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{Why are you sad being single when there are lots of benefits you can actually derive from being single? It’s actually better to be single and wait for Mr Right than be with a man who doesn’t know how to treat a woman.}

{{Below are 15 reasons why being single is actually awesome}}

1. When you are single, you don’t have to worry about pretending to like your boyfriend’s annoying friends.

2. When you are single, you get to save more money because being in a relationship can be expensive as you have to buy gifts, go out on dinners etc.

3. When you are single, you can go anywhere you want to go without having to explain to a boyfriend where you are going and why you have to go there.

4. When you are single, you can hang out late with the girls without having to worry about what your boyfriend would think.

5. When you are single, you can take as long as you like to get yourself ready without a boyfriend yelling and screaming at you for taking so much time.

6. When you are single, you have time to hang out with your friends something that becomes really difficult when in a relationship.

7. When you are single, you don’t have to pretend to laugh at your boyfriend’s jokes that aren’t really funny.

8. When you are single, all you care about is you. You don’t have to worry about compromising to make your man happy.

9. When you are single, you can actually fart anytime you want to. You don’t have to hold them to any more.

10. When you are single, you have more time to devote to the things you are passionate about.

11. When you are single, you are under no compulsion to call anyone every morning, afternoon and night.

12. When you are single, more men are likely to want to be friends with you because men tend to stay away from women in serious relationships.

13. When you are single, you don’t have to clear your chat history or call your friends to lie to your boyfriend. You aren’t answerable to anyone.

14. When you are single, you don’t have to seek anybody’s approval before making decisions.

15. In summary, you are free to be who you are and do what you want to do when you are single.

{A recent study has found that the warmth of a father’s love has a special influence on young people, and makes them feel optimistic and determined to strive for greater things. It also boosts the math grades of teenage girls and the language ability of boys.
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The study which was conducted by Dr. Marie-Anne Suizzo of the University of Texas found that adolescents from low-income families in particular are more likely than their middle-class peers to underachieve and to drop out of school. However, a positive attitude towards school work and the support and encouragement from their parents can help at-risk youngsters to overcome the economic barriers and lack of resources they face.

To conduct the research, the research team analysed data from questionnaires completed by 183 sixth-graders about how optimistic and motivated they were about their schoolwork, and how they experienced their fathers. The questionnaires were completed primarily by respondents of Mexican American, African-American and European American descent. Their maths and language arts grades were also obtained. They were analysed together with the questionnaire data. The research team took into account the influence that mothers have on their children’s well-being in their analyses.

Their findings show how fathers can support their teenagers in ways that result in greater optimism, self-efficacy, and, ultimately, higher achievement at school. This is even true for men with low levels of education or those who are not proficient enough in English to help their children with their homework.

“Low-income fathers affect their adolescents’ beliefs about themselves and their future, and these beliefs influence their achievement by increasing their determination to persist on school tasks,” says Suizzo.

Before now, most of the evidence about the effects of parental involvement comes from research on mothers. But this research has shown the tremendous effect a father can have on a child.

S.O.Z

{There’s a way you would kiss your man that would make him desire you more. A woman’s lips are a powerful tool that could create a lot of feelings and desires in a man, but it all depends on how she uses it.}

If you want to kiss a man in an affectionate way that’ll make him want you more, this is how you do it.

{{1. Close the space }}

The first step to kissing your man in an affectionate manner is to close up the distance between the two of you. Slowly move closer to him, and you’d most likely arouse him discreetly.
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2. Create a gentle contac}}t

After getting close to him, create a gentle body contact, and he’d instinctively feel drawn to you. A gentle body contact will make him want and desire you.

{{3. Your facial expressions }}

Let your facial expression show that you want to have an intimate moment with him. Your face shouldn’t look flat and plain; it should be like a woman with emotions and who feels wanted.

{{4. Let him take the lead }}

These three steps will make your man take the lead and leave it off from where you started. Kiss him too, but let him initiate the process and kiss you more.

{{5. Use your hands }}

Slowly move your hands around the sides of his shoulder, his back and then under his arm repeatedly. By doing so, you encourage him to kiss you more.

{{6. Let out a cheeky smile }}

Letting out a cheeky smile will give him the impression that you are enjoying it, and he would want to kiss you more. Also, it’ll make you look beautiful.

{{7. Lean up to him }}

If he’s taller, lean up to him; it isn’t only cute, but it will make it easier for him and make him more comfortable with you. Besides, it’s cute as well.

{{8. Enjoy the moment }}

Don’t just stand there; enjoy the moment, and the more you do, the more he’ll want to kiss you back.

{{9. Switch things up }}

Change your kissing style, change your head position, spice things up a little and kiss him in other places apart from his lips.

If you haven’t kissed your man this way, you probably haven’t kissed him at all.

{To become successful, you need to have the right attitude and mindset. You will struggle to achieve success if you don’t have the life skills listed below.}

1. Avoid seeing failure as the end of the world. Every failure should be seen as a learning experience.

2. Avoid looking for who to blame when you make mistakes. Accept responsibility for mistakes you made.

3. Never act like you know it all. Listen to every advice and sieve through to take the ones you need.

4. You will wrong people from time to time but your attitude afterwards is really important. Apologize sincerely when you wrong someone.

5. No one is an island so when people help you, never be too proud to say “thank you”. Showing gratitude always open doors of opportunities.

6. Learn to prioritize. You will struggle to achieve success if you don’t prioritize. Your productivity becomes better when you learn to prioritize your tasks.

7. Avoid standing still. Change is the only constant thing in life and it’s important you are always ready for change or you will be left out.

8. No knowledge is a waste and never think you are too old to learn. You should be ready always to learn something new.

9. “No” exists for a reason. You should know when to say “Yes” and when to say “No”. You can’t please everyone. Learn to say “No” when needed.

10. Don’t expect everyone to see life the way you see it. People are different and this means people will have different opinions about a particular subject. Avoid judging someone just because he/she doesn’t share your opinion on a particular subject.

11. Never think you can achieve alone. Ask for help when needed and don’t underestimate the importance of building a good network.

12. Ego is the fastest route to failure. Be humble irrespective of your background. Treat everyone as equal and never think that you know better than others.

13. Anger has destroyed so many people. Learn to handle anger better and avoid making important decisions when you are angry.

14. You can’t be successful if you don’t know what you want. Learn to be decisive.

15. Respect is important. Respect everyone irrespective of social status, age, or religion. Treat others how you want others to treat you.

{During sex, there are certain things most men tend to take note about a woman and these things help give men clues about whether they have a serious chemistry with the woman.}

Below are 5 things most men notice about a woman during sex

{{1. The woman’s ability to take the initiative }}

Even though most men will say this to their partner, most men love it when the woman takes the initiative in bed sometimes. It helps make the moment really exciting and it also shows the man you are excited having sex with him.

{{2. The woman’s body movement }}

During sex, most men tend to take note of a woman’s body movement. Men hate it when a woman lies on the bed like a log of wood. Most men want to see his woman’s body move as that excites him even more.

{{3. What the woman is wearing beneath the clothes }}

It’s important every woman pays attention to what she wears beneath her clothes. It’s useless wearing expensive clothes and worn-out underwear. Your man wants to see you pay more attention to your underwear because he takes note of it during sex.

{{4. How you look }}

Most men pay attention to the way a woman looks during sex. Looking at the wall or ceiling shows you aren’t happy having sex with him. Looking deep into eyes tells him you are enjoying the moment.

{{5. Your hygiene }}

How well you take care of yourself matters because your man will take note of that while having sex with him. Ensure your pubic hairs are well shaved and your hygiene is general good.

{You think he is your ideal man and you are anxiously waiting for him to propose. Do you really think he feels the same way about you?}

Here are 11 signs your man isn’t ready to marry you

1. He obviously isn’t ready to marry you if he changes the topic or laughs it off everytime you talk about marriage with him.

2. He obviously isn’t ready to marry you if he spends more time with his single friends than with you. That’s a sign he’s more drawn to the bachelor lifestyle.

3. It’s obvious he isn’t ready to marry you if he tells you things are great as it is whenever you talk to him about taking the next step in your relationship. If he tells you this, he obviously just wants to sleep with you and doesn’t see you as his wife.

4. He is obviously not ready to marry you if he keeps his finances off-limit from you. No man marries a woman he can’t trust with his money.

5. He obviously isn’t ready to get married to you if he doesn’t get excited when his friends get engaged. He always feels his friend made the decision in a hurry.

6. He obviously isn’t ready to marry you if he has told you he doesn’t believe in marriage. If he has told you this, he is trying to tell you that he doesn’t believe in marriage with you.

7. He obviously isn’t ready to marry you if he’s not interested in meeting your family or having you meet his own family. A man who isn’t interested in marrying a woman will generally stay away from meeting her family and won’t want her to meet his family.

8. He obviously isn’t ready to marry you if he never includes you when he talks about his future.

9. He obviously isn’t ready to marry you if he gets angry when friends suggest you two will be great together as a couple.

10. He obviously isn’t ready to marry you if he doesn’t ask you about your plans for the future. A lack of interest in your future is a sign he doesn’t see himself having a future with you.

11. He obviously isn’t ready to marry you if he prefers to keep the relationship open and doesn’t get jealous with the idea of you dating other guys. If he is serious about you, he won’t want to share you with another man.

Phil

{Trust isn’t given for free; it is earned. To gain someone’s trust and make them trust you, you have to prove a lot by your actions. People will only trust you when they have tested you, and it’s in the things that you do every day that would make people to either trust you or not.}

There are people who are trustworthy and there are people who aren’t trustworthy, and it’s what they do that separate them.

Below are the reasons why certain people are trusted.

{{1. They keep to their words }}

Trustworthy people try as much as possible to keep to their words; when they say something, they try to do it. However, an untrustworthy person would say so much and do nothing. People who say what they do tend to gain people’s trust.

{{2. Honesty }}

Trustworthy persons are honest; they tell the truth always and they don’t live fake lives. They wouldn’t try to be deceitful or take advantage of you. Because of their honesty, people tend to trust them.

{{3. They are reliable }}

Trustworthy people are people you can depend on, no matter what. You can rely on them to be there for you or stick to their words. They are believable and with them you are assured that they won’t hurt you or deceive you or do something negative.

{{4. They have integrity }}

Trustworthy people live a life of integrity; their characters and actions show integrity. They are honest and have good character; they tend to do what’s right.

{{5. They are accountable for their actions }}

Even when they make mistakes, trustworthy people don’t pass the blame onto someone else; they take responsibility for their actions.

{{6. They are consistent}}

Trustworthiness is built with consistency. They aren’t trustworthy today and untrustworthy the next day; they are trustworthy every day.

{{7. They are original }}

Trustworthy people don’t try to live a fake like or be someone else; they are who they are. Trustworthy people are real, and people take them for who they really are.

The key to being trustworthy lies in what you do, not what you say. People will only trust you when they see these qualities in you.

{The fear of failure is something a lot of people can relate with in life. At definite stages of your life, especially at the beginning of every phase, there will always be that voice within you questioning your abilities, questioning your dreams and making you feel less competent about what you want to do. That inner voice will make you afraid and make you think of what people would say, and it has caused many people to abandon their dreams and goals.}

The fear of failure is real, but it’s only as real as you let it.

These are 5 important things to do when the fear of failure is holding you bound.

{{1. Build a positive perception about yourself }}

If you rate yourself lowly and see yourself as a failure, then the fear of failure will forever hold you bound in life. To conquer that fear of failure, you must feel free deep within; you must see yourself in positive light and think right about yourself. The battle to conquer the fear of failing starts in your mind.

{{2. Always see failure as a learning process }}

Take success to be like riding a bicycle. As simple as riding a bicycle could be, you don’t just learn it once; you try and fail and fail and fail until you master the techniques of wheeling the bicycle and being balanced at the same time. When you finally learn how to ride that bike, it’s upwards from there — it becomes so easy for you that you forget how hard it was and how many times you fell. But it’s in that process of falling and trying again that made you learn how to ride a bike. The people who fell and never tried again never learnt how to ride a bike.

So see failure for what it really is — a learning process. As Robert Allen will put it: “There’s no failure. Only feedback.”

{{3. Feed your mind with positive thoughts }}

Your mind is a very powerful tool, and it plays a huge role in making you successful or not. Feed it with the wrong food and it’ll give you wrong results, but if you feed it with the right food it’ll give you the right results. Listen to positive messages everyday, surround yourself with positive people and speak positive things to yourself. Don’t give that fear of failure a chance to speak wrong things to you.

{{4. Visualize what you want }}

Don’t let today’s challenges block your vision and make you think only of the short-term. Visualise where you want to be, who you want to be and where you are going. This will give you the energy to always continue and to try again even when you fall.

{{5. Take action }}

All these tips will be useless if you don’t take action. Gain useful knowledge about that thing you want everyday, no matter how little; it’s in those little bits of knowledge that you become really knowledgeable. And then work like you have never failed, and work like you’ll never fail. Always have the habit of work and taking action.

According to William D. Brown: “Failure is an event, never a person.”

{It’s still November, but it’s almost the middle of the month, which means that December is upon us, and of course, I don’t need to tell you what December is notorious for to a lot of us. With December comes Christmas, which is arguably the biggest and most celebrated holiday in the world. Christmas as you know, isn’t just about eating and drinking, or visiting friends and family, it’s also a time to show love to those around you— husbands to their wives, wives to their husbands, brothers to sisters, friends to friends, parents to their children, kids to their parents, and so on. If you have ever tried to get someone a gift before, then you know that it can be tasking getting the perfect gift for them. This is especially true for men, as it’s no secret that it’s sometimes hard to tell what a woman really wants. So, I’m putting together a list of things I think you cannot get for your partner or wife this Christmas. It’s a small list, but hopefully, you’ll find it interesting.}

{{Get her an important kitchen tool }}

Women love to cook, but that doesn’t mean that cooking isn’t a hard job. There are quite a number of tools that make cooking easier, thanks to technology. If you could get her (your wife or partner) something that can aid the cooking process, and make her spend far fewer minutes in the kitchen, there’s no guessing how thrilled she’d be. A blender, a better burning cooker, a microwave, a toaster, a heater, a new set of pots, are examples of things you can get her under this category.

{{Register her at a gym }}

We all know how important it is to most women to keep in shape, maintain their figure, and keep fat away. If you can get your partner registered at a gym around you, she’d be very happy, trust me. At least, she’d have somewhere to burn the calories she may gain from the plenty chickens on the menu this Christmas. Lol. Just kidding, but this would make a great present, trust me.

{{Vacation away from home }}

Women love travelling very much, and they like being alone with the man they care about. So, this Christmas, if you can afford it, plan and take your partner on vacation somewhere away from your regular residence. You know that place where she wants to visit so bad, take her there, if you can afford to, otherwise, take her somewhere nice, but within your financial reach. Spend time alone with her, and watch her love you even more.

{{Take her on a shopping spree }}

Fashion is everything to women, especially when they’re not paying for it (with their own money). Schedule a shopping outing with your partner, and ask her to get whatever it is she wants. It’ll make her happy. You can also buy her some really great stuff yourself, if you’re afraid she might empty your account. Just make sure they’re likable stuff.

{{Propose to her!}}

I deliberately left this for last, but there’s no better gift to a woman, trust me. If you’ve been with her for a while, you trust her, care about her, understand her, and want to spend the rest of your life with her, and you are convinced she feels the same way, then why not pop the question this Christmas? You’d be giving her the best Christmas present ever.

And that’s my list for now. I’ll probably make another if I think up more. I don’t know, or maybe I’ll just make one for the ladies; time will tell. Do share this one with your peeps though.

{A few weeks ago I found myself sucked into an episode of Love and Hip Hollywood desperately seeking a show that didn’t include animated characters singing soprano after my 2-year-old passed out for a nap. I tuned in just in time to see the baby daddy drama unfold between Masika and rapper Fetty Wap as she complained about his participation in her pregnancy pretty much ending after the sperm reached the egg. I resisted the urge to be judgmental as I scrolled through my Twitter feed where fans expressed they weren’t surprised at Fetty’s part time fatherhood and the motives behind the whole relationship in the first place. In a confessional, Masika then expressed something along the lines of wanting better for her unborn child. It was them it hit me:}

“I wish more women would have this conversation with themselves long before they find themselves missing periods and making prenatal appointments.”

Don’t get me wrong, it was completely unplanned when I found out I was pregnant almost with my daughter almost 3 years ago. There I was sitting on the toilet staring at those two pink lines thinking, “When? How? What Now?” And although it wasn’t as scheduled as I’d have liked it to be, I managed to have a happy pregnancy and a fully supported transition into motherhood thanks to my partner, family and friends. But honestly, I’d have to say much of what made my unplanned pregnancy stress and drama free were the decisions I made for myself long before I even thought of being someone’s mother.

See a big part of what makes someone a good parent is being a fairly decent adult. And part of successfully adult-ing is not allowing things for yourself (especially in relationships) that you don’t see fit for your child. You can’t be sexually involved with a man who is a liar, unfaithful and doesn’t take care of his responsibilities then be surprised when your pregnancy doesn’t suddenly transform him into father of the year.

Every decision made in your adult life doesn’t need to be dependent on the idea that you may be someone’s mom one day. In my 20’s I dated men who I knew were no damn good. I spent money on trips and clothes to the point where I had to survive on Chef Boyardee for weeks at a time. But behind the fails and “figuring it all out” of my twenties was the idea that if I was going to parent one day I didn’t want to have to work on my whole life while planning for childbirth. So at some point I tried to get my career in order, and get “living life” out of my system so I wouldn’t find myself resenting my child while breastfeeding one day and thinking about the trips I should’ve taken or degrees I wish I went for. Having children doesn’t make these things impossible but it can make them harder to do. Part of being a good parent is being as balanced you can be beforehand (because kids will definitely test your best made plans). And even more so it’s about realizing that although you can do it by yourself, you shouldn’t have to and a good partner will make parenting easier and not force you to parent with a child at the same time you’re raising one. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve dated some men that I look back and think, “I’m so glad God saved me from co-parenting with THAT one.” As a young woman you’re perfectly welcome to date men who who might be A-list lovers, but fail at fatherhood. But the best way to choose a good father for your child, is to choose a good man for yourself which requires some time to see past a sexy smile and bomb tongue game.

What I think parenthood has taught me most about preparation is that you’re going to make mistakes, that’s inevitable, but you want to avoid making them on your kids’ time. And although I’m still learning something new each day, I must admit getting my ish together before motherhood is what took away a good portion of the stress and struggles that I witness some women experiencing as they grow into their womanhood while conquering motherhood. In addition, my husband and I are still navigating a new marriage, but we’re not dealing with the trust issues or social media drama I might have been while dating me in my twenties. We’re not completely settled in life and our toddler reminds us how much we don’t know about parenthood on a daily basis, but we’re not exactly sitting around trying to figure life out either. Part of our jobs as parents is to give our daughter direction. We may get lost from time to time, but we’ve at least got a gameplan to refer to. Because when it comes to parenting, just winging it won’t always work.