things to make each other feel better.

{{6.Improve}}

You must learn to love yourself before you can love someone else. When you love and accept yourself, you’ll find it easier to love another person.

So, if you love yourself and your relationship, you should be willing to improve every day; seek ways to be a better person and be a better partner. Check your flaws and the things you do that hurt your relationship (we all have them), and improve on it each day.

{{7.Forgive }}

You must be willing to let go of certain things if you love your partner. Love comes with a forgiving heart; so if you aren’t forgiving your partner, it could be that you don’t love that person enough, or that you aren’t loving the right way.

If you love your partner and your relationship with that person, you must be willing to do these things, not once in a while, but every day.

{Men could guard their thoughts really well, but if you search hard and patient enough you can get to deep into a man’s thoughts and understand what he wants, the way he acts and the actions he takes.}

When a man sees the woman he wants to get married to, there are some things he secretly desires she’d bring to the marriage.

He might not say it, but these are some secret things he wants:

{{1. Men want to be cared for }}

These days men want to be pampered and cared for by their wife; they want a woman who would be sweet and romantic to them also. While women openly desire this, me secretly desire this.

{{2. Men want to feel wanted }}

Men secretly desire their wife to want them; that is to value them and hold them in high esteem. They want their wife to be proud of them and to cherish them. This would really make him feel like a proud husband.

{{3. A woman with a beautiful character }}

Men secretly and to a large extent expect their wife-to-be to bring peace, joy and love to the home. They want a peaceful marriage and one that would be beautiful. No man wants a drama-filled marriage.

{{4. To be listened to }}

Men secretly want their wife to listen to them, listen to what they have to say and in that way they’d be understood. They want their wife to value what they have to say and just be someone who can listen to his problems, good news and worries.

{{5. Respect }}

Men want to be respected by their wife, and they expect that wife-to-be to have this character of respect; they don’t want to be treated with disdain and be belittled by their wife.

{{6. Intimacy }}

In many marriages, men get to beg for sex and attention, but men don’t want this. They want intimacy from their woman and they expect it to come naturally.

{{7. Patience and tolerance }}

Truly, men understand that they could be annoying at times and do things that could make their woman angry, but they don’t want their wife to be critical of them and continually point out their flaws; men want their wife to be patient with them and tolerate them as well.

{{8. To be loved even after having kids }}

Researchers have found that women’s love for their husbands tend to be divided after having kids, and the kids even have a greater share of the love than the husbands most times. Men want to be loved even after having kids.

{{9. Romantic }}

Men also expect their wife-to-be to be romantic towards them and thrill them with romantic gestures as well. Many women expect their husbands to be romantic towards them but they forget to pay back this gesture to their man. Most men secretly want to marry a woman who would thrill them with romance.

Men also expect these things from the woman they are to marry.

{Hello everyone and welcome to yet another edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special. Today’s topic is on a matter we know too well.}

When it comes to relationships, why are men scared of women who are more successful than them. Even when a man finds a woman who loves him completely but is richer than him, he would be scared of having a relationship with her.

Drama and Shawn will tell us more about what scares men in rich and successful women.

{{Drama}}

Even though I’m not one of those men who are scared of being with successful women, I think I understand where their fears come from. There are many stories about men who have suffered one sort of pain or another while they were in a relationship or marriage with women who are successful or rich. In fact, personally, I have dated a couple of them myself, so I totally understand what it is like.

Success gives people a feeling of independence, and for some woman, that feeling can be difficult to control. Once they feel they’re doing well, they get the impression that they can hold their own without a man. They become less respectful, caring, and available to the man in their life.

The other thing is that due to past experiences or of those around them, women who are successful have a problem not believing that a man can love them for them, and not for what they have, own or the position they occupy in society. That belief makes it hard for them to open up and let their guard down to any man. And of course, that would always drive men away from them.

Men like to be in charge, so not so many men would be willing to be in a relationship where they feel like they’re unloved or unappreciated. No man would want to be with a woman who makes him feel like he’s not worthy of her. That is why I think most men run away from women who are successful. There’s also the notion held by a majority of the society, that men who run after successful women are gold diggers. That doesn’t help either.

The primary reason men are scared of dating richer and more successful women is because they believe they’d be less relevant in such relationships.

Men love to call the shots in the relationship, they love to be cherished and valued as well; these are part of a man’s natural ego. But most men feel threatened when they are with a more successful woman; they feel their respect, value and authority would be usurped by such a woman.

Traditionally, a man should be the breadwinner of a home, and every man who does this is usually more confident. When a woman is the richer partner and the major provider in the home, the man’s ego might feels threatened as well. Men love to be dominant, call the shots and be the provider; this boosts their ego and makes them feel more relevant in the relationship.

Also, men love to wow their women and thrill them with expensive treats. A richer woman surely can afford all that and might not really value those treats — that’s the tape that plays in a man’s head.

Finally, it all boils down to a matter of love, respect and value that makes men scared of dating richer and more successful women.

Do you agree with these reasons? Why do you think men are scared of dating more successful women?

{Do you think your wife is satisfied with the marriage? The way you both sleep can determine that, researchers say.}

According to a 2014 study conducted by American researchers, couples are more likely to sleep in sync when the wife is more satisfied with their marriage.

Results from the study found that overall synchrony in sleep-wake schedules among couples was high, as those who slept in the same bed were awake or asleep at the same time about 75 percent of the time. When the wife reported higher marital satisfaction, the percent of time the couple was awake or asleep at the same time was greater.

According to the study’s lead author Heather Gunn, PhD, postdoctoral scholar at the University of Pittsburgh: “How couples sleep together may influence and be influenced by their relationship functioning.”

So, fellas; how you sleep in bed with your wife can go a long to determine how satisfied or unsatisfied she is with the marriage.

{The problem with this generation is that guys want to sweep a woman off her feet without making any effort.}

Men of the older generation understood that women should be cherished and adored. Men of the older generation treated women like angels and this is what this generation isn’t doing.

Below are 20 old-fashioned habits every man should have if he wants to melt the heart of a woman

1. Dress properly when going out on a date with a woman. Show her some respect by dressing nicely.

2. When taking a woman out on a date, come to her door to pick her. Don’t just sit in your car and horn for her to get into the car.

3. Bring flowers or other tokens of respect and affection on the first date.

4. When with a woman, give her your complete attention. Drop your phones and pay attention to what she has to say.

5. Open the door for her.

6. If you are with a woman and you meet a friend you want to stop and chat with, always introduce her. It’s rude if you don’t.

7. Don’t expect sex from a woman just because she loves you. If you love her, you should wait for her.

8. Don’t say she’s hot. Say she’s beautiful.

9. If you are out with a woman and it’s cold, offer her your jacket.

10. Never keep a woman waiting. Always be on time.

11. After a date with a woman, call her and thank her for the date.

12. Don’t ask a woman for nudes.

13. When you take a woman out on a date, walk her up to her door to make sure she makes it home safely.

14. Tell her you love her only when you truly mean it. Never tell her you love her if you don’t mean it.

15. Ask for her permission to kiss her at the end of a date.

16. Go up to her and ask her out. You shouldn’t do that via dating apps or Facebook.

17. Romantic gestures like writing a poem would be appreciated.

18. Be clear with her if you are in a committed relationship or not.

19. Take it slow with her. Don’t rush her.

20. Be sincere with your compliments.

{Women do things differently from men; they think differently, act differently and their bodies respond differently from a man’s own.}

Men most don’t really understand women because they don’t understand a woman’s mindset, her body and her behavioural/thought pattern.

These are some things men don’t know about a woman, that they should.

1. To a lot of women, their friend’s thoughts about you really matter. If they’re impressed with you, she’d value you more.

2. While men might need time to experience orgasms, a woman could experience multiple orgasms. Although, over 70% of women have never experienced orgasm from normal penetration, clitoral stimulation will easily guide her home.

3. Women tend to bring things a lot from the past. The reason for this is that a woman’s brain have been shown to have greater memory recall than a man’s.

4. Women kind of love it when men are jealous; it gives them the belief that you care and are protective towards them. They feel awkward when you don’t feel jealous towards them.

5. Women also stalk their ex on social media, and most times it’s not really that they want you back, but they want to satisfy their curiosity.

6. While men tend to seek youth and attractiveness, evolutionists claim that women go for a man’s attractiveness and resources.

7. Women are attracted to men who smell good; they perceive men like these as attractive.

8. Surprisingly, the only job of a clitoris in a woman’s body is to bring her pleasure. It has no other major role.

9. When she finds you mysterious, she’d be more attracted to you.

10. While women tend to like nice guys, they aren’t really attracted to them to have a relationship with them. Women prefer men with ego and confidence.

11. Most times she wants to look good for you, whether you know this or not, that’s why it’s always important to pay her a compliment.

12. She wants you to be thoughtful when you give her gifts.

13. She definitely wants to be seen as hot and beautiful by your friends, that’s why she sometimes dresses in a sexy way when they are around. Not that she wants to cheat on you, but she loves the idea of being seen as hot.

14. She wants you to tell her that she’s cuter than your exes and that you have something more for her than you did for them.

15. She loves to dress up in front of you and want you to see it as sexy.

16. Studies say that while men listen with the left side of their brain, women listen with both sides. This probably explains why they hear both the things you say and the things they feel you imply.

17. Women experience more orgasms when they clock 40 than when they are below 40. This is probably because a woman’s clitoris grows all through her lifetime, and by menopause age, it becomes about 3 times as large as when she was a teenager.

18. A woman’s egg is fertile between 24 and 48 hours, and sperm can live between 2 to 5 days in a woman’s body.

19. Research say the attractiveness of a child is heavily dependent on what the mother eats during pregnancy. So if you want an attractive child with her, you know what to do.

So fellas, now you can understand your woman better.

{Laziness is a mental state that makes a person lack the energy or desire to perform tasks that they ought to.}

Laziness can have diverse effects on a person and can lead to negative consequences, and it’s important to know that a lazy person can never be successful.

So how can one fight laziness?

{{1. Develop the right attitude }}

Laziness comes as a result of a negative attitude towards work or any work-related activity. The first step to curbing laziness is in the mind; develop your mindset and fill it with the right attitude and you’d overcome laziness.

{{2. Hate laziness }}

Have a hatred for laziness; see it for what it is. When you see laziness as failure, poverty, stagnation, as being a disappointment and as ignorance, you’d get yourself up and do what’s required of you.

There is no reason to sugarcoat laziness; call it what it really is.

{{3. Stop procrastinating }}

Procrastination is a form of laziness but many people don’t know this. Stop procrastinating and always have this in mind — the best time to do the task is now.

{{4. Divide hard tasks into bits }}

The volume of a task is what makes people lazy sometimes; try to divide tasks into bits and you’d become better motivated to finish it off little by little.

{{5. Always bear in mind the consequences of laziness }}

There’s always a consequence for laziness; if you don’t read, you won’t pass. If you don’t clean up, you could become smelly. If you are too lazy wash your bedspread, you could get an infection. If you don’t take your hygiene serious, you could fall ill. If you don’t do your work, you could get sacked.

For every act of laziness comes with it a consequence; always have this in mind and you’d find yourself performing the required tasks.

{{6. Remove distractions}}

A lot of the times laziness is caused by distractions — social media, television, games etc. Find what’s distracting you from being focused and do away with it.

{{7. Set deadlines }}

Have deadlines for each task and take the deadline serious. Deadlines will give you additional motivation to complete a task.

{{8. Visualise the task being completed }}

Visualise that you have completed the task and how accomplished you’d feel when this has been done. This could stimulate you into thinking positively and make you motivated to do what’s required of you.

Always remember that laziness is an enemy of progress and success, and it makes you a worse version of yourself.

{Some things you do could make you kissable and some things you do could make your partner be less into kissing you.}

Kissing is born out of emotions such as love and attraction – the urge for intimacy and desire. Kissing is an important part of a relationship and it comes with some health benefits. You can read 7 health benefits of kissing.

It could be said that couples who don’t kiss each other have lost the spark in their relationship, but there are some things you do that would make your partner want to kiss you more.

{{1. Be a good kisser }}

Everyone loves a good kisser and being a good kisser would make your partner become attracted to your lips. Kissing carries emotions and helps bond couples; being a good kisser would make your partner bond with you and wouldn’t want to let go of those lips. Read 7 tips to being a good kisser.

{{2. Fresh breath }}

Bad breath is a turn off, but a good breath would make your partner want to kiss you more. Maintain a fresh breath and your partner would remain glued to your lips.

{{3. Nice scent I}}

You would be wrong to think that only a fresh breath is enough to make your partner kiss you more often. A fresh breath plus a nice scent is the perfect combination; with this, you wouldn’t even need to do much to draw your partner to your lips.

{{4. Smile more }}

Do you know how attractive you look when you smile, compared to when you frown? Don’t keep that sad face or frown unnecessarily; smile more and you would look so kissable.

{{5. Be more attractive }}

Attraction is what entices couples to kiss; whether it’s physical attraction or attraction as a result of scent or sexual or emotional attraction. Kissing is born out of attraction and the more attractive you look to your partner, the more your partner would want to kiss you.

{{6. Appreciate being kissed }}

People don’t know this, but appreciating your partner for kissing you would prompt your partner to kiss you. Tell your partner things like “I love it when you kiss me” and that would be the catalyst to making your partner kiss you more.

{{7. Be positive }}

You can’t be a negative partner in the sense that you nag a lot and hurl abuses at your partner and expect your partner to be attracted to your lips; when what comes out of your lips are harsh words then you are chasing your partner away. Be more positive and kind with words.

{{8. Body contact }}

Body contact is also enough to prompt a kiss. Hug and cuddle more and make bodily contact with your partner.

{{9. Body language }}

Your body language can also prompt your partner to kiss you. Understanding your partner and what turns him or her on is important, making body contact is important; staring at your partner’s lips is a sign that you want to be kissed, and placing your face beside your partner can also prompt a case. Proper body language can make your partner kiss you, without you even saying a word.

Do not let the kissing die in your relationship; it’s a huge sign of attraction and it’s important for your relationship.

{How you take care of your cloths will go a long way to determine how long it will last. There are some tips you should never ignore when it comes to taking care of your clothes; these tips will make your clothes look fresher and last longer.}

{{1. Buy quality }}

The first step to having clothes that will last long is to buy quality. Not that you should buy expensive clothes or brand names, just go for quality clothing. A quality shirt will last longer than two low quality shirts.

{{2. Wash less frequently }}

Try to wash your clothes less frequently as possible, not that you should wear dirty clothes, but the more you wash your clothes, the more it loses its quality.

{{3. Read labels }}

Don’t take cloth labels for fancy; they are actually very important. They pass a message on how you should wash and care for your cloths. Read labels and follow its advice accordingly.

4. Rotate your clothes very well {{
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Rotating your cloths accordingly will help you wear them less frequently and wash them less frequently. When you rotate your clothes evenly and wear them “last in, first out”, it would mean less wear and tear.

{{5. Iron carefully }}

Different cloths require different level of heat when ironing, and you should never forget that. Iron your clothes according to the heat required for the fabric, else they could burn or the heat could weaken the garment over time.

{{6. Store your clothes properly }}

The way you store your clothes would determine how long they would last. Do not pack your clothes together; give them room to breathe and store in a cool dry place, because moisture and heat can cause mold to grow on your clothes.

{{7. Practice good hygiene }}

Good personal hygiene will keep your clothes in better condition. You may wonder how.

Wearing dirty clothes or wearing them till it gets very dirty before washing could give your clothes bad odour, sweats can also cause stains and bad hygiene can kill the appearance of your cloth.

8. Remember to wash inside out, especially dark clothes and jeans. Also, wash like colours and learn to separate colours.

9. Ladies, wear your makeup before wearing your clothes. Never forget this. You avoid the risk of causing stains and fine lines on your cloth when you do this.

These tips will keep your clothes in the best condition.