Category: Social

{You might be faced with a difficult situation where you’d have to say no to your boss. This might be a very dicey one, but there are some very polite ways of saying no without being disrespectful, even when you know that “the boss is always right”.}

{{1. First, you must be a dedicated worker }}

You can’t be a nonchalant worker and say no to your boss; you’d only infuriate your boss and probably get the sack. But if you’re diligent and dedicated to work, your boss will be more understanding when you say no.

{{2. Analyse before saying no }}

Probably you have your plate full and your boss has given you more work to do, don’t rush into saying – analyse if you can meet up the task, and then try to look at it from different angles and even the angle of your boss before deciding whether to say no or not.

Never rush into saying no.

{{3. Tell your boss everything }}

If you probably can’t cope with the task for that day and you are a dedicated worker who doesn’t give excuses every now and then, your boss will listen to you and give you the benefit of doubt. So don’t hesitate to give your boss the reasons why you have to say ‘no’, and your boss is most likely going to understand, given your pedigree for commitment at work.

{{4. Have a transparent relationship with your boss }}

Having a transparent relationship with your boss will make it easier for you to do the third tip and it’ll make it easier for your boss to understand your point of view. However, when you are dodgy, you give your boss no choice but to be adamant.

{{5. Be on the same page with your boss }}

Want the same success your boss wants, work hard to achieve the set vision and be committed to the project. When you do this, your boss will be more lenient to you; it’s human psychology, and this will give you the edge over other employees.

{{6. Set boundaries from the start }}

If you can’t work during weekends, it’s best to establish that boundary from the onset. It’s better this way than trying to change it in future.

{{7. Try come up with an alternative solution }}

Saying no to your boss sometimes might be too harsh and you know it. If you can, try to make an alternative arrangement to suit both your needs and that of your boss. Your boss will truly appreciate your concern.

{{8. Keep to your words }}

Always keep to your words; let your words be as important to you as your money, because keeping or not keeping to your words say a lot about you. If you’ve made an alternative plan with your boss, keep to your words.

Saying no to your boss couldn’t be so hard after all.

Source:Elcrema

{If you notice most of these signs in your relationship, your man might be about to break up with you.}

{{1. He avoids discussions about the future }}

Your man might be contemplating a breakup if he avoids making a comment when you bring up discussions about the future. He knows he won’t be a part of your future so he avoids having such discussions with you.

{{2. He never calls or text first }}

Your man might be contemplating a breakup if he never calls or text first. He responds to your call and texts but never initiates them. He does this because he is trying to slowly distance himself from you.

{{3. Having sex with you doesn’t interest him anymore }}

He’s contemplating a breakup if he always wanted sex with you in the past but is less than enthused about having sex with you these days. He rarely initiates sex these days which is a bit strange because he practically used to beg for sex in the past.

{{4. He doesn’t want to go out of his way for you anymore }}

Your man might be contemplating a breakup if he was always happy to go out of his way for you in the past but finds it hard to go out of his way for you these days.

{{5. He gets angry easily }}

Your man might be contemplating a breakup if he gets angry easily these days. He might be looking for an excuse to breakup so he suddenly starts finding faults in everything you do.

Source:Elcrema

{Friendships play a vital role in helping people get through substantial challenges in life, a new study has found.}

Little research has been made about friendship and the impact it has on people. But a new preliminary study, by Dr Rebecca Graber, University of Brighton Senior Lecturer in Psychology, for the first time provides long-term statistical evidence of the enormous benefit these valued social relationships have on adults’ resilience.

Dr Graber, who carried out the research whilst at the University of Leeds, recruited 185 adults through online social networking sites, university events and community organisations supporting socially-isolated adults. Some 75 adults completed the questionnaire.

Participants completed assessments on psychological resilience, best friendship quality, coping behaviours and self-esteem. Participants then completed the same assessments one year later, to see how best friendship quality had impacted resilience processes over this period.

Dr Graber said: “These findings reveal that best friendships are a protective mechanism supporting the development of psychological resilience in adults, although the mechanisms for this relationship remain unclear.

“The study provides long-term statistical evidence, for the first time, of the vital role of these valued social relationships for developing resilience in a community-based adult sample, while posing open questions for just how best friendships facilitate resilience in this way.”

These findings support previous research by Dr Graber, published last year, revealing that best friends facilitate resilience processes in socio-economically vulnerable children.

Source:Elcrema

{Ever wondered why a man gets down on one knee to propose to a woman or why the bride stands to the left of the groom?}

{{Here are 7 wedding traditions and their meaning}}

{{1. Why men get down on one knee to propose }}

A man getting down on one knee to propose is deemed a sign of respect and surrender. The act signifies humility before the woman he wishes to marry while also acknowledging he’s surrendering his single life behind.

{{2. Why does the groom have best man?}}

This is a tradition that springs from Anglo-Saxon England. According to history, the groom takes along his most trusted and strongest friend (best man) to ensure his bride is protected during the ceremony.

{{3. Why does the bride have bridesmaids?}}

In modern times, the bridesmaids help with the planning of the wedding but the tradition of having bridesmaids started in Roman times. Bridesmaids were believed to act as decoys to evil spirits trying to harm the bride.

{{4. Why does the bride stand to the left of the groom?}}

It was common during ancient times to have the bride kidnapped so the bride stood to the left of the groom so the groom could hold her with his left hand and draw his sword with his right hand, should other suitors try to kidnap her.

{{5. Why does the bride throw the bouquet?}}

This stems from a French 14th century tradition. During ancient times, it used to be considered good luck to get a piece of the bride’s wedding dress. To avoid a ruined dress and being physically grabbed as the bride and groom were trying to run off on their honeymoon, brides began throwing bouquets to distract the guests. Guests were happy grabbing the bouquet as flowers were believed to bring romantic luck for the future.

{{6. Why do brides wear a veil?}}

It is believed Roman brides wore bright veils for their wedding to ward off evil spirits.

{{7. Why throw confetti during wedding ?}}

Confetti is an Italian word used for a type of sugar almond tossed into the air during special occasions. In ancient Britain, throwing grains of rice at newlyweds was seen as a symbol of fertility.

Source:Elcrema

{It’s widely believed that once you start dating someone, you should come clean about your past and tell them everything about you, no matter how dark it may be. I have always believed in honesty in relationships and marriage, but experience has proven that it’s not everything you have to share with your partner. While some information is very important to share because they help establish trust and strengthen the bond in a relationship, some are totally irrelevant, and could destroy everything if revealed. Here are examples of such information…
}

{{The number of people you have dated/slept with }}

On the face of it, this information may seem like something you should put out there to show how honest you are and how much you love the person in your life, but it’s deeper than that. It can have negative consequences. Imagine you’re dating a very sensitive person who’s jealous and judgmental, telling them something like this could trigger an emotion that can lead to the end of that relationship. There are people who somehow believe that the number of people you sleep with or date is a direct reflection of who you are. Some people do not believe that you can be different, and will think that because you’ve dated or slept with 10 people before them, something is wrong with you, or you’re too ‘used’ for them. So I’d advise that information like these be kept personal. Even if they ask, do not share.

{{Your love for materialism and money }}

The truth about this information is you don’t even need to disclose it verbally, your actions and body language always lets it out, but trust me, it’s something you don’t want to make so obvious. Even if you love shopping and spending big, it’s probably in your best interest to keep information like this on the low. You don’t want your partner thinking you’re dating them because of the money, and not love. In fact, being so open about your big spending habits could discourage people from getting close.

{{How much you love sex }}

We all love sex really, but some of us like to pretend we’re better at controlling the urge than others, which Isn’t really true, but I’ll leave the argument for another time. The reason why I think this information is unnecessary is because it can be used against you. You can break up with that person tomorrow, and they’ll go around town telling everyone how you’re a sex freak and all. Some people, especially men would even sleep with you, and run when they’re done because they don’t think it’s safe to marry a nymphomaniac.

So there, ladies. Love, but it never hurts to apply some caution while at it.

Source:Elcrema

{It’s normal to experience a bad situation and have a bad mood, but you shouldn’t let that mood last; a bad mood isn’t permitted to last more than necessary in your life. You ought to fight bad moods any time it comes and be in control of your mood, no matter what happens.}

Below are some reasons why you shouldn’t give bad mood a chance in your life.

{{1. You lose productivity }}

You are at your least creative and productive moment when you are sad and unhappy. Happy moments bring happy result, and sad thinking will bring sad results as well. A bad mood is a product of a negative energy and there’s nothing productive about negative energy.

{{2. You could miss opportunities }}

With each day comes new opportunities, but you’ll never see them when your heart is not in the right frame. Bad moods will make you miss out on opportunities, and some opportunities only come once.

{{3. You can never regain that day }}

A day lost can never be regained; you can’t go back and get your yesterday. A day you’ve spent has already been spent; there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. A beautiful quote reads: “Don’t ruin a good today by thinking about a bad yesterday. Let it go.”

{{4. Bad moods never bring anything good }}

Why have a bad mood in the first place? I’m yet to see the first benefit of a bad mood; it can never bring you anything good.

{{5. You should be in control }}

You should be in control of what you do and not let your emotions dictate how you act. When you act according to your feelings and emotions, you can never be successful in anything; you’ll keep making silly mistakes you shouldn’t have made in the first place.

Don’t let a sour mood ruin the beauty of today. You are not assured tomorrow, so why waste your today?

Source:Science Daily

{There are certain things that are part of your daily routine whose names you never knew.}

{{Check them out below}}

1. Crapulence: that sick feeling you get after eating or drinking too much.

2. Griffonage: unreadable handwriting.

3. Barm: the foam on a beer.

4. Petrichor: the way it smells outside after rain.

5. Overmorrow: the day after tomorrow.

6. Dysania: the state of finding it hard to get out of bed in the morning.

7. Vocable: the ‘na na nas’ and ‘la la las’ in song lyrics that don’t have any meaning.

8. Gynecomastia: man-boobs

9. Phloem bundles: those long stringy things you see when peeling a banana.

10. Snellen chart: the chart you look at when you take an eye exam.

11. Morton’s toe: when your second toe is bigger than your big toe.

12. Defenestrate: to throw out of a window.

13. Minimus: your little toe or finger.

14. Agraffe: the wired cage that holds the cork in a bottle of champagne.

15. Philtrum: the groove located just below the nose and above the middle of the lips.

16. Punt: the bottom of a wine bottle.

17. Cornicione: the outer part of the crust on a pizza.

18. Nurdle: a tiny dab of toothpaste.

19. Chanking: spat-out food.

20. Tines: the prongs on a fork.

21. Vagitus: the cry of a newborn baby.

22. Glabella: the space between your eyebrows.

23. Purlicue: the space between the thumb and forefingers.

24. Wamble: stomach rumbling.

Source:Elcrema

{Just as positivity comes with its own energy, negativity comes with its energy as well, and a negative energy can do a lot of negative things to you.}

When you let people with negative energy into your life, these are some of the things you are likely to suffer.

{{1. You’ll feel drained }}

A conversation with a negative minded person can suck the life out of you in less than an hour. For example, you have a conversation with a friend who always has something terrible to say about her marriage and never says anything positive – a 30 minute conversation with her will leave you drained mentally and emotionally.

{{2. You can’t be with them and be happy }}

While a positive conversation will make you happy, a negative conversation will make you unhappy. You can’t be deep into a negative conversation and be happy. So being with a negative minded person will kill your happiness if you give them the chance.

{{3. You might begin to lose your positivity }}

Before you know it, their negative energy will override your positive energy and you’ll start to complain, murmur and be bitter about life. It might not happen instantly, but little by little you will start having reasons to be unhappy, and you will stop seeing reasons to be grateful.

You have to be careful about the negative energy that comes close to you; it can affect you in many ways and the worst part of it is that it’ll ruin the positivity in your life.

Source:Elcrema

{Respect is an important part of marriage that should never be taken for granted. When disrespect enters into your marriage, your marriage will definitely suffer for it.}

A husband ought to respect his wife, just the same way a wife should respect her husband.

These things happen to the husband when he’s disrespected.

{{1. His ego is dented }}

A man’s ego is boosted when he’s respected, and his ego is also dented when he’s disrespected. When you disrespect your husband, you do more than that to him – you hurt his ego and self-esteem as well.

{{2. Anger might start to rise within him }}

A wife who disrespects her husband is unknowingly planting seeds of anger and bitterness in his heart. A man might be able to handle some things, but disrespect is hardly one of them.

{{3. You start to lose him gradually }}

Your relationship with your husband will start to go down when you are disrespectful to him. You’ll begin to lose him when you disrespect him, and you might just drive him into the arms of another woman or probably far away from you.

{{4. Some might go to the extreme to get their respect }}

Some men can’t handle disrespect and men like these who feel disrespected by their wives might go on to vent their fury on their wives just to get back his respect.

{{5. He starts to feel you don’t love and value him }}

Love and respect to a man means the same thing, and when respect is missing from the equation, he might see it as a lack of love. So when you disrespect your husband, to him you’re telling him that you don’t love and value him.

Disrespecting your husband might be the worst thing you can do to your marriage.

Source:Elcrema

{While there are a lot of women who are single because they simply do not feel they have to date, there are a lot of single women who are single because of their own doing. Sometimes the things we do are the very things that stop us from achieving happiness. If you’re a single woman, and you want to date, but you CAN’T for reasons you CAN’T explain, then you must read on because you can learn a thing or two to help you change your situation.}

These are some possible reasons why you are still single

{{Poor attitude/manners }}

The image you project to the world is what everyone sees, and judges you by. If you’re not accommodating and you don’t seem receptacle to people, men will run away from you, and that’s because nobody wants to be made a fool of. It’s the truth. There’s also the issue of the way you carry and conduct yourself around people. Men aren’t attracted to women who do not carry themselves with some dignity and respect. Men will avoid a woman who doesn’t treat others with respect; believe it or not, it’s the way it is.

{{You haven’t proven you can offer more than just sex }}

If all you have to offer a man is just sex, then that may be all you’re ever good enough for. Men want a woman who going to feels like going home; a woman who can understand, a woman who listens and a woman who can shows support even without the man asking. Beauty and sex isn’t enough to land you a man, you got to understand this.

{{You think dating is a means of livelihood }}

There are women out there who really live off men, literally. They go into a relationship with a man with the thought that he’ll provide every single thing they need. And this mentality is ridiculous. Your man isn’t your bank. No man wants to be burdened by another being, no matter how much they care about the person, they’ll eventually get tired of the requests, and when they do, they’ll take a walk.

{{You don’t care for yourself }}

Outward beauty isn’t everything in a relationship, but it does matter to an extent. You want to be attractive to men, but you can’t attract anyone with yourself looking unkempt. You can’t attract a man with smelly hair or dirty looking nails. Self care and love are important because they sell you to people out there.

{{You blame men for everything }}

It’s possible you have remained single because you have refused to hold yourself responsible for your actions. Some women wrongly feel all their problems stem from the men and that somehow, all would be well the moment men start to tow the imaginary line they’ve drawn. To women with this mentality, they always feel they’d behave well if the man behaves well. And while I agree that a lot of men need to step up, too often it is a case of ladies feeling more entitled than she should normally feel. You need to step up before you expect the same from a man. Take care of your flaws, and watch the right brother locate you.

Are you still single? These are possible reasons why.

Source:Elcrema