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{It’s expected that couples always tell each other how much they love each other. Most men find it hard saying “I love you” to their partner.}

Here are signs your man loves you even if he rarely says it

1. You know your man loves you if he puts you before everyone and everything else in his life.

2. You know your man loves you if he respects you as a person.

3. You know your man loves you if he hates to see you sad and does everything to make you laugh.

4. You know your man loves you if he uses “we” instead of “I”. He does this because he sees you as a part of his world.

5. You know your man loves you if he always creates time for you no matter how busy he is.

6. You know your man loves you if he takes care of you when you are sick.

7. You know your man loves you if he sees you as the most beautiful woman in the world.

8. You know your man loves you if he doesn’t forget little details that matter to you. He always remembers things that are important to you.

9. You know your man loves you if he values your opinion and always wants your opinion before he makes decision.

10. You know your man loves you if he respects your friends and family.

{Anger is an emotion that you shouldn’t let get the better of you; if you can control your feelings of anger, you’d be able to handle difficult situations.}

Anger distorts your thinking pattern, your emotions and even the love you feel.

Are you quick to anger? These 6 questions might help you out.

{{1. “What triggers my anger?”}}

If you want to curb your anger, you should know what triggers it. Jealousy, the way people talk to you, people’s behaviour etc could be pointers. If you must overcome your bad anger habit, you must know what triggers it and learn to walk away.

{{2. “When do I get angry?”}}

Anger could also come with time; are you easily angered in the morning, afternoon or evening. Time could also influence your anger level.

{{3. “Where do I get angry?”}}

Places could also trigger your angry feeling, and if you notice there are places where you’ll easily be angered and places where you’re calmer. Which place do you usually get angry? Your workplace? At home? In public? In a bus? Try to find out where you get angry the most.

{{4. “What do I think about when angry?”}}

Anger comes with its own thoughts, and of course they’re always negative. When you are calm, ponder on the things that run through your mind whenever you get angry, and you will be able to get a better grip of your emotions if you can think these things through.

{{5. “How do I act when I am angry ?”}}

Try to ask yourself this very important question, or better still, you can ask a friend who will tell you the truth. And the truth is that most times you act immaturely and terribly when you are angry. If you can create a mental picture of your angry self, even you will be disappointed.

{{6. “How ahouls I repsond ?”}}

These 5 previous questions will give you tips as to what triggers you to become angry. After answering those questions and knowing what triggers your anger, you should then look for ways to respond when those toxic situations come again.

Having these questions in your head will give you the mental awareness to overcome anger and angry situations. It’ll help you prepare for those angry moments beforehand.

{Ladies, if you love your husband and want a happy marriage, there are certain compromises you shouldn’t demand from your husband. Certain expectations are unhealthy for your marriage.
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Below are things no wife should ask of her husband

{{1. Ask your husband to give up his dreams }}

In a healthy marriage, both partners are expected to be supportive of each other’s dreams and passions. As a wife, you should never ask your husband to give up on his dreams. You should instead help him understand that he always has your support.

{{2. Make him choose between you and his mother }}

Some wives put their husbands in situations where he has to literally choose between her and his mother. This is wrong. You are your man’s number one priority but you should also understand that his mother deserves some respect. If you have issues with his mother, talk to him about it in private and make sure you don’t put him in a situation where he has to choose.

{{3. Ask him to quit his friends }}

It’s wrong as a wife to ask your husband to stop hanging out with his friends. I understand you want to spend good time with your man but it’s important in a healthy marriage that we also spend time with friends.

{{4. Ask him to have similar interest as you }}

It’s wrong and unfair to expect your husband to like everything you enjoy doing. What you should do as a couple is enjoy the similar interests you both share together and also enjoy the different interests you both have individually. Don’t expect your husband to like everything you like.

{{5. Expect your husband to change }}

You knew about his qualities before you agreed to marry him so it will be unfair for you to ask him to change after marriage. If you know you can’t tolerate your partner’s flaws, never marry that person. You are who you are and your husband is who he is. Expecting the other to change will cause great friction in your marriage.

{Sometimes you might be a good person with good intentions in life, and rather than attract people who have good intentions like you, you mostly attract toxic people into your lives, and it isn’t something that you do intentionally, it just happens.}

You could have strengths that can end up being your weaknesses, and that’s a summary of why you keep having toxic people in your life, rather than people who have the same strengths that you have.

These are some probable reasons you attract toxic people into your life.

{{1. You are kindhearted }}

Showing kindness to everyone you come across is a strength; it shows that you have a good heart and that you are selfless. But when people notice this good in you, they’d mostly want to take advantage of it and it’s for this reason that they come into your life.

{{2. You don’t know how to say “no” }}

There are a lot of people who don’t know how to say no to others; just in a bid not to create a bad impression of themselves and hurt other people, they agree to certain things even when they ought to say no, and these people attract a lot of toxic people into their lives. There are lots of people who would like them just because they can exploit them.

{{3. You are a good listener }}

Being a good listener is a good thing, but then it can also become toxic in certain situations. When people find that you are willing to listen to everything they have to say without complaining, they’d want to tell you more. Everyone loves a good listener, and you’d subconsciously attract both the good and toxic people to yourself.

{{4. You are easy going }}

Easy going people are lovely to be with; they don’t complain about what life throws at them, and they are positive people who don’t create complications; they are peaceful to be with. This quality will attract a lot of people to you, more especially a lot of people with negative attitude who are willing to rub off on your positive energy; they know they can’t be with people like them, so they rather choose to be with people with such attitude.

{{5. You don’t recognize the untrustworthiness in others }}

Inasmuch as it’s good to see the positive things in people, it’s also important to recognise the wrong things about them that you should be wary of. Sometimes it’s good to call a spade a spade, and understand who someone truly is. When you treat everyone like they are trustworthy, you invite toxic people to your life for free.

{{6. You are desperate }}

Desperation is a negative trait, and it’s one that will make people want to take advantage of you. When you are at your lowest point, that’s when you’d see who people truly are, and that’s when you’ll know that people would be willing to take advantage of you.

{{7. Someone tells you what you want to hear }}

Be with someone who will tell you the hard truth that no one else will rather than someone who will tell you what you want to hear, especially when you are in position of authority or you’re wealthy. People who tell you things that’ll tickle your fancy are actually toxic people who are only there for what they can get, and so you should avoid them at all costs.

{{8. You let everyone into your life }}

Sometimes you just have to know who’s gold and who’s gold-plated. Know the kind of people you need in your life and only become close with people who meet those characteristics. Don’t let everyone you come across into your personal life; learn to sieve the good ones from the chaff.

Have you been attracting toxic people into your life? These are the major reasons why; it isn’t really about the people you are attracting, it’s about you.

{Sometimes, you tend to attract toxic people into your life because you don’t spot the toxic behaviours in them; so you let them in and they bring their negativity into your positive life. People with toxic behaviours will choke your life in many ways, and you have to be wary of the negative energy they bring. These are some of them:
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{{1. People who love to gossip }}

Everyone has that little bit of gossip nature in them; humans are naturally curious beings that love to know about others and then wouldn’t mind sharing what they know with a close friend or family, but that’s by the way. There are people who just love to talk about others, carry rumours, reveal everything they know and say the things they aren’t supposed to say; this behaviour is a toxic one that’ll bring a lot of negative energy into your life and you should be wary of people like these.

{{2. Lies and dishonesty }}

There are people who are never honest, to the point that you don’t know when they are lying or saying the truth. People like these have a toxic nature in them that could choke you, so it’s important to know where to place them and not let them deep into your life. People like these aren’t even to be trusted.

{{3. Selfishness }}

People who only think of themselves are another set of people you should be wary of. Self-centredness is a toxic trait that can choke your life. A self-centred person cares about one person — himself/herself, and the moment you let them in, they’d want everything about the relationship to be about them. Selfish people don’t really care about you.

{{4. Constantly controlling }}

Beware of people who try to control you, and would want you to do their bidding at all times. People like these want to be in control of the friendship/relationship at all times, and they become angry or disappointed when you don’t do their bidding.

{{5. They generate constant chaos }}

Beware of people who bring drama with them — people like these are toxic. They tend to be dramatic at the slightest instance and would cause a scene where they shouldn’t. People with an attitude like this should be avoided.

{{6. People who talk about you }}

This list wouldn’t be complete without mentioning this last set of people. People who’ll smile and say nice things about you when with you and then go behind your back and say mean and terrible things should be avoided at all costs. People like these are even worse than toxic, and they usually have many terrible behaviours that would choke your life.

Before you let people into your life, especially before you make them close to you, you ought to be sure of their behaviour, and it’s their behaviour that should make them close to you or not, else you’ll end up attracting toxic people into your life.

{Show me a person who’s always procrastinating, and I’d tell you 3 key things about that person; he’s lazy, he never gets the job done and isn’t dependable. You can’t reach great heights in any walk of life when you procrastinate.
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If you want to beat procrastination once and for all, you should practice these tips.

{{1. Practice good sleep habits }}

“Early to bed, early to rise” they say. Go to bed early and your body will feel refreshed the following money, plus you’d wake up earlier. The first step to curbing procrastination is by practicing good sleep habits.

{{2. Exercise}}

Exercising doesn’t only make you healthier, but it makes you active. If you can find time to exercise every morning, your mindset will be more focused for the rest of the day.

{{3. Have a task list}}

Plan yourself and have a task list that will guide you for the day. This will help you stay organised and make you carry out tasks accordingly.

{{4. Time yourself}}

Timing yourself is a good practice you should adhere to. Learn to be time conscious; set a timeframe for each activity and try to follow them accordingly.

{{5. Set goals}}

You feel more motivated to when you set goals for yourself and you feel more accomplished when you meet those goals. Set goals for yourself every day.

Don’t let procrastination ruin your life for you; practice these tips every day.

{Many people claim to love themselves, but their actions speak otherwise. When you love yourself, you’d do positive things that will help you become better each day; if you do the opposite then it means you don’t really love yourself.}

These are some things you should start doing for yourself.

1. Stay away from people who try to bring you down and who’ll have a negative impact in your life.

2. Smile more, laugh more and be happy. It’s the best medicine you can give yourself.

3. Take your health seriously and stay away from things that will deteriorate your health.

4. Be yourself, be genuine and be proud of who you are; don’t let anyone take this away from you.

5. Be honest with yourself about everything.

6. Do one thing every day that will make you better in life.

7. Don’t be afraid of facing your problems.

8. Spend time with the right people; their positive impact will be duly felt in your life.

9. Have gratitude. Be thankful. Appreciate life. Appreciate people. You feel at peace with yourself and attract good things to yourself when you live this way.

10. Don’t be afraid to chase your dreams. You only have one life to live — why live it in fear?

11. Have a goal, have a plan and have a vision for yourself.

12. Work hard.

13. Stop being envious and jealous of other people’s success.

14. Spend a few minutes each day to just meditate and be at peace with your inner mind.

15. Seek knowledge, no matter how little.

16. Cut off toxic relationships. Only be with people who value and accept you. Don’t settle for less.

17. Let go of the past and let go of the things you can’t control.

18. Cut off anger and every form of bitterness from your life.

19. Don’t compare yourself with someone else.

20. Learn a lesson from each experience, see challenges as opportunities and failures as stepping-stone to success.

21. Treat people as you want to be treated.

22. Value the things you have.

23. Believe in yourself.

24. Try to rest and sleep well.

25. Create time to make yourself happy.

Start doing these things for yourself everyday and your life will get better for it.

{While compromise is important in a relationship, there are certain things a guy shouldn’t ask his girlfriend to do.
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{{Check them out below}}

1. It’s wrong for a guy to force his girlfriend into having sex with him. If she wants to wait for sex, it’s important you respect her decision. If you truly love her, you should wait for her.

2. It’s wrong to ask your girlfriend to have an abortion. If you think you are old enough as a man to be having sex, then you should be man enough to face the responsibilities if she gets pregnant.

3. Some men have fantasies of having a threesome; please never ask your girlfriend to do this. Asking your girlfriend to have a threesome can have damaging consequences on your relationship and you also don’t show your girlfriend respect when you ask her to have a threesome with you.

4. Never ask your girlfriend to make a sex tape with you. You might see it now as fun but trust me when I say it comes with its own consequences. Your sex tape could end up online and that isn’t something any of you want.

5. Never manipulate your girlfriend into performing sexual acts she isn’t comfortable with. Some guys manipulate their girlfriend by telling her if she loves him, she would do it with him. That’s so wrong.

6. Never ask your girlfriend to give up on her dreams. She’s entitled to chase her dreams and she expects you as her man to help her achieve her dreams.

7. Never ask your girlfriend to give up her friends for you. This is selfish. Her relationship with her friends and her relationship with you should coexist seamlessly. It’s wrong to ask her to quit her friends for you because you won’t do same if she ask you to quit your friends for her.

8. Never ask your wife to quit her hobbies just because you don’t love them. How would you feel if she tells you to quit your favourites hobbies?

9. Never force your girlfriend to dress in a certain way. If you know you can’t tolerate the way a woman dresses, please don’t ask her out. There’s nothing wrong in suggesting certain ways she could dress better but the final decision is hers to make.

10. It’s wrong to force your girlfriend to have sex with you if she isn’t in the mood, feeling sick or tired. Forcing her to have sex with you when she is clearly not in the mood is disrespectful and insensitive.

{Being a good wife is definitely not an easy role and this is why every man who has such a wife should adore and appreciate her.}

{{Below are 10 things good wives do}}

1. A good wife makes her husband her number one priority not her career, friends, family or kids.

2. A good wife is happy to see her husband excel. She’s excited about her husband’s achievements as her own.

3. A good wife doesn’t nag about her husband’s mistakes because she understands nagging only worsens the situation.

4. A good wife enjoys spending time with her husband and ensures she creates time regularly for her husband.

5. A good wife accepts her husband’s flaws and doesn’t expect a perfect husband. Inasmuch as she wants her husband to be the best, she understands he would make mistakes sometimes.

6. A good wife cooks her husband his favourite meal when she has the time. She knows what he enjoys and is happy to cook him his favourite meal.

7. A good wife keeps her husband’s secrets. When her husband shares his secrets with her, she tells no one about it, not even her mother or friend.

8. A good wife is romantic and shows her husband she loves him by making sure she tells him “I love you” every day.

9. A good wife doesn’t give up on her marriage when things aren’t rosy. She is willing to work to make sure her marriage succeeds.

10. A good wife wants the best for her husband but is also content with what he has. A good wife avoids comparing her husband with other men.

Are you a good wife?

{There are different relationship rules and a countless number everywhere that it’s become a cliché. However, there are some relationship rules that are too important to ignore, and when ignored, you only put your relationship at risk of getting ruined.
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These relationship rules below should be taken seriously:

{{1. Don’t shy away from having those tough discussions }}

There might be some concerns you have about your relationship, or some tough situations that seriously need to be talked about; avoiding these discussions because they are tough situations wouldn’t help your relationship.

When those tough situations that should be discussed pile up without addressing them, your relationship might suffer from it.

{{2. Don’t expect perfection }}

You shouldn’t expect your partner to be perfect in everything, or every aspect of your relationship to be perfect. Sometimes, learn to accept those imperfections. It’s okay to work on those situations you deem make your relationship imperfect, but expecting perfection might really be too extreme.

{{3. Revenge would never help }}

It’s a relationship, not a competition or battlefield. Revenge is terrible and shouldn’t be given a space in your relationship; anytime you revenge on your partner, you take your relationship two steps backward.

{{4. Learn to fight the healthy way }}

It’s okay if you and your partner have a quarrel or misunderstanding; it’s absolutely normal. However, there is a healthy way to fight. When you and your partner resort to name calling, abuses and insults then it’s unhealthy. Learn to argue without insulting each other; this always hurts and leave scars on the relationship.

{{5. Be trustworthy }}

Trust is very important for your relationship and the only way you can build trust is by being trustworthy. When you display acts that could kill the trust between you and your partner, you make it harder for your partner to trust you.

Try to be that trustworthy partner if you want to build a good relationship.

{{6. Practice whatever works for your relationship}}

There are some things which are just unique to your relationship, which no one else can understand; those little or even silly things that make you and your partner happy and bond better. Every relationship is unique in their own way; so never let go of those things which work for you and your partner.

7. Appreciating your partner, complimenting each other, learning to say sorry and thank you and forgiving each other should never ever be taken for granted. They might seem so little, but they work wonders.

8. Never take each other’s feelings for granted. Feelings are important, and every relationship revolves around feelings. Never take each other’s feelings to mean nothing.

{{9. Communication }}

Communication should never be taken for granted. Couples who take communication seriously definitely have understanding relationships compared to couples who don’t. Learn to communicate with your partner and find proper ways to communicate how you both feel.

10. Never keep scores. Never hold grudges.

11. Selfishness shouldn’t be given a room in your relationship. Never be that selfish partner; try to stop thinking about yourself alone and sometimes think from your partner’s perspective.

12. Learn from your mistakes; it’s unfair to your partner if you keep making the same mistakes over again.

Never shy away from criticisms too; they would make you better and better your relationship.

13. When those tough situations come, learn to create a shoulder for each other to lean on.

14. Your relationship wouldn’t just grow on its own. Love each other, go out on lots of dates, give each other gifts frequently and try to keep the romance department burning.

15. Spontaneity creates a different magic in your relationship. Try to be spontaneous; don’t wait until it’s Valentine or your partner’s birthday before you do something special for your partner; surprise each other regularly and watch your relationship get better for it.

If you want a better relationship with your partner then these rules should never be ignored.