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{A good man is different; he’s one of a kind and the way he treats his woman makes him different from other men.}

There’s a huge difference between a good man and the rest, and he shows it in these ways:

{{1. He’d never compare you to another woman }}

A good man will value you and love you for who you are; he’ll bring out the best in you and wouldn’t see the need to compare yourself with another woman.

{{2. He’d never cheat on you }}

A good man will never cheat on you; faithfulness to him is a priority. He’d never stoop so low to hurt you or jeopardise the relationship.

{{3. He doesn’t disrespect his woman }}

A good man will respect you; he’ll treat you right, listen to you and make you a feel like the most important person in his life.

{{4. He’d never make you feel invaluable }}

A good man will never make you feel like you aren’t worth it. With a good man, you’ll be sure of his love for you and you’ll be sure that he truly values you.

{{5. He’d never make you feel alone in the relationship }}

A good man will never make you feel lonely in that relationship; he’d make you a part of the relationship, and you’ll feel involved in the relationship.

{{6. He will never make you feel like you aren’t enough }}

A good man will make you feel loved in the relationship; he’d find contentment in having just you in his life. With a good man, you wouldn’t feel incomplete, you wouldn’t feel ugly, you wouldn’t feel unloved — he’d make you feel like you are all he needs.

{{7. He’d never hit you }}

A good man will see your body as his body; he would never condescend so low to hit you, no matter how angry he is. He’d never use anger as an excuse to hit his woman. He values you and values your body as well.

{{8. He’d never abuse you }}

A good man will never ridicule or mock you; he’ll never hurt you with the words of his mouth.

These are some of the benefits of being with a good man. A good man will never make you feel less of a man, from the things he says to you and to the way he treats you.

Source:Elcrema

{Many people run away from long distance relationships because they believe long distance relationships are doomed to fail but this is not really true.}

Here are 15 reasons why long distance relationships are the best

1. When in a long distance relationship, every message and call is valued.

2. The time you share with your partner is few and far between so you make every moment with your partner count.

3. When in a long distance relationship, you are less likely to confuse love with lust. Long distance relationships are normally based on emotional intimacy rather than physical intimacy.

4. Long distance relationships teach the importance of trust. You will learn to trust your partner when in a long distance relationship because without trust, a long distance relationship can’t work.

5. Couples in long distance relationships tend to spend more time having quality conversations and this makes couples in long distance relationship know each other inside and out.

6. In normal relationships we find ourselves struggling not to lose ourselves in a relationship due to lack of space from our partner to do the things we enjoy doing alone. When in a long distance relationship, you always have enough time for yourself.

7. The moment when you see your partner again after a long while is always priceless.

8. Sex in long distance relationships are way better than sex in normal relationships. This is because sex is amazing after you have gone months without touching, kissing, loving your significant other.

9. Couples in long distance relationships communicate more. In order to compensate for the distance, couples in long distance relationships call and text more and we know communication helps build a relationship.

10. Being in a long distance relationship will teach you to be romantic. Since you can’t always be together, you tend to make up for it by writing good poems, sending gifts and being good with words.

11. The countdown to seeing your partner is always worth all the suspense and anticipation. You don’t get this when in a normal relationship.

12. When in a long distance relationship, you talk more about plans for the future than in a normal relationship.

13. Being in a long distance relationship will teach you how to be open with your partner because you end up talking about anything and everything with your partner.

14. Long distance relationship teaches you how to be patient because you have no other option.

15. You learn the true meaning of love when in a long distance relationship. You will never truly understand what it means to be in love until you’ve been separated from your partner and are forced to make things work regardless of the circumstances.

Source:Elcrema

{It’s not the material things that prove to a woman how much you care but the simple and sweet gestures. The little things you ignore as a man mean so much to women.}

{{Here are 30 little things that mean so much to women}}

1. Helping her with house chores.

2. Sending her good morning texts.

3. Holding her hands while you walk with her.

4. Asking her about her day.

5. Defending her in public.

6. Bragging about her to your friends and family.

7. Being friends with her friends.

8. Saying thank you.

9. Cuddling her without any intention of wanting sex.

10. Complimenting her on something new she bought.

11. Buying her gifts.

12. Cooking for her.

13. Posting pictures of her on your social media account.

14. Asking for her opinion.

15. Letting her do the things that she enjoys.

16. Massaging her after a stressful day.

17. Telling her she looks beautiful.

18. Calling her instead of texting her.

19. Taking her out on a date.

20. Keeping to your words.

21. Taking an interest in things that she likes even though you may not like them.

22. Opening the door for her.

23. Telling her that you love her.

24. Listening to her.

25. Calling her instead of texting.

26. Remembering things she told you.

27. Calling her cute pet names.

28. You don’t pressurise her into anything she doesn’t want to do.

29. Encouraging her.

30. Go shopping with her.

Source:Elcrema

{The obvious secret to a lasting marriage is marrying the right one by all ramifications. Some say patience and tolerance play a part, but I think some things are better avoided than tolerated. Here are some types of people you definitely don’t want to end up marrying.}

{{An alcoholic }}

There’s a difference between drinking occasionally, and drinking for fun. If your would-be spouse is someone who has a strong liking for alcohol, you may be doing yourself a lot of good by looking elsewhere. I don’t need to remind you of the dangers alcoholism comes with. From violence to public embarrassment— I don’t think it’s worth it.

{{A gold digger }}

It’s not difficult to tell who loves you for your wealth and money. Simply withhold some privileges from them, and they’ll show their genuine colors soon enough. If someone settles for you because of what you have, what happens to that union when things take an unpleasant turn in your finances?

{{A drug abuser }}

It’s kind of like marrying an alcoholic, except that this is even worse, in that drug abuse is illegal. You could end up in jail or worse still, get caught in the middle of his illegal activities. And do you really think someone like this is fit to be a parent?

{{A violent person }}

With violence comes destruction and pain, and possible losses. You really want to settle for someone who hits you? Someone who destroys things when you argue? Do they get into fights often? These are signs that they’re unfit for you and your future children.

{{A narcissist }}

Nothing wrong with admiring oneself, and taking care of one’s needs before others’, however, there’s always a limit to everything, even self admiration. It gets to a level when it becomes pure selfishness, and you don’t want that, trust me because people like this only think about themselves always, and never anybody else.

{{The overly jealous }}

A bit of jealousy is always healthy for the longevity of a relationship. It always gives you assurance that you still matter enough to cause your partner worry, but there’s also a limit. If their jealousy involves them publicly embarrassing you or threatening to harm you, it’s extreme, and I’d advise you stay away from it.

{{A controlling person }}

They always want you to look a certain way, dress and talk in a certain way, stay in certain areas… Be careful, so you don’t end up a slave rather than a partner. Marriage doesn’t take away your rights; it makes you better.

Always look out for these signs, so you don’t end up in the wrong place.

Source:Elcrema

{Being in a relationship with an insecure man can add undue stress to your relationship and leave you drained emotionally.}

{{Below are 20 signs your man has big insecurity issues}}

1. He’s jealous of your friends especially your male friends.

2. He constantly wants you to assure him that you love him. Questions like “Do you love me?” and “Why do you love me?” become constant.

3. He always feels there is an ulterior motive to almost anything you do.

4. He stalks you on social media.

5. He always threatens to break up with you even though he doesn’t really want to break up with you.

6. He always checks your phone.

7. He always accuses you of having something to hide.

8. He always brings up your ex because he feels threatened by your ex.

9. He isn’t happy when anything beside him makes you feel good so he tries to put you down when you are feeling good.

10. He wants you to spend all your free time with him.

11. He can’t handle constructive criticism.

12. He tries to get in the middle of everything you do. He even wants to choose the clothes you wear.

13. He’s jealous of the time you spend with your friends.

14. He always accuses you of wanting to cheat on him.

15. He regularly says nasty things about anyone who’s doing better than him.

16. He always wants to have the last word.

17. He’s always desperate for women to notice him.

18. He constantly fishes for compliments.

19. He always questions you about your whereabouts.

20. He always boasts about himself to look better in your eyes.

Source:Elcrema

{Every year, February 14 is set aside for people to celebrate love and care to those around them. It’s a day marked in honor of St. Valentine; a man who devoted his days and life to caring for the needy and less privileged. That is the original meaning behind February 14. But today, I’m not sure that meaning still holds value to a lot of people. February 14, to most people, is a special day to celebrate their love life, as well as their partner. It’s a day most people feel the need to spoil their lover or spouse, far above anyone else and any other day. People no longer see the need to reach out to other people around them, especially the poor. It’s not supposed to be that way.}

I have nothing against showing your partner care and special affection on that day; however, it’s also important to remember the needy around you. There are loads of people who you can affect their lives this season, with the little you have, it doesn’t have to be too big.

All I’m asking is that you make a difference in someone’s life. You show your partner love every day; I’m sure it wouldn’t hurt to just think about the less privileged and needy this Valentine’s. It is the reason for the season, give it true meaning, and be the positive change someone needs in their life this Valentine’s.

Source:Elcrema

{There’s a general belief that something must go wrong in your relationship — no matter how hard you try to make it perfect, something must just make it imperfect.}

If you can pay attention to those little details, then the bulk of your wedding events will go as planned.

These are some of the things you should be wary of.

{{1. The DJ}}

So many couples have had issues with their DJ’s playing the wrong songs when they are marching in, and in their wedding event. Sometimes the DJ might not really know what you want, since each couple have a different taste in music. So it’s up to you to to tell your DJ the exact songs you want and when you want it. If possible, you can even choreograph it with your DJ.

{{2. Bridesmaid/Groomsmen coming late }}

Imagine how distressed or disappointed you could be if some of your bridesmaids are late for your wedding. To have your bridesmaids and groomsmen organised, camp all of them in a hotel or similar location with you, and there will be no reason for anyone to be late.

{{3. Weather}}

The weather factor is one aspect many people fail to prepare for; it’s so easy to set a wedding date and choose a wedding venue without putting in mind factors like rain. The last thing you’d want to ruin your day is the weather, and a venue that will be flooded. Choose a venue you know will be easily accessible and that’s weather friendly.

{{4. Cold feet}}

A lot of couples face cold feet on the day of their wedding; a day that’s supposed to be special, could start with a feeling of nervousness. Sometimes this happens because you get so overwhelmed with the preparations for the wedding and trying to make everything perfect before the wedding, and then you forget to be with that one person who matters most.

To avoid cold feet, try not to do everything — delegate tasks to people you can trust, and spend time with that special person before your wedding day. This will help iron out fears, stress and tension before your wedding day.

{{5. Things getting misplaced }}

As surprising as this might seem, it actually happens. Many partners misplace some of their wedding items or forget where they kept certain items, and then they start looking for it on their wedding day. Mistakes like this should be avoided, and things should be kept properly.

{{6. Forgetting to have fun }}

At the end of the day, you’re going to get married to your partner. So forget about perfection, don’t let little things spoil your day, choose to be happy and enjoy the moment, because it happens just once.

Source:Elcrema

{Not every relationship will end with your partner cheating or you having a huge fight with your partner. Sometimes, a relationship just runs its course and many don’t even know this. How then do we know its time to break up ASAP?}

{{Check out the signs below}}

1. You fight over everything. Even insignificant things cause a big argument between you and your partner.

2. You feel caged in the relationship and you can’t do the things that make you happy.

3. You can’t be who you really are because your partner doesn’t accept all of you.

4. You no longer look forward to seeing your partner. You don’t feel bothered if you don’t see your partner for weeks.

5. You have to hide things from your partner or lie to your partner to avoid getting your partner angry.

6. Your partner doesn’t care about the things you want out of a relationship. Your partner isn’t willing to meet you halfway.

7. You can’t picture a future together with your partner. What’s the point being in a relationship if you don’t see your partner in your future?

8. Your partner never takes responsibility for his/her mistakes and always puts the blame on you.

9. You have no interest in making sacrifices for your partner. It doesn’t even seem worth it to you.

10. Your partner doesn’t treat you with respect.

11. There’s no trust in the relationship. You just don’t trust each other.

12. Your partner always threatens to break up with you after every argument.

13. You are afraid to speak up because you are afraid your opinion will spark a fight.

14. Your partner brings out the worst in you.

15. Your partner always reminds you of your past mistakes.

16. Your partner always makes you feel bad about yourself.

17. You are interested in being with someone else.

18. You always come up with excuses not to have sex.

19. Your relationship is negatively affecting every other aspect of your life.

20. You are always fearful you are doing something wrong.

{Words can strengthen a relationship and they can also pull down a relationship so it’s really important you use the right words when communicating with your partner.}

Here are 12 phrases you should never use when communicating with your partner

{{1. “Why can’t you be like…..?”}}

It’s never right to compare your partner to someone else. Even if you are trying to help, it does more harm than good.

{{2. “You are always annoying”}}

It’s never right to tell your partner this because you insinuate there aren’t any happy moments with your partner.

{{3. “You can’t do anything right”}}

You make your partner feel worthless when you say this to your partner. If you truly love someone, you will never make him/her feel worthless.

{{4. “It’s fine”}}

Telling your partner it’s fine when it’s obvious you aren’t happy about something is wrong. Your partner isn’t a mind-reader so it’s important you say how you feel.

{{5. “You are so stupid”}}

Never call your partner stupid no matter the circumstances. You should never insult the intelligence of your partner and don’t even use anger as an excuse.

{{6. “You look awful”}}

Saying this about your partner’s appearance is wrong as it could destroy your partner’s self-esteem.

{{7. “I wish you could afford to buy me…”}}

We should be content with what our partner earns. It’s really not fair when you fault your partner for not earning more.

{{8. “If you love me,you will buy me”}}

Manipulation shouldn’t be found in a healthy relationship and demanding gifts as prove of love is an act of manipulation. Love should never be conditional.

{{9. “You are overreacting”}}

Saying this to your partner is hurtful because it signifies your partner’s emotions aren’t important.

{{10. “It’s all your fault”}}

Placing the blame on your partner when something goes wrong isn’t the right thing to do. It’s never all one’s fault.

{{11. “My ex was better in bed ”}}

It’s wrong to tell your partner that your ex was better in bed. Your current partner should always be the best in bed.

{{12. “You should know how I feel”}}

Your partner isn’t a mind-reader so he/she can’t know how you feel until you verbally express your feelings.

Source:Elcrerma

{Do you want to be a more loving partner? Below are 6 ways you can be a more loving partner}

{{1. Forgive }}

If you want to be a more loving partner, you should be prepared to forgive your partner when he/she hurts you. You can’t be a loving partner when you hold grudges and fail to forgive.

{{2. Forget past experiences }}

You can’t be a loving partner if you still hold onto negative experiences you’ve had with falling in love in the past. In order to be a more loving partner, you have to be willing to let go of the past and open yourself to love.

{{3. Give without expecting anything in return }}

If you want to be a more loving partner, you should learn to give without expecting anything in return. When you do something nice for your partner, don’t hold it against him/her by expecting him/her to do something nice for you in return.

{{4. Be mindful of your partner’s wants}}

You can’t be a loving partner if you aren’t mindful about the needs of your partner. To be a more loving partner, you should pay attention to your partner’s needs. Show concern and listen to your partner.

{{5. Support your partner }}

A loving partner is expected to offer emotional support to his/her partner when their partner is going through crisis. Encourage your partner’s passion and dreams instead of making fun of them or criticising your partner’s efforts.

{{6. Make time to talk to your partner }}

If you want to be a more loving partner, you should always make time to talk to your partner irrespective of how busy your schedule is.

Source:Elcrema