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{Some men are just good at lying and they always seem to be several steps ahead of you so if you notice any of these signs from him, he might be lying to you.}

{{1. He gets defensive }}

Your man is probably not telling the truth if he gets angry when you keep asking him questions. He does this to stop you from investigating further.

{{2. He avoids making eye contact }}

Your man is probably lying to you when he fails to make eye contact. He avoids eye contact when he’s ashamed of what he has done but he doesn’t want to confess what he’s done.

{{3. His stories don’t match up }}

Your man is obviously not telling you the truth if his stories don’t match up. If he retells a story very differently from the way he narrated it to you the first time, he’s probably hiding something from you.

{{4. He avoids giving you a straightforward answer }}

Your man is obviously hiding the truth from you if he avoids giving you a straightforward answer to a question you asked him. A liar will change the subject of discussion, give a very long story or even start asking you questions instead when you ask him a question.

{{5. He provides too much information }}

Liars tend to convince who they are lying to by providing information that wasn’t even requested for. So if you find your man providing too much information when you ask him a question, that could mean he’s lying to you.

{{6. He starts fidgeting }}

Your man is probably lying to you if he becomes nervous when you ask him a question and starts shuffling his feet or picking something when trying to answer your question.

{Women love attention and they always seek the attention of the man in their life. It’s important as a man that you give her the attention she yearns for.}

You are definitely not giving her enough attention if you notice any of the following in your relationship

{{1. She has stopped asking for your help or opinion }}

Women resort to keeping to themselves when you aren’t giving them enough attention. If you notice the woman in your life no longer ask for your help or opinion, she’s definitely not getting enough attention from you. She has probably gotten used to you not helping out so she has stopped asking you for things.

{{2. She always tells you that she misses you a lot }}

The woman in your life needs more of your attention if she always tells you she misses you a lot. This is an obvious clue women give when they miss their man but many men fail to get what she means. You definitely need to devote more time to her if she tells you she misses you a lot.

{{3. She starts acting jealous}}

Another sign that shows the woman in your life isn’t getting enough attention is when she starts acting jealous of your job and friends. Every woman wants you to treat her like your priority, not your job or your friends.

{{4. She is dressing to impress lately }}

Another sign that may show the woman in your life isn’t getting enough of your attention is when she starts spending more time wearing clothes she knows you like and dressing in ways to catch your eye. Women love the attention of their man and they sometimes resort to dressing to impress just to get his attention.

{{5. Everyone knows what is happening in her life before you }}

When everyone around her always seems to know what’s happening in her life before you do, that could be a sign she’s not getting enough attention from you. Always communicate with the woman in your life by calling or texting her so you can know what’s going on with her.

{Hello Elcrema family and welcome to yet another beautiful edition of the Elcrema Sunday Love Special.}

Today, we’d be discussing about proposal. When can one say it has taken too long for a man to propose to a woman?

Drama and Shawn will share their opinions, and your opinion about this touchy subject also matters.

{{Drama}}

First, I want to say that there are different reasons why people go into a relationship, sometimes, it’s not about eventually getting married, but about fun and friendship. You need to be sure you know what you and your partner want before you dabble into that relationship. This is because there are a lot of people who are simply in a ‘just fun’ relationship without even knowing it. Define the relationship terms and goals before you start, so you’re sure of what you’re getting into.

That said, I think that it’s pretty simple to tell when a man is serious about settling with you as his partner for life (marriage). If your man, who has made his intentions to get married sometime in the future known to you is very comfortable financially, and still hasn’t proposed to you, then there is something not right with that relationship. There is usually just one thing that keeps a man from proposing to the woman he truly loves — money. Once money is available, men usually do not hold back. If they hold back, then it’s almost certain that they’re having second doubts about the woman. So, I can’t put a time frame to how long I think it should take for a man to propose to the woman he loves, but I think that the comfort level he has financially is what I consider a good yardstick to measure it. If he has no money, he isn’t ready, unless the woman is willing to be the ‘man’ in the marriage. But if he has a stable source of income, and is doing well financially, and still doesn’t propose, that can be considered as ‘stalling’. As the woman, talk to him about it, and if you’re unsatisfied with his response, body language, then, you might be right to take a walk.

I’d say it depends on certain factors. A lot of men tend to date other women for a very long time and then leave them for other ‘suitable’ women when they are ready for marriage. But this is really wrong.

There are so many factors that could prompt one to say “this has taken too long”; age, duration of the relationship, how far the relationship has come etc. I’d share my opinion on the three subjects mentioned.

The age factor is an important one; ladies tend to get worried when they draw close to the their 30s, and while this is something most men can’t understand, I feel it’s something they should accept — women will always get worried and ask questions when they are around this age, and they deserve genuine answers.

The duration of the relationship is another one. You don’t have to date a lady for 10 years before you propose to her. Dating a lady for a year or two or even less should be enough to tell you whether to take the relationship further or not. If you feel the relationship isn’t right, it’s better to end it at that time than waste the woman’s time, and if you feel the relationship is right then you should try to sort things out and take it further. Sometimes, certain factors like finance and other things might not be ready at the time, but you can always start small, and you should at least communicate your fears and worries with her.

Thirdly, how far has the relationship come? There is a stage the relationship will get to and you just know deep within you that you should take it further. If you keep stalling and wasting precious time, then the relationship might reach its peak and probably begin to decline, and the love that once existed will turn sour gradually.

I believe that there is time for everything, and these factors to me should determine whether your proposal has taken too long.

That’s our take on this topic, but then when can you really say a proposal has taken too long?

{The society has made doing certain things practically impossible for men today. Sometimes, you find a man going against what he actually believes in deep inside of him, just because he doesn’t want to seem ‘unmanly’. So I’ve put together this post to address some of these things, and make it clear to every man out there, that it’s okay to follow what you believe in sometimes.}

Follow me, as we check out some of these things.

{{ 1. SHARING THE BILL ON A DATE}}

Certain societies believe that men should bear every burden there is, especially if it’s money related, and not children related, so you find that in societies like this, men take on the responsibility of taking care of the bills when they go on a date with a woman— even when asked out by the woman. Sometimes, men in places like this also tend to feel discouraged to ask a woman on a date because they are afraid of financial expenses it may incur. However, I want to make it clear that there’s nothing wrong with a man wanting to share the bills for a date with his partner on a date. If you do not have enough money, there’s no shame in letting her know you don’t. If anything, it sells you to her as an honest and plain person. It’s not written in law anywhere that the man has to bear all financial responsibility. If a woman asks you out, there’s nothing wrong with allowing her fend for the bills unless she asks you to, but I doubt any right thinking woman would want to do something that cheap.

{{2. HELPING HOLD HER HAND BAG/PURSE}}

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with helping a woman (your woman, especially) hold her hand bag or purse if there’s need for it. By ‘need for it’, I mean, maybe she has too much in her hands already, or she has to take care of something for a minute. You can even do it for her, even if she has nothing in her hands. That can pass as a simple romantic gesture. It doesn’t make you any less a man, trust me.

{{3. SHARING CHORES}}

In some climes, men aren’t allowed to do certain chores at their homes, even little things like doing the dishes or laundry. These cultures only allow men to make money and eat, but it’s wrong, if you asked me. There’s nothing wrong with assisting your wife and family to do some of the chores in the house. It’s why you’re a part of the family in the first place. And it’s the little things like that that strengthen your togetherness.

{{4. ASKING FOR FINANCIAL HELP}}

It’s not a taboo or a crime to ask your wife or any woman around you for help, if there’s need for such. Some think it belittles them to ask a woman for financial assistance, but not from a man. I think that’s just hypocrisy. There’s no biggie there. Sometimes, you’re in a difficult situation, and only a woman can help, it’d be stupid to not go to that woman if you really want that help.

So that was it guys. Man up and be yourself. Do what you feel is right, not what the society tells you. Live for you, not for society.

{Desperation is never a good thing, and there are countless of women out there who are desperate. Some women even put up desperate acts and are ignorant of the fact that they are being desperate.}

Desperation would only make a woman lose her value and make her seem ordinary in the eyes of men.

Below are some signs of desperation many women tend to exhibit.

{{1. Chasing after a man because he is rich }}

Countless women do this and see no wrong in it. When a woman does everything possible to get a man simply because he’s rich then that’s a sign of pure desperation.

{{2. Agree to be a side chic }}

I mean who prides in being a side chic? Only a desperate woman does. Only a desperate woman would agree to be a side chic or sex tool to a man simply because she doesn’t want to lose him, or hoping that he would see her worth someday — he never would.

{{3. She dresses in scanty clothes to gain a man’s attention }}

Only a desperate woman would go to this length to get a man’s attention. It shows desperation when you feel you have nothing to offer a man but your body.

{{4. Falling for every man that comes your way }}

Some women have no choice when it comes to men; they cling on to any man who comes their way. Only a desperate woman would have no choice of what she wants in a man. To avoid being single, desperate women cling on to any man.

{{5. Marriage }}

Some women are desperate for marriage to the extent that they pressure any man who comes their way for marriage. Some ladies even go as far as talking about marriage just after the first date and many pressure their man for marriage a few weeks after dating. This is only a sign of desperation.

{{6. Only desperate women allow their men treat them like shit }}

You might call it love, but I call it desperation. When a man treats you with disrespect and disregards you, it means he doesn’t value you and you shouldn’t be having that relationship with him. Only a desperate woman would take all the ‘shit’ from her man, and at the end of the day he leaves her when he’s fed up.

{{7. She tries to trap a man with pregnancy }}

Some women intentionally get pregnant for a man simply because they want to be in his life or probably to extort money from him. This is only a sign of a desperate woman.

{{8. To constantly call a man who wouldn’t call her back }}

It shows desperation when you call a man who would never return your call. This only shows he doesn’t care about you; but a desperate woman wouldn’t care anyways.

{{9. She has no life outside of a man }}

You ought to live your life too, but a desperate woman never does this; her whole life revolves around a man who probably doesn’t care too much about her.

{{10. Stalk a man }}

It’s not bad to have a crush on someone; it’s bound to happen now and then. But when it gets to a point where you have to stalk him on social media and his residence or place of work then that’s plain desperation.

{{11. She spends almost her whole life on dating sites }}

Only a desperate woman with little to no social life would spend all her spare time on countless dating sites in search of men.

Being a desperate woman would only make men see you less than who you truly are. Brace yourself up and become a woman who people would value.

{Many marriages are suffering today due to bad advice from friends and family.

Marriage is bound to come with its challenges but following the tips in the article will help you deal with these challenges better.}

Below are 30 important tips that will help you build a successful marriage

1. Give your partner the benefit of doubt.

2. Don’t talk to your partner when you are too angry because you might say things you might regret later.

3. Always kiss and hug your spouse. Kiss and hug your spouse before going to work in the morning, when you get back home, before going to bed etc.

4. Take a walk with your partner daily.

5. Avoid blaming your spouse for your problems. Learn to take responsibility for things you do wrong.

6. Go on weekly dates.

7. Be willing to compromise.

8. Never be too busy to spend quality time with your spouse.

9. Avoid focusing on your partner’s flaws. Look for the good in your spouse.

10. Avoid doing things that would affect trust.

11. Be at your partner’s service every day.

12. Forgive your partner quickly and avoid bringing up your partner’s past mistakes.

13. Compliment your spouse often.

14. Never take each other for granted.

15. Listen to what your partner has to say.

16. Always be united in front of your children even if you don’t agree with what your spouse is saying at the time.

17. House chores shouldn’t be left for one partner. Doing house chores together strengthens your relationship with your spouse.

18. Avoid speaking badly about your spouse to others.

19. Treat your spouse with respect and kindness.

20. Never let a day pass by without telling your partner how much you love him or her.

21. Selfishness will kill your marriage. Learn to be selfless.

22. Avoid flirting with others.

23. Hold hands often. It helps present a united front and creates a bond between you and your spouse.

24. Your spouse should be your best friend.

25. Your spouse should be your number one priority.

26. Always say thank you for favours from your partner.

27. Tolerate your partner’s flaws. No marriage will work without tolerance.

28. Try to do things together as a couple as much as you can.

29. Be transparent with your partner. Avoid secrets.

30. Be the type of person your spouse can brag about.

{I’ve heard a lot of men say that they’d rather be respected and unloved than be loved and disrespected. Respect means a lot to a man, and when his woman disrespects him, there are some thoughts that play in his head.}

{{1. You don’t value him }}

When a man feels disrespected, one major thing that comes into his mind is that you don’t value him and that he isn’t important to you. Respect to a man means value, and where he isn’t respected, to him he isn’t valued.

{{2. He feels hurt }}

A man’s ego is boosted when he’s respected and the hurt he feels when he’s disrespected is very high. Most men can’t handle being disrespected by their partner; it breaks a man’s soul.

{{3. He could regret being in the relationship/marriage }}

Being disrespected also brings so many negative thoughts to his mind, and one of them is the thought of regret. Men become disappointed in relationships/marriages where they’re disrespected, and that disappointment turns to regrets most times.

{{4. Dent in confident }}

Disrespect to a man means he isn’t valued, and every man loves to be valued. When he feels that he isn’t valued by his own woman, it would hurt his ego and confidence, and he may begin to feel insecure.

{{5. That you don’t love him }}

If you disrespect a man and tell him you love him, he wouldn’t believe you. Disrespect to a man means you don’t love him. Men equate love with respect, and disrespect with hate.

{{6. You don’t appreciate him }}

Of course, he wouldn’t feel appreciated when he’s disrespected. When you disrespect a man, he feels unappreciated, uncared for and unimportant.

Are you one of those women who disrespect their man? These are some of those things you are doing to him.

{Every good woman deserves to be with an even better man, who would treat her right and build a beautiful relationship with her.
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However, women tend to fall for men who don’t deserve them and who wouldn’t treat them right.

Every good woman ought to avoid men mentioned in these categories.

{{1. The lazy kind }}

Every good woman should be with a man who’s hardworking and has real ambitions. A lazy man has nothing to offer, and is too lazy to work hard for a better future. Every good woman deserves someone better than this.

{{2. The aggressor }}

A man who would hit you, ridicule you and disrespect you should be avoided at all costs. Every good woman deserves to be with a man who would treat her with care and respect.

{{3. The guy scared of commitment }}

A guy who’s scared of being committed to you is just the kind of guy you should avoid. Such a guy would only be with you for the foreseeable future but there would be no form of commitment to show for it. You deserve better.

{{4. The cheater }}

You deserve better than the guy who wants to cheat on you at the slightest opportunity. Many women believe they can change such a guy, but they only deceive themselves; if he doesn’t change when you’re dating, you’d face worse when you take the relationship further.

{{5. The one who wants you for just one thing }}

The guy who wants you purely for sexual reasons is just the kind of man every good woman should avoid; surely you deserve better than a man who would use you as his booty call.

There are so many other kinds of men every good woman out there should be wary of; the self-centred, the control freak, the ones who are dishonest and deceitful etc.

Every good woman deserves a good man in her life.

{Cheating partners actually enjoy the act of cheating and infidelity until they are caught. Ordinarily, as long as they aren’t caught, it’s okay for them to cheat. But when they are caught, they then regret their actions and come up with lots of excuses.}

These are some common excuses people give for cheating.

{{1. You weren’t giving me attention }}

While it’s wrong for a partner to withhold attention, it still doesn’t justify the act of cheating on that person. If you truly care about that person and the relationship you have with that person, you wouldn’t really cheat.

{{2. I was blinded }}

Of course, it’s obvious that cheating on your partner is a blind decision, but giving the excuse of being blinded to the act is a blind excuse really.
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3. I didn’t know it would get this far}}

There should be a limit to your relationship with someone of the opposite sex; this should keep you in check when you are going over the line. Not knowing when to draw boundaries and falling for someone while in a relationship is your fault, making this excuse really dumb.

{{4. It’s in my genes }}

People who actually believe cheating is in their genes end up cheating; it’s all a matter of what you believe in. If you believe you cannot do without cheating, you surely wouldn’t.

{{5. It happended so quick }}

So many things happen so quick; an accident could happen so quick, but cheating doesn’t happen so quick. Cheating isn’t an accident; it is thought about, planned, fantasised, wished for…before being executed.

{{6. I couldn’t control myself }}

It depends on what you see cheating as; if you see it as something thrilling and fun, you wouldn’t control yourself. But if you see it as what it really is — betrayal, selfishness, a relationship killer etc. then you’d learn to control yourself. It’s your perception of cheating that makes you cheat.

In all honesty, there isn’t really an excuse for cheating; because if you weren’t caught, you wouldn’t regret it in the first place.

{Having the right habits is important if you want to be a better person and improve your life in general.
}
Below are 14 habits that will improve your life and make you a better person

1. Eat fruits and vegetables every day. Doing this will help you maintain a healthy life.

2. Drink a glass of water immediately after you wake up in the morning. It helps flush toxins out of your body.

3. Avoid a sedentary lifestyle by taking a walk everyday.

4. Take a few minutes every day to do nothing but just sit in silence and relax. This will help calm you and can also be a source of inspiration.

5. Form a habit of jotting things that cross your mind. You never know what you might miss if you fail to jot it down.

6. Always think positively and surround yourself with positive thinkers. Self-doubt and negative thinking are dangerous.

7. Keep in touch with friends and family members. Never be too busy to stay connected with friends and family members you value.

8. Always appreciate kind gestures no matter how little they are. Never take the little things for granted. Cultivate the a habit of gratitude.

9. Give to charity. Don’t wait until you have all the money in the world before you learn to give. Learn to give from the little you have. Make a difference in someone’s life today.

10. Don’t be that neighbour in your neighbourhood everyone describes to be a snub. Stop and say hello to your neighbours.

11. Give back to your community. Nothing is too small. Stop waiting for the government to do everything, you too can be a positive change in your community. It could be providing free evening classes for the kids in your neighbourhood or making sure your street has no litters.

12. Take care of yourself by giving yourself a break every now and then. Stress kills. Take short breaks at work to recharge your batteries.

13. Give yourself time to think before you respond to people. Doing this gives you time to weigh your words and ensure you don’t say something you might regret later.

14. Never let a day go by without appreciating your partner and telling him or her how much he/she means to you.