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If you have lost a loved one because of negligence or a wrongful act, then you may be able to file a wrongful death suit against the responsible party.

But what is a wrongful death case, and how do you know whether yours has legs?

In this article, we’ll discuss how hiring a lawyer can help you get the court settlement you deserve.

{{What Is a Wrongful Death Suit?}}

A wrongful death suit allows the surviving members of a deceased’s family or their estate to sue for legal damages when someone else’s negligence or recklessness has caused the death.

The specific definition of what constitutes wrongful death will differ between states; for example, in Texas, it is defined as a “wrongful act, neglect, carelessness, unskillfulness, or default.”

When filing a suit, you will be seeking damages that might include:

-* Funeral and burial costs

-* Any income that the deceased would have earned

-* Compensation for loss of companionship and support

In addition to these, you may also be able to claim other damages that may be specific to your individual case.

{{How Can You Tell Whether a Wrongful Death Suit Has Legs?}}

One of the most common types of wrongful death suits is negligence. But how can you tell whether your wrongful death case has legs?

Let’s take a look at what qualifies as wrongful death.

There needs to be the existence of four elements to count as a wrongful death claim. These are duty, breach, causation, and damages.

{{Duty}}

The first part of a wrongful death claim is to prove that the opposing party had a duty of care toward the deceased.

This means that they should have shown reasonable care and attention to prevent any hard from coming to them.

{{Breach}}

The next thing that needs to be proved in a wrongful death suit is that the opposing party breached its duty. An attorney would look to prove that the opposition didn’t act reasonably and prudently.

Some examples of breach of duty may include:

-* A doctor not providing adequate care given their skill level or experience

-* A driver ignoring traffic regulations

-* A business owner not taking adequate care to ensure there are no hazards in their establishment

This is not an exhaustive list. A lawyer will be able to tell whether or not someone has breached their duty.

{{Causation}}

The next step in the process is to prove that the opposing party’s breach is what actually caused the death of your loved one.

This can be the hardest part of the case to prove. You’ll need to prove that your loved one died due to a breach of duty.

{{Damages}}

Finally, you’ll need to prove that damages exist. These might include:

-* A loss of inheritance

-* Lost capacity for earning

-* Lost companionship and support

-* Pain and suffering

Many of these damages can be hard to put a value against; however, a skilled attorney will help you.

{{Filing Your Wrongful Death Suit}}

If all of these things are present, then you should consider going to court. Hiring an attorney is essential if you are to get the maximum compensation in your wrongful death case.

We rely on technology to remind us of our tasks, to be entertained and function. We also spend most of our time scrolling through Instagram or TikTok, spend hours watching internet drama and people fighting on Twitter.

We have been technologically reliant on everything that even our own mobile devices have to tell us they need to cool down. I once left my house without my phone and I could not go back to get it. To tell you the truth, I did not work that day.

I would find myself wondering how many Instagram posts I missed and how many chat group tea I could not read, my fingers would feel useless. All I wanted to do was type. All I wanted was to scroll through Instagram reels and laugh at all the drama that was going on on Twitter.

It was at that moment that I realized I was too dependent on technology. It was a typical Wednesday and all I could find myself thinking was to go home and be with my phone. I know it is ridiculous but it is how most of us are living now.

When I later returned to my phone at home, it was just like I left it, except for a few missed calls and some messages here and there. It was like my life had continued like normal, I decided that day to limit my dependence on technology.

Every Monday morning, my phone tells me how much screen time I have used. It used to be in the 10 hours and now it is in the five hours of screen time. I can say I have made an improvement. It was not an easy thing because at that point in time my mind could only function in front of a screen.

{{How I made it}}

The first thing that I did was to set up hours in which I cannot use my phone. This is usually at night like 2 hours before I sleep. Of course, I do not always live by that rule but I try most of the time.

Another thing I did was to limit myself how much time I spend on social media. This was a hard one since I could spend hours on Instagram scrolling and scrolling but now I try to limit my scrolling. Also, I usually try not to be on my phone when I am around people or when I am outside.

The thing that really helped me is to monitor the hours I spend on my phone and the things I spend much time on, usually my phone told me it is Instagram which I still struggle with to this day.

But limiting my screen time really helped me in a lot of ways.

{{Being more present in the moment}}

The first thing I realized was that we were all too in our devices to appreciate the world around us and the moments we have. I could sit down and actually see that all my friends would go down on their phones instead of appreciating real life.

If we are enjoying our time, it all comes to taking great pictures and posting on Snapchat. People have lost the sense of what is great, which is being in the moment and appreciating life as it comes. To me, I think that is one of the reasons you should cut down on screen time.

{{Good sleep routine}}

One thing I can thank my phone for is that it actually helped me cut down screen time and also develop a good sleep routine.

It is not even cutting down on phone screen time but also on all your other devices, either laptop, television or tablets. It is a discipline and routine that might be beneficial for you in many other ways.

I have set it in my phone that for certain hours I cannot be taking certain calls or even see certain messages. Some apps like Instagram and Twitter are off limits during those hours. At first, it was difficult because I was not used to that but it actually became easier and more doable.

Since then, I sleep and feel well rested, my mind feels less tired and this all actually helps with productivity throughout the day.

{{It is good for mental health }}

This one might seem like it is obviously an advantage, but I feel it should not be taken lightly. We all know how technology can be stressful over time. The need to always check notifications and messages, the tendency to always be on social media and keeping up with all that is going on around can be stressful and bad for mental health.

But when you limit your exposure to technology, it can help you relax, help your brain and mind, be stress free and healthy. Trust me, this is coming from experience.

Overall, I do not think it is possible to cut down technology for good since it is all around us and we need it for our jobs and other things but it would be beneficial for you to cut down on some time that you spend exposed to it daily.

Red flags are certain traits and behaviors that show a person either a friend and love interest and even a family member can not be good for you or that they have a certain personality that will not work with yours.

And to tell you the truth, we sometimes ignore those red flags because we realize them while it is too late or because we are so interested in the person that we ignore those things. But there are red flags or signs that you should consider before committing to any relationship or friendship.

{{White liars }}

White lies may not be as dangerous as real serious lies, but if they are frequent and consistent you should always look out for that person.

They might lie in small ways like why they are late or that they forgot to do something they have promised to do, small things like those. But let me tell you, if they can lie to your face without any remorse, they will not hesitate to lie to you in a serious matter.

Lying is a fact of life, it happens but when a person lies to you consistently and they are always justifying their lies with other lies, those people are to watch out for.

{{Gossipers}}

I once had this friend who was always gossiping about other people. They always had stories to tell and always had something to say about somebody else.

It was always interesting to be around that friend but the I once realized that the same way they always talk about other people with me, they would also talk about me with other people.

In other words, watch out for the people who talk about others in their back chances are that they are doing the exact same thing with you.

{{A person who is too friendly with the opposite gender}}

I know this might seem too controversial but if your significant other is too friendly with the opposite gender, it is a big red flag.

Do not get me wrong. There is nothing like being friends with people of the opposite gender but when you are a man and the highest percentage of your friends are women, I become skeptical and it goes the other way too.

Most of the time these kinds of people are attention seekers who do not have clear boundaries and limits, you might be wasting your time going in the relationship with them.

{{A person who does not seem to want to know you }}

If you meet someone for the first time and they do not seem interested to know you, that is also a red flag.

They never ask anything to get to know you, they never seem to be interested in knowing more about your life. High chances are that they really do not care about getting to know you; they most likely want to get physical with you and that is all.

{{They are always victims}}

When you meet someone who seems to never believe they are at fault in any situation, those people are most likely to become toxic and manipulative.

People who have a tendency to feel like they are always the victim, that others are always at fault even if the situation clearly identifies them as the cause, they never seem to be accountable. Those are also to be watched out for.

{{Gaslighters }}

Gas lighters are people who never take into consideration your feelings and emotions. For example, they might try to tell you that your emotions are out of place.

If you express yourself and their answers are ‘you’re being too dramatic’ or ‘you’re being too sensitive’ or they might even tell you how you should feel, those people are to be avoided at all cost, these are the type of people who can screw up your mental health.

{{Lack of communication}}

Communication is the basis of every relationship, and it always has to go both ways. If a person cannot communicate clearly and intentionally, it would be a waste of time in trying to engage with them in any sort of thing.

People who cannot communicate like answering messages, listening while you’re talking or even pay attention to you, then there is a problem.

{{Bad relationships with other people}}

If someone has a bad relationship with most people in their lives, it is a great indicator that there might be something wrong with them. If they treat everyone poorly and disrespectfully, then they will do the same to you. It is just a matter of time so watch out.

Some people actually start regretting why they ever got married even though they love their partners. Some people I have talked to said routine is one of the things that make marriage boring.

“You wake up to the same day over and over again. Sometimes, it just doesn’t stop and you forget to live and make yourself happy,” one of them said.

“And because of other responsibilities like taking care of your children by providing for them, sometimes you just continue to get carried away and you do not remember to do things that can actually bring back the spark,” the person added.

It is not even one experience but many of the married people that I know continued to talk about this thing of ‘bringing up the spark’ in other words reverting back to the honeymoon stage where things are still interesting.

I started to think that this is what probably happens when you get married. I thought it is an unfortunate fate that all married couples face.

But I was wrong, I spoke to one older couple that has been married for 17 years and had known each other for another 4 years prior to their marriage. Today, they still act like they got married yesterday, they have let me in unto the secret of keeping the spark alive.

{{Putting in the work}}

They told me that one mistake couples usually make is that they both know what it requires but they do not want to put in the work.

“If you know what your partner wants and you don’t want to put in the work to make it happen and make each other happy, then it is never going to work,” the husband said.

“If you know what your partner needs and enjoys, then you will know what to do and it has to always go both ways,” the wife told me.

{{It takes two }}

Too often, you find that the reason why one person in the relationship or marriage is bored by the relationship is because they find themselves giving and never receiving.

For instance, you may find the wife to always be the one compromising things for the sake of the husband or vice versa.

This older couple strongly believes that it takes two to actually make the marriage work and keep things interesting.

“Your partner should not always be the one sacrificing or be the one to put in all the effort to make the other one happy. I think it is crucial to always do things for each other.”

{{Surprise each other}}

Surprising someone you have known for a long time might be tricky, they know most of what there is to know about you. There is nothing new in the relationship, but surprises do not have to be about gifts. It can range from planning a spontaneous date to doing something for them that they do not expect.

“Small surprises sometimes touch a person’s heart more than you think, they come from the heart and that is what matters,” the husband told me.

{{Make new memories }}

One mistake that people often make is to live in the past, always remembering how things were, how life was rather than making new memories.

“I used to do that thinking about the past and how things were and the things that we had done, rather than focusing on the present and how we can make it better,” she said.

“Living in the moment also counts, you have to understand the times change and things cannot always be the same but you can make your present enjoyable,” she added.

{{Remembering not to forget }}

As every couple, their relationship was not always roses. It had its thorns. I asked them what mistake they think they have made in their relationship that may have caused them to lose the spark for a while.

“I think one mistake is that we each got so carried away with our own person that we forgot each other,” the husband said

“We became so selfish and self centered that we could never take each other’s feelings into consideration.”

Relationships and marriage take a lot of work, but according to this couple, it is all worth it if you are with the right person.

There are people who are constantly people pleasers, they always want to please other people every time which is why they are never able to say no even where necessary.

Those kinds of people in a work environment are the ones to always be given more things to do, and if it does not get done, they are always blamed for it. If you are wondering how to say no to work overload, here are some tips.

{{Take the time to understand what you will have to do}}

Sometimes your employer or co-worker may come and tell you that they need your help with something. You should first take time to understand what the work involves before you immediately say yes.

When you understand fully what the work will require, you may then be able to see if you will be able to do it in a timely manner depending on what you are currently working on.

You should not immediately refuse, but rather take the time to first understand the job before you say yes immediately.

{{Communicate why you feel you cannot do the job }}

In the event that the work needs to be done urgently, it is best to immediately state why you feel you won’t be able to deliver than saying no without reason. Don’t just say no to say no.

There can be plenty of reasons. For example, you may say you have other things pending or that you are already working on something urgent. It is best to be honest and integral.

{{Demonstrate other alternatives}}

When the reason you can not say yes has been established, you should also suggest other alternatives. It would be a nice way to show you care about the work. You could say you will be available at a certain time or that you can help find someone else for the job who would be able to do it and do it on time.

You can also suggest doing part of the work, like that you will not have all the responsibilities on your head.

{{Do not be disrespectful or too nice}}

Saying no is often very hard when it comes to your supervisor or your boss, but it becomes easier when you do it in the right way.

When you are asked to do something you do not have to be rude or too nice. Being too rude creates conflicts and being too nice may leave room to finally say yes.

So, what can you do? Be straightforward respectfully. You can say no, give your reasons and end the conversation there.

As many Africans go abroad for different reasons, they face a different world than their own, a different culture and different people and it might just affect or impact their perspectives.

I have always wondered, when it comes to dating. Is it always the same, is it harder, is it shocking or is it even better? My curiosity led me to ask a friend of mine living abroad.

I had a conversation with Olivia Umuhire, a Rwandan living in Warsaw, Poland. She told me that most things change when you go abroad because you are confronted with cultural differences, and reality and you might just try different things.

“Dating here is more free, you see many people allow themselves some liberties they would otherwise not do if they were in Rwanda because no one is there to judge you or make you feel uncomfortable,” she said

There are certain cultural shocks that our diaspora experiences like the culture of moving in together. Umuhire told me she first thought it was out of the norm but soon later found out it is what everyone else is doing.

“Moving in together and living together is such a shock because back home that would be considered improper, highly inappropriate but when you get here you actually see it is their lifestyle,” she said

On some other shocks, Umuhire recalled one of her earliest experiences where she went for a dinner with a polish man. “Everything went well until the bill came,” she said

“I thought because he had invited me, the man would pay as it happens in Rwanda. When the bill came, he asked to split it–which is fine–but at the time I wasn’t used to that and thought the man was supposed to pay because he had invited me,” she continued

From her own point of view; “Dating here is 50/50. It is not always giving and never receiving, but you find that in Rwanda, the girl always expects the guy to give every time. I mean here we pay for dates and for other things as well.”

“You should not be surprised that if you go on a date with someone, they will expect you to share the bill depending on what you agreed on or even pay the whole bill,” she added.

In Rwanda, it is like a conscious rule that guys always have to pay for dates and even other expenses their girlfriends are having, which have come to take to social media to say it is going out of hand because most girls make it a business.

“Here you should not expect anyone to help you financially, everyone is in their own business and so are you,” Umuhire said.

Even though freedom and liberty is a great commodity, Umuhire said, it is not always all good, as they say every rose has thorns.

“There is a downside to that life, you can rarely settle down with someone and some people find they have been in several different types of marriages because they have lived with so many people, there is a kind of downside to that,” she said

“It is rare to find a serious relationship here, because most people want to be in other forms of relationships and not really get serious. I once had a man who told me, he just wanted to have fun and nothing more. And of course you get what he meant by having fun, but this dude would act like he wants to be in a relationship while not really being in a relationship. It was confusing,” Umuhire added.

In our conversation, she kept coming back to how for Africans dating there is a whole ocean to explore because of the countless possibilities one might explore.

“Since there is a lot of diversity here because people come from every corner of the world, there are so many options to explore, which would be different in Rwanda since everyone is Rwandan and in some way the same,” she said.

“There are even different stereotypes here. For example, people here say Rwandans are cute, that Nigerians have money, white people are attentionate. So, exploring that is very interesting.”

I was curious to know if interracial relationships were frequent. She told me they are but not as much as you would expect.

“The first thing you should know is that culture plays a big part in who you will date, which is why most Africans like to date other Africans since they have something in common, it will create some sort of understanding,” observed Umuhire.

“But you find that some African men tend to date white girls with many other ulterior motives, most of my friends who have dated white women always tell me how it is complicated since they are too clingy and different from what they are used to, but they stay with them because it is somehow a better option” she said.

On another note her own taste differs from that of her male friends. “I prefer dating fellow Africans, I also found that white men are not relationship oriented. They prefer to have flings than an actual relationship which is totally different from my own objectives.”

Culture still plays a big role in their everyday lives. Umuhire said that it is what makes them different from all other people.

“Our culture makes us unique in some way. We don’t all conform to moral conduct here. I think as Rwandans we are set in our ways. I can say dating here is more free but it is not easier than dating in Rwanda,” Umuhire noted.

For many years, women have been taught to only fulfill two roles: a mother and a wife. The world changed and evolved and things consequently changed. During the time of industrialization, women started working the untraditional role and it made the path for a new era.

It was an era that showed women were much more than just pie bakers and caretakers, they demonstrated an era of capacity and capability since they had to talk the talk and walk the walk.

This gave birth to what we know now as women emancipation, the process by which women in general and poor women in particular are made to gain access and control of all forms of resources in a nation.

In African societies, they had their own cultures and their own ways of life. Women performed that traditional role, they cook the meals and raise the children while the men hunt, and go to war.

Colonization installed new things such as Christianity, European education and politics. It was first accessible mostly accessible to men but with relentlessness from different activists girls started going to schools in great numbers. Therefore, they could do different things with their lives, departing from their traditional roles of aspiring to be simply a wife.

It was a whole process which has led to today’s modern world and modern women, where in many parts of the world education and opportunities are given to both men and women, and where women are taking part in every field there exists.

We see women in Politics, we see them in business, we see them in healthcare, we see them in science, we see them excelling and succeeding even though the path is neither easy nor fair. What surprises me to this day is that there are still people that are teaching our young girls that the priority is finding a good husband and being a good wife.

I recently had a conversation with a young woman. She is in her early 20’s and is in business specifically in Information technology. She is thriving and hustling, she wakes up everyday with goals and great ambitions.

A woman you can clearly see is on her path for success. During our conversation, she told me the only thing her relatives want her to achieve is to find a husband and give birth to children.

Even though we claim to be in a modern world where rules have changed and women are being given a stand, there are still certain unspoken rules that women are still required to abide by and most of the time they are taught these rules by other women.

In that conversation, I was appalled. I thought to myself she is becoming what some women dream of becoming but the only thing her family wishes for her to be is a wife and a mother. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being a wife and mother but is that all we ought to be?

During that conversation, I recalled another girl also in her 20’s who told me if she gets a fiancé, she would immediately stop university to get married and raise children, and my question was ‘is your education a hobby until you get knocked up?’.

It is then that I realized, it is not her fault for having had that kind of mindset. It is what women have taught her, from mothers to aunties and grandmothers. They often still live by the rule that patriarchy has set ‘a woman is only great when she has a husband and kids’.

Which is also what young men are taught by their mothers. We often hear mothers telling their sons to ‘find a wife that can cook and take care of the children, the rest does not matter’ or phrases like ‘she has a big personality. She cannot make a good wife’.

That is why some men think that when he marries a woman, she should give up her dreams and hopes to become only a wife and mother. It is understandable because they were raised to believe that a woman like that is wifey material.

This is where the saying ‘be beautiful and shut up’ comes in handy. They teach our young women that the only thing they have to do is to be beautiful in order to marry, it is not to be self-sufficient, independent, successful or impactful, it is to be beautiful.

This mindset is the reason most of these young women do not take advantage of the opportunities they have been given. They do not tap into their full potential because at the end of the day, they are required to abide by the traditional rules.

As far as I am concerned, this is a mindset or rule we should unlearn from patriarchy. Women should stop identifying themselves as women only when they have husbands and children, women should define themselves according to their own definition of who they are and who they want to be.

Do not get me wrong! We live in a world where you will not get accepted in the societies when you only have that kind of social status. It has become normalized that when a person does not have what it requires, it is not what it entails.

In Rwandan and other societies, we see marriage as another step one must take in life. When one grows up and builds oneself, many people wonder when they are going to be tied down or why they do not want to tie the knot.

Our Society views someone who doesn’t want to get married yet or who doesn’t want to get married at all, as someone with a sort of issue or someone who is busy in questionable behaviors. So, people are always asking questions like “when will you marry?”, “when are we partying?” or “when are we seeing a missus?”

I asked one of my male friends the same questions and his answer surprised me. He told me “It’s better that I marry late than marry wrong just to please a bunch of people at a party.”

He said that when a person is in a hurry to get married because of family pressure or some other external pressure, they too often regret it later.

He referenced a Kinyarwanda proverb that says ‘ntawiruka nk’uwayobye’ meaning only the lost are in such a hurry.

“Take enough time to know exactly what you want and what you do no want,” he said

He went on to tell me why he was so cautious about marriage. He said that too many marriages in this generation end up in divorce or some just decide to stick together and suffer for the rest of their lives..

“Nowadays, those who are in a hurry to get married are the same ones who are in a hurry to get divorced. Practically, many marriages now are a disaster. So, why should I be in a hurry to get a wife?”

Some of the reasons behind the increase in divorce cases include adultery, leaving home more than 12 months and domestic violence.

In addition to those who ask for separation or divorce, there are also issues in families that are more likely to be tolerated than filing for divorce since it is considered a disgrace in our society and a sin in many religions.

Apart from that, he told me taking a harsh decision and having a bad wife is one of the things he dreads the most.

“Having a bad wife is not something I wish to my worst enemy, it is difficult to find a good one these days, many women out here have questionable characters, so I have to wait and see who I am happy with, time and age does not matter to me,” he said

Because he is a strong believer, he used the bible to explain to me how not marrying at all is better than marrying wrong.

Even married men and women advise young people to be careful about getting married. They say that marriage is full of challenges and troubles. Therefore, it is better to face them with the right person with whom you share mutual love and respect or you face them alone because you have different directions.

I talked to different married people who advised me to be careful. They all agreed that bad marriage can ruin your whole life and the lives of your children too because they are also affected.

“You have to be careful about getting married if you want to build a lasting marriage,” one said

“Rushing into marriage is like building a house on sand. You have to be careful and know exactly who you want to get married and their family, because in Rwandan culture, when you get married, you also get married to the family. You are stuck for life,” he said

Another person told me that the effects of a bad marriage are not only on the individual or on the spouse but also on the children.

“When parents don’t get along, their children are affected because they live in a household void of love, peace and tranquility,” he said

From these men’s perspective, it is better to go around marriage with patience and delicacy, to do things at your own time and on your own pace.

There is always a debate around the subject but it all comes down to people and their personal experiences around the subject of friendship, love, and breakup.

I had a conversation with many people. Some of them defend friendship between exes while others were totally against. They prefer to move on and never look back.

Those that say that friendship is possible among exes argue that it all comes down to the reason for your breakup, in case the reason for the breakup has had no direct effect on the friendship, then there is no need to break up.

Harad one of the people I managed to talk to says that if the breakup is done amicably and there is no resentment and the basis of your friendship was not affected, then friendship is totally possible.

“In case the breakup has not affected your existing friendship, then it is possible to be friends. If there is no resentment and disrespect, I don’t see why the friendship would also end with the relationship,” he said

Another person I talked to on condition of anonymity agreed with Harad. She said friendship is possible noting that she is friends with most of exes.

“My ex is my best friend, we broke up because we wanted different things. That is why we remained in contact and we still care about each other,” she said.

She said the reason for the breakup will make a way for friendship or if you will both have to live like strangers.

“At the end of the day it all comes down to why you broke up, but if the two wish to remain friends I think it is possible,” she observed.

Kayitare, another person I talked to says friendship is possible depending on how both care about each other and the relationship you had.

“When people are mature, they want the best for each other and they break up amicably and it is normal to stay friends when you still care about each other,” he said

He added that if people have been together through a lot they should not stop caring just because they broke up for some reason.

“When you are mature, you act like it. When someone has been important in your life, you can’t just throw that away when you still care and don’t stop checking on each other,” he said.

Kayitare says that it all depends on the people and the depth of their friendship.

Uwase Kevine disclosed that it all comes down to communication and what you both want.

“I mean if it wasn’t a heated breakup anytime I would prefer to stay friends, people have to stop complicating things.”

She added that it is also a matter of trust and boundaries where things are much easier when there is direct communication.

“Trust, boundaries, and communication are key in building a sane friendship between exes.”

Uwase added that clear boundaries are essential in any friendship and that it becomes more essential when it comes to being friends with your ex.

“It is possible to be friends but clear boundaries must be established so as not to cross any limits,” she said

Many disagree with what these people said. They argue that when what brought the two together is over, so should any type of relationship afterward.

Arsene Muvunyi says that it is better to move on and live separate lives.

“When people separate at some point, they have once had feelings for each other, at some points those feelings can come back and this can be an inconvenience for them and for other people.” he said

He added that when people continue to talk and hang out like friends, it can bring up certain emotions and feelings they thought they had gotten over.

“Feelings come back whether they are prepared or not and sometimes they might get caught up in the same cycle over and over again, and cheat on their current partners,” he said

Muvunyi continued to say, he will never get romantically involved with a girl who still hangs out with her exes.

“I will never! I cannot trust her. Most of the time she would still have feelings for the other guy,” he said

“It once happened to me, I dated this girl who was friend with her ex. I didn’t know it at the time but she later cheated on me. It was a hard lesson to learn,” he continued

Aline Umuhoza also told me that she once fell in love with a young man who was still dating his ex and swore not to do it again.

“Franck (her ex) was always with Jessica (Frank’s ex). They always said they were just friends,” she said

“Because I loved him, I couldn’t leave him early but it was obvious that he still loved Jessica. I learnt the lesson bitterly,” added Umuhoza.

Often times, people want to replace love with friendship, but sometimes this is not for anyone’s benefit.

People always debate about this but in any case, it depends on different factors; who you are, why you broke up, your feelings, and the direction you want to take in your life.