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{There are certain issues a lot of women have in their relationships, that’s down to the man, and sometimes many of these women don’t know how to tell their man about these issues.}

These are 5 common complaints/issues women have with the men in their lives.

{{1. HE STOPPED PUTTING IN EFFORT}}

Men love it when their women put in efforts to look good, be sexy and look appealing. However, a lot of men also forget that women also want these from them, and not many men tend to take proper care of themselves, especially after marriage.
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2. SO MUCH TALK WITHOUT ACTION
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Women see it as an issue when men make a lot of promises that they can’t keep; when he promises to do something and never does it, when he promises to change but doesn’t, and when he isn’t honest about certain things going on in his life.

{{3. NOT BEING CONSISTENT}}

Women have issues with their man being inconsistent; they’d rather want a man who can be consistent and easy to understand than when he’s here today and there tomorrow.

{{4. MAKING EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU}}

Women have issues with men who make everything about themselves; men who only bark out orders and don’t care, who make decisions themselves and don’t care about the woman’s opinions.

{{5. NOT CARING ABOUT THEIR NEEDS IN BED}}

Women also have needs in bed, but a lot of men tend to chase after their satisfaction and don’t care about the woman’s own needs and desires. This is a major issue many women have.

These are some of women’s biggest issues with men.

{If you didn’t know that there are a lot of men out there who are truly jealous of their partner’s success, then you need to know that now. There actually are people like that in real life, not just on TV, and here are some of the ways the jealousy is manifested.}

{{HE BUYS IMPULSIVELY}}

Obviously, we’re all guilty of buying things we didn’t plan for once we’re at the mall, but if it’s more frequent than normal, and it tells on his pockets, then there’s a problem. It’s either he’s stupid or he’s simply trying to impress you and show off, so you think he’s just as rich as you are.

{{HE’S ALWAYS LOOKING FOR AN EXCUSE TO PICK UP A FIGHT WITH YOU}}

Fights too are normal, but if they happen only when you talk about your work, then, it’s probably because your man isn’t comfortable with the fact that you’re doing better or as well as he is. Perhaps, you have to make a business trip or you simply tell him about a remarkable achievement, and he’s rubbing it on your face for no real reason, or he’s complaining about how you have to leave town always; probably insinuating inappropriate things, something is just not right with that.

{{HE TALKS ABOUT HIS OWN ACCOMPLISHMENTS, AND RARELY CONGRATULATES YOU}}

If every time you tell your man about a recent achievement or accomplishment at work, he somehow starts going on and on about how he has done similar things in the past, well, something isn’t right there. There are even situations that are so bad, he won’t even congratulate you.

{{HE NEEDS YOU TO CONGRATULATE HIM ALL THE TIME}}

The reason isn’t because he’s really doing something remarkable, he just needs to hear it, so he feels important and valuable, as he thinks it’s a way of measuring up with you.

{{HE NEVER WANTS TO FOLLOW YOU TO WORK EVENTS}}

Maybe there’s a dinner party or an award night by your company, and you need his presence there as your number 2, but he constantly declines to go with you. It may be because he feels he doesn’t measure up and won’t fit in with your colleagues at work. This isn’t a surprise because jealousy and insecurity go hand in hand.

{{HE BRINGS UP YOUR DIFFERENT BACKGROUNDS EVERY TIME YOU ARGUE}}

You’re having a normal couples’ argument about something, and he suddenly starts whining about how you had to grow up with a silver spoon, and he without one; it’s a sign he’s intimidated by your seemingly superior background and success.

There’s nothing as frustrating as being with an insecure person. If you know deep inside you that you have done nothing to trigger that insecurity in your man, and you try to talk or love him out of it without luck, you’ll do yourself a lot of good to walk away from such a person.

{There are some warning signs you should always watch out for when you’re dating someone, and one of those signs is selfishness. You’ll never have a beautiful long-term relationship/marriage with someone who’s selfish.}

Once the ugly head of a selfish partner rears up, you’re bound to become unhappy and sad. Selfish acts always leave a sting on the affected partner.

These are some signs that show your partner is selfish.

{{1. THEY LET YOU DO ALL THE COMMUNICATION}}

When your partner doesn’t care too much about communicating with you and lets you do all the communication, that’s a huge sign of selfishness. Both partners ought to communicate with each other; it shouldn’t be down to just one person alone. After all, communication brings balance in the relationship and it’s a sign that you both care about each other.

{{2. THEY MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY}}

Selfish partners will try to make you feel guilty even when they are wrong. They will do something wrong and expect you not to complain about it.

{{3. YOU SHOW ALL THE COMMITMENT}}

When you tend to show all the commitment in the relationship, while your partner is nonchalant, then you are in a relationship with a selfish partner. One can even doubt your partner’s love for you in this situation.

{{4. YOU BEG FOR ATTENTION}}

Attention makes a partner feel worthy; it makes you feel loved and valued. However, when you have to beg and demand attention from your partner, then it’s probably not a good relationship to be in, and your partner is being selfish and doesn’t really care about your feelings.

{{5. YOU’RE NEVER LISTENED TO}}

It’s a beautiful thing to have a partner who listens to you; it’s a sign of love and respect and also an important part of communication. However, when your partner wants you to listen to him/her and you aren’t being listened to in return, that’s selfishness.

{{6. YOU ARE ALWAYS CRITICISED}}

A partner who always criticises you and never appreciates you is a selfish partner. While you might have your weak points, you definitely have your strong points as well, and a good partner will appreciate your strong points.

{{7. YOU’RE CONSTANTLY REMINDED OF YOUR PAST}}

It’s selfishness for your partner to use your past mistakes to haunt and taunt you at the slightest instance. Any partner who always brings up the past lacks the ability to forgive and let go of things, and it’s unfair to make you feel bad about things that happened in the past.

People tend to care less about how selfish their partner is, and don’t pay attention to it. But more often than not, they tend to regret this when the relationship advances.

{Should the age gap between you and your partner matter? Researchers think it does.}

According to a study by Andrew Frances and Hugo Mialon from Emory University in Atlanta, there is a link between age and relationship longevity.

After surveying 3000 married couples, the researchers found that the larger the age gap between couples in a relationship, the greater the chance the relationship will end.

A five-year age gap means a couple are 18 per cent more likely to break up than age equals. This goes up to 39 per cent with a 10 year age gap and 95 per cent with a 20 year gap.

Do you think age gap between a couple matters?

{Sex is for mature minds only and there are certain things about sex every mature woman is expected to know.}

{{Check them out below}}

1. Be an eager participant in bed. You make sex boring when you just lay on the bed like a log of wood.

2. Know what works for you in bed. You are expected to know the things that turn you on in bed.

3. Communicate your desires with your partner. Don’t just expect your partner to know what you want in bed.

4. You put too much pressure on your partner when you seek to finish at the same time with your partner. Finishing at the same time is unrealistic.

5. Personal hygiene is important. A poor hygiene can ruin sex.

6. Be open to trying new things in bed. You make sex really exciting and worth it when you are open to trying new things with your partner.

7. It’s OK to say NO to your man when you aren’t in the mood and if you are with a mature man, he should be able to understand you when you say NO.

8. Don’t be scared to make the first move some times. It doesn’t have to be your man initiating sex always.

9. Sex doesn’t have to be in the bedroom always. Change of scenery can do wonders in your sexual life.

10. Know your partner’s health status before getting intimate with your partner. Go to a hospital with your partner and get tested. This is what is expected of every smart and mature couple. Be smart.

{If you have just started dating someone and you notice any of these signs in your relationship, you need to quit that relationship now and save yourself from heartbreak later.}

1. Your partner hates your friends. Your partner should accept your friends and not make you leave your friends.

2. Your parents don’t like your partner. Your parents know most than you do so if they don’t like your partner, it’s important you listen to their reasons.

3. Your partner gives you ultimatums. Your partner won’t give you ultimatums if he/she truly loves you.

4. Your partner makes you feel stupid in front of others by talking down on you.

5. Your partner is a control freak and always wants you to do things his/her way.

6. Your partner holds a grudge for a long time.

7. Your partner doesn’t trust you and always checks your phone or emails.

8. You always apologize for your partner to your friends and your partner doesn’t even think he or she is wrong.

9. Your partner doesn’t make you feel good sexually and always makes fun of your sexual drive or sexual organs.

10. Your partner never goes out of his/her way to please you but expects you to go out of your way to please him/her.

11. Your partner is always right and never admits to being wrong.

12. Your partner acts like you are lucky to be with him or her.

13. Your partner is negative about everything.

14. Your partner always belittles the things you like.

15. Your partner uses sex as a tool.

{We get to see a lot of men lie about their relationships; they might be in a relationship, but choose to lie to other women that they are still single. It isn’t just men who are in relationships — even married men go as far as denying being married when they meet a lady they’re attracted to.}

What could be said about men like these?

{{1. They aren’t trustworthy }}

A man who can’t own up to being in a relationship can never be trusted; he’s a deceitful person, and you wouldn’t be wrong to say that he’d be deceitful in many aspects of his life.

{{2. They are insincere }}

Men who tend to lie about their relationship status are usually insincere and will lie about so many other things.

{{3. They tend to be players }}

Lies of being single when they are actually in a relationship is a common characteristic of every player. Any man who lies about his relationship status is definitely a player.

{{4. They never show enough commitment }}

Men who lie about being single when they’re in a relationship tend to lack commitment in their relationships. Men who are committed in their relationships never stoop so low.

{{5. They aren’t proud of their relationships }}

If you’re proud of something/someone, you’d never deny it. When a man denies a relationship he has, it only shows that he’s not proud enough to stand for what he has.

{{6. They aren’t loyal }}

A loyal man wouldn’t lie about his relationship status, for any reason at all. Even when the relationship isn’t going as expected, he’d never lie about it.

{Sex in marriage is one hushed topic that many choose not to talk about, but in reality, it’s one of those things that’s hurting many marriages today.}

Many men (even women too) are sexually frustrated in their marriages (although this article will focus on why women tend to not have sex).

After the first few months of marriage, the sex lives of many couples start to drop, and in many cases the woman starts to lose interest in sex, and this frustrates her husband.

But why do women choose to have infrequent sex? Why do their sex lives start to drop? Why do they leave their man sexually frustrated?

{{1. It’s unconscious }}

Many men might feel that women do this consciously, but the truth is that, as unfair as her withholding sex might seem, she doesn’t do it on purpose. The next few tips would buttress my point.

{{2. Her body image }}

Once the kids start coming in and her body isn’t as hot as it used to be, her image of herself will become poorer and she wouldn’t see herself as sexy and attractive as she used to be. This can kill her desire to even get naked and have sex. Once she starts having a poor image of her body, her desire for sex will start declining rapidly.

{{3. Stress }}

Sex isn’t only physical; it’s as much mental and emotional. A woman’s desire for sex can be highly affected when she feels stressed and worn out. Being a mother and having a career can be quite draining, and sex and stress don’t mix. Once stress starts to step in, her sex life will start to go down.

{{4. No connection }}

Women love to feel connected to their man; sex to them is very emotional. It isn’t just about the satisfaction that’d be derived; it first starts with the mind and an emotional connection. When the connection between the wife and the husband isn’t strong, her desires will also start to wane.

{{5. Sex isn’t thrilling anymore }}

If you can ask many women to be honest about it; they’d tell you that they don’t see sex as fun anymore, it’s no longer thrilling, and it’s just about the man being satisfied and nothing else. When she starts losing the thrill of having good sex with her man, her drive for sex will be totally gone in no time.

{{6. The marriage isn’t thrilling }}

Sex starts in a woman’s mind; when she’s thrilled in her mind, she’ll have more sex — that’s just the honest truth. When the marriage starts to lose its thrill, and the man stops or reduces the way he used to treat her, her mind wouldn’t be as excited as it used to be, and her desire for sex might burn out too.

{{7. Sex feels like a chore }}

A lot of men tend to skip all the foreplay and exciting moments; they tend to forget about the cuddling and just having intimate moments. Many men tend to only get interested in having just sex as they get older, and to a woman it could feel like a boring chore. This will gradually kill her desire to have sex with her husband.

Like I mentioned earlier, these things happen and they aren’t intentional. Many women lose their desire to have sex with their husbands, not because they want to, but for these reasons mentioned above.

{When it comes to choosing a wife, beauty shouldn’t be the trait you should focus.}

{ {{Here are 6 signs she’s right for you
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{{1. SHE’S HONEST}}

If she isn’t honest, she isn’t right for you. Trust is important if you want your marriage to last and you can only trust someone who is honest.

{{2. SHE SUPPORTS YOUR DREAMS}}

An ideal wife should support and encourage you to achieve your dreams. If she has this quality, she’s the right woman for you.

{{3. SHE ISN’T THE JEALOUS TYPE}}

Jealousy can ruin a marriage. The woman who is right for you will be secure in herself and wouldn’t be the jealous type.

{{4. SHE MAKES YOU A BETTER PERSON}}

The ideal wife for you is the woman who inspires you to be the best version of yourself. If she doesn’t inspire you to be a better person, she isn’t right for you.

{{5. SHE SHARES THE SAME VALUES WITH YOU}}

No matter how much you love a woman, if your values don’t align, your marriage would have issues. The right woman for you would share the same values with you.

{{6. SHE’S AMBITIOUS}}

The ideal woman for you would be ambitious and have her own dreams. A good wife shouldn’t just support her man achieve his dreams, she should have her own dreams as well.

{Infidelity and physical violence are common signs that show you are in a toxic relationship but there are other more subtle signs that can reveal your relationship is toxic.}

{{Below are 19 signs you are in a toxic relationship}}

1. You feel frightened to share your opinion because you are afraid of your partner’s reaction.

2. Your partner always calls the shots and you never have your way in the relationship.

3. Your partner takes you for granted.

4. Your partner talks you down in front of others.

5. Your partner punches the wall or throws objects during arguments.

6. Your partner is dishonest and lies always.

7. Your partner’s conversations with you is always centred around him/her. Your partner rarely bothers to talk about you.

8. Your partner always compares you to others and never sees the good in you.

9. Your partner openly flirts with other people even when you are around.

10. Your partner lets his/her family disrespect you.

11. Your partner spends more time on the phone than he/she spends with you.

12. You feel drained by your partner’s constant negativity.

13. Your partner never defends you but constantly criticises you.

14. Your partner always threatens to quit the relationship after every argument.

15. Your partner always makes you choose between him/her and your friends.

16. You have constant arguments with your partner and your disagreements with your partner don’t get resolved.

17. You always go the extra mile for your partner but your partner never does the same for you.

18. Your partner hits you.

19. You can’t be yourself around your partner.