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{You can’t have a lasting relationship when you aren’t ready to work for it. For a relationship to succeed, you need to have the right attitude and also put in the required work.}

Below are 20 things that will change your relationship for the better

1. Always cherish the things that made you fall in love with your partner.

2. Maintain a good intimacy in your relationship by hugging, cuddling, holding hands and kissing your partner.

3. Laugh together.

4. Spend time with your partner’s friends and family.

5. Let your partner know you are in his/her thoughts by regularly keeping in touch.

6. Create out time for your partner regularly.

7. Never let a day go by without telling your partner how much you love him or her.

8. Trust your partner.

9. Let your partner do the things he or she enjoys doing.

10. Apologise when you wrong your partner.

11. Forgive your partner’s mistakes.

12. Avoid getting angry easily for small mistakes committed by your partner.

13. Respect your partner’s belief.

14. Say sorry to your partner sometimes even when it’s not your fault.

15. Accept your partner for the way he or she is.

16. Never cheat on your partner.

17. Be willing to compromise for the sake of your relationship.

18. Avoid nagging.

19. Always make your partner feel attractive.

20. Avoid getting jealous unnecessarily.

{Social media have come to stay, and the impact it has had in communication and information has been tremendous. But it also has its cons, and if you aren’t too careful, you might be caught up in its cons.}

These are some social media cons you should be wary of.

{{1. Distraction }}

Knowing when to use and when to stay away from social media is good thing, because there are lots of distracting and engaging contents on social media that can while away your time and you’d end up being distracted from the thing that you ought to have done.

{{2. Could change your priorities }}

You should be careful with your social media approach, because it’s a network — an open network of many people with diverse ideologies sharing their lives in one space. Your approach to social media can cause you to care about the wrong things that might not even add value to your life at the end of the day. The distractions revealed in the first point could cause you lose focus and even change your priorities — and you need to be careful about that.

{{3. Comparisons}}

Probably, a bulk of your friends are on social media, and they all share a part of their lives on it. Some might have glamorous lives that will make you live in comparisons and make you wish you were them. This can kill your self-esteem if you aren’t careful.

{{4. Bitterness }}

The comparison which is explained above could leave you with bitterness, if you aren’t careful. You’d no longer be proud of yourself, neither will you appreciate what’s going on in your life — and bitterness might gradually become envy if you aren’t careful.

{{5. Emphasis on the wrong things }}

Getting more friends on your list, having more followers, wanting a large number of people to like your posts and updates and trying to be the centre of attraction are some of those things many people do on social media. These things are so irrelevant but social media usage could make you identify with them and then you lose value of what really matters and focus more on what doesn’t.

{{6. Validation }}

Wanting people to admire you, wanting people to be more aware of you — all these are seeking validation, and are signs that you want to be accepted. Seeking validation online is dangerous, and it’s you giving outsiders the chance to determine your worth.

{{7. Oversharing }}

There should be a line between what you can share and what you cannot share on social media. When you overshare your personal life and what should be private, you endanger yourself in many ways. Inasmuch as social media provides the platform to share your life, there should be set boundaries.

Social media has its pros and cons, depending on how you use it. So be careful and not let its cons catch up with you.

{So many men just assume the things their partner wants in bed. I know every man desires to please his woman in bed but you can’t achieve this if you don’t know the things she wants from you in bed. To please your woman in bed as much as possible, you have to digest every single word in this article.}

Below are 8 pieces of advice every woman would love to give her man

{{1. Don’t just kiss her lips alone }}

Every woman loves been kissed by her man but most men don’t really take advantage of this. Most men go for the forehead kiss, and kiss on the lips and neglect other parts of the woman’s body. She enjoys the forehead kiss and kiss on the lips but she also wants to kissed all over her body. She wants you to kiss her neck, her stomach, thighs and every other part of her body. Kissing is a way of showing affection and if done properly is a wonderful way of connecting to her.

{{2. Don’t neglect foreplay
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Men usually tend to be in a rush, thereby skipping foreplay and going directly to the main event. Your woman wants you to take your time to enjoy and discover each other’s body. Women love foreplay; she wants to be turned on to the point where she begs you to come inside her. Most men need to understand that foreplay feels incredible for women and having a good foreplay will lead to an incredible sex.

{{3. Talk dirty }}

We love it when our man talks dirty to us but for some reason only known to the men, not many men participate in it. Women also don’t want the dirty talking to be limited to the bedroom. Spice up the relationship by sending text messages throughout the day stating the things you would want to do to her. Learn to talk dirty to her because women are imaginative and vocal beings.

{{4. Size doesn’t matter }}

She would want you to stop worrying too much about the size of your junk because sex has nothing to do with the size of a man’s junk and everything to do with the way you make love. So instead of worrying about the size of your junk, she would instead want you to learn to use what you’ve got.

{{5. Women also enjoy dominating }}

While it’s so sweet to have our man dominate us in bed, women also want to dominate their man in bed. Women also enjoy being in charge in bed once in a while because it’s empowering as well as satisfying. So learn to allow her be the boss and dominate in bed sometimes as you would also enjoy the sight of her doing her thing on you.

{{6. She wants to please you }}

Every woman enjoys pleasing her man in bed and this is something most men don’t know. She wants you to vocalize what you enjoy the most during sex. She expects you to tell her what you want and like without being shy. As women, we enjoy it when our man tells us we are doing something right during sex. Women love acknowledgment not only in sex but also in life.

{{7. Try new things in bed }}

Routine in sex kills the excitement and makes it boring. Women want men to know that taking risks and trying new things in bed is actually a good thing. Women get bored easily so trying new positions during sex helps create a new experience between a man and his woman which is a great way of discovering one another. Trying new things in bed would also help spice up things in bed.

{{8. Do not forget your romantic side}}

Most men tend to forget their romantic side after a certain amount of time of being with a woman. She wants you to understand that she appreciates you trying to be romantic. Being the romantic man she wants would also lead to an amazing time in bed with her.

{First impression matters, and you might never get a second chance to make a good first impression. So it’s important that when you meet someone for the first time it’s only important you make a good first impression.}

How can you make a good first impression?

{{1. Smile }}

One cannot fully understand what a smile can do to improve your facial expression, your countenance and people’s thoughts about you. Putting a smiling face is the best first impression you can give.

{{2. Show genuine interest }}

Listen to the person you are talking to, nod and then respond. When you give that person the impression that you are actually listening and you’re interested in them, of course they’ll find you interesting.

{{3. Say focused }}

Focus on the person you are talking to and avoid distractions from phones or people around. When you are focused on that person, you make them feel important — and that’s a good first impression.

{{4. Your body language }}

Studies have found that body language has four times more influence on first impressions than what you actually say. How you express yourself and those little things like your facial expression, a handshake, whether your arms are folded or not — speak volumes more than what you say.

{{5. Ask questions }}

Ask questions that will encourage the person to talk more and elaborate on the matter being discussed. These questions give them the confidence to talk more and improve their impression of you.

{{6. Pay genuine compliments }}

People want to feel good about themselves, and one of the fastest ways to achieve this is by actually paying genuine compliments. Compliment their looks, style cloths etc. But remember that it has to be genuine.

Gaining a good first impression couldn’t get easier .

{A wedding is a huge event, and it’s one with important significance, and represents a vow that the marriage should last forever.}

When planning for a wedding, there are some important things every couple should have in mind, things that go beyond having a fancy wedding.

{{1. Plan a wedding according to your budget
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Plan a wedding that’ll suit your budget; don’t go bankrupt because you’re trying to impress your family and friends. Remember that your real lives start the next day, and you’d need money. Going broke for your wedding will put you under pressure, and that isn’t what your marriage needs.

{{2. A successful wedding doesn’t mean a successful marriage }}

A successful wedding is good, but it has no effect on the marriage. It doesn’t mean that the marriage will also be successful. A wedding is only a celebration; the real marriage starts after the wedding, and it has little to do with the wedding success.

{{3. Enjoy it }}

Enjoy your wedding; it only comes once. Have all the fun you can, dance all that’s in you to dance, because after that day all that will be left are memories — let the memories be worthwhile.

{{4. Plan to never let the joy fade }}

The joy and love you feel on your wedding day should be permanent, and it’s possible for it to be permanent. Plan to never let that joy fade. It would require a lot of work, effort and commitment to make this happen; be ready to do it.

Have these 4 things in mind when planning for that wedding.

{Maturity isn’t about age; its how you think and live your life. Some mature women are actually younger than some immature girls. What I mean is that a person can be 20 and mature while another can be 30 and still act immature.}

So here are 5 signs you are dating a mature woman and not an immature girl

{{1. Mature women can handle themselves financially }}

A mature woman doesn’t depend on a man to survive. While a immature girl dates a man to survive, a mature woman dates a man because he treats her right and respects her. A mature woman doesn’t need a man’s money to survive.

{{2. Mature women don’t wear revealing clothes to look sexy }}

We live in a world where many immature girls think wearing revealing clothes is being sexy. This is so wrong. A mature woman doesn’t need to wear revealing clothes to look sexy because she understands she looks sexy no matter what she wears.

{{3. Mature women keep their relationship off social media }}

An immature girl reveals every detail about her relationship on social media. You know everything that happens in an immature girl’s relationship by just going through her social media account. A mature woman knows how to handle her relationship on social media. A mature woman doesn’t reveal every detail about her relationship on social media.

{{4. Mature women don’t get wasted on alcohol }}

Immature girls think drinking lots of alcohol is living the life and they end up wasted on alcohol most times. You would never see a mature woman wasted on alcohol because she knows her limits.

{{5. A mature woman knows how to express herself }}

An immature girl expects her man to read her mind. An immature girl expects her man to know what she’s thinking and how she’s feeling. Mature women don’t act this way. A mature woman doesn’t expect her man to read her mind because she knows he isn’t a mind reader and she’s also comfortable expressing herself.

{There are some things a man will easily say to his buddy, but would have no clue how to tell his lady. He chooses not to tell you, probably because he might feel embarrassed about it, or he isn’t sure how you’d react, or you might take it the wrong way or he doesn’t even know how to go about it.}

These are some of those things he wants to tell you but don’t know how to.

{{1. That he doesn’t understand your mood sometimes }}

A lot of men don’t understand why a woman has mood swings — when she’s happy this minute and goes blank all of a sudden. He would love to know why and what’s really happening, but of course he’s going to be ignored at this time.

{{2. Wants to be loved for who he is }}

Every man wants to feel loved because of who he is; not because of his wealth, connection or other trivial things. A lot of women these days make it all about the money, but men sometimes get the impression that all you care about is money — and it could be demoralising.

{{3. Respect shouldn’t be negotiated }}

Every man wants to be respected by his lady, but these days a lot of women disrespect their men and say all manner of demeaning things to them. Every man wants to feel that he’s respected by his woman and that she values him too.

{{4. Your words really hurt }}

Some women tend to go haywire during a misunderstanding, and they could say all manner of things to their man. While a man might act like the words mean nothing to him, they actually do — and it hurts him for a long time.

{{5. Sometimes ,men need their space }}

Sometimes a man needs a bit of space; not that he doesn’t love you anymore or that you mean less to him at that point; it’s him trying to find himself and thinking certain things through. Of course, you occupy his heart, but in a man’s world, there are always complex things to ponder on.

{{6. It’s not really that our buddies come before you
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Sometimes a woman might feel like a man’s friend(s) actually comes before her, but this isn’t how he sees it. He really wants you to know that the connection he has with his friends is different from that which he has with his woman, and he needs both because you both play different roles in his life — and you are the one he comes back to at the end of the day, except he doesn’t love you.

{{7. Sex }}

There are so many things a man will like to tell/ask his woman regarding sex, but not many men know how to go about this. First, he wants to honestly know what you think of the sex and then what he can do improve it. These two things matter to almost every man.

{{8. Sometimes it’s hard to make you happy }}

Every man who loves his woman wants to see her happy, but sometimes men are confused as to how they’ll go about this. It’s hard sometimes to make a woman happy, and men in a way want to hear from you how to make you happy — it might be ironical or counterintuitive, but this really happens.

{{9. Go straight to the point }}

Men hate when women beat around the bush; they just want you to go straight to the point sometimes and spare them the long details. Of course, he cannot tell you this.

{{10. Commitment }}

It isn’t really that men are scared of commitment; it’s complications that a lot of men are scared of. Some men dread marriage because they feel the woman could become too complicated when they tie the knot and some other similar problems. It’s the complication and fear of making the wrong decision that scare most men.

{{11. Stop complaining }}

Your man wants to tell you to stop complaining; he probably must have gotten your point when you say it just once than you having to repeat it countless times. Nagging and complaining makes his bitter. Saying it once is usually enough.

There are a thousand other things a man wants to tell you, but truly, he doesn’t know how to — and these 11 things are just some of the basics.

{If you are at a point in your life where you feel lost and nothing just seems to work for you, these quotes will undoubtedly lift your spirits and make you believe again.}

1. “Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning up to do afterward.” – Kurt Vonnegut

2. “Difficulties break some men but make others. No axe is sharp enough to cut the soul of a sinner who keeps on trying, one armed with the hope that he will rise even in the end.” – Nelson Mandela

3. “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. “Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” – JK Rowling

5. “You will fail at some point in your life. Accept it. You will lose. You will embarrass yourself. You will suck at something. There is no doubt about it… Never be discouraged. Never hold back. Give everything you’ve got. And when you fall throughout life, fall forward.” – Denzel Washington

6. “Everytime you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask yourself if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” – Dee

7. “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” – Winston Churchill

8. “Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.” – Mahatma Gandhi

9. “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein

10. “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life. It goes on.” – Robert Frost

{In today’s world, women tend to go for boob jobs and do all manner of things that’ll make boobs bigger, and in their minds, sexier. But that’s unnecessary; small boobs are just perfect and sexy enough, and it’s up to you to be comfortable in your own skin, and you’d most definitely find lots of men that will love your small boobs and see them as appealing and attractive.
}

Ladies, I have six reasons why your small boobs are sexy enough.

{{1. You have more sensitive breasts }}

According to a research done by researchers from the University of Vienna, smaller breasts are more sensitive than larger ones, the researchers found.

Another study even found that bigger boobs are 24% less sensitive than the smaller ones. So, your smaller boobs bring more pleasure than the much-famed bigger boobs.

{{2. They stand the test of time }}

While larger breasts tend to sag and stretch due to ageing, smaller boobs maintain its perkiness for much longer time.

{{3. They are more sporty }}

Forget all the hype about bigger boobs, smaller boobs are are much more sporty, and you’ll be able exercise better when you have smaller boobs. Larger boobs can sometimes feel like extra baggage.

{{4. Shape }}

Smaller boobs give you that exciting shape and perfect posture. For that perfect symmetrical and balanced proportions, smaller boobs will do the trick.

{{5. They are easier to examine }}

It’s easy to examine your boobs when they are smaller, and this can help you detect everything happening around it, including signs that suggest breast cancer. As far as self-examination is concerned, smaller breasts are easier to examine.

{{6. Men love them too }}

Social media and music videos might give you the impression that bigger boobs are sexier, but in reality, there are lot of men who see small boobs as the real deal and find them sexier and more attractive.

So why don’t you value your breasts today?

{Over a Thanksgiving dinner our family hosted last fall with four international students from George Mason University, a female graduate student from Peru recounted her experiences as a resident assistant in a freshman dorm. “I had students coming to me with no idea how to do laundry,” she said. “I had to hold their hands through the simplest things.”}

That anecdote is not unusual these days. Colleges and employers alike are reporting that young people can’t do life’s most basic tasks. With all of our emphasis on academics and what it takes to get into college, essential life skills, such as how to do laundry, balance a checking account or cook a meal, have been overlooked.

“Life skills are essential for your child to learn how to be independent and become self-sufficient,” said Lindsay Hutton, editor at FamilyEducation.com. “Appropriate life skills will also help your child feel empowered, help develop his self-esteem, and aid in socialization and reasoning skills.”

These essential skills, which used to be taught in home economics courses at school and by parents at home, have fallen off the radar.

“Classrooms have become so focused on preparing our children academically that life skills have been put on the back burner,” said Hutton. “Also, the helicopter-parenting trend has given rise to the fear that a lot of parents feel for their child’s safety. Many parents are overprotective of their kids using electrical appliances, knives and other items that could potentially harm them, which gets in the way of learning these skills.”

That has led to college students who are unable to do laundry, among other basic, yet essential, tasks.

What should kids learn and at what age? In general, children should know how to care for a house, yard and their belongings. For younger kids, break a larger task down into manageable chunks and gradually increase responsibilities until the child is doing it on her own. Role-playing scenarios and chores around the house are a safe and easy way for kids to learn these skills.

Here’s a partial list of those key life skills, suggested by Hutton and other parents.

{{Elementary school}}

{{Personal safety.}} There’s a reason kids are still taught to know their full name, address and phone number in elementary school — safety. Hutton said that knowing how to make an emergency call is also important.

{{Care of self. }} Children should know how to wash themselves, brush their teeth, get dressed and take care of personal hygiene in the early grades of elementary school. Bedtime and morning checklists can be helpful in keeping them on track.

{{Care of others. }} As children get beyond kindergarten, they should begin to learn how to care for others, such as the family pet. For example, our second- and third-graders take turns filling the cat food and water dishes each day, while their older siblings clean the cat litter boxes.

{{Talking to others. }} Children need to know how to look people in the eye and carry on a polite conversation. Kids can practice by ordering food at a restaurant, paying for items at a store and asking a librarian for help locating a book.

{{Middle school}}

{{Being home alone. }} Hutton said knowing how to be safe when at home alone is one of the most important skills to teach middle-school-age kids. For a child not used to being by himself in the house, start with short periods, such as a trip to a neighborhood coffeehouse for an hour, to help the tween become more comfortable.

{{Kitchen safety.}} Kids should know how to use the stove and knives properly, as well as what goes into cooking a meal. Assign your tween one evening a week to cook for the family to allow him to practice these skills. Three of my kids — ages 13, 11 and 9 — each have a night to make dinner for the family, although I cook alongside the 9-year-old to guide him.

{{Label reading. }} How to understand a label, such as laundry instructions or the dosage on common medicines, is an essential life skill. Rather than reaching for the bottle yourself, have your tween read the instructions to you and let her ask questions if she needs clarification.

{{Managing social situations. }} Janet Perez Eckles of Orlando taught her children how to have positive social interactions in a three-step process. First: When meeting anyone for the first time, offer a firm handshake with eye contact and a genuine smile. Second: Show interest by asking questions about their work, family, hobbies, etc. Third: After listening attentively, give feedback about what was shared. “Beginning and maintaining good relationships are the key to leadership, growth and success,” she said.

{{High school}}

{{Money management.}} Mary L. Hamilton of Waco, Tex., started teaching her children to be responsible with money by giving them an allowance when they were preschoolers. She built upon that foundation when her kids hit their teen years by setting up bank accounts for them, with both a savings and checking account. “By the time they went to college, they understood they could only spend money that’s already there, and all three are good money managers. This sets them up for financial success as they get into the job market and start earning bigger money,” she said.

{{Responsible driving. }} This extends beyond keeping the car between the white lines on the highway. Teens should know the dangers of texting (or drinking) while driving, how to pump gas and how to add air to or change a tire. They should also know whom to call in case of a roadside emergency (you, police, insurance company, etc.). Modeling responsible driving is the best way to teach them these skills.

{{Time management. }} Juggling school assignments, extracurricular activities and a social life can be challenging for any teen. Tips for managing time well include knowing your time wasters (social media, video games, etc.); assigning smaller, incremental deadlines for big projects; and scheduling down time to maintain a good school/work and life balance.

{{Getting and keeping a job.}} There’s more to success in the workplace than getting the right college degree. “From filling out an application to interviewing to follow-up, we walked our kids through the process of procuring employment,” said Jeanette Levellie of Paris, Ill.

Remember, it’s not how well they master the actual task; the act of learning these life skills also has far-reaching benefits.

“Problem-solving, time management, socialization, independence and learning about rewards and consequences are all skills your child will benefit from as she develops life skills,” said Hutton. “For example, learning how to clean and keep a tidy home can help with your child’s interpersonal relationships as she learns to live with a college roommate. Teaching your child proper hygiene skills can lead to better social confidence. Learning to cook can help your child learn to save money by eating at home.”